@lytech, AJvine, Humility017 and thorpido, I say a mighty AMEN to all your prayers. God Almighty will answer all your prayers too.

Purelady:
While dating we discussed everything about family and our various expectations in marriage, from then till now, everything has been splendid, seems as if we are still honeymooning, I bless God daily for making us found each other. 10+ years and still counting, every day na romance. Baba God should pick our calls and bless our union with children that's all, even with this, I dey gbadun the marriage, I return back all the glory to God alone who makes all things beautiful.

amen to your prayers. They shall come to pass.

yvesboss:


Toks..honestly your story is so emotional..sorry to ask, you were 'technically married' for how many years
?

5 freaking years after 6 freaking years of courtship just to realize it's a freaking waste of years...

Imagine one cute small boy of 26 wasting 12 faithful years of his life with a lady.
who has no clue of what she wants. Chai!

Now before you say jack people will stant singing...go and marry without knowing what you have passed through.

Daboomb:
I married my Enemy, we hate each other back then and we were very nasty to each other (and you can imagine how enemy looks at only the bad sides of their enemies! ).

- We went our ways and fate brought us together again, after many years and we have matured!
- Then we started being less critical and became just Hi-hi friends.
- Then we started realising that "this person is not that bad as l used to think"?
- Then we became "good friends" and make jest of each other and "those days" when it was fire for fire!
- This is when we realised that we knew too much about the other person!
- Then friendship got so good and so close that one couldn't do without seeing the other for even just one day!
- Then each person said: l cant marry you because you are my friend and l dont want to lose such a good friend like you!
- Then each person began to realize that life cant be just complete, without the other person around..... and that is when LOVE overcame all other outstanding obstacles.

In our case, all the questions were not asked directly but all questions were answered by real life events that unfolded with time.
Marry your FRIEND and all other things will fall in-place!
Mind you, your 'FRIEND' is not necessarily that person that smiles at you, say good things about you or stick around you just because things are rosy for you!

Your real friend is that person who has seen THE WORST of YOU...and still thinks you are wonderful to be with.
He/She has seen you in Poverty, in Anger, in Sickness, in unfaithfulness (cheating!), without make-up , smelled your mouth when you have not brushed your teeth , in Joblessness, e.t.c`

Nothing surprises them anymore.

Married to that same "enemy" of mine now, for over a decade! ..and l am loving it like Mad!

dayum!

Toks2008:


5 freaking years after 6 freaking years of courtship just to realize it's a freaking waste of years...

Imagine one cute small boy of 26 wasting 12 faithful years of his life with a lady.
who has no clue of what she wants. Chai!

Now before you say jack people will stant singing...go and marry without knowing what you have passed through.

Wow.. It is well

Purelady:
While dating we discussed everything about family and our various expectations in marriage, from then till now, everything has been splendid, seems as if we are still honeymooning, I bless God daily for making us found each other. 10+ years and still counting, every day na romance. Baba God should pick our calls and bless our union with children that's all, even with this, I dey gbadun the marriage, I return back all the glory to God alone who makes all things beautiful.

God grant your heart desires

yvesboss:

Wow.. It is well

I have moved on tey tey...nah to cool down find one sweet babe marry remain.

why she wasn't good on bed

Daboomb:
I married my Enemy, we hate each other back then and we were very nasty to each other (and you can imagine how enemy looks at only the bad sides of their enemies! ).

- We went our ways and fate brought us together again, after many years and we have matured!
- Then we started being less critical and became just Hi-hi friends.
- Then we started realising that "this person is not that bad as l used to think"?
- Then we became "good friends" and make jest of each other and "those days" when it was fire for fire!
- This is when we realised that we knew too much about the other person!
- Then friendship got so good and so close that one couldn't do without seeing the other for even just one day!
- Then each person said: l cant marry you because you are my friend and l dont want to lose such a good friend like you!
- Then each person began to realize that life cant be just complete, without the other person around..... and that is when LOVE overcame all other outstanding obstacles.

