Ok, a cousin of mine just started dating her boyfriend about four months back, and he has some really good friends that are females. According to what she said he told her, they are just platonic friends because some of them are childhood and friends all the way from his high school days.

She's not the jealous type and tries to be friendly to them all, but she says there's this particular female who's really close to her bf, they been friends for ever.

she's cool with this because she trusts her bf and knows he has no feelings towards this girl, but she says the girl in question has feelings for him.

I asked how she knows this and she says its a "female thing" now that I do not understand  .

But she says the way the girl talks to her bf and the vibe the girl gives her when the bf isn't watching isn't too friendly, but behaves so sweet and friendly towards her when the bf's watching.

She feels the girl is acting like a perfect best friend and waiting for her too loose it, so she could label her as the bitchy gf tryna keep the guy away from his buddies. she's been really keeping it cool and is slowly loosing it.

She doesn't know whether to tell him about this or simply keep quiet, because she doesn't want to come across as being some jealous controlling psycho. SO what do you suggest she does?

ANd ladies how would you handle such situation?

I don't really consider myself insecure, but if my BF was spending this much time with someone other than me, especially if that person was a she, I would feel pretty sh!tty. if I was in her shoes, I would definitely tell my boyfriend how I feel, like dat, even if he had the intention of cheating, he would give it a second thought.

jealousy is acceptable in a relationship but becomes unacceptable when it goes beyound that-------anyway thats by the way
tell your frd to let her bf in on how she feels about this particular girl in question

I had a similar experience where the girl in question had feelings for my bf and he knew it, she was his best friend. I never could be friends with her even when I tried .Anyway, when we parted ways, that was one of the things that caused it.

I think it is wise she tell the boy friend of what that have been happening between her and the other girl. Its better he knows

I am very jealous wen it comes to things like this.i don think i can take this.tell ur friend to tel her b/f this.

Haha,
Life is a bitch. This topic keeps coming up. It was discussed last year!

live with it, sister!

LOL. . .there's no point bottling up your feelings. Say it like it is and get it sorted.

Yea, I'm not the jealous type. I could be so friendly and laid back but hey don't cross the line. I'll only be be wise until you prove to be wiser

agabaI23:

Haha,
Life is a bitch. This topic keeps coming up. It was discussed last year!

Depending on how you treat her, you might get rich! (Jadakiss)

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I am editing my comment. This one na serious wa.

I am leaving it to the experts.

The girl should make a guy her best friend as well

bandely:

Depending on how you treat her, you might get rich! (Jadakiss)

you're introducing another angle to this whole thingy!

akinalabi:

The girl should make a guy her best friend as well

Now thats a very naughty idea.

Is never a bad thing but is just that u av to trust ur partner.As for me am a guy and my best friend is a female and we are always cool,and she just got married.

Oh dear . . . she needs to open up and tell him how she feels I suppose. . . . in a non 'I'm giving you an ultimatum' kind of way. If he get sense, then he should 'know' how to handle it.

don't you think the 'ultimatum' will backfire? he could just as well dump you atogether for his bestfriend!

i'd be intimidated but i wouldnt know what to do tho, probably look for the next excuse to leave

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Does your boyfriend know his bestfriend has feelings for him? If he has never suspected this (and I'll you guys are dense in matters like this), he'll simply laugh the matter off and say you are jealous.

You must first of all prove she loves him.

George_D:

don't you think the 'ultimatum' will backfire? he could just as well dump you atogether for his bestfriend!

I said in a NON 'I'm giving you an ultimatum' kind of way . . . otherwise he will just think shes jealous and tell her to get a life.

She should not hesitate to tell her bF what the other girl is doing.

Proximity with the opposite sex breeds affection.

for me o!in my serious r/ships,my bf's my best friend.
so all this issue of havin a best friend from d past?, NEVER!!!!
ur cousin shld express her worries to d guy,
if it doesnt werk(he doesnt do anything abt it)then like someone said here,she shld also get a male best friend
then lets see how d guy feels abt that.(hope it doesnt backfire tho)
last option?confront d so-called 'best friend'(pls dnt quote me)
final final option,concentrate on d trust u have for him, be nice to her,make her feel jealous too!

Its funny how err girl on this page says they are ''not the jealous type''
And Yet, they end their sentences with '' i will tell him this. . .that. . . .blah. . .blah. . .blah

Friends like that have their purposes . . . . . So dont ever let your emotion clouds your reasoning
They are ''just'' friends and thats about it. . . .All u gotta do is live with it.

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The Jealous women are in the house.

You don't stand a chance.When its best friends concerned.if I told ma best friend I had the hots for him, he'ld dump his bitch in a minute.

A best friend and a lover means two completely different things so its always best to sperate both of it and always know the difference and where you are standing so for me its ok if his best frind is a female. It dont matter. If he ends up with that best friend, than I know he was never meantr for me and thats all. Besides, destiny has always had its toll on prople. If its meant to be than its meant to be otherwise if its not meant to be, than its not meant to be. But I also hope he could accept that if one day I have a guy as my best friend

U guys av 2pls help me; am d boyfrend in question, wat can i do 2kip my bestfrend &galfrend?

Hmnnn,still thinking!!

The odds of this situation working out peacefully for all involved is 1:1,000,000,000. Its either the best friend will have feelings for the bf or the bf for the bs or both. Either way the bf should decide between the gf and the bs who deserves most of his attention and focus it.

The spark that is generated between a male and a female who are close is so natural that u cant stop it. Also gf should let bf know abt how she feels abt it all. Basically talk abt it and do your best to get a decision taken abt it.