skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

decub:

Love your contribution, I'm not against my wife adding some dough to a bill; a good wife tho but I'm against some kinda rude reply when I ask. In any case, sometimes I will just smile and say; well, most of us are victims of this.

If I were in the guys shoes, I wouldn't even have asked her if I didn't question the high bill as soon as he told me. I would see it (and I think she must have seen it) as spying on her and not trusting her.

There's always better ways to investigate

kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

Dyt:


Mumu

ventq:
bullshit

otitokoroleti:
I could only blame d retard dat marry i neva chop gal lyk u

Ayinke93:
are you an accountant ni, with all this calculations... Na wa o

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

Atk1nson:


I'll rather have a situation where my wife and I jointly make plans, spend, render account and take responsibility. I don't support this stipend arrangement, she probably resents it.

Dyt:

Don't send me PM

Dyt:
I add money too
And I think one out of 3 women do that or most have done it


The only thing I condemn is her being rude to you
But then how did you approach her

There's always a man involved when a woman goes crazy

Pieromania:
Bro sori to tel u this,bt u are on a long thing.I see that marriage breaking anytime soon......why on earth wil a man pay his wife salary,what is the rationale behind such absurdity is what i can't fathom out?A STUDENT for that matter,u pay all bills,pay her fees and yet pay her salary.Very soon she wil start cheating on u,if not already started it.
Sori bro,ur case is different

paschu:
If you do that twice in my house I will simply send you parking.

Why get married when you cannot uphold the sacredness of matrimony?

TRUST is everything in marriage dear. Stop wasting yours, rather rack it up.

NoToPile:



You are making it sound like its an employee employer stuff, December bonus abi issorait

otitokoroleti:
pm, 4 what? u must be a huge joke!

Dyt:



Cos I add little money
I will migrate to cheating?

Your sense of reasoning is like that of curry and thyme

NoToPile:
So sorry OP

So she gets around 30k as pocket money every month, and you pay all the bills buy everything needed and pay fees and school stuffs.That should be okay for her manage for personal effects I think, people earn 30k as salary nau.

That aside I see a lot of"I" "I" "I" in your statements its not all about you bro, You also mentioned the primary duties which you say is baby sitting, cooking your dinner during the week and both dinner and lunch during weekends, its quite a lot of work not as easy as it looks.

Not giving her her pocket money as a form of punishment translates to you not taking up your responsibility as a husband , you are meant to provide for her and take care of her and that should not change because of a misunderstanding especially since she has no source of income yet, where do u expect her to get money from if you seize her allawee.

Its better you communicate (not confront) to her let her know you were not happy with the extra she added on it, ask if she needed some extra stuffs at that time, ask why she did it was the 30k not enough for her that month?
Its not easy being in a position of being totally drpendednt and not having any money of your own, you need to see from her own view point too. She may have had extra need (you didn't mention she has inflated stuffs for you before ) and didn't want ti tell you about it since you already think she's not satisfied with the 17.2%





I don't know if its just me but I found the repetition of 17.2% in your narration quite amusing. OP no vex oo lool. How did you come to the conclusion that its 17.2% she's entitled too loool.

NoToPile:



You are making it sound like its an employee employer stuff, December bonus abi issorait

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

ideykwum:


Call it what you want "add a little money" or "steal a little meat" or "tell a little lie" or "just a harmless kiss" etc. It all points to a faulty moral compass. That you don't understand that is a tragedy of the Nigerian society. That's why someone can say "Stealing is not corruption"!!

Just so you know, a good balance of curry and theme can give untrammeled taste to the stew of life. The critical question really is: How do people like you truly reason?

Dyt:

abescom:
Me pay my wife salary. I dey craze. I just put all the money on the table and she has full access to where the money is paid anyway. If she needs she takes but make it as official as you did, forget it.

agabaI23:
Sit her down and find out why she is doing that.

LeView1:


Just the idea of being given an allowance makes me feel so uneasy. Could be the fact that I'm of a certain age now and that I've enjoyed financial independence for so long but I just can't imagine being given pocketmoney. She is an equal in this relationship, and she should have a say on how the money is spent.

skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

NoToPile:


Its not really about how much she's entitled too, it sounds so mathematical and more like a business transaction that's my view anyway . I do think 30k is okay just that the way he brought out the percentage aspect sounded quite funny.