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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Amhappy(f): 4:27pm On Mar 24, 2017
dragonking3:
The OP is not earning the same with that guy. The guy might be earning N1m, so it is a different game. What if the OP looses his job. What will the wife do then?

You too dey serious. Before nko i know. Every shoe get size. What i mean is he should work with the guy's experience chikena. in his own case he should give wifey say 50k and bone up. Even that 50k sef na somebody's salary.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by olureignforever: 4:30pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

You did right bro, just sit her down and let her know it hurts u. Some women sha, while some women are looking for this type of man, one is messing up with hers. This life. Bro, apply wisdom because any harsh decision you take might boomerang. I pray God assist you cos she need a rethink and mend her ways.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Ozoneman: 4:30pm On Mar 24, 2017
I have said it countless times I cannot settle with a lady that feel comfortable been a cost centre to my life. If she will not be contributory to the union, then she is only as good as a girlfriend.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by dragonking3: 4:30pm On Mar 24, 2017
Amhappy:


You too dey serious. Before nko i know. Every shoe get size. What i mean is he should work with the guy's experience chikena. in his own case he should give wifey say 50k and bone up. Even that 50k sef na somebody's salary.
If he gives the wife 50k salary, how much do you think he can save at the end of the month?

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by wristbangle: 4:31pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

Brother, it's too late to start counting your loss. The deed has been done, you have to manage the situation as a man. It is well.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Youngzedd(m): 4:33pm On Mar 24, 2017
This is what happens when you marry one of this social media slay queens.


Stop marying teens una no dey hear. See, any girl below the age of 25 years is not fit for marriage, their brain always work one way. This is 21st century.

Marry at your own peril. Omo,carry your cross.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ekanDamie: 4:34pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec
bros, I don't like commenting on long threads cos I believe the OP would already have been overwhelmed with all sort of mentions but I just have to.
I understand d need to sacrifice a certain sum of amount to ur wife, I believe ur doing this for the best of intentions, Love.

but brov, for you to see it as a statutory payment and which in ur terms call salary, you are absolutely as someone spotted earlier putting a huge strain on ur marriage, I pray ur marriage would not crash so, u have to put corrective measures to this issue.
because as it stands, u have created a spirit of entitlement to your wife. and ur wife seems like the slay Queen kinda woman who loves to impress.

am not saying 30k is too much for a woman to get every month, am not saying she didn't deserve it judging from how much u love her.

my advice is this however, forget about the inflation she did to d med fee, patch things up with her, let both of u forget bout wah happind. pay her ur customary monthly due cos u can't just stop like that. saying u wanna punish her by stoping would stir up d relationship, trust me, as u have said, she isn't sober biout d inflation, so any attempt to stop cash flow is WAR my broda.
back to my advice. pay her like 2 months more, then on d 3rd month, come up with a story before the 3rd month on how u damaged something at work or any other kinda liability and that u have to pay back which will put strains on ur expenses.
with this, an understanding wife should sympathise with u n make up her mind to assist u get over ur debt. for this 2-3months period or more depending on u, don't pay her "salary"
but fufil all ur other husband/father financial duties
watch how she behaves, if she gets provoked by ur non payment despite ur perceived shortcoming and becomes overly wrathful, bro, u have a very big problem.
but, if she supports u with all smiles n constantly asks u d state of things at work with passion n interest, then brov, u have no problem.

d deal is to determine how she values ur relationship in d absence of money,cos bro live ain't a bed of roses o, if anything happens in future n ur financial capabilities is threatend will ur wife understand? or that is when she will start picking fights with u every now n then.
its in d absence of money a man knows if he is been loved for d right reasons or not.
its time for you to know where u stand rather than u having stronger issues in d future.

I admire ur commitment to ur family, moist men wunt sacrifice that much for d family. welldone BTW, even if it's teaching work in a private school, never let a woman be unproductive, it's a backward move.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by rukess: 4:35pm On Mar 24, 2017
na all this kind thing dey tire me so
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ststyreal(f): 4:35pm On Mar 24, 2017
papaput2:
Nigeria men and slavery in the name of marriage look at what you got yourself into

At first you married a student , greedy self center girl lady or woman because I don't really know her age

I wonder how much you pay your folks who fought so hard to make sure you became who you are today ? I guess nothing

Instead of paying that 17% to her open up acount for your kid with it

I know the truth is always bitter this your so call marriage is base on mutual benefit not love

You will thank me later when she graduate, how many of your siblings are you actually sponsorin in school non I guess

