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Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by slysteel: 10:44am On Mar 03, 2017 |
[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote]Sounding like a toddler,you can't date your boss and continue working there after your hubby finds out and yet you expect to be married,she has to loose something to gain something here,she needs to resign like today or she should forget that marriage. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by emekaRaj(m): 10:45am On Mar 03, 2017 |
avril9: I think the girl ( yorubest ) is nt truthful even to us here, first she said it was just a fling, then she said they had sex twice, I think it's more than twice, in fact the reason she didn't tell him about his boss after promising nt to kip secret is because she is still fucking his boss. If she is ready to change she should quite her job period or else her husband may never trust her while she is working their. 1 Like |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by rolams(m): 10:46am On Mar 03, 2017 |
[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote] How? Stop deceiving her pls. The best option is to quit the job. Otherwise, her husband won't believe her again. The trust will never return. Assuming you started eating the best dish of yours and found a drop of excreta at the tip of the plate, what will happen to u? |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by trendyprettygir: 10:46am On Mar 03, 2017 |
chronique: Well in her write up, op said this happened in the past. I presume she has apologized and pleaded for forgiveness, thats the reason for introducing the word "unreasonable". If this happened in the past, then the husband only needs to do a further investigation to clarify that it is in the past and forgive this. As per the no secret which should never be revealed, let me give a typical example. Lets say a high class prostitute suddenly becomes repentant. She can say she has slept with a 100 men , high profiled men. However, i do not expect her to divulge the names of these high profile men. Saying she has slept with a 100 men is more than enough. Beginning to reveal the names of these high profile men could make things complicated. I have met people who were honest about their past and missed a potential partner who would never forgive. Having said all this, please hope you are aware we live in a society that allows men actively and openly cheat. Men are praised when they cheat and people even help make excuses for them for cheating. Whereas a woman can be stoned and killed for same action. I am in no way an advocate of cheating and i am typically someone who is actually not interested in anyone confessing their past to me,so long you have made up your mind to be a better person now. Your sex tape is your past. Your Yahoo Yahoo is your past. Am more interested in who are you today. I am not the confess your life past to me and lets start on a clean slate. I have more things to do, i am not God and have no reason to judge anyone for their past. However, since she and her husband had this kind of agreement then, then the OP should have resigned from her job long ago, especially as she chose to keep this part a secret and had sincerely stopped having her flings. This of course was her mistake. The best and only solution is for her to resign and immediately. FOR THE OP - And please op, in case your husband now says, erm.. i no longer trust you as you hid this and me self i will start cheating my own, then i can categorically tell you that its likely he had cheated previously, once or twice, but your mistake has now given him a backing and reason to make it open. Fix this immediately OP. 1 Like |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by rolams(m): 10:46am On Mar 03, 2017 |
[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote] How? Stop deceiving her pls. The best option is to quit the job. Otherwise, her husband won't believe her again. The trust will never return. Assuming you started eating the best dish of yours and found a drop of excreta at the tip of the plate, what will happen to u? |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by YOUNGrapha(m): 10:49am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest:u re not only cheap buh kinda cheap LovePeddler...u visited a married man when his wife isn't around, and u called that fling...flinging kor flexing ni |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by madridsta007(m): 10:49am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest: It seems like your husband is a good man. A good man will react the way he reacted. A bad man would have immediately started sleeping around or, what's worse, thrown you outside in anger. A "bad" man operates in anger. Let's start with some bluntness here. You lost out on winning the trust of your husband when you told him "half-truths". A half-truth is the same as a lie. Yes, a lie. Trust is a very unstable compound. When it is gone, it is quite hard to regain it back. To regain it back, you must do something which will be quite hard too. You missed the easy option earlier, by not revealing the whole secrets/past to him. It's simple. Apologise to him, assure him that nothing has happened since then and prepare a resignation letter. Yes, show it to your husband and tell him that you have made up your mind to quit your job that day. And, as the head of the house, you need his consent. Or disapproval. Go with what ever he says. If you do this with all sincerity of heart, you will find another job soon (if you quit) and, more importantly, win your husband's trust back and save your young marriage. He will see your move as respect for him. Women feed on affection, men feed on respect. Anything asides this will be scratching the surface. Believe me, a happy home is worth more than a job. Much, much, more. I hope it goes well. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by LordIsaac(m): 10:50am On Mar 03, 2017 |
cc150615:Wow...that's quite a piece. You've said it all. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by bukatyne(f): 10:51am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest: Your boss isn't the one ruinning your marriage; you are and trust me, you are doing a good job of it. You slept with your boss 2x (before marriage) assuming you really stopped and you still work with that boss 3yrs after your marriage? Same boss gave you gifts during your wedding? Solution: 1. Discuss, seriously apologize to him and ask him to give you his conditions to forgive you; 2. Quit your job as soon as possible (I find it hard to believe your boss stopped after 2x. Your husband right now would have his imagination running wild and assume a lot of stuffs); 3. If you still have waka spirit, genuinely repent; 4. Keep appeasing him. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Silas0(m): 10:51am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Never turn a hoe into a wife. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Nobody: 10:51am On Mar 03, 2017 |