In our case, all the questions were not asked directly but all questions were answered by real life events that unfolded with time.
Marry your FRIEND and all other things will fall in-place!
Mind you, your 'FRIEND' is not necessarily that person that smiles at you, say good things about you or stick around you just because things are rosy for you!

Your real friend is that person who has seen THE WORST of YOU...and still thinks you are wonderful to be with.
He/She has seen you in Poverty, in Anger, in Sickness, in unfaithfulness (cheating!), without make-up , smelled your mouth when you have not brushed your teeth , in Joblessness, e.t.c`

Nothing surprises them anymore.

Married to that same "enemy" of mine now, for over a decade! ..and l am loving it like Mad!

Wooooow.. I really learnt a lot from this

LifeIsGuhd:

It could be me, it could be you, it could be someone by your side *singing* LOL

Well, I understand now though!

Two more things: any kids?
2. Was the court wedding done for papers? I.e green card/ permanent resident things

Toks2008:


I guess I'm writing too much..we could chat on watts up as I believe you will be very friendly.

Hehehehe! Two of you abi!
Just know that l am "WATCHING" from one corner like that.....

@Toks: I have taken time to read each of your responses and l can say that they really made sense.
Marriage is the most complicated of human relationships because both are strangers from Adam but when married, they have so much expectations (even ones that were not there during courtship!) of each other so much so that if care is not taken, it may cause pressure.

A Spouse (husband or wife) is expected to stand-by-you, when you are facing challenges, just like you both enjoyed the proceeds of hard-work, when times were good.
What we have now are "fair-weather" spouse! Money-go, Spouse-go ...or start making trouble!
And like l said before, this happens when your spouse has not seen the worst of you.
If say, your wife was with you when you had money/job and she still remains steadfast with you lost your job (all during courtship), it wont be new to her, if the same thing repeats itself during marriage.
She will know it is just a phase and you will get out of it. That is a FRIEND, who becomes a WIFE.

Most spouses are not the "friend" of their spouse (partner).
Most wives will start nagging you, insulting and dis-respecting you, once your income dips or you lose your job and cant provide enough money to meet their expectations. That is when she would start issuing orders to you, shedding responsibilities to you in an autocratic manner and reminding you that she needs more "freedom"! That is a recipe for marital breakup.

Most husbands also would not stick around, if the wife faces challenges common with women: Child bearing!
Especially if the man has 'no-fault' (as in he is fertile and ready!).
That is when he would start singing 'polygamy' in your ears, reminding you that his friends son is entering secondary school next year.

But what a man should be doing to his wife at that point, is helping her to overcome the trauma she is going through (l dont want to discuss if the effect of such difficulties has to do with a previous "wayward way of life" during spinsterhood... reason why all these so-called "slay ladies" need to think twice and not waste their "Years of Youth".
The husband should be sticking to his wife, encouraging her, giving her confidence, re-assuring her of his love (she is doubting herself already!) and reminding her that he would do any and everything to ensure her dreams are met, including private and personal prayers with her.

So, its is a human thing, though very bad, for a spouse not to persevere and remain steadfast with their husband/wife, in challenging times.

"FRIENDS are KNOWN in PROSPERITY...but they are PROVEN in ADVERSITY".
Are you your spouse's FRIEND...?

lexaydfg:
What are the questions we should ask our spouse before we say YES...

Please married men and women, what are the important questions we should ask our spouse before we say Yes?

ASKING QUESTIONS leads to getting FRAMED ANSWERS..... when everyone knows the goal is to make a 'decision" about the relationship!
What you get are outright lies, half-truths and cooked-up stories!

DONT ASK QUESTIONS so you wont be TOLD NO LIES!
I hope we all remember that cliche?

What "l think" you need to do are:
- Be yourself at all times! Let your very 'baddest' and good part show. Just live normally, dont try ot impress your lover.

