"There's this imbalance in our society as regards sex. When a lady sleeps around and then turns over a new leaf or even if she doesn't, she is viewed and labelled a trash can or remnant and whoever decides to marry most times feels or is made to feel he has been given a used property. Now what if women begin to act same way towards men who have also done similar things? I do not sanction promiscuity or sexual irresponsibility here but we must learn to stop this attitude. A woman doesn't have sex alone there's always a man with whom she had it, so what do we call that man? Sexual purity and responsibility is not gender selective hence no one should be excused. When people do wrong and have shown genuine repentance and change can we be like God and just throw their past into the sea of forgetfulness and move on? Human beings have more worth than just their genitals. Let's correct this anomaly it's affecting a lot of people's mentality especially the menfolk and denying them the opportunity of having wonderful relationships."
Source: Patience JM FaceBook page

hmmm

in this case, this is one paradigm that no one, single chick can just up and change.

Best thing is to respect the norms and not make urself an involuntary social engineering lab-rat.

What's dat Banky-W's fiance's name again, Adesua.
Yes, Adesua! I doubt she'd be this celebrated today if she'd h0ed around on fleek and flaunted it with flourish!

Chicks should learn from the Cossy's; you can't keep up with the Joneses on dis one and it's no river you can swim upstream against.

Play it nice, play it coy, do it decent and go.to ur husby's house with your honor and dignity intact, if you know marriage is for you...

If you think otherwise, and u wanna kip spitting dat sexual-equality rights bullshyt...well, boys still dey out here, we'll kip furkking you til you wise up!

I can't be with a known womanizer. Men that can't control their 'thing' are a major turn off to me. If he has changed his ways and possess some deep qualities, love works in mysterious ways .

Societal view or not, some ladies judge men too...they're only less vocal about it.

IdeyFindWife:
in this case, this is one paradigm that no one, single chick can just up and change.

Best thing is to respect the norms and not make urself an involuntary social engineering lab-rat.

What's dat Banky-W's fiance's name again, Adesua.
Yes, Adesua! I doubt she'd be this celebrated today if she'd h0ed around on fleek and flaunted it with flourish!

Chicks should learn from the Cossy's; you can't keep up with the Joneses on dis one and it's no river you can swim upstream against.

Play it nice, play it coy, do it decent and go.to ur husby's house with your honor and dignity intact, if you know marriage is for you...

If you think otherwise, and u wanna kip spitting dat sexual-equality rights bullshyt...well, boys still dey out here, we'll kip furkking you til you wise up!

and u think u made sense abi?
sexual purity should a general thing to both genders and is not about gender equality
is your type that thinks is his right to dig any hole he sees, but expects to marry a virgin
open your head and mind, number of past or present sexual partner
affects both a woman's and a man's honour, no exception.

chynie:

and u think u made sense abi?
sexual purity should a general thing to both genders and is not about gender equality
is your type that thinks is his right to dig any hole he sees, but expects to marry a virgin
open your head and mind, number of past or present sexual partner
affects both a woman's and a man's honour, no exception.

Awww, my bad! sorry Missy!!

Burrr, the way it is. It's a free world and, as I've realized, no amount of preaching will change some people.
That is why most of the thriving entertainment, media and hospitality related industries are pg-rated. WE ARE Living in an OVER-SEXUALIZED CULTURE! All institutions are under the assault of this wave and, even, the religious institutions offer scant sanctuary now. You simply don't know who is who anymore!

Add to that the fact that you're in Nigeria, where the gender sexual-equality rights you speak don't exist. Look around you? What one thing can you point to as being right with the country and the society driving it? Does it look like it's gonna get better soon? Did we think we could escape assimilating Western values wholesale, unscathed? Where're our own cultural values? Buried, everybody forming fake ajebo and borrow-borrow swags? How do we account for the intentionally greedy ones who're determined to use what they have to get what they need? Kids are sneaking out of Christian University to go have sexx offcampus as we speak...what more do you want?!

You can only speak for yourself. And am not auditioning for "minister-for-virginity-preservation" either!

And when you're up in personal encounters? You simply present the options, dangers and solutions on tailor-made level so each person can make their choice, individually. There's no magic fix that is suddenly gonna cure a furkked up nation of hypocrites, indecisive cowards, corrupt parents, deceitful leaders, confused SlayQueens and aspiring furkboys youths amongst the many good, saintly ones!

