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A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Hopefulman: 9:54am On Jul 12, 2017
This has been giving me sleepless nights, I just want to pour my heart out to someone.


I have been in a relationship with this pretty thing for 5 years and 7 months now and in the course of these years, there's absolutely nothing myself and this girl hasn't been through, from starving together, using pit toilet, sleeping on bare ground during my struggling days, and lest I forget, I deflowered this chick and taught her every thing she knows.


With time things began to get better and there's no sweeter feeling a man can get seeing you do well with the same woman you struggled with. I had taken her home to my parents, met her family too and the stage is set to tie the knot this year ending


Now things took a heavy twist December last year, she went out and met a guy and gave out my number instead of hers, she does this normally to scare guys away, but this time it was different when the nigga started chatting me up thinking it was her, there wasn't any need to vex until she came to my place, snooped around my phone and got his number and was secretly chatting with him, I caught her desame very day, she begged blocked him on WhatsApp and we let it go.



But that wasn't enough cos she continued until they both started dating few weeks after that day.


I caught her the very first weekend she visited his place and bleeped him from Saturday till Monday, it was the toughest moment of my life cos I ran into her fb chat a day before she went there but someone you have been with almost 6 years, you take care of her every wellbeing ranging from upkeep money, hair, clothes and all don't blame me cos with those amount of suffering together before things got good she obviously deserved it, so I had to give her a benefit of doubt, but no feeling crazier than laying in your bed and some fu.uck boy banging your wife to be.


Now lemme make this clear,when it comes to se.x, I was the monster in the relationship, I am huge down there, plus an undying high libido which she constantly complains of,she's weak in bed and would pass out at just a round, but I loved her truly, never cheated with the believe that as time went by she would improve, so if there was someone who was to cheat, it's got to me, cos she barely satisfies me.


After the first weekend, I confronted her the very day she left the guys place, came to me tired, the normal animal that I use to be based on my rugged kind of life in my university days, I would drill her like no tomorrow, but I didn't allow my anger take a better of me cos I would have ended up in a cell.


She begged, called my best friend, nigga had to travel down, called her friends and family to plead on her behalf and the most degrading thing was that she allowed this same stranger she bleeped chat me up begging for her, I didn't even know he was the one, cos I was thinking it was some other guy she had bleeped, never in my wildest dream thought it would be this same new guy I sternly warned her about and she had blocked on WhatsApp too.



I forgave and let it go, the hardest thing I have done in my life, forgive a cheating partner, started taking care of her like I always did, this time even more, besides I took it se.x isn't love.



Now just yesterday I am finding out after that weekend, she didn't stop she kept going to visit him weekends with lies she was at her sis, he would take her outing and they would Bleep all through the weekend, it went on until February this year


Please nairalanders is a crime as this forgivable??

The first is forgivable, call it a mistake, but after summoning an entourage to beg, she went on fucking and dating the dude till February cos she had gone through his phone and found out he was a complete flirt before she stopped


When asked why, as they will always say, "I didn't know what came over me", "it was like I wasn't with my senses" Bla Bla Bla,

She's like I am big, so she was feeling pains, Bla Bla Bla, his was small, see matter on top my head Sha, the shima wash me finish where one stranger dey Sha



I am a broken man right now, the hard part is how much I have boasted about this babe to my parents making them have no option to like her, she visits my dad's house and even spend the weekend, not a time my mom calls and doesn't ask after her, why now?, woman I am suppose to marry soonest, is it the investment or sacrifices?, the way I care for this girl, sometimes I look at my mom and pity for myself, cos I haven't spent 1 out of 10 for my mom.



I just needed to pour this out, please comments are welcome

Note I ain't no novice to women affairs, but it gets to a time in a man's life where it's no longer jumping from skirt to skirt I can't be living that life at 30.



Let me include this, she has stopped since February, I am only finding out the complete truth yesterday, and she's 26

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by krissconnect(m): 9:54am On Jul 12, 2017
Well, a critical analysis to your story entails you might be dating either a naive girl, a teenager or a girl below 21 years. My advice is this, sit her down and talk to her very closely. Inquire from her what she truly needs and what's bn driving her to the other guy. Never make it sound like youre judging her, make her open up to you.
Note this, never force someone to love you, if someone loves you and honestly wants to be with you, there's no need stressing that. If she continues with her promiscuous life, be strong and let her go. Life goes on bro.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Hopefulman: 9:58am On Jul 12, 2017
I will correct the typos
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Ozone1304: 10:00am On Jul 12, 2017
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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Victornezzar: 10:02am On Jul 12, 2017
Ur girlfriend is a cheerful giver grin
Considering d fact both of u sufad together nd u love her
I think u should discuss with dat guy nd ur gf also on hw both of u av being together nd av built d relationship,
Breaking up with her would just seem as if u don't need her again since u don hammer
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by iamadonis2(m): 10:04am On Jul 12, 2017
My two cents.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Nobody: 10:04am On Jul 12, 2017
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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Nobody: 10:04am On Jul 12, 2017
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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Hopefulman: 10:11am On Jul 12, 2017
krissconnect:
Well, a critical analysis to your story entails you might be dating either a naive girl, a teenager or a girl below 21 years. My advice is this, sit her down and talk to her very closely. Inquire from her what she truly needs and what's bn driving her to the other guy. Never make it sound like youre judging her, make her open up to you.
Note this, never force someone to love you, if someone loves you and honestly wants to be with you, there's no need stressing that. If she continues with her promiscuous life, be strong and let her go. Life goes on bro.


