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I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by omron(m): 9:49am On Aug 24, 2017
Good morning everyone

Remember I posted on this platform about my Elder sister who came to visit our mum where I was staying In the family house with my wife and my child.

It was a day I shall never forget in my life
whenever I remember that day I have a terrible feeling and it affected me so much

To those that don't know about the story


https://www.nairaland.com/3778429/how-blood-sister-treated-wife
That is the link

She beat my wife Blood was coming out of her nose she broke our private room that was padlocked gained entrance into the room and tore all my wife clothes and baby clothes in the wardrobe and also carried my wife certificates and up till now denying she never carries it



We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother


To cut the long story short three month is gone and she still denied she didn't carry my wife certificates and my life photo album.

My eldest sister has called me again after visiting the pastor a prophet told her that she should call me and apologize for what he did if she really wants to move forward in her life but she refuse saying my number is switched off I know it's a lie she wanted me to call her first.... Tho she has realized the wrong she did the last time I saw her was on my mum Birthday Thanksgiving in the church she feel sober and could not even look me in the eye..... She believes so much in seniority and because she doesn't want to be the one to call first but i learnt that she always talk to my elder sister that she is remorseful for all thathappened but don'tknowhow to put it to me

Now the question is should I call her?
Tho I don't wish to becos I have vowed never to do that until she releases my property and also apologize tonn me but someone told me am the Aburo (junior) that I should call her first

That if I call her she might release the property She made away with
pls is this advisable I need a strong advice
though despite how she maltreated my wife ,my wife has called her and apologize despite that she did not release her certificates and our wedding photo album and other things..... Pls am confused advice me

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by taylor88(m): 9:52am On Aug 24, 2017
hmmmm

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by pato405(m): 9:55am On Aug 24, 2017
Dude, I recollect this story and I'm shocked you are still at daggers drawn with this troublesome sister of yours.

My advise: NEVER succumb to oppression! else you'll kill the man in you.

She ought to call you, NOT the other way round. I'm just wondering, if you call first, what exactly will be your line of discourse? " I called to plead with you to kindly apologize to me" undecided or Please beg me na? I Don't get it. angry Is there no man in you at all.

If at all you have any reason to call, an sms will do giving her a STRONG ULTIMATUM to release the certificate she is confiscating on/before (state deadline) else you'll involve the police. Some of the women we have around us nowadays, if you don't sternly handle their insolence, you'll have yourself to blame. The moment they see you as a sissy, they'll have no regard or respect for you and turn you into a vegetable.

Let your wife take up the issue of seized certificate with her and give her ALL the support you can - except if she wants us to believe that she doesn't need her certificates anymore. If possible, visit a police station, tender your grievance with evidences (since all effort to resolve it amicably through the family way has been thwarted). I remember you took pictures, present them as evidences. You may not lock her up (just based on family values/sentiments - but I think she deserves to be locked up if you ask me, even if it's just for a day or 2). You really need to drill some fear into this sister of yours.

I appreciate every gentle man, but sometimes people take gentility for cowardice. I'll always advise is that, for such people who take quietness for weakness, teach them a lesson that for every coin, there are two sides - you can be a gentle man and at the same time, blow hot when the need arises - Not until this point is proven, they will not restrain their craze when they meet you o!

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by sybarite7(m): 10:02am On Aug 24, 2017
I CLEARLY REMEMBER THIS TOPIC.
MY ADVICE IS ,YOU SHOULD CALL YOUR SISTER AND APOLOGIZE AND PROBABLY BROKER PEACE ,SO THAT YOU CAN GET YOUR STUFFS BACK...

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Josephjnr(m): 10:05am On Aug 24, 2017
It is more like a family(extended) issue.

1. No matter your level in the family, don't let any member of your family not even your parents to insult your wife.Make it very obvious that you hate it.

2. Call her but not to apologise but ask for your stuffs back. If she is expecting apology from you,from the way you described her,she will surely threaten and insult you and in the same vain will reveal that she will hold on to your stuffs. That will confirm she really have it. Please,record the call.Then bring your elders(father, mother,uncles etc) into it,let them help you retrieve them. If they failed to settle it,I suggest you call police into it.

3. If this is solved, endeavor to leave family house. If you are living away from your family,I don't think any member of your family can just come and fight your wife.

Note:I am not a relationship expert,just said all from my personal perception of life.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by prestige2013: 10:06am On Aug 24, 2017
What is the bone of contention?
Tackle the issue from the root not from the branches, by so doing peace can reign.
No Smoke without Fire.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by ojun50(m): 10:12am On Aug 24, 2017
Ask her to return yr document first befor during begging tins

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Richy4(m): 10:52am On Aug 24, 2017
The choice is all yours OP

If I were to be in your shoes, I will wait for that call to come... Apologizing to her in my opinion because she was the elder and @ fault sounds like the elders have all the right in the world to wrong the younger ones and they have no say about it..And they cannot apologize because they are above simple apologies..

<<<Let her call you<<<let her render the fake apologies no matter how insincere it may sound <<< Let her return your belongings<<<when ever she is visiting rent a hotel or motel for that duration, if u cannot afford it, beg friends to accommodate u and your wife and kid within that duration..

She will never change no matter the prophecy...no matter the white or red candle..No matter the four road junction sacrifice..there's a saying that " if u are dining with the devil, u have to use a long spoon".. so do yourself and your young family a favour and stay very clear from her..

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by omron(m): 11:13am On Aug 24, 2017
Richy4:
The choice is all yours OP

If I were to be in your shoes, I will wait for that call to come... Apologizing to her in my opinion because she was the elder and @ fault sounds like the elders have all the right in the world to wrong the younger ones and they have no say about it..And they cannot apologize because they are above simple apologies..