- Observe and be super observant, taking note of minuet gestures, body language, reactions to events (good and bad),, choice of words in situations, etc
- Be spiritual (meditation,, prayers, etc). These things focus your power of perception. You need to be "perceptive" of your lover, at all times

- Be "extrapolative", that is, be able to stretch events into the future.
Okay, this might be a little hard to explain but l will try.
When something happens, observe how your lover responds or reacts to it (in action or in words)... then imagine say in a few years down the line and yo are married, how will this his/her "genuine reaction" affect your marriage, if and when you get married to him/her?

Exp: Say your girl friend 'disses' he friend because she could not fulfil a situation that her friend is expected to fulfil.
Say she retorts: can you imagine, she is expecting me to loan her my own money, when she never told me how she spends her own money. Now that she is in need she is running to me, abeg, make she swerve.

Most guys will hear the above and just laugh over it and say: Dont mind her, she think say you be mugun!

Now, inside that seemingly harmless or even justifiable statement, is a lot of information that a would-be partner can process!
*What you have is a lady who is uncaring!
*What you have is a lady who is selfish!
*What you have is someone who is self-centred!

Now, if such behaviour is her "norm" and is repeated often, then you can extrapolate it into your marriage and ask yourself, (if you dont already know), How will she behave/react, if l lose my job and does not earn income for a considerable time, being unable to perform my financial responsibility to our marriage?

The answer is in those statements you heard.
*She will Bleep-you up.
*She will remind you it is her money
*She will take control and become the boss, to your resentment.
*She will starve you of funds
*She will tell her friends, how you have become 'useless' and no longer the 'man of the house'
The list goes on.

The thing is, BEHAVIOUR is not a one-day thing, it is ACQUIRED over many, many years and the good part is you cant also CHANGE IT overnight!
So, observing the little nuances of your lover is a good way of ANSWERING all the UNSPOKEN QUESTIONS that you have.

Observe, observe and observe.
But it takes some level of intelligence to be able to interpret what you are observing.
Most of us even observe these things but we cant make any useful deductions from them.

Sitting your Bae or Guy down and asking a long list of questions, is a COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME.
You will be properly lied to.

If you do due-diligence and you are satisfied, then it is worth taking the risk


NB: A female was used as an example in the above scenario, just for ease of explanation but does not imply that such action is restricted to women alone.
There are guys who will do the same thing.

PaperLace:

It doesn't have to be imaginary. As long as the two agree _they can achieve that paradise. The problem is: most times we spend more time hammering on the problem/running away from it, than fixing it. I (we) got married early, I faced same challenges you're probably facing. I still face some.

Marriage isn't a bondage, except you guys make it so. Talk to your husband , don't be on the defence _listen and reach a compromise. You both can figure out how to bring back that spark. Please, stop comparing yourself to your single friends. You can't get a degree of freedom back. It comes with the institution.

lol... ma u misinterpreted me. Am not comparing single folks o
datz far from it..

I meant a situation wia your better half always parades himself as single and keep girlfriends like he is dating dem and wld one day get married to any of dem... shey u gat d point now? all dix is cuz of youthful exoberance as he would claim it to be while I hurt d most cuz I really want my man to atleast acknowledge his marital status, keep healthy female frndz not d ones to talk back at me and tell me if am sure dat dia own boyfriend is married like I claim.

jhudit:

Why are you so bitter.
If they all came here to say men are wicked, it's your type that will still get angry...Do you want them to paint their husbands bad to please you?? ?? It's a lie because their husbands are good.

Why do people like to hear bad news like this?

Welcome to Nigeria!

Daboomb:





Hehehehe! Two of you abi!
Just know that l am "WATCHING" from one corner like that.....

@Toks: I have taken time to read each of your responses and l can say that they really made sense.
Marriage is the most complicated of human relationships because both are strangers from Adam but when married, they have so much expectations (even ones that were not there during courtship!) of each other so much so that if care is not taken, it may cause pressure.

