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7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:32pm On Jan 13, 2017
Many relationships of today are short lived because singles do not have correct mindset about relationship. If a person’s mindset is wrong, no conditions will ever be favorable for a lasting relationship. Below are seven wrong mindsets that people have today.

1. There is a Mr. or Miss Right for everyone

Fact: There is nothing like Mr. Right or Miss Right. What we call the right person is simply the person with whom we feel we are compatible. The thought that there is a right person tends to make singles put the success of a relationship on the incoming partner. Anybody can be your Mr. Right if both of you will only work on being a Right partner.

2. Relationship is about love

Fact: Relationship is more than a feeling. It is a decision. Feelings are temporal. They can vanish at any point in time. At such times, it is the decision to love your partner regardless that counts. And that decision has to be reinforced each day.

3. Mindset: A perfect relationship does not have problems

Fact: If you are having problems with your relationship, then you should be happy that you both are being real and there is no pretense. This enables the two of you to work on accommodating your differences. If you always quit relationships because of problems, you will most likely opt for divorce in future.

4. You can start a relationship anytime you have the feeling

Fact: It is better you do not rush in to any relationship if you want something that would last. We use approximately 15 years of our lives in school to prepare us to earn income. We spend weeks and months preparing for competitions. Shouldn’t you take some time to prepare yourself for a relationship? A relationship is more than what you should jump in to.

5. Your potential partner should be able to satisfy your needs

Fact: Even though it is important that needs of both parties are met, if your desire is to primarily get someone to meet your needs, you are not ready for a relationship. The important question is, what value can you add to your partner? Relationships that last have the partners looking out first for each other rather than themselves. It’s called selflessness.

6. Expecting a relationship to lead to marriage

Fact: While it is a good aim that relationships should lead to marriage, it is not always so. Having that mindset will put unnecessary pressure on you during dating and make you do things out of desperation. And you know one thing about desperation? It never ends well. Hope your relationship lead to marriage but don’t try to force it. ladies i understand that menopause is knocking but force and desperation will not solve the problem. just allow the wify material in you to reflect and hope it leads to marriage.

7. Everybody is doing it.

Fact: A lot of singles have ventured in to relationships because everyone seemed to be doing it. They do so because they could not handle the pressure of being different. Hasty move in to a relationship will make you prone to speedy break up. . Do not let anyone rush you. If you are not ready yet, take your time. Life is not necessarily about who did it first but about who did it well.

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:32pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by dingbang(m): 10:43pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Forcing me to marry a girl is d worst mistake someone can ever make... Just as its d decision of God almighty alone to determine whether rapture will hold now or not, same way its my decision to marry a girl ...

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:47pm On Jan 13, 2017
dingbang:
cool


Forcing me to marry a girl is d worst mistake someone can ever make... Just as its d decision of God almighty alone to determine whether rapture will hold now or not, same way its my decision to marry a girl ...


yes, truly gone are those days when anybody should be forced to marry anybody. but if you are forced to marry a lady now what will you do cheesy?

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:48pm On Jan 13, 2017
osaggy:
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space booker. how work cheesy?
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Gflat: 10:48pm On Jan 13, 2017
I don't like doing this but that third comment guy above me is a dreamer! cheesy
Before you start making demands on the type of woman you desire or before you start complaining about being forced to marry a girl, have you even asked yourself if any lady wants a guy like you? lipsrsealed grin

These boys need to stop watching soap opera it is affecting their sixth sense. Forcing you on a girl. Women have suffered grin

@ Op, Don't contradict yourself Mr!

relationship is all about love. You can't be in a relationship with someone you don't love.

Number 5. This is a warning to all ladies Don't date broke boys, you will suffer. I promise you. Broke boys are not worth it. Run my sister run!

Bonus point If your boyfriend is into MMM dump him before he use you to GH/PH lipsrsealed

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by SafeDavid(m): 10:48pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by dingbang(m): 10:48pm On Jan 13, 2017
importexpert:



yes, truly gone are those days when anybody should be forced to marry anybody. but if you are forced to marry a lady now what will you do cheesy?
lol d marriage won't hold
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jan 13, 2017
You point 2 is contradicting. Your decision to love your partner regardless.... You are indirectly suggesting relationship is about Love which is true. A relationship based on anything other than love is like a paper in the wind.

Point6. Intentions should be cleared to avoid contentions. Relationships should be defined. A lady or Man who is matured enough and is ready to settle down shouldn't be in relationship with one who is not. At a point in a person's life, there is an expectation of relationship leading to marriage.