Lol
Abegi close your mouth with that your advice, home breakers, I don't blame you, I blame the husband that brought his family out here for public discussion.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by shiki(m): 4:37pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

I blame you for one thing, you shouldn't have confronted your wife, u should have waited for such to repeat, then you react
She was wrong but just few women will agree that it was a wrong act, she feels you are monitoring her moves
But my advice to you is that, don't beg her until she come to you and tell you she's sorry, but as soon as she beg for forgiveness, immediately forgive her and forgot it

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Amhappy(f): 4:37pm On Mar 24, 2017
dragonking3:
If he gives the wife 50k salary, how much do you think he can save at the end of the month?

He earns 175k abi?

Make them sit down calculate,items;quantity price
Rice=
Beans=
Plantain=
Baby Food=
Call Card=
Transport=
Provision= etc
And arrive at a workable budget thats i said like 50k. He gives her at the end of the month and she go dey run the house chikina. Thats wat the bros did.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by tabisegroup(m): 4:38pm On Mar 24, 2017
HARDDON:
Ehmmmm op, how did u arrive @ that 17.2%?

Any mathematical formular applied? cheesy
Permutations dy:dx grin
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Youngzedd(m): 4:41pm On Mar 24, 2017
Acidosis:
I don't know how to advise you as I'm not married.

But of a fact, I believe you saw these traits and tendencies while dating so I won't condemn her actions. There is no way you will date a woman in 6 months and not notice her countenance towards money. Some men are totally cool with such actions anyway.

For me, I can't live with a woman that demands or expects monthly salary from me. I can give you my card, pin to withdraw whatever amount you want, but salary?! No, I won't! You might say my position is worse, but then again, I won't even be with a woman I can't trust with my ATM in the first place. That action is wrong and any woman that allows that needs to check herself, something is definitely wrong. You should be with a woman you can trust with your most cherished resources.


Secondly, I cannot marry a student (personal reasons).


As you have seen, my points are irrelevant to you. We share opposing views.

I stand with you bro 100%.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by dragonking3: 4:41pm On Mar 24, 2017
Amhappy:


He earns 175k abi?

Make them sit down calculate,items;quantity price
Rice=
Beans=
Plantain=
Baby Food=
Call Card=
Transport=
Provision= etc
And arrive at a workable budget thats i said like 50k. He gives her at the end of the month and she go dey run the house chikina. Thats wat the bros did.

Don't forget to add nepa bills, security bills, baby items and clothes, fuel for gen and car, garri, bread, beverages, cooking items and oil, washing items, water, school fees and books, parent upkeep, tithe, waste bill, health and miscellaneous.

Now add all these to the list you mentioned and do the maths.

That Bros earns far more than him and he even accepted so I don't understand your point

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Youngzedd(m): 4:45pm On Mar 24, 2017
ekanDamie:

bros, I don't like commenting on long threads cos I believe the OP would already have been overwhelmed with all sort of mentions but I just have to.
I understand d need to sacrifice a certain sum of amount to ur wife, I believe ur doing this for the best of intentions, Love.

but brov, for you to see it as a statutory payment and which in ur terms call salary, you are absolutely as someone spotted earlier putting a huge strain on ur marriage, I pray ur marriage would not crash so, u have to put corrective measures to this issue.
because as it stands, u have created a spirit of entitlement to your wife. and ur wife seems like the slay Queen kinda woman who loves to impress.

am not saying 30k is too much for a woman to get every month, am not saying she didn't deserve it judging from how much u love her.

my advice is this however, forget about the inflation she did to d med fee, patch things up with her, let both of u forget bout wah happind. pay her ur customary monthly due cos u can't just stop like that. saying u wanna punish her by stoping would stir up d relationship, trust me, as u have said, she isn't sober biout d inflation, so any attempt to stop cash flow is WAR my broda.
back to my advice. pay her like 2 months more, then on d 3rd month, come up with a story before the 3rd month on how u damaged something at work or any other kinda liability and that u have to pay back which will put strains on ur expenses.
with this, an understanding wife should sympathise with u n make up her mind to assist u get over ur debt. for this 2-3months period or more depending on u, don't pay her "salary"
but fufil all ur other husband/father financial duties
watch how she behaves, if she gets provoked by ur non payment despite ur perceived shortcoming and becomes overly wrathful, bro, u have a very big problem.
but, if she supports u with all smiles n constantly asks u d state of things at work with passion n interest, then brov, u have no problem.

d deal is to determine how she values ur relationship in d absence of money,cos bro live ain't a bed of roses o, if anything happens in future n ur financial capabilities is threatend will ur wife understand? or that is when she will start picking fights with u every now n then.
its in d absence of money a man knows if he is been loved for d right reasons or not.
its time for you to know where u stand rather than u having stronger issues in d future.

