bamidelee:
I think you should show her you are man
asking her to contribute to household upkeep is not alright. make your plans and excute them by doing this she would no you are not joking
you're the husband you have to plan to invest not only building your house cos you don't know what tomorrow might come with therefore plan for Harmattan
buy property in her name and keep ie after you've been executing your plans, that will make her respect you better
dear don't fight her
handle her with maturity

Sunnypar:
do t be quick to say that! He who wears the shoes knows where it pinches

GodsLastBorn:
WTF is this bro? Respect can never ever be bought but only be earned. In this cold world you have to study people, treat them how the deserve to be treated and ensure no one walks all over you especially females, the are masters at that which is exactly what the ops wife is doing. God first, you & your good family members and loved ones second and other things will follow. He dropped his respect long ago and hes currently payung for it but now he has to go back and earn it. The kingdom of the lord suffereth violence and violence taketh it by force, wisdom and patience is now the key. I don't think her wife is the kind you can sweet talk into doing or not doing things or maybe he has lost that skill or effect based on lack of respect. Guys never let go of your manhood( wisdom, right, good principles) or else :-)) when the chickens comes back to roost it won't be funny at all. Recognize a problem, device the best means to solve it and start solving it. Kissing up to her will never play any good told in solving his problem rather kissing her azz is what got him where he is today. We love to spend on our gf/wife and whatnot but always have the NO prescription and learn how to inject it from time to time. Always doing or giving a woman whatever she wants ( unnecessary demands) all the time have never helped the male folks in history ask bro Adam, David, Solomon abi OGA Samson till date.

DrogoG:


Any woman (whether beautiful or ugly or rich or poor) who really loves you, won't stress you out to buy her Gucci bag or diamond ring. That's a fact!

Any woman who wants to live large on your money with total disregard for your feelings, doesn't love you!
If you toast a woman you hope to marry with money, she'll love the money first and then "love" you only for spending a lot on her. I'm sure that's not the kind of love you want in your marriage

If you meet a woman you hope to have a long relationship with, spend far less in the beginning and focus more in knowing each other. You can spend on her the way you want only after you're sure she really loves you and she's the one.

Remember, a woman who would still love you without money, does not need money to know or love you.

GodsLastBorn:
you and coldfee.t are very funny based on naivety. Why would a loaded guy come here, an online forum to seek such nonsense as " letting the females know he's loaded"? And the worse part is that you even encouraged coldf.eet smh. In similar discourse pls you can try not to comment if what you want to post makes no sense or helps the op, thanks.
@Op
You are the architect of your problem, Never ever let your partner know how much you have, salary until she proves herself and even after she proved herself you still don't let her know about 50 or 40% of your financial status. This advice have saved a lot of wise men. That's what saved an uncle of mine after his wife divorced him and he's grateful to God that he did so and more but that's a story for another day.
You guys are newly married and you're supposed to have a separate account (set up a trustfund)where you are to be saving money for your future children's education to avoid hbp of how to pay schools fees in future and to ensure they get good education and another account where you can save up money for rainy days, unforseen circumstances, projects and more. Life is all about good plans and execution so it really drives me crazy that your wife is doing this, it pisses me off that in such economic situation that a human being with brains will be lavishing anothers savings ( you gave her the right to do so) based on the excuse that she's a wife?! Not that she's Babangida's or Abacha's daughter. This has to stop and it depends on you, you better man up and be ready for the temptations she's going to throw at you, nagging, silent treatment, emotional blackmail and more but but never let her manipulate you and use wisdom, don't engage her but study her. Her personality will determine how far you will have to go before she learns because now its no more a discussion issue, sometimes women are like children. Some kids, you talk to them and the understand and follow the instructions while some other kids you have to use action to a certain degree before the understand you.
Sorry to say this, your wife doesn't respect you or your opinion and getting it back will take some sacrifice which I don't think you're ready to do from your mindset. Find your càhónes/balls before you completely loose it.

maysimsimple:

Already done that bro... She's reasoning irrationally, from her comments I'll know bird of same feathers... U know d rest bro.. Panadol for my headache. Imagine, when am not d op....