26 years na pikin?

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by krissconnect(m): 10:12am On Jul 12, 2017
Hopefulman:



26 years na pikin?
Let her go then, she must be doing it for fun.
Be conscious of STD oo

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by newyorks(m): 10:22am On Jul 12, 2017
back off bro use ur senses ur story hurt me more than it could hurt u. she's nt experience life and she's curious. if u deflowered her how come she know the sizes of dick? she's too loose to decive.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by phintohlar(f): 11:05am On Jul 12, 2017
It's better u let her go, cos wen a woman complains about how big a guy is she'll definitely cheat on u l8r,is d same thing as wen she complains of how small it is as she'll want to try a bigger one out there

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Nobody: 11:23am On Jul 12, 2017
A cheat is always a cheat. The mistake you'd make is to marry one 'cause he/she will definitely not think twice before cheating on you again. Even if we assume the first was a mistake and probably the guy sweet talked her into the relationship, how about when you found out and she promised to stop but kept going back to him. Making you the fool!. Perhaps she knows the guy she's bleeping doesn't treat her better than you do, so her relationship with that one is for fùcks, she wants to explore!.

Actually, if you truly love someone, every other person who comes your way would look inconsequential to you, and you won't even let another man/woman lay a hand on you 'cause your spouse is whom you'd always long for.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by rebirthforgoody(f): 11:35am On Jul 12, 2017
I strongly believe that you should talk to her about it remember nobody is perfect the lady you will meet tomorrow might be worse than her.but if there is no change in her then you have to move on.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by yhemster(m): 11:45am On Jul 12, 2017
Truth be told bro, 6 years relationship is too long and I think ur babe is very bored of you. What you're experiencing now is what married couples called mid-life crisis. Yes. In ur case it seems early cos both of you ain't married or bare any kids which seems to rekindle the marriage spark. She may love you for real, bt obviously she's emotional tired of the relationship. The truth of the matter now is that getting married isn't even the solution now cos you claimed to be financially unstable.
My advice is this, devote all ur energy into ur hustle and give the lady a bit of distant. You can't trust her again so obviously you can't marry her. It may be a great loss for you bt be thankful you only experienced a cheating girlfriend and not a cheating wife.

**I can't blame her though 6 years relationship is damn too long bro especially when there's no much resources to spice things up.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by MobilityExpress: 11:47am On Jul 12, 2017
shocked Whaaaaaaaat did i just read Smfh, better find another wife.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by tifany89(m): 11:48am On Jul 12, 2017
Dude you have really tried and I must say am proud of you. But I wouldn't advice u to marry her not after all she did. Let her lay on her bed the way she has made it. Truth is nobody can fault you if u ditch her now. You were magnanimous enough to forgive a cheating spouse and she continued with her ways, damn that's unforgivably stupid of her. Look at this way, may be if she haven't found out that other dude was some sort of player like u said after snooping his phone, may be she would v dumped you without thinking twice. Dude sack her and kick her the Bleep out of your life already. And let no one deceive you, good and loyal girls abound out there. Someone I know faced similar situation and he married someone else. The ex lossed out greatly that she is now asking dude to make her a second wife lolz

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Nobody: 11:49am On Jul 12, 2017
Lolzzz... She enjoyed d banana and kept going back for more... Its not our fault that ur eggplant ain't pleasurable for her. What's d essence of doing when all u feel is pain? Off course she did wrong by cheating and trying to eat her cake and still own it. Anyway, my advise is to b with peep with same sexual agility as u. Finito. Sex is an important ingredient in love.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Alphamale2017(m): 11:56am On Jul 12, 2017
when I see nairalnaders giving relationship help and they be like , " sit her down" Lmaooooooooo . majority of the times, it doesn't work . if u like have the knowledge of Albert Einstein, most women only learn when their fingers get burnt. Abeg nobody should bring that "sit her down " cliche, if at all , it should be someone different. not the boyfriend . . them done start again with "sit her down" Lmaooooooooo

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by keenn: 12:06pm On Jul 12, 2017
I do not pride myself as a master of relationships neither am I seriously engaged or something close, there are these basic things inherent to most humans(male/female) I want us to reflect on.

that u severed your head for someone is not a justification for commitment/faithfulness(not that he/she is bounded by law to)

that a lady/man seek romance outside her relationship doesn't make her loose. sometimes I get buzzed about that word 'loose'...what does is it really mean?

