rdouc:
It all started like a crush when I was like 12 years old, but now am 27, we attended the same church back then and till now, did some activities together, I thought it was just some passing feeling, then I got into the university, met some guys (though never dated them, just friends) still the feeling won't go away, I some times pray to God about it to remove the intense feeling (lol, funny but it's that serious)when ever his face flashes on my mind. At times I avoided him totally, I don't even call him, still the feeling persisted. Then Him on his part, showed some signs of care but later it went dead till date. Then he got a job and relocated. But each time he comes around to visit his family and attends church, and I get to see him hmmm I battle the feeling afresh in an intense phase, it has even affected me dating other guys, it's like a part of me is locked out, hanging and waiting for him to come around and boldly say the magic words or at least ask me out. Note: we aren't that close at all, just hi hi, we don't even gist deep, so I don't know a thing about him, but what I don't get is why it's taking so long to get over him and move on. I don't wanna appear cheap by poping the questions first, it will kill me more if he says he isn't feeling same way or that he has some one else.
Pls what should I do?

UDbester:
eeh ode, its not love, its infatuation go see you pastor for deliverance

maxti:
I feel you.
Initiate contact. But with Maturity.
I just hope it isn't late yet.

You didn't mention what you love about him.
Am sure by the time u get close, You would understand better.

rdouc:


Thanks, but you shouldn't have added the insult..you won't understand

rdouc:
It all started like a crush when I was like 12 years old, but now am 27, we attended the same church back then and till now, did some activities together, I thought it was just some passing feeling, then I got into the university, met some guys (though never dated them, just friends) still the feeling won't go away, I some times pray to God about it to remove the intense feeling (lol, funny but it's that serious)when ever his face flashes on my mind. At times I avoided him totally, I don't even call him, still the feeling persisted. Then Him on his part, showed some signs of care but later it went dead till date. Then he got a job and relocated. But each time he comes around to visit his family and attends church, and I get to see him hmmm I battle the feeling afresh in an intense phase, it has even affected me dating other guys, it's like a part of me is locked out, hanging and waiting for him to come around and boldly say the magic words or at least ask me out. Note: we aren't that close at all, just hi hi, we don't even gist deep, so I don't know a thing about him, but what I don't get is why it's taking so long to get over him and move on. I don't wanna appear cheap by poping the questions first, it will kill me more if he says he isn't feeling same way or that he has some one else.
Pls what should I do?

UDbester:


ode is not an insult, it simply means: you know the truth but dont want to accept it

synonyms of ode are: mumu, otondo, ogede, etc

Alondra:
Walk up to him and tell him how you feel, That's if you don't mind the negative reactions that MAY come after. But its better to say or do things we want to do so we don't regret not trying later.

Benita27:
As a matter of fact, if the dude says he's taken she's more likely to move on easily than with this burden.

Alondra:
You may be right... But who knows if the lady is one who doesn't deal well with rejections. But one thing is certain,She will know her fate.

Idydarling:
I'm sharing this for the first time.

rdouc:


Thanks, but you shouldn't have added the insult..you won't understand

bbmpin:

That's why its called "Infatuation"

You do know that wearing "HIGH heels" contradicts your claim that you are taller than him!

Idydarling:
i am, the heels made it very obvious

Alright!

You were 12 and You had these thoughts.......

daydreamed him doing the do to me every free chance i get in the afternoon

That's dangerously impressive!

@highlighted "DO" Means feeding you ice cream right?

Idydarling:
here's my story op....



same thing happened to me .. i think i was 12 or 13 then, i had just started becoming aware of boys, he came to the church during the holidays, he was 18, his sister 16, he was fair and lanky, from the moment I laid my eyes on him.... wow, my heart did a double take, how could someone be so perferct, so adorable, thats my man, i yearned for him, i became so self conscious, didn't talk to him that first week, luckily for me, the cousin they came to stay with was my friend, i made her my best friend, went to their house frequently just so i could look at him, i never missed any weekly children's program if i know he'd be there, started talking and becoming very friendly with his friends (which i ignored b4), i fantasized about him every night, daydreamed him doing the do to me every free chance i get in the afternoon, at a point anyone whose name rhymes with his becomes my friend (male or female) there was a day i trekked to the cousin's house after 9pm just so i could take a look at him only for me to hear (from my hideout) that they had travelled the day back, wow! i was shattered, sulked round my hus with my mood swings my mum even noticed (even suspected), i treated everyone with disdain, how can the love of my life travel without me and u people are still breathing... it was that bad.... fastforward 3 to 4 years later, and I'm in my teen (16 yrs to be precise) he came back again and i met him outside the church premises, this time i was fuller, taller and knew one or two things, immediately i laid my eyes on him, i was like WHAT??!!! NO, IT CAN'T BE; I had become taller than him, more matured and more sophisticated (was even wearing heels), he on the other hand was as before, no improvement from the boy i knew, less handsome (in my eyes) still dressed as before, nothing!!! mehn! the scale fell off my eyes( literally) the huge crush gone, the he-can-do-no-wrong gone! and i was left feeling empty; From that day i learnt to look before leaping when it concerns matters of the heart, sorry for the epistle... I'm sharing this for the first time.