A Spouse (husband or wife) is expected to stand-by-you, when you are facing challenges, just like you both enjoyed the proceeds of hard-work, when times were good.
What we have now are "fair-weather" spouse! Money-go, Spouse-go ...or start making trouble!
And like l said before, this happens when your spouse has not seen the worst of you.
If say, your wife was with you when you had money/job and she still remains steadfast with you lost your job (all during courtship), it wont be new to her, if the same thing repeats itself during marriage.
She will know it is just a phase and you will get out of it. That is a FRIEND, who becomes a WIFE.

Most spouses are not the "friend" of their spouse (partner).
Most wives will start nagging you, insulting and dis-respecting you, once your income dips or you lose your job and cant provide enough money to meet their expectations. That is when she would start issuing orders to you, shedding responsibilities to you in an autocratic manner and reminding you that she needs more "freedom"! That is a recipe for marital breakup.

Most husbands also would not stick around, if the wife faces challenges common with women: Child bearing!
Especially if the man has 'no-fault' (as in he is fertile and ready!).
That is when he would start singing 'polygamy' in your ears, reminding you that his friends son is entering secondary school next year.

But what a man should be doing to his wife at that point, is helping her to overcome the trauma she is going through (l dont want to discuss if the effect of such difficulties has to do with a previous "wayward way of life" during spinsterhood... reason why all these so-called "slay ladies" need to think twice and not waste their "Years of Youth".
The husband should be sticking to his wife, encouraging her, giving her confidence, re-assuring her of his love (she is doubting herself already!) and reminding her that he would do any and everything to ensure her dreams are met, including private and personal prayers with her.

So, its is a human thing, though very bad, for a spouse not to persevere and remain steadfast with their husband/wife, in challenging times.

"FRIENDS are KNOWN in PROSPERITY...but they are PROVEN in ADVERSITY".
Are you your spouse's FRIEND...?

Bro I admire ur analytical prowess.Your cognitive ability is topnotch.Thumbs up mahn.

Nice thread.

In4matic:
Hmmm. People can lie sha.
A question is asked about any marutal regrets so the unmarried will learn from it and some folks come here to praise sing the picture-perfect husbands.
I dont know why this habbit is common among women.
Maybe so as to rub it into the faces of their unmarried peers, i dont know.
I love the realistic answer of Carammel And the blunt response of Toks2008.

Fact; THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE OR PERFECT HUMAN!

Observation would tell you what you have to know. Even that + 1,000,000 questions wont be enough!

Exactly

PaperLace:

It doesn't have to be imaginary. As long as the two agree _they can achieve that paradise. The problem is: most times we spend more time hammering on the problem/running away from it, than fixing it. I (we) got married early, I faced same challenges you're probably facing. I still face some.

Marriage isn't a bondage, except you guys make it so. Talk to your husband , don't be on the defence _listen and reach a compromise. You both can figure out how to bring back that spark. Please, stop comparing yourself to your single friends. You can't get a degree of freedom back. It comes with the institution.

Hello anty, good you finally admit that you still face some problems, the OP's question is what would you have asked before marriage to be better prepared to handle these problems, it's a simple question na, no need for the love stories

PaperLace:
I can't think of anything. We talked about everything: job, kids, extended family, finance, sex, projects,etc.

Maybe we should have talked a little more about his attitude to work. He works too hard, always cancelling vacations and postponing leaves(I used to think his work is more important, but now I am used to it. Had to learn his work, that way I can help out). Aside that, he's almost perfect, a wonderful husband and father to us. In another life, it has to be him, if not _ I rather be a fish or lion.

definitely, most certainly, it will be fish!

Pidgin2:


Hello anty, good you finally admit that you still face some problems, the OP's question is what would you have asked before marriage to be better prepared to handle these problems, it's a simple question na, no need for the love stories

The challenges I face(d) are not because we didn't talk about them or because I didn't observe them _but because every marriage has challenges. You get? Read again, you'll see the challenge there, maybe you wanted to see worse.

