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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by olu1759(m): 8:29pm On Aug 24, 2017
sybarite7:
I CLEARLY REMEMBER THIS TOPIC.
MY ADVICE IS ,YOU SHOULD CALL YOUR SISTER AND APOLOGIZE AND PROBABLY BROKER PEACE ,SO THAT YOU CAN GET YOUR STUFFS BACK...
apologize for what exactly,for beating his wife?s

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by HeWrites(m): 8:33pm On Aug 24, 2017
You should call her ooo and beg her...



Prostrate for the Dwarf so as to have ur way... Do dat to get wat u want fr her





But seriously if nah my sister she be ehn.... I swear to Almighty God... I will kill het
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Bambela(m): 8:33pm On Aug 24, 2017
Make peace with your sister bros. You must not necessarily call to apologize but rather to continue the sister- brother things. By doing so, you won't know when she will return it and apologize to you. Try not to sow a seed of hatred in your family because if it germinate, you will regret it whether you are alive or not. Devil is always at work to destroy.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by donlucabrazi(m): 8:34pm On Aug 24, 2017
talkeverytime:
hmm, Brother. Put your sister where she belongs.

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by DabuIIIT: 8:37pm On Aug 24, 2017
delors:
My brother, this is very tricky. A woman like ur sister can and will kill u when the opportunity arises (eg. Sharing ur parents will).

So my advice?
- u went to get ur property from here: act like u have forgiven and forgotten all her wrong. This is hard but it is the smartest move. Once she releases ur documents etc first victory.

- avoid her like a plague: once u get ur stuffs from her, avoid her like a plague. No calls, No visits, nothing.... even if u r very strong, remember ur own family (wife and kids) u have to be smart for them. Avoid her.

Unfortunately, and I am.not being damning here, she's gonna try to do something to u in the future (twist ur destiny, attack ur family, or even kill u). Only God can fight this battle for u so that she uses her own hand to do herself.

All the best bro.
This is from personal experience.
@omron,take to this advice buh dont cut her off at once lest she gets at u 'some way' again.. Cut her off gradually and codedly after getting all ur stuff from her..make sure u do something n get out of ur parents house,haba,get ur own apartment nah!
Note..cut her off real gud unless shes PROVEN to have changed.

Buh what happened between u,ur wife n sis?

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Originalsly: 8:38pm On Aug 24, 2017
Bro.... your sister beat up your wife bloody.... and you're talking about what prophet said... what someone else said...who is senior to who....now asking what we have to say? This your sister behaviour towards you is nothing new.... from small she knew you are a weakling.... and being married doesn't make a difference. In her eyes... you are her little sister... and your wife.... her step sister. She has no respect for you...nor your wife... and guess whose fault is it? There is nothing you can personally tell her or confront her direcrlly.... you don't have the guts.. the balls to do so. Your other family members will be of no help as well ...there is some underlying issue ...something the family doesn't like about your wife. For the matter on ground....like the first person said.... you need to report her to the Police .... that's the only way you'll get the certificates back.Let her be locked up for a week or so...it will benefit her a whole lot...only then will she realise there are consequences. Take a deep breath in..... gather some balls....pull on the pants trousers and go tell your sis...certificates by Sunday or next week will begin as an eye opener for her.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by OsuGanja(m): 8:42pm On Aug 24, 2017
omron:
Good morning everyone

Remember I posted on this platform about my Elder sister who came to visit our mum where I was staying In the family house with my wife and my child.

It was a day I shall never forget in my life
whenever I remember that day I have a terrible feeling and it affected me so much

To those that don't know about the story


https://www.nairaland.com/3778429/how-blood-sister-treated-wife
That is the link

She beat my wife Blood was coming out of her nose she broke our private room that was padlocked gained entrance into the room and tore all my wife clothes and baby clothes in the wardrobe and also carried my wife certificates and up till now denying she never carries it



We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother


To cut the long story short three month is gone and she still denied she didn't carry my wife certificates and my life photo album.