<<<Let her call you<<<let her render the fake apologies no matter how insincere it may sound <<< Let her return your belongings<<<when ever she is visiting rent a hotel or motel for that duration, if u cannot afford it, beg friends to accommodate u and your wife and kid within that duration..


Wow... Intelligent word.. Thanks for your advice

She will never change no matter the prophecy...no matter the white or red candle..No matter the four road junction sacrifice..there's a saying that " if u are dining with the devil, u have to use a long spoon".. so do yourself and your young family a favour and stay very clear from her..
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by ImaIma1(f): 2:31pm On Aug 24, 2017
Please don't call her. Using seniority to cover up issues is something i frown at a lot. If you are wrong, admit it. She will swallow her enormous pride soon and call. Senior kpangolo.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by ststyreal(f): 6:09pm On Aug 24, 2017
Don't even dare call her for whatever reasons, let alone apologising. What are you apologising for in the first place? Senior ko senior nii. You better keep your self respect intact. Since your wife have started communicating with her, allow your wife to continue the pushing of the release of her certificate and other valuables she is holding. Do you know what eyes your wife will be looking at you with, the moment you stoop so low to apologise to your sister after beating her up? Guy, don't try it ooooo. No matter how small you might be, you are a man, that she must embrace. If you were the one at fault, I would have supported your apologising but in this case, send her a message urgently to release your wife's certificate without any seconds delay.
Iranuuu, aunty Agbaya

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by FemiFemola: 7:43pm On Aug 24, 2017
Family is not everything. No allow person go dey believe say because blood dey, dem fit dey do anyhow.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by SweetJoystick(m): 7:44pm On Aug 24, 2017
You be last born and you still get younger brother? I no understand you Bros

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by SilvanusII(m): 7:44pm On Aug 24, 2017
Ageocracy be damned. I agree with the first commenter. Your sister REALLY needs to be dealt with by the authorities. That is how she will kill ur ward or something and u'd mumu-ingly be talked into chalking it to sibling excesses by ur family. Your wife, no be person born am too?

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by motun2017(f): 7:45pm On Aug 24, 2017
as i read dz story now. fear just catch me. really? sister?

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by delors(m): 7:45pm On Aug 24, 2017
My brother, this is very tricky. A woman like ur sister can and will kill u when the opportunity arises (eg. Sharing ur parents will).

So my advice?
- u went to get ur property from here: act like u have forgiven and forgotten all her wrong. This is hard but it is the smartest move. Once she releases ur documents etc first victory.

- avoid her like a plague: once u get ur stuffs from her, avoid her like a plague. No calls, No visits, nothing.... even if u r very strong, remember ur own family (wife and kids) u have to be smart for them. Avoid her.

Unfortunately, and I am.not being damning here, she's gonna try to do something to u in the future (twist ur destiny, attack ur family, or even kill u). Only God can fight this battle for u so that she uses her own hand to do herself.

All the best bro.
This is from personal experience.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by kenbee(m): 7:45pm On Aug 24, 2017
Take Ur wife back to her mum for retraining cause it's obvious that she lacked manners for Ur sis to have dealt with her this much

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by sannirules(m): 7:46pm On Aug 24, 2017
Call her and apologise. There's time for everything. Time to be wise and time to be foolish. Just be a fool for now.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by roqrules04(m): 7:46pm On Aug 24, 2017
This is really deep

Invite SARS to help you get those documents from her.. Later she'll be the one to beg you.

You need to teach family members lessons sometimes.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by freecocoa(f): 7:46pm On Aug 24, 2017
OP I don't know about you o, but if my sibling tore my baby's clothes while we were quarreling or whatever, I'll never forgive them, quote me anywhere.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Tajbol4splend(m): 7:46pm On Aug 24, 2017
Your sister is a scumbag, and you seem a slowpoke

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by talkeverytime: 7:47pm On Aug 24, 2017
hmm, Brother. Put your sister where she belongs.

Here's an advice for guys on how to escape seduction from girls

http://www.talkeverytime.com/2017/08/7-tips-to-escape-seduction-from-girls.html

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Partnerbiz3: 7:47pm On Aug 24, 2017
Make i park here first with my spider



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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by YelloweWest: 7:48pm On Aug 24, 2017
angryOP DO NOT CALL THAT WITCH OF A SISTER OF YOURS.

THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER LAY CURSE ON HER. Then she will return it. 

Protect your family always from that witch.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by engrfcuksmtin(m): 7:48pm On Aug 24, 2017
shocked Your sister is suppose to be cooling off her feet in Ikoyi Prison for stealing and battery. Somebody that humiliated you and desecrated your pride as a man/head of the family. Even if you are broke, you don't deserve what she did to you and she did not deserve any apology from you except there is more to the story. Also I wonder why your extended family (especially those that are persuading you to call her) did not deemed it fit to call her to order and give her ultimatum to return the items she stole from your wife

















My advice is that you should call her to request for the items she stole from you or else you will take serious action against her. If you are in Lagos PM me to give you 3 FSARS guys to arrest her and reset her from stupid mode.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by oshe11: 7:48pm On Aug 24, 2017
U want me to waste my advice wen u didnt yield to the first one by locking her up till she produces the cert


U shud be a man for once bro.....



Like the 2nd poster ask.....

Wat wud u tell her wen u call.....

"Hello..... Aunty sed i shud call u cos u feel remorse abt the last time bt pride no let u call me" or wat



Guy!
Let her call u n dnt listen till she agrees to #bringbackhercert


My 2cents.... U like ignore it AGAIN undecided

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by IAmSkinny: 7:48pm On Aug 24, 2017
This is a very serious family issue that should be handled with care. The last time I found my advice, dude ended up committing suicide.
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