I admire ur commitment to ur family, moist men wunt sacrifice that much for d family. welldone BTW, even if it's teaching work in a private school, never let a woman be unproductive, it's a backward move.

Read this @ skypeme


Best advise.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by stonemasonn: 4:45pm On Mar 24, 2017
kimbra:
. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.
are you serious? From that next you hear ATM card missing.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ricki: 4:45pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it



you be rich man o N175,000 monthly and dem say naija no good...... hmmmm N30,000 for de wife..

i was doing 25k until she became preg and it went to 50,000 gbagbannnnn


with de way u analysing shit u dey work for bank??
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by FILEBE(m): 4:46pm On Mar 24, 2017
Dyt:
I add money too
And I think one out of 3 women do that or most have done it


The only thing I condemn is her being rude to you
But then how did you approach her

There's always a man involved when a woman goes crazy

rudeness is a like a woman's defence mechanism.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Amhappy(f): 4:46pm On Mar 24, 2017
dragonking3:


Don't forget to add nepa bills, security bills, baby items and clothes, fuel for gen and car, garri, bread, beverages, cooking items and oil, washing items, water, school fees and books, parent upkeep, tithe, waste bill, health and miscellaneous.

Now add all these to the list you mentioned and do the maths.

Na so,his bill don high naaa. Na to cut them coat according to size.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by tabisegroup(m): 4:47pm On Mar 24, 2017
PaperLace:
Lots of women inflate home expenses, it's their way of raising cash which comes in handy at a later date (doesn't make it right). You really tried to give her 17.2%, that's even more than the allocation for God (10%) cheesy. Don't relent bro_ it's part of your duty as the head of the house(it's not a favour, same way she has her duties too).
I must say, almost 100% increase reeks of pure greed. Your wife is greedy and inconsiderate. It's worse that she sees nothing wrong in it, you reserve the right to be angry and I apologise on her behalf.

A woman would give such astronomical false increment;
1)If she thinks you earn more than you actually earn, so she deserves more than 17.2%.
2)She is greedy (i.e) lives above her means.
3)She has expenses she doesn't want you to know of (e.g, sending to her family).
4)The husband is stingy (you're not stingy @ 17.2%, considering that you handle every other expense).

Ur truly a rare gem.. kiss
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by dragonking3: 4:47pm On Mar 24, 2017
Amhappy:


Na so,his bill don high naaa. Na to cut them coat according to size.
Exactly..That bros u mentioned must be working in an oil company hence his income is very high. You can't compare the two. If the OP increase am na die be that. I just pray for him though.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by TinaAnita(f): 4:50pm On Mar 24, 2017
Pieromania:
I am nt wishing u breakup bro,just telling u that failure to resolve this her insatiable thirst wil definitely lead to the marriage crashing,i knw what i am saying.U aren't earning that much and yet ur wife cannot be satisfied with the little u have,mehn,u need serious prayerv and counselling.u may think am spewing threats or trash,bt i am a man speaking with experience.

You don't need to explain anything to him bruh. He started it so let him finish it. By the time he is unable to maintain the status quo I'm sure he will realize his mistake. He dare not stop paying her monthly allowance if he doesn't want the house to be on fire

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by MYGODISGREAT(m): 4:50pm On Mar 24, 2017
17.2/100*175000 = 30,100. Thumps up 4u. U even paying her more than FG npower. Lol! She ought to be grateful and truthful. All the same, don't be hard on her. Sit her down and talk to her. She has to be sincere in everything so that u can always trust her. Always pray for her too, u can help her overcome her weakness. Cheers.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Emasel(m): 4:50pm On Mar 24, 2017
Lol, this OP go harsh like me cheesy

But that 2 months too much, how u want make she take survive cheesy
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by jaxxy(m): 4:52pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

My bro u may hv a serious problem on ur hands if she d greedy type and hopefully u may not if this is just a silly thing women do just to get more from their husbands bt whatever d case try to sit here down and emphasize the importance of trust and y she must change if needed or how she may better go about it. Try also no to be hard bt rather friendly in ur conversations. Shes ur wife and not ur daughter. All the best

