Toks2008:


And I have been fooling myself thinking you are old enough to understand this thread. I know age is not maturity but this thread is too deep for you at this point in your life.

Carinaflo:

Please do not say "The world", rather say Africans especially Nigerians. It is because of the so much importance Nigerians attach to marriage that makes most Nigerian ladies behave as if their sole purpose of being on Earth is to get married.
You see a very young girl, in stead of her to be thinking of how to build a career and be productive like her male counterparts, all she thinks about is how to package herself to look like a wife material so she can get married. She ends up seeing marriage as a do or die affair, when she eventually gets married, she feels she has arrived, she stops relating with her single female friends, she starts seeing the other single ladies as irresponsible ladies not minding that some of the single ladies are very hard working and can pay their own bills without looking for the help of any guy.
Then few years into the marriage, the husband starts seeing the married lady as a"liability" because she has nothing to offer, all she knows how to do is to spend money and incur expenses, the husband out of frustration starts maltreating the wife, he starts beating her up, cheating on her and then the wife could not do anything because the only skills she had equipped herself with all her life are the skills that would help her get married. She can't even fend for herself and again how can she face her family and friends after she has been making mockery of single ladies?, So she is forced to stay back and endure, if she is lucky, she ends up so miserable and unhappy if she is unlucky, she ends up dead in the hands of the husband. Few years later, the husband marries a prettier, younger lady who had also been preparing herself to be a "married woman" and the cycle continues....

NB: The earlier our society stop making ladies believe that their sole purpose on Earth is marriage, the saner our society would be. Let us teach our girl child how to be a good person, how to be a productive adult, how to be a responsible adult, how to be a hard working adult, how to Carter for her needs as an adult.
Let us stop making our girl child believe that her greatest achievement in life would be to bear "Mrs" as a tittle.

okeyfineboy:
Your write up is so biased. Why should it be only the lady that will guard her marriage? So the men should misbehave while the lady should forgive all in the name of remain Mrs.? You have an archaic way of thinking. It takes two to tango. Stop making men feel too important and misbehave just because they feel they have more advantage if the marriage leads to divorce.

I have seen women who are exceedingly successful and very much okay after divorce. I even know some that are still very selective of men coming from their hand in marriage even after having kids in their previous marriage. I know some who refused to get married because they feel they are better off without a man. A woman's life does not revolve around man, stop making it look so.

Toks2008:


You know one funny thing.

I have come to grow beyond hypocrisy and I'm not the type who seeks likes or admiration from any lady hence the reason why I create the threads you see on front page.

What correlation does the fact that a divorced lady is successful has to do with her emotional state? You must really be very ignorant.

Most of these very successful divorced women are crying in silence which is why association of sweet boys are having a swell time with them.

Some women say they are better off without a man yet secretly sleeps about so who is fooling Who?

Go to dating sites and you will be amazed at the number of divorced ladies their but when you see them one on one you won't have a clue of what they go through.

I'm not interested in pulling any gender down but I'm just keeping it real.

Toks2008:


Just tell her that one warped minded misogynist wrote one funny article and you don't even know what to say....then let her read and make her judgement.

Toks2008:


I try to respond to some ignorant posts here not because I must but for the sake of other people reading who might want to seek genuine knowledge.

How many countries have you been to and how many mature women have you come across?

The biggest lies unmarried women tell themselves is that they are fine without a man and ignorant people like you fall for that.

At my age I have seen things but amazingly when I write on nairaland many underage and children still under their parents roof rant endlessly as if they know what they are saying.

TSOM:
God doesn't - and wouldn't - choose a partner for you. He already gave you (and us) the power of choice, of freewill. Ruining or building a relationship is entirely your (man's) decision.

Toks2008:
Wey that chronic bachelor lalasticlala sef?

Laeroy:
Toks2008, oya come here and tell us the truth how old are you and why ain't you yet married.... Or is it what I'm thinking

Colourich:
Lalasticl is married. He got married this year.

Colourich:
I've never seen someone die for marrying late but I've never seen people die for marrying the wrong person. Take your time before you jump into marriage, make sure what you feel is real and you can tolerate the person's excesses, don't let societal pressure lead you into a marriage you will live the rest of your short life to regret.

yettymuse:
You couldn't have said it any better. Bunch of foolish people that thinks that a woman is only successful with a Mrs title and unsuccessful should the marriage crumble. No wonder thousands of women would rather be STUCK in an unhappy union than walk their way out to make the best of themselves. Yeye dey smell!

Toks2008:


And I have been fooling myself thinking you are old enough to understand this thread. I know age is not maturity but this thread is too deep for you at this point in your life.

Toks2008:


One of the funniest words i hear single guys and ladies of marriageable ages say is ''Its better to wait for the right person than to rush into marriage just to rush out'' but i think what they have is Gamophobia(The fear of marriage)

In my humble opinion,this phrase is grossly faulted cos no matter how careful you may be in choosing a spouse,there is always an element of surprise waiting and taking all the time in the world is not a sure proof that you will end up with ''the right person''

The gospel truth is that there is no right or wrong choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it.

As long as there is an element of attraction between both of you,ask relevant questions and do your due diligence on that person and if you are satisfied with your findings,take the risk without the facade of long courtship and the rest can be worked on.

No matter how comfortable you think you are with that person ,you can only start knowing each other when you start living together. Just be prepared to marry and tolerate four personalities in one partner which are,the person you thought you married,the person you are actually married to,the type of person your partner will become and the person you bring out of your partner. Marriage is not about feelings but It is all about your determination to make it work.

OgahBohz:
...
. Honestly marriage is not an easy thing to do , let alone to remain in it, ..

one thing I know for sure is Nobody goes into marriage with the intention of leaving it someday ...


nice one Tee, ..
by the way are you a Muslim?

Omotayor123:

Thanks

And yes I am

Omotayor123:

Thanks

And yes I am

Toks2008:


I have my peculiar way of choosing my titles and most times I choose very controversial ones but only those who are intelligent enough not to judge the book by its cover will grasp the message.

baba11:

OgahBohz:
...
toh ..
inshAllah I would like us to be friends if you don't mind,

you sound very intelligent, and where I come from it's difficult to find any intellectual Muslim lady ...
..

I mean no harm walai..

Omotayor123:

No wahala my brother.

Omotayor123:

OgahBohz:
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can we chat via WhatsApp?...

m sure you won't like to share your contact here ( to avoid disturbance) how about I drop mine and you say hi?..

by the way mine is...

07038840936(whatsApp only)

Salam..

Omotayor123:

Thanks

And yes I am

Toks2008:

OgahBohz:



nice one ..

a simple ' NO ' wouldn't be too much of a reply would it ..?


the picture message wasn't necessary dr ..