Idydarling:
here's my story op....
there was a day i trekked to the cousin's house after 9pm just so i could take a look at him only for me to hear (from my hideout) that they had travelled the day back, wow! i was shattered....

CorGier:


Crazy things things we did/do for "love" huh.

Rdouc,
15 years is long time to have and harbour unresolved feelings for a person.
You talk about a part of you locked out waiting for him to come around, well its been 15 years. You're a woman now, sometimes if you really want something so badly, then you've to go all out. That dude has got your life on pause, if you both are meant to be then stop dithering, life's too short. If its just an infatuation too, then you get to free yourself off him, who knows the number of good guys he's denied you of all these years.
It's a New Year sista, go out there and grab that dude by the balls (Trump style), then let the chips fall where they may.

It seems I'm taking your matter personal sef, maybe it's cos I've been there. Lucky enuf tho, she wasn't all that.

firstking01:
The life of a woman...sometimes they use their hands and put themselves in prison...if it's a man now, he 'll just walk upto you and unleash it, kpata kpata na NO? case close.

Idydarling:
I'm not the op corGier, only sharing something similar that happened to me, but in my case i got over it, the op apparently hasn't.

Benita27:
This seems very serious. If you think is love and not infatuation, just brace yourself for the worse: trying is better than not trying at all.

Look for who will possibly own his cell number, call him up at night, introduce yourself and if he gives you a listening ear: vent your frustration.

/If he says he's in a relationship, be happy you tried/.

Benita27:
This seems very serious. If you think is love and not infatuation, just brace yourself for the worse: trying is better than not trying at all.

Look for who will possibly own his cell number, call him up at night, introduce yourself and if he gives you a listening ear: vent your frustration.

/If he says he's in a relationship, be happy you tried/.be happy you tried...i lov dis

bbmpin:
Alright!

You were 12 and You had these thoughts.......


That's dangerously impressive!

@highlighted "DO" Means feeding you ice cream right?

Yuneehk:
This is some serious sturvvs oo. So you've been a secret admirer for 15 good years? This dude has done some ngworngwor on you unknowingly.

For 15 years?? Lol..that Girl's heart must be strong o.

Idydarling:
here's my story op....



same thing happened to me .. i think i was 12 or 13 then, i had just started becoming aware of boys, he came to the church during the holidays, he was 18, his sister 16, he was fair and lanky, from the moment I laid my eyes on him.... wow, my heart did a double take, how could someone be so perferct, so adorable, thats my man, i yearned for him, i became so self conscious, didn't talk to him that first week, luckily for me, the cousin they came to stay with was my friend, i made her my best friend, went to their house frequently just so i could look at him, i never missed any weekly children's program if i know he'd be there, started talking and becoming very friendly with his friends (which i ignored b4), i fantasized about him every night, daydreamed him doing the do to me every free chance i get in the afternoon, at a point anyone whose name rhymes with his becomes my friend (male or female) there was a day i trekked to the cousin's house after 9pm just so i could take a look at him only for me to hear (from my hideout) that they had travelled the day back, wow! i was shattered, sulked round my hus with my mood swings my mum even noticed (even suspected), i treated everyone with disdain, how can the love of my life travel without me and u people are still breathing... it was that bad.... fastforward 3 to 4 years later, and I'm in my teen (16 yrs to be precise) he came back again and i met him outside the church premises, this time i was fuller, taller and knew one or two things, immediately i laid my eyes on him, i was like WHAT??!!! NO, IT CAN'T BE; I had become taller than him, more matured and more sophisticated (was even wearing heels), he on the other hand was as before, no improvement from the boy i knew, less handsome (in my eyes) still dressed as before, nothing!!! mehn! the scale fell off my eyes( literally) the huge crush gone, the he-can-do-no-wrong gone! and i was left feeling empty; From that day i learnt to look before leaping when it concerns matters of the heart, sorry for the epistle... I'm sharing this for the first time.

UDbester:


ode is not an insult, it simply means: you know the truth but dont want to accept it

synonyms of ode are: mumu, otondo, ogede, etc

rdouc:
It all started like a crush when I was like 12 years old, but now am 27, we attended the same church back then and till now, did some activities together, I thought it was just some passing feeling, then I got into the university, met some guys (though never dated them, just friends) still the feeling won't go away, I some times pray to God about it to remove the intense feeling (lol, funny but it's that serious)when ever his face flashes on my mind. At times I avoided him totally, I don't even call him, still the feeling persisted. Then Him on his part, showed some signs of care but later it went dead till date. Then he got a job and relocated. But each time he comes around to visit his family and attends church, and I get to see him hmmm I battle the feeling afresh in an intense phase, it has even affected me dating other guys, it's like a part of me is locked out, hanging and waiting for him to come around and boldly say the magic words or at least ask me out. Note: we aren't that close at all, just hi hi, we don't even gist deep, so I don't know a thing about him, but what I don't get is why it's taking so long to get over him and move on. I don't wanna appear cheap by poping the questions first, it will kill me more if he says he isn't feeling same way or that he has some one else.
Pls what should I do?