Benignasweety:
lol... ma u misinterpreted me. Am not comparing single folks o
datz far from it..

I meant a situation wia your better half always parades himself as single and keep girlfriends like he is dating dem and wld one day get married to any of dem... shey u gat d point now? all dix is cuz of youthful exoberance as he would claim it to be while I hurt d most cuz I really want my man to atleast acknowledge his marital status, keep healthy female frndz not d ones to talk back at me and tell me if am sure dat dia own boyfriend is married like I claim.

Sorry, I thought you are the one that wants to parade yourself as single. There is nothing a healthy discussion can't do. If you're hurting and he sees you're hurting but refuses to change _the problem is far beyond youthful exuberance.

P

PaperLace:

The challenges I face(d) are not because we didn't talk about them or because I didn't notice them _but because every marriage has challenges. You get? Read again, you'll see the challenge there, maybe you wanted to see worse.


Sorry, I thought you are the one that wants to parade yourself as single. There is nothing a healthy discussion can't do. If you're hurting and he sees you're hurting but refuses to change _the problem is far beyond youthful exuberance.

His own has swaggs sha...

Today he has changed, tmro he would do worst... But hopefully we are pulling tru atleast we are aging and getting sense together...

Benignasweety:
P His own has swaggs sha...

Today he has changed, tmro he would do worst... But hopefully we are pulling tru atleast we are aging and getting sense together...

Lol @ ageing and getting sense together . I found that very funny _wish you the best sis.

PaperLace:

Lol @ ageing and getting sense together . I found that very funny _wish you the best sis.

Thanks ma'am

Daboomb post=57

Most husbands also would not stick around, if the wife faces challenges common with women: Child bearing!
Especially if the man has 'no-fault' (as in he is fertile and ready!).
That is when he would start singing 'polygamy' in your ears, reminding you that his friends son is entering secondary school next year.

But what a man should be doing to his wife at that point, is helping her to overcome the trauma she is going through (l dont want to discuss if the effect of such difficulties has to do with a previous "wayward way of life" during spinsterhood... reason why all these so-called "slay ladies" need to think twice and not waste their "Years of Youth".
[color=#770077:
The husband should be sticking to his wife, encouraging her, giving her confidence, re-assuring her of his love (she is doubting herself already!) and reminding her that he would do any and everything to ensure her dreams are met, including private and personal prayers with her.[/color]

So, its is a human thing, though very bad, for a spouse not to persevere and remain steadfast with their husband/wife, in challenging times.

"FRIENDS are KNOWN in PROSPERITY...but they are PROVEN in ADVERSITY".
Are you your spouse's FRIEND...?

This is exactly my situation, daboomb, nailed it to a T, abi you dey live for my house?. Spouses should be there for each other and not be fair weather spouses, that don't stick around in time of adversity, despite the fact that am a waiting mother of many years, my marriage has been peaceful on all sides, the ingredients to good and lasting marriage is marry your friend, as for Toks2008, God will definitely provide a woman for him that would be his in the true sense of the word,, and one more thing seeking the face of the Lord in marital situations is essential, is like the oil that grease the wheel, shalom.

PaperLace:

The challenges I face(d) are not because we didn't talk about them or because I didn't observe them _but because every marriage has challenges. You get? Read again, you'll see the challenge there, maybe you wanted to see worse.


.

Your own challenge seems to be only the fact that you should have asked about his opinion on work but how does that help someone who wants to avoid more serious issues like this

https://www.nairaland.com/3864454/man-brutalises-wife-port-harcourt

https://www.nairaland.com/3864459/woman-beaten-husband-refusing-early

I know you may have married right, but about 80% of married folks will face more serious issues. I'm your experience and looking at situations above, what questions should have been asked before marriage?

Toks2008:


I guess I'm writing too much..we could chat on watts up as I believe you will be very friendly.