I can only prescribe the safe limits for any sane Nigerian girl who's not willing to gamble with her marital future and happiness! Everybody may be doing it but you? You steer clear since you know what you're aiming at! And babe, we won't miss you, clubs will still sellout and people will still live-it-up; you get make sure you're in bed by 8:30pm as a good girl!

Whether we like it or not, these stereotypes and cultural biases of the sexes aint gonna disappear overnight. Girls will still be upheld to insane standards and boys with still have a jaywalk of it since there's no Virgin-O-Meter to checkmate the boys on their mileage and body-count (although u may holla me if u invent one)! So, can you now take responsibility for ladies who've decided, against all odds and reasoning, to be accidental wrecks. I was shocked dating a lady who was the first to start hustling me for sex. I dodged sotey, we had to part (and I was just content just to stare at her lovely face even though i was no saint then either). The next time stuffs started going that way, I quickly knew how to sort myself. Am sworn to success and progress so I adapt what I encounter to my best uses, simple!

Welcome to the jungle. You can't help everybody. I Am certainly no Savior too. You only offer people the facts and if you're true to urself, you know the power of their choice doesn't lie with you too.

And no, am not on any virgin-hunt either; that would be so lame at this stage! Just someone who's come to terms with their past and are ready to build a better future from their productive present-life, thank you!

Ideyfindwife

You made sense and spoke the truth!!!!

I just pity women and this their sexual liberality and expressiveness crap! It's only people that are genuinely concerned about the future and the future their kids will grow up in has frowned at the crap some females are pushing to be liable to fck as they wish thinking the consequences will not be more severe to them than the males.

Not that I excuse the males though, but I have seen and heard things that shows women need to be far much wiser in this game of life except you no want marry oh, no problem.

I mean I have not left secondary school when a dude was fking seven different babes, a 16 year old boy! Doing threesomes! Or the babe that was gang banged when I was in junior high, them bang am so tey she begin limp go house. JS2 nitori olohun! I see things I fear!


Anyway, the wise will surely take heed.

Vorpal:
Ideyfindwife

You made sense and spoke the truth!!!!

I just pity women and this their sexual liberality and expressiveness crap! It's only people that are genuinely concerned about the future and the future their kids will grow up in has frowned at the crap some females are pushing to be liable to fck as they wish thinking the consequences will not be more severe to them than the males.

Not that I excuse the males though, but I have seen and heard things that shows women need to be far much wiser in this game of life except you no want marry oh, no problem.

I mean I have not left secondary school when a dude was fking seven different babes, a 16 year old boy! Doing threesomes! Or the babe that was gang banged when I was in junior high, them bang am so tey she begin limp go house. JS2 nitori olohun! I see things I fear!


Anyway, the wise will surely take heed.

Ahhh,,, , 7 different babes, 1 boy? Was he trying to fulfil prophecy in a funny way?!
Ladies don't often realize how one's heart bleeds to read of another chick's sexx-video leaked, or them being lured away only to be killed by supposed lovers?
Is it fair? But, is it all the affected victims who didn't see the warning signs? Was it all of them who led wayward lives with the full-knowledge of their guardians and parents? All those girls following @kingblachoc around are saints, abi? OR was it not just last year some f00l led 2 good ladies around on dog-leash as willing accomplices?
Things are far more dynamic than we'd allow ourselves to admit but the truth is most girls would be best off not discarding the saintly, sagely counsel of their good moms and dads instead of seeking sexual thrills wey no lost upandan.
A girl would cry about aborting 6times for the same guy and the same girl would want us to believe that she's has an iota of compassion and consideration for the parents footing her bills, eh?
Apart from rape and abuse-of-minors, everybody else pretty much willingly crossed enough hurdles before locking lips and joining hips with others ni, kwa. The only problem is that we cry foul when our estimated dreams of happiness come crashing down or when we realise we've been played etc. The shortfall of trying to eat your cake and have it is that ur cake doesn't remain whole. There will always be more dangers to non-celibate singlehood than celibate singlehood; the issue is just too complex to describe in 3 words joor!
What me i just know is that nobody needs become a professional mourner for all the bad babes in town when dem no send you work; as if we don't know why sexychicks have the largest followings of "lust-enslaved-admirers" on most social media, ehn!
The wise will indeed take care!

Too much evergreen counsel present in this post above. ^^^

As per the boy, Na my close padi for me school oh, the consequences told on him.