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my guy, ignore that lady!

FortuneTeller:


You are free to ignore me, but God is not ignoring you and how you have treated your wife and marriage.

maysimsimple:


Hey, dont u ever get tired in meddling in people's issue. U can't even tell if u re OK, n u call urself foreign teller or na fortune. Be sensible for once. I never treated my wife badly n God is my witness. If she was tolerant, respecting me, we'll not b in this situation. Pls stop quoting me if u don't have anything sensible to say. I wonder how u mention God in every of ur comments! Miss or Mrs, d most high that I serve will never leave my side. Onutago.....

FortuneTeller:


You have a hardened heart. Your wife is seeking reconciliation and here you are on NL chasing skirts. I pray you are released from the evil spirit that is trying to break your marriage.

maysimsimple:


Hey Miss, I know u re enjoying this. I don't have an hardened heart. Don't even know y am replying, maybe u are trying to be sensible. I'm not chasing anything here. Check my comments to see for yourself. We are not compatible simple... U are the one whom need to be cleansed n Sanctified from the evil spirit in u. Anytime u are in 9ja let me know, will take you to my church for that..

maysimsimple:

Get back with someone that won't hesitate to poison me? I don't want to believe u're a joke! I can give u my name on facebook to checkout n hers too if u want. Been there, done that...

kaboninc:
maysimsimple

You no dey tire?

Just allow her be.

Dfinex:


thank God for a changed perception.

reminds me of an ex who thought I wasn't classy and trendy cos I'll rather stay at home and do chores and prolly watch tv instead of wearing flashy clothes and junketeer with him around town, to cinemas, hotels, fun parks, etc.

but alas....today he misses that quiet natured lady in me like crazy.

Fedayeen02:
Lies

How do couples with different spending patterns cope

my partner is driving me crazy, we have been fighting about everything that has to do with money, she is kinda of lavish and i am prudent. It is really frustrating, she sees me as a miser. She has this idea the higher the cost the more quality, but i know this is not necessary the case. at least from experience, i know how people inflate prices , i try to spend on actual value. I have sat her down and explained to her. How we should nt waste, she promises to change but next thing she is back to the basics.

I also think i may be partially responsible for this, during our courtship, i use to lavish her with very expensive gifts. which to me shd nt be a crime, I wasnt spending beyond my means and there is nothing wrong in giving your woman some exclusive treats once in a while what now bothers me is she expects the cinderella story will continue forever.

There was a day the argument got so intense, she began to say very uncool stuff, on hw she know i hate spending on her and always complain. i really felt hurt. She never looks at the big picture, it is always the most expensive stuff she wants, whenever we do anything.

Our counseling was rushed and proper attention wasnt given to finances and all, everyone just believes she is a well behaved girl. We just got married, I really dont know how i missed this earlier during courtship, but it really causing alot of whahala in our home. The funny part is most of this so called expenses are usually to be solely footed by me. My wife has not for one day called me to say she too will contribute this amount for this or that. I dont complain, or expect, where i have problem is when i decide to pay and she complains it is nt good enough. Am sure if her money was involved she would understand what i mean.

Currently i earn more than her, i found a temporary solution which is to keep her out of the financial decisions, Whenever. i want to buy stuff for the house I dont consult her anymore, i just go and buy the stuff and return home showing her i bought it, instead of the normal asking her which is better and she picks and we begin to fight and argue. This is temporal and actually not the best but what can i do? The fights are just getting to me.

When we started i used to expose her to how much I had and all and plans to maybe get a land and all and maybe start bulding. She knows how much i earn and all. but i dont think she is matured to handled some of these things. And i guess cos she knows of the money available (my saivngs) this is why she just goes for the most expensive and all and just acts lavish.

I had to lie to her that i was scammed of several of millions through MMM to make her forget about the available cash.

Just imagine the rubbish i have to go through.

See me see whahala , me and my own wife again.

Is anyone dating a partner with an opposite spending habit.

Can you share and let me learn how you overcame this problem.