Nice one bawse

Daboomb:





Hehehehe! Two of you abi!
Just know that l am "WATCHING" from one corner like that.....

@Toks: I have taken time to read each of your responses and l can say that they really made sense.
Marriage is the most complicated of human relationships because both are strangers from Adam but when married, they have so much expectations (even ones that were not there during courtship!) of each other so much so that if care is not taken, it may cause pressure.

A Spouse (husband or wife) is expected to stand-by-you, when you are facing challenges, just like you both enjoyed the proceeds of hard-work, when times were good.
What we have now are "fair-weather" spouse! Money-go, Spouse-go ...or start making trouble!
And like l said before, this happens when your spouse has not seen the worst of you.
If say, your wife was with you when you had money/job and she still remains steadfast with you lost your job (all during courtship), it wont be new to her, if the same thing repeats itself during marriage.
She will know it is just a phase and you will get out of it. That is a FRIEND, who becomes a WIFE.

Most spouses are not the "friend" of their spouse (partner).
Most wives will start nagging you, insulting and dis-respecting you, once your income dips or you lose your job and cant provide enough money to meet their expectations. That is when she would start issuing orders to you, shedding responsibilities to you in an autocratic manner and reminding you that she needs more "freedom"! That is a recipe for marital breakup.

Most husbands also would not stick around, if the wife faces challenges common with women: Child bearing!
Especially if the man has 'no-fault' (as in he is fertile and ready!).
That is when he would start singing 'polygamy' in your ears, reminding you that his friends son is entering secondary school next year.

But what a man should be doing to his wife at that point, is helping her to overcome the trauma she is going through (l dont want to discuss if the effect of such difficulties has to do with a previous "wayward way of life" during spinsterhood... reason why all these so-called "slay ladies" need to think twice and not waste their "Years of Youth".
The husband should be sticking to his wife, encouraging her, giving her confidence, re-assuring her of his love (she is doubting herself already!) and reminding her that he would do any and everything to ensure her dreams are met, including private and personal prayers with her.

So, its is a human thing, though very bad, for a spouse not to persevere and remain steadfast with their husband/wife, in challenging times.

"FRIENDS are KNOWN in PROSPERITY...but they are PROVEN in ADVERSITY".
Are you your spouse's FRIEND...?

You know you would really make a good relationship counsellor right. this is evident in what you've dished out up there.....You are blessed sister!

Benignasweety:
lol... ma u misinterpreted me. Am not comparing single folks o
datz far from it..

I meant a situation wia your better half always parades himself as single and keep girlfriends like he is dating dem and wld one day get married to any of dem... shey u gat d point now? all dix is cuz of youthful exoberance as he would claim it to be while I hurt d most cuz I really want my man to atleast acknowledge his marital status, keep healthy female frndz not d ones to talk back at me and tell me if am sure dat dia own boyfriend is married like I claim.

Please I'm quite confused by this and I sincerely hope for your sake and sanity and wellbeing, you have rung the alarm with his family and yours. That is not youthful exuberance in any manner or form, and you waiting for him to "outgrow" it means you are planning on unlooking and managing in the hopes that one day, he will tire (they don't, not until late 50s).

Daboomb:


ASKING QUESTIONS leads to getting FRAMED ANSWERS..... when everyone knows the goal is to make a 'decision" about the relationship!
What you get are outright lies, half-truths and cooked-up stories!

DONT ASK QUESTIONS so you wont be TOLD NO LIES!
I hope we all remember that cliche?

What "l think" you need to do are:
- Be yourself at all times! Let your very 'baddest' and good part show. Just live normally, dont try ot impress your lover.

- Observe and be super observant, taking note of minuet gestures, body language, reactions to events (good and bad),, choice of words in situations, etc
- Be spiritual (meditation,, prayers, etc). These things focus your power of perception. You need to be "perceptive" of your lover, at all times

- Be "extrapolative", that is, be able to stretch events into the future.
Okay, this might be a little hard to explain but l will try.
When something happens, observe how your lover responds or reacts to it (in action or in words)... then imagine say in a few years down the line and yo are married, how will this his/her "genuine reaction" affect your marriage, if and when you get married to him/her?