Nice thread by the way smiley

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Divay22(f): 10:54pm On Jan 13, 2017
Just came to book space cool
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by bettercreature(m): 10:55pm On Jan 13, 2017
All the threads on the front page are just dying natural death
The MMM zombie wont leave their threads

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by tomdon(m): 10:55pm On Jan 13, 2017
Gflat:
I don't like doing this but that third comment guy above me is a dreamer! cheesy
Before you start making demands of the type of woman you desire have you even asked yourself if any lady wants a guy like you? grin

Abeg epp me ansk am ooo. Lol

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by helphelp: 10:57pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:58pm On Jan 13, 2017
SafeDavid:
Point 3 is so on point.

The second point also makes sense as true love is more than just a feeling.
Its more or a decision to forge ahead based on certain positive attributes of ones partner and the willingness to forgive any shortcomings.

Learning a lot these days. grin

yes. it is that decision that keeps couples married for over 5 decades and not just love cheesy
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Damfostopper(m): 10:59pm On Jan 13, 2017
Jan : Manutd vs Hull
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Jan 22: Chelsea vs HULL
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Jan 26: HULL vs Man United
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Feb 1: Man United vs HULL
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Feb 4: HULL vs Liverpool
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Feb 11: Arsenal vs HULL
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Wickedness
If FA no longer need Hull they should say it clear rather than doing this

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by mhisbliss(f): 10:59pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:59pm On Jan 13, 2017
helphelp:
Ok

space booker how work cheesy?

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 13, 2017
Love is too abstract a concept for me. I deal with facts and tangible things; like money. tongue

You say you love me from the bottom of your heart, but you cannot remove the love for me to see, feel, weigh and throw around. What's that? Just find a compatible partner and marry. Shikena. Abi wetin you think Ginaz?

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by obiorathesubtle: 10:59pm On Jan 13, 2017
In other words, relationships are for those ready to lose their minds..



#StaySingle
#SinglePeopleSaveMoney

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Ximenez(m): 11:00pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by feodan: 11:00pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Ghoster: 11:00pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by moneylords(m): 11:01pm On Jan 13, 2017
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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by Heavance(m): 11:02pm On Jan 13, 2017
That number 2 ehn....
Ever wondered why love just vanishes at some point in the relationship, you try to ask what happened to you, but you just can't figure it out, and it's not as if you are seeing someone else...... then you realize the pressure and hustle of life is just the cause.
The simple thing is, it gets to the point when guys realize we don't just settle down because of love, so many factors come into play.
The lady's career, mindset towards the work ahead, what is she adding to the union, is she the kind that can stand with you when you are broke, a lot just keeps coming to mind.
That's where balancing comes into play ahead of love

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 11:02pm On Jan 13, 2017
Damfostopper:
Jan : Manutd vs Hull
....

Jan 22: Chelsea vs HULL
...

Jan 26: HULL vs Man United
....

Feb 1: Man United vs HULL
...

Feb 4: HULL vs Liverpool
...

Feb 11: Arsenal vs HULL
....

Wickedness
If FA no longer need Hull they should say it clear rather than doing this


hahhhh that is operation hull must go. the prophet in your pic if you allow him to pray for you, your life will never be the same again because it will bend to the very last end cheesy

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by ndcide(m): 11:05pm On Jan 13, 2017
dingbang:
cool


Forcing me to marry a girl is d worst mistake someone can ever make... Just as its d decision of God almighty alone to determine whether rapture will hold now or not, same way its my decision to marry a girl ...

does it change anything? Those who hate their partner took the decision to get married themselves. so
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 11:09pm On Jan 13, 2017
Haute:
Love is too abstract a concept for me. I deal with facts and tangible things; like money. tongue

You say you love me from the bottom of your heart, but you cannot remove the love for me to see, feel, weigh and throw around. What's that? Just find a compatible partner and marry. Shikena. Abi wetin you think Ginaz?


bro congratulations. you have successfully proven that you need urgent attention cheesy. if you believe mom truly loves you without seeing it and playing with it, why do you want to play with that of others before believing them cheesy?

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by raphy(m): 11:10pm On Jan 13, 2017
Nice writeups op. Don't forget to shocked
Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by rattlesnake(m): 11:11pm On Jan 13, 2017
the Biggest mistake is coming to NL to look for marraige advice grin

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Re: 7 Wrong Mindsets Singles Have About Relationships by importexpert(m): 11:13pm On Jan 13, 2017
obiorathesubtle:
In other words, relationships are for those ready to lose their minds..



#StaySingle
#SinglePeopleSaveMoney

if dad thinks in your way, you will not be here now. bro get married and give birth to our future president and keep that your saving money thing aside cheesy

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