Benita27:
As a matter of fact, if the dude says he's taken she's more likely to move on easily than with this burden.

Raine80:
This is infatuation, you are in love with the thought of being in love with him. If he says he feels nothing will it stop how too feel? This torture you put yourself thorough is not healthy and you chose to dwell on the what ifs rather than actually put effort in real relationships because in your heart you have reserved a parking space for a man who does not know you feel this way. Time will pass and you will get older and then what will you make of this unrequited love?

Jman06:
When you love someone, walk up to that person and express your feelings to him/her. The person might be interested in you but lacks the guts to open up.

Just around 2nd week of last november i approached this sweet babe in my class whom i had been dying for. Lo and behold the girl turned out to be positive. Just that she doesn't want to go into any serious relationship now, but we are friends and i know in the nearest future things will work out btw us. But b4 approachn her i had alot fears-what if she doesn't like me, what if she is taken, what if she is rude etc, but the bae turned out to be a sweet, mentally mature and lovely person that got me falln even more in love with her. I have decided to mount my survellance and follow her bomber to bomber when school resumes. God please help me get that girl cos i sincerely love her and i know i won't have problems with her, amen.
So, at Op, approach the guy in question and pour out your heart to him. You might be surprised to find out that the feeln is mutual.

rdouc:
It all started like a crush when I was like 12 years old, but now am 27, we attended the same church back then and till now, did some activities together, I thought it was just some passing feeling, then I got into the university, met some guys (though never dated them, just friends) still the feeling won't go away, I some times pray to God about it to remove the intense feeling (lol, funny but it's that serious)when ever his face flashes on my mind. At times I avoided him totally, I don't even call him, still the feeling persisted. Then Him on his part, showed some signs of care but later it went dead till date. Then he got a job and relocated. But each time he comes around to visit his family and attends church, and I get to see him hmmm I battle the feeling afresh in an intense phase, it has even affected me dating other guys, it's like a part of me is locked out, hanging and waiting for him to come around and boldly say the magic words or at least ask me out. Note: we aren't that close at all, just hi hi, we don't even gist deep, so I don't know a thing about him, but what I don't get is why it's taking so long to get over him and move on. I don't wanna appear cheap by poping the questions first, it will kill me more if he says he isn't feeling same way or that he has some one else.
Pls what should I do?

mykel25:


I feel your pain...... I ve had a girl in this shoe b4 buh luckily for her she got involved in this pin broadcast of a thing n I sent her a request.... on seeing my dp she had d best feeling to d point that she couldn't control her mind n she voiced out Aw much she's been wanting to relate with me buh m a snub..... I smiled n said it wasn't like that.... (now I had to lie to welcome her gesture) I ve really wanted to talk to u too buh I hate it when ladies give attitude thinking u want to ask dem out at first instance.. . d friendship started n I figured she had feelings with d way she's caring about me.... I suggested she shd pay me a visit n then it was like a jackpot for her she said she's coming ryt away.. ryt away ke? she biked Down n we met.... I had to fake my feelings for her cuz it wasn't mutual n I don't want to hurt her feelings plus her nice gesture... I showed her care n love she wanted till...... 2b continued..... so from experience my advice is... find a way to interact with him... he ll surely flow even if he doesn't like u....most guys won't wanna reject a girl for fear of hurting her... n u might be lucky d guy ll feel same for u.... u can always mention me to give me update n I ll tell u what next...

Idydarling:
here's my story op....



same thing happened to me .. i think i was 12 or 13 then, i had just started becoming aware of boys, he came to the church during the holidays, he was 18, his sister 16, he was fair and lanky, from the moment I laid my eyes on him.... wow, my heart did a double take, how could someone be so perferct, so adorable, thats my man, i yearned for him, i became so self conscious, didn't talk to him that first week, luckily for me, the cousin they came to stay with was my friend, i made her my best friend, went to their house frequently just so i could look at him, i never missed any weekly children's program if i know he'd be there, started talking and becoming very friendly with his friends (which i ignored b4), i fantasized about him every night, daydreamed him doing the do to me every free chance i get in the afternoon, at a point anyone whose name rhymes with his becomes my friend (male or female) there was a day i trekked to the cousin's house after 9pm just so i could take a look at him only for me to hear (from my hideout) that they had travelled the day back, wow! i was shattered, sulked round my hus with my mood swings my mum even noticed (even suspected), i treated everyone with disdain, how can the love of my life travel without me and u people are still breathing... it was that bad.... fastforward 3 to 4 years later, and I'm in my teen (16 yrs to be precise) he came back again and i met him outside the church premises, this time i was fuller, taller and knew one or two things, immediately i laid my eyes on him, i was like WHAT??!!! NO, IT CAN'T BE; I had become taller than him, more matured and more sophisticated (was even wearing heels), he on the other hand was as before, no improvement from the boy i knew, less handsome (in my eyes) still dressed as before, nothing!!! mehn! the scale fell off my eyes( literally) the huge crush gone, the he-can-do-no-wrong gone! and i was left feeling empty; From that day i learnt to look before leaping when it concerns matters of the heart, sorry for the epistle... I'm sharing this for the first time.

bbmpin:
Alright!