Exp: Say your girl friend 'disses' he friend because she could not fulfil a situation that her friend is expected to fulfil.
Say she retorts: can you imagine, she is expecting me to loan her my own money, when she never told me how she spends her own money. Now that she is in need she is running to me, abeg, make she swerve.

Most guys will hear the above and just laugh over it and say: Dont mind her, she think say you be mugun!

Now, inside that seemingly harmless or even justifiable statement, is a lot of information that a would-be partner can process!
*What you have is a lady who is uncaring!
*What you have is a lady who is selfish!
*What you have is someone who is self-centred!

Now, if such behaviour is her "norm" and is repeated often, then you can extrapolate it into your marriage and ask yourself, (if you dont already know), How will she behave/react, if l lose my job and does not earn income for a considerable time, being unable to perform my financial responsibility to our marriage?

The answer is in those statements you heard.
*She will Bleep-you up.
*She will remind you it is her money
*She will take control and become the boss, to your resentment.
*She will starve you of funds
*She will tell her friends, how you have become 'useless' and no longer the 'man of the house'
The list goes on.

The thing is, BEHAVIOUR is not a one-day thing, it is ACQUIRED over many, many years and the good part is you cant also CHANGE IT overnight!
So, observing the little nuances of your lover is a good way of ANSWERING all the UNSPOKEN QUESTIONS that you have.

Observe, observe and observe.
But it takes some level of intelligence to be able to interpret what you are observing.
Most of us even observe these things but we cant make any useful deductions from them.

Sitting your Bae or Guy down and asking a long list of questions, is a COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME.
You will be properly lied to.

If you do due-diligence and you are satisfied, then it is worth taking the risk


NB: A female was used as an example in the above scenario, just for ease of explanation but does not imply that such action is restricted to women alone.
There are guys who will do the same thing.

...and this got me believing You 're really 'da bomb' in relationship matters. I like all your inputs on this thread so far,it shows your level of maturity and intellectual acumen......I wish u indescribable hapiness and understanding in ur home...stay blessed!

Onegai:


Please I'm quite confused by this and I sincerely hope for your sake and sanity and wellbeing, you have rung the alarm with his family and yours. That is not youthful exuberance in any manner or form, and you waiting for him to "outgrow" it means you are planning on unlooking and managing in the hopes that one day, he will tire (they don't, not until late 50s).

They change wen dey chose to and not a family member can make dat happen, instead it creates a bigger rift like you re d talkative who would keep inviting 3rd party to your home... You get now ma?
On d positive side, he is trying on changing and I pray it iz permanent dix tym not d change today, continue tmro kinda tin...

Benignasweety:
They change wen dey chose to and not a family member can make dat happen, instead it creates a bigger rift like you re d talkative who would keep inviting 3rd party to your home... You get now ma?
On d positive side, he is trying on changing and I pray it iz permanent dix tym not d change today, continue tmro kinda tin...

We will talk, hopefully soon.

Benignasweety:
lol... ma u misinterpreted me. Am not comparing single folks o
datz far from it..

I meant a situation wia your better half always parades himself as single and keep girlfriends like he is dating dem and wld one day get married to any of dem... shey u gat d point now? all dix is cuz of youthful exoberance as he would claim it to be while I hurt d most cuz I really want my man to atleast acknowledge his marital status, keep healthy female frndz not d ones to talk back at me and tell me if am sure dat dia own boyfriend is married like I claim.

Big hugs Sweetie...
He's even got an explanation for it...hmm.

You are strong lady.
Really strong.

Incrizz:

Big hugs Sweetie... He's even got an explanation for it...hmm.
You are strong lady. Really strong.

Hugs back!
Thanks mah E-family