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Chinex2000(m): 4:52pm On Mar 24, 2017
agabaI23:
Sit her down and find out why she is doing that.
Sit watin down??..bross u ave married a SLAY QWIN,slay momma....signs and symptoms....lol
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by bigiyaro(m): 4:53pm On Mar 24, 2017
Pieromania:
I am nt wishing u breakup bro,just telling u that failure to resolve this her insatiable thirst wil definitely lead to the marriage crashing,i knw what i am saying.U aren't earning that much and yet ur wife cannot be satisfied with the little u have,mehn,u need serious prayerv and counselling.u may think am spewing threats or trash,bt i am a man speaking with experience.
let d dude be calling Jesus, except Jesus will turn black to white, u married a dishonest and some how an ungrateful woman, you tink when you are unable to quench her thirst to her satisfaction, she won't find an alternative? wake up guy.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Tundellinium(m): 4:55pm On Mar 24, 2017
NoToPile:
So sorry OP

So she gets around 30k as pocket money every month, and you pay all the bills buy everything needed and pay fees and school stuffs.That should be okay for her manage for personal effects I think, people earn 30k as salary nau.

That aside I see a lot of"I" "I" "I" in your statements its not all about you bro, You also mentioned the primary duties which you say is baby sitting, cooking your dinner during the week and both dinner and lunch during weekends, its quite a lot of work not as easy as it looks.

Not giving her her pocket money as a form of punishment translates to you not taking up your responsibility as a husband , you are meant to provide for her and take care of her and that should not change because of a misunderstanding especially since she has no source of income yet, where do u expect her to get money from if you seize her allawee.

Its better you communicate (not confront) to her let her know you were not happy with the extra she added on it, ask if she needed some extra stuffs at that time, ask why she did it was the 30k not enough for her that month?
Its not easy being in a position of being totally drpendednt and not having any money of your own, you need to see from her own view point too. She may have had extra need (you didn't mention she has inflated stuffs for you before ) and didn't want ti tell you about it since you already think she's not satisfied with the 17.2%





I don't know if its just me but I found the repetition of 17.2% in your narration quite amusing. OP no vex oo lool. How did you come to the conclusion that its 17.2% she's entitled too loool.


As I'm reading your post it's as if I should just punch you. Your thinking is very shallow! God! Who says this if not selfish girls! Do you consider the mans point of view!!!
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Jeezy: 4:55pm On Mar 24, 2017
skypeme:


My marriage will not crash IJN, I repeat that you bro


You used you own hand to bring your very personal matter to a public forum and you are now rejecting the unpalatable feedback. People sef.

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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by oforij(m): 4:56pm On Mar 24, 2017
As you please sir Did op marry a slay queen?
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by jurist21(m): 4:57pm On Mar 24, 2017
NoToPile:
So sorry OP

So she gets around 30k as pocket money every month, and you pay all the bills buy everything needed and pay fees and school stuffs.That should be okay for her manage for personal effects I think, people earn 30k as salary nau.

That aside I see a lot of"I" "I" "I" in your statements its not all about you bro, You also mentioned the primary duties which you say is baby sitting, cooking your dinner during the week and both dinner and lunch during weekends, its quite a lot of work not as easy as it looks.

Not giving her her pocket money as a form of punishment translates to you not taking up your responsibility as a husband , you are meant to provide for her and take care of her and that should not change because of a misunderstanding especially since she has no source of income yet, where do u expect her to get money from if you seize her allawee.
You are so wonderful
I fancy your intelligence

Its better you communicate (not confront) to her let her know you were not happy with the extra she added on it, ask if she needed some extra stuffs at that time, ask why she did it was the 30k not enough for her that month?
Its not easy being in a position of being totally drpendednt and not having any money of your own, you need to see from her own view point too. She may have had extra need (you didn't mention she has inflated stuffs for you before ) and didn't want ti tell you about it since you already think she's not satisfied with the 17.2%





I don't know if its just me but I found the repetition of 17.2% in your narration quite amusing. OP no vex oo lool. How did you come to the conclusion that its 17.2% she's entitled too loool.
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by TinaAnita(f): 4:57pm On Mar 24, 2017
kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

It's so pathetic that we have gotten to a point where people publicly support and encourage deception/dishonesty/deceit. Whatever happens to telling her husband that she needs more money instead of inflating the cost of hospital bill? Haba! Lord have mercy! I hate deception with every fiber of my being. Couples are suppose to be honest with each other nah?

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