You were 12 and You had these thoughts.......


That's dangerously impressive!

@highlighted "DO" Means feeding you ice cream right?

Mikylopez:
dat girl must be really mad

Idydarling:
here's my story op....



same thing happened to me .. i think i was 12 or 13 then, i had just started becoming aware of boys, he came to the church during the holidays, he was 18, his sister 16, he was fair and lanky, from the moment I laid my eyes on him.... wow, my heart did a double take, how could someone be so perferct, so adorable, thats my man, i yearned for him, i became so self conscious, didn't talk to him that first week, luckily for me, the cousin they came to stay with was my friend, i made her my best friend, went to their house frequently just so i could look at him, i never missed any weekly children's program if i know he'd be there, started talking and becoming very friendly with his friends (which i ignored b4), i fantasized about him every night, daydreamed him doing the do to me every free chance i get in the afternoon, at a point anyone whose name rhymes with his becomes my friend (male or female) there was a day i trekked to the cousin's house after 9pm just so i could take a look at him only for me to hear (from my hideout) that they had travelled the day back, wow! i was shattered, sulked round my hus with my mood swings my mum even noticed (even suspected), i treated everyone with disdain, how can the love of my life travel without me and u people are still breathing... it was that bad.... fastforward 3 to 4 years later, and I'm in my teen (16 yrs to be precise) he came back again and i met him outside the church premises, this time i was fuller, taller and knew one or two things, immediately i laid my eyes on him, i was like WHAT??!!! NO, IT CAN'T BE; I had become taller than him, more matured and more sophisticated (was even wearing heels), he on the other hand was as before, no improvement from the boy i knew, less handsome (in my eyes) still dressed as before, nothing!!! mehn! the scale fell off my eyes( literally) the huge crush gone, the he-can-do-no-wrong gone! and i was left feeling empty; From that day i learnt to look before leaping when it concerns matters of the heart, sorry for the epistle... I'm sharing this for the first time.

Raine80:
This is infatuation, you are in love with the thought of being in love with him. If he says he feels nothing will it stop how too feel? This torture you put yourself thorough is not healthy and you chose to dwell on the what ifs rather than actually put effort in real relationships because in your heart you have reserved a parking space for a man who does not know you feel this way. Time will pass and you will get older and then what will you make of this unrequited love?

mykel25:


you had better start preparing for d WAEC N JAMB.it not same with promotion exam oooo

mykel25:


I feel your pain...... I ve had a girl in this shoe b4 buh luckily for her she got involved in this pin broadcast of a thing n I sent her a request.... on seeing my dp she had d best feeling to d point that she couldn't control her mind n she voiced out Aw much she's been wanting to relate with me buh m a snub..... I smiled n said it wasn't like that.... (now I had to lie to welcome her gesture) I ve really wanted to talk to u too buh I hate it when ladies give attitude thinking u want to ask dem out at first instance.. . d friendship started n I figured she had feelings with d way she's caring about me.... I suggested she shd pay me a visit n then it was like a jackpot for her she said she's coming ryt away.. ryt away ke? she biked Down n we met.... I had to fake my feelings for her cuz it wasn't mutual n I don't want to hurt her feelings plus her nice gesture... I showed her care n love she wanted till...... 2b continued..... so from experience my advice is... find a way to interact with him... he ll surely flow even if he doesn't like u....most guys won't wanna reject a girl for fear of hurting her... n u might be lucky d guy ll feel same for u.... u can always mention me to give me update n I ll tell u what next...

rdouc:
It all started like a crush when I was like 12 years old, but now am 27, we attended the same church back then and till now, did some activities together, I thought it was just some passing feeling, then I got into the university, met some guys (though never dated them, just friends) still the feeling won't go away, I some times pray to God about it to remove the intense feeling (lol, funny but it's that serious)when ever his face flashes on my mind. At times I avoided him totally, I don't even call him, still the feeling persisted. Then Him on his part, showed some signs of care but later it went dead till date. Then he got a job and relocated. But each time he comes around to visit his family and attends church, and I get to see him hmmm I battle the feeling afresh in an intense phase, it has even affected me dating other guys, it's like a part of me is locked out, hanging and waiting for him to come around and boldly say the magic words or at least ask me out. Note: we aren't that close at all, just hi hi, we don't even gist deep, so I don't know a thing about him, but what I don't get is why it's taking so long to get over him and move on. I don't wanna appear cheap by poping the questions first, it will kill me more if he says he isn't feeling same way or that he has some one else.
Pls what should I do?