avril9:only God can save my marriage cos if I am the man ehn, I won't be able to sex her anymore cos I will start imagining things 1 Like |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by bukatyne(f): 10:52am On Mar 03, 2017 |
madridsta007: Good one. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by hylyne(m): 10:52am On Mar 03, 2017 |
21st century name for adultery and fornication - fling. May God have mercy... |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Saheed69(m): 10:53am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Assuming I was the OP husband, the first thing to do was to carry the son for DNA test, if it was confirmed I was the father she is saved otherwise she is a gonna. Don't know what will be going on in the husband mind every morning they are preparing for work. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by GeniusDavid(m): 10:54am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Cutehector: Totally agree with this 100%. Only a surgical change of heart by his creator can earn you his trust back! |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by frostmate: 10:55am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest: Hi. First thing to do is resign from your job and cut off all contact with your boss then move on from there. You are putting your marriage at more risk if you continue working there. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by TinaAnita(f): 10:56am On Mar 03, 2017 |
A married boss and a married woman had flings. So how can your boss threaten your marriage when he also has his own marriage to protect? Today's marriage is just a big fat joke |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Edusouls(m): 10:56am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Dyt:she is a,liar, loose and an adulterous woman just like you re,such women re a disgrace and dosent derserve to be trusted,talkless of being somebodies wife..the man should get rid of her in time b4 is too late. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Kassidy90(m): 10:56am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Hello @Op see, I can't tell tell u 60% of men treats similar marital issues same way, though some are more emotional than others If am ur husband firstly I expect u to quit ur job ASAP without even informing me, why? I believe for u to keep ur relationship with ur boss from me it means u guys are still having an affair it might not be that serious but I believe once in a while u answers to his booty call ... Secondly I also expect u to give me some time to calm my anger, Thirdly either in words or actions I want u to show me that wat u did was wrong n u regret it plus it would never happen again and most importantly never talk about ur boss in my presence again... As for me if u do all those stuffs very soon thing will go back to normal between us |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by ezra1990: 10:58am On Mar 03, 2017 |
How true these words are " Tell the truth the first time and u won't have to worry about what you said you said at first " |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by mechanics(m): 10:59am On Mar 03, 2017 |
madam you should not have given in to your boss advances when you promised your husband to be faithful, the deed has been done, just pray to win him back, I just don't know what you want in your boss that your husband don't have, now see what you have put yourself into, trust is a bedrock of marriage and once the trust is not there, that marriage won't work, unless by prayer to bring the trust back, Good luck madam, make sure you don't do such again. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by ayando(m): 11:00am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest:Oro iranu. Rubbish talk. The more reason he will destroy that gift n see u cheap. Don't ever say it to him oooo. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by ameh99: 11:00am On Mar 03, 2017 |
So you were screwing a married man...imagine some other lady does that to you...... |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Edusouls(m): 11:01am On Mar 03, 2017 |
KevinDein:i love you my brother,u re very sensible person, |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by smark61: 11:04am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest: Pls did it happen b4 or after. U met ur husband |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by airex(m): 11:05am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest:U didn't tell h OK m about your boss because u still wanted to continue playing the game. Now it has caught up with you. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by mackiavelli: 11:11am On Mar 03, 2017 |
The first thing you need to do is to earn his trust once more and you can only do that by quiting your job. By doing so you are telling your hubby that you value your marriage and you no longer have any relationship with your boss.[color=#006600][/color] |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Nobody: 11:12am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Yorubest: "Do not be deceived. God is not mocked. Whatever a man sows, that he shall reap" Galatians 6:7 You are a vey stupid woman for sleeping with ur boss. Not once but twice. You deserve every bad thing that comes your way. I detest slut$ like you. |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by Timelezz: 11:13am On Mar 03, 2017 |
ITbomb:And she's still working under the guy that bleeped her and expects the husband not be worried. 1 Like |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by walad4yhu(m): 11:16am On Mar 03, 2017 |
[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote]
How? |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by chccho(m): 11:17am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Dyt: It's so unfortunate that this is still coming from a lady just like the OP herself.Your post just simply shows that you also have strong tendencies to do same as the OP going by the bolded u make it sound like cheating is no biggy!!! If u feel its no buggy try it with your husband/bf and see how every rationale man would react. why not just hit the nail on the head and help the OP after all the truth is bitter ,but will also set u free. As per OP this is a very difficult situation u are going through and u need a lot of prayer and try a lot more harder to win your husbands heart back but it's not impossible.Just do everything humanly possible to please and love your husband more even if it means quitting your job but please make sure u also inform him before u quit that job. I wish u the very best and God bless |
Re: My Boss Is Threatening My Marriage by nairaman66(m): 11:18am On Mar 03, 2017 |
Just did it twice!! That line changed everything.. this lady in question is not remorseful!! You did all that and expect your hussy to turn a blind eye!! Wehdone Ma |
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