you started dating this lady at about age 20, an age she is just about realising what feminity really is...she perhaps has known one man, one romance, one lips, one pennnis, one style of affection and lovemaking as a lady all her life.

you parade yourself to be a sex ninja, my brother, after eating eating fried rice and chicken for a while, sometimes garri and groundnut with cold water and sugar can also be as appealing and even a crave.

she perhaps met someone with a different twist, that doesnt negate how amazing and selfless u are my guy and this doesn't mean she aint appreciative of what u have done.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by ChopBellefull(m): 12:09pm On Jul 12, 2017
My man... I m very plain to issues like this... I can't tell u wat to do, bt i cn tell u Wat i wld hv done.

She is not worth it at all... They say "1 na mistake".. She did it first nd was forgiven then she does it subsequently. Sexx is not lie or insults that can be forgiven without regret.. It entails the body and mind too..

Trust me she can neva forget dah guy.. Even if u ll forgv her, dnt make it fast. Be sure. Dnt be blind by fake love.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 12:51pm On Jul 12, 2017
rebirthforgoody:
I strongly believe that you should talk to her about it remember nobody is perfect the lady you will meet tomorrow might be worse than her.but if there is no change in her then you have to move on.
hahahahaha madam,see advice,if na man now?
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 12:53pm On Jul 12, 2017
Nma27:
Lolzzz... She enjoyed d banana and kept going back for more... Its not our fault that ur eggplant ain't pleasurable for her. What's d essence of doing when all u feel is pain? Off course she did wrong by cheating and trying to eat her cake and still own it. Anyway, my advise is to b with peep with same sexual agility as u. Finito. Sex is an important ingredient in love.
girls can lie,if a lady feels pains let her treat herself na!!!it obvious she didn't know she has an infection in her virgina...pains can't just happen like that..
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 1:01pm On Jul 12, 2017
Lefulefu,sexybbstar,sekxy,(adeniji in particul am sure you will learn)about how a guy can be serious with you if op is real!!!


Lala247 show,I want you to personally voiced out your opinion on this and if it was a man that behaving like this,I hope thesame judgement you will pass out to a man will also go for this girl wey dey do like diz?

Oyindi,show I have hear your comments on things related to this..whatv do u ve to say to this been that it a guy now ooo,coz sometimes una go say if na man now,so it a woman now,talk I wan hear!!!


Lionessaza I wanna hear ur opinion on this ooo..

Missinapple come talk ooo nothing like true love,op need help...


The reason I called una It coz have hear una comment plenty time regarding to issues related to this,and if I don't call u guy's especially babe go just waka pass..
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by rebirthforgoody(f): 1:02pm On Jul 12, 2017
Martin0:
hahahahaha madam,see advice,if na man now?







But is the truth na.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 1:09pm On Jul 12, 2017
rebirthforgoody:








But is the truth na.
hahaha ok ooo,but wait ooo,do u believ a lady will complain over big manhood,see lies ooo,I thought what is more important is the pleasure she get's and how satisfied she is...

Which lady will say she prefer's small dick over big sized,your husband to be for that matter hmmm na wa oooo
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 1:11pm On Jul 12, 2017
rebirthforgoody:








But is the truth na.
ok ooo if your opinion is like this eh,lemm ask you if it was the guy that was acting like this will you still build that strong love btw him knowing that he constantly cheat's on you even before marriage??
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Dandiaz72(m): 1:20pm On Jul 12, 2017
Have a discussion with her. the other guy might just be deceiving her or exploiting her naivity, guys do this all the time and she'd be the one to regret it later. If she insists, let her go, it's painful but is the right thing to do. "Love but don't be naive". Best of luck.
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Nobody: 1:21pm On Jul 12, 2017
Martin0:
girls can lie,if a lady feels pains let her treat herself na!!!it obvious she didn't know she has an infection in her virgina...pains can't just happen like that..
D Lady was a virgin... I think newly disvirgined ladies need small or medium kini for them to adjust
Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Augustap(f): 1:24pm On Jul 12, 2017
Bro the first mistake you made was forgiving her the first time. Cheating for the first time isn't a mistake at all. The first time she wanted to cheat, she thought abt it really well, weighed the pros and cons and finally decided that she was either too smart to be caught or you were a fool and wud forgive. SHE CHEATED BEFORE, SHE WILL CHEAT AGAIN AND WILL CONTINUE TO CHEAT. YOU BETTER LEAVE HER AND FIND YOUR SQUARE ROOT. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by ikp120(m): 1:28pm On Jul 12, 2017
Bros abeg move on.

She WILL do it again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again...

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Re: A Regrettable Mistake But Can It Be Fixed? by Martin0(m): 1:28pm On Jul 12, 2017
Nma27:
D Lady was a virgin... I think newly disvirgined ladies need small or medium kini for them to adjust
And after year's she still feels pains na wa ooo

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