SplendidE:

Your sense of humour is factory fitted..... In your own words

lilyheaven:
Are you Mr. Okafor?

OmaniPadmeHum:
I don't understand why married couples are playing games and trying to psychologically hurt each other.

Well, while stories like this one are not my usual, my principle on matters like this one is very clear.

I WILL KICK YOU OUT!

I don't care if we have 200 million children.
I don't care if they are all infants.
I don't care if they will be raised by another man.
I don't care if your parents or my parents beg.
I don't care what your pastor says.
I wont be bothered if your village king begs.
I wont bother about your siblings or mine begging.

The fact that this is what I will do and the fact that this reaction from me is guaranteed saves me a lot of energy.

1. The lady knows way before we even get serious. You do it, and you are gone. THE BOUNDARIES ARE SET AND ARE CLEAR.
2. While I can't guarantee her fidelity, I can guarantee my reaction. I don't have to call or ask or go on Nairaland or Facebook etc. To ask what I should do. In principle what I will do is swift, clear, decisive and exacting.
3. My family and her family are aware of my no nonsense when it comes to other men. Whether ex or not.
4. I have ended relationships for much less e.g. accepting a phone gift from a guy; one was going out on a lunch date with a guy;Another was leaving my sitting room to go into the bathroom to answer a call from a "guy friend".
5. I am not begging any woman. Love or marriage is not compulsory. I can't trade a peaceful life for an embattled marriage or relationship. To me, as I pass through life, studies, work, volunteering etc. if I find love, then fine. If I don't, all good.

Talk things out with your wife. Regardless of what we say or suggest, it will still be both your responsibilities to take action. Talk things out. Try to get an agreement that no more petty games from any of you. Then watch and see.

Trying to expose the guy is giving him too much credit/regard. He did not force her to himself. I don't know why guys think their problem is with the other guy. If your wife allowed him, why blame him? Why fight him? Nah. Spare your energy for better things. Besides going headlong could spell more problems. Ignore him because no matter how you fight, if she wants, she will go back to him.

rogovo20:


Thats why I tried to interrogate her to know if they saw each other, she said they never did, theres no how to know that, only Jah does. But the only thing that gave me a feeling they saw each other was the ring she pulled, her version of the reason why she pulled it sounds RED FLAG to me. In modern days now, some men and women who cheat always remove their ring aside.

Mansions:
I wonder the kind of mumu that will enter into my girlfriend or wife head that would make her tell me she has gone out to fvvkk a dickk bigger than mine and later call it a joke. I swear I will make her cry bitterly ,I will make her cry for six months then she learn her leason. Seems you are too soft with her . I will first lock her shop and withdraw any financial support she gets from me. Then she will know I'm not in for any kind of joke