onwuakpachris:
o.p js relax man..u nt alone in ds predicament..I myself av bin through d same situation over and over again..but d truth is dat what u actually feel 4 all dose girls u v bin meeting is not love but mere infatuation based on a js a particular quality say like beauty..sex appeal..popularity e.t.can. u don't js love pple u av Neva met b4 or gotten really close 2...u js crush over them..hence love dose not cum into effect b4 but after actually meeting sum1 and it takes sum time 2 grow...again it seems like u are a sanguine by temperament js like myself and according 2 Dr.Tim lahaye in "why do u act d way u do"..no one can love u so easily but also forget u so easily like a sanguine..I js hope u finally find d right girl.and dude trust me by my own very experience. only then can u really feel what it means 2 love someone and be loved in return..best wishes.. signing out

Medunah:
OP hasn't met me, that's why

Slayer2:
Good morning to you all nairalanders, it's real early I know, I apologize for bothering you all this time of the day with this but please do not slay and crucify me.

My story

For the past two years now I have been battling with a serious issue, a conflict inside of me, I have been with lots of ladies, (not slay queens) responsible working class ladies and also ladies who are students, all I have been with have shown serious interest with me and have loved me so much.... But..

I am not able to love them back, no matter how beautiful the girl is or well behaved or rich, I just can't seem to love any lady for no reason, once I start dating you, I will be so in love at first and then suddenly I don't feel anything towards the lady anymore.
I am now scared I will die lonely, this is very serious issue with me, I see people in relationship and yet I cannot love, the reason I am even bringing this issue here this morning is that, the current girl I am dating, loves me so much, for no reason I couldn't make love to her, Its been only romance going to two months and she has been asking me what the problem is, if I am scared to be intimate with her, I just don't know how to tell her what's wrong with me because I want to leave the relationship but I feel really bad, trying to revive and figure out what killed the love, I just can't seem to

guys I need help and solution to this problem if any of you can provide me one.

Priority level :critical.

Lalas247:
I can cure u of this illness

alexialin:
Op u get bored easily cause all they could offer is sexxx and sweet words, mild character , etc. And after seeing the banging body or soft character? U are like what next.? Conversations is also zero.

But to you, it has to be more than that.
None has been able to keep up a lively interesting convo with u for long and u are so bored already
The disinterest u feel nw is understandable. Everybody is different, we are not all wired the same.
Be patient. Keep making friends and with time, u will end up marrying your best friend. So relax.

Slayer2:


Very true bro. Thanks a lot. I think this is the problem.

alexialin:
Op u get bored easily cause all they could offer is sexxx and sweet words, mild character , etc. And after seeing the banging body or soft character? U are like what next.? Conversations is also zero.

But to you, it has to be more than that.
None has been able to keep up a lively interesting convo with u for long and u are so bored already
The disinterest u feel nw is understandable. Everybody is different, we are not all wired the same.
Be patient. Keep making friends and with time, u will end up marrying your best friend. So relax.

Slayer2:


How exactly? I would really love it if you can..

truthsayer009:


most of the time, the issue is always from the complainer (OP) and not from those people. If you are generally funny & smart, you will always drive conversation with women. Women are like computers. Its garbage in. garbage out. You get what you give.

alexialin:




Thats not true

As a smart and funny person, u are chatting with a lady who is not really interested in what u are saying. And her response will be :hmm ok, I dont understand?, but lol. But what did u just say?

Have had such convo with guys that think only with their dickkk.
I have place a thread on it few weeks back.

Most guys here were bashing me, saying am the dull one..

Thats why am bored stiff with relationships!

Now a guy as come up today, to say similar

You especially truthsayer have decided to focus on me! Planning to start another round of quarrel.

U no focus on op O!

Na me, you have energy to argue with back and forth..



So please truthsayer its not you am talking about o! neither am I offering my advice to u..

I take God beg you,
Just lemme be

Inugo

truthsayer009:


Why you day fear like this, I neva even touch you.

Besides i was referring to when in a relationship. Not talking with one random girl you don’t know. Shebi you know the difference?

alexialin:




Why I no go fear?
I know una way.

Its not about talking to a random girl. One do not expect much from a random lady. Nor random guy.


Sighs, can u please read and understand what the op said at the begining? And the replies following it?

*rolls eyes*

Rorachy:
I'm tired of almost all the guys in romance section claiming that they don't love, they are misogynist when in reality they are the one doing the loving.

They need to stop claiming what they are not.
Nobody cares.

Slayer2:
Good morning to you all nairalanders, it's real early I know, I apologize for bothering you all this time of the day with this but please do not slay and crucify me.

My story

For the past two years now I have been battling with a serious issue, a conflict inside of me, I have been with lots of ladies, (not slay queens) responsible working class ladies and also ladies who are students, all I have been with have shown serious interest with me and have loved me so much.... But..

I am not able to love them back, no matter how beautiful the girl is or well behaved or rich, I just can't seem to love any lady for no reason, once I start dating you, I will be so in love at first and then suddenly I don't feel anything towards the lady anymore.
I am now scared I will die lonely, this is very serious issue with me, I see people in relationship and yet I cannot love, the reason I am even bringing this issue here this morning is that, the current girl I am dating, loves me so much, for no reason I couldn't make love to her, Its been only romance going to two months and she has been asking me what the problem is, if I am scared to be intimate with her, I just don't know how to tell her what's wrong with me because I want to leave the relationship but I feel really bad, trying to revive and figure out what killed the love, I just can't seem to

guys I need help and solution to this problem if any of you can provide me one.

Priority level :critical.

Slayer2:


It's true, I do believe in love but still once the feeling of Love (I would call it infatuation) comes when I meet a girl, I feel so attached to the girl and I could even swear I am going to marry her cause then I will feel like I am soo in love, I love very strongly but I suddenly find myself not being able to keep it going. It just dies. Only God knows what slays it.

onwuakpachris:
o.p js relax man..u nt alone in ds predicament..I myself av bin through d same situation over and over again..but d truth is dat what u actually feel 4 all dose girls u v bin meeting is not love but mere infatuation based on a js a particular quality say like beauty..sex appeal..popularity e.t.can. u don't js love pple u av Neva met b4 or gotten really close 2...u js crush over them..hence love dose not cum into effect b4 but after actually meeting sum1 and it takes sum time 2 grow...again it seems like u are a sanguine by temperament js like myself and according 2 Dr.Tim lahaye in "why do u act d way u do"..no one can love u so easily but also forget u so easily like a sanguine..I js hope u finally find d right girl.and dude trust me by my own very experience. only then can u really feel what it means 2 love someone and be loved in return..best wishes.. signing out

Nma27:
Infatuation at what age?

onwuakpachris:
so nma dear if u tink am wrong y not kindly tell us the real cause of d o.p's problems then

Lalas247:

What's ur main

alexialin:




You are welcome.

Am like that too.

I get bored easily when all there is? Is just sexxx and lame chats or talks in between with an uncomfortable silence.

But!

Wait o! Am a lady

nikkyharry:



Love me and your problem is solved lol

Adorbs:
I am the same way too, immediately i get into a relationship, I lose interest and I start looking for the next available exit.
My previous relationship was quite short, and yes I broke it off. I realised i couldn't continue like that, so I jotted down the qualities that endears me to a man and from that moment I figured out what was wrong.
You need to know what gets you, so as to prevent these incessant heartbreak you causing those innocent ladies.
I may be wrong but I think you are a sapiosexual, looks may attract you, but i believe your type thrives on personality and intelligence.

Slayer2:

Lalas247:

I just dey look you