My eldest sister has called me again after visiting the pastor a prophet told her that she should call me and apologize for what he did if she really wants to move forward in her life but she refuse saying my number is switched off I know it's a lie she wanted me to call her first.... Tho she has realized the wrong she did the last time I saw her was on my mum Birthday Thanksgiving in the church she feel sober and could not even look me in the eye..... She believes so much in seniority and because she doesn't want to be the one to call first but i learnt that she always talk to my elder sister that she is remorseful for all thathappened but don'tknowhow to put it to me

Now the question is should I call her?
Tho I don't wish to becos I have vowed never to do that until she releases my property and also apologize tonn me but someone told me am the Aburo (junior) that I should call her first

That if I call her she might release the property She made away with
pls is this advisable I need a strong advice
though despite how she maltreated my wife ,my wife has called her and apologize despite that she did not release her certificates and our wedding photo album and other things..... Pls am confused advice me





SISTER WEY U GO SLAP D LIVING SHIT OUT OF HER FACE...SHIOOR
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by happney65: 8:43pm On Aug 24, 2017
pato405:
Dude, I recollect this story and I'm shocked you are still at daggers drawn with this troublesome sister of yours.

My advise: NEVER succumb to oppression! else you'll kill the man in you.

She ought to call you, NOT the other way round. I'm just wondering, if you call first, what exactly will be your line of discourse? " I called to plead with you to kindly apologize to me" undecided or Please beg me na? I Don't get it. angry Is there no man in you at all.

If at all you have any reason to call, an sms will do giving her a STRONG ULTIMATUM to release the certificate she is confiscating on/before (state deadline) else you'll involve the police. Some of the women we have around us nowadays, if you don't sternly handle their insolence, you'll have yourself to blame. The moment they see you as a sissy, they'll have no regard or respect for you and turn you into a vegetable.

Let your wife take up the issue of seized certificate with her and give her ALL the support you can - except if she wants us to believe that she doesn't need her certificates anymore. If possible, visit a police station, tender your grievance with evidences (since all effort to resolve it amicably through the family way has been thwarted). I remember you took pictures, present them as evidences. You may not lock her up (just based on family values/sentiments - but I think she deserves to be locked up if you ask me, even if it's just for a day or 2). You really need to drill some fear into this sister of yours.

I appreciate every gentle man, but sometimes people take gentility for cowardice. I'll always advise is that, for such people who take quietness for weakness, teach them a lesson that for every coin, there are two sides - you can be a gentle man and at the same time, blow hot when the need arises - Not until this point is proven, they will not restrain their craze when they meet you o!

This guy is a mumu and he is not worth to be called a Man or an Husband.If na me,wetin concern me..I would lock you up till you get sense..Me wey lock up my neighbor that did nonsense..Wetin concern me..I am a nice boy,but if you do anyhow..I will deal with you anyhow..Nonesense
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Nobody: 8:43pm On Aug 24, 2017
omron:




We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother





This feud don make you confused.com

"How can you be the last born yet you have a younger brother.

She was (past tense) ?? Has her birth position change of she is dead ??

Take am easy oo, life is too short b4 you die of unnecessary stress ."

You need to let go of all the pain, apologize to your wife on your sister's behalf and MOVE OUT so your wife and you can live in peace.

Staying in your family house after marriage is a NO NO. No one will respect you there.

About your wife's certificate; go back to the Uni and enquire about how to get another copy. It's not rocket science.

About other things; forget the past and MOVE on.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Nobody: 8:45pm On Aug 24, 2017
Let me leave this to the matured minds.
I'm already coping with glo cheat loss
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Alariwo2: 8:47pm On Aug 24, 2017
Disown her..

Or end her existence if need be.
Like some will say, forgiveness is a sin.

There should be limits to people's transgressions, family or not.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Lanceslot(m): 8:47pm On Aug 24, 2017
There's 3 sides to every story, yours, hers and the truth. Judging from your side of the story, I believe she crossed her line by not just hitting your wife, but also taking her certificate and spoiling your baby's clothes, that alone is enough for you to disown her as your sister and call the police for her.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by DrayZee: 8:47pm On Aug 24, 2017
Bambela:
Your advice is evil and against morality. this is family and there is no roof without leakage. Though you sound strong, I know you can not take such decision in your family. Such seed in family is too bad because it will affects generations upon generations. refrain from such advice.
That guy is very very correct. Forget what you're saying about advice being evil.
GO AND READ THE ORIGINAL STORY IN THE FIRST THREAD.

The sister is insane. Her sense of reasoning is already wasted. He can do nothing more for that kind of person.

If it was me, I wouldn't consider such a person a member of my family anymore.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by siegfried99(m): 8:49pm On Aug 24, 2017
I still don't know how this thing can be possible?.. how can your sister beat up your wife?..

It says a lot about your authority in the family. Even as a last born.. you are a man.

Says a lot about how much respect or regard your family members give you.

U probably didn't set a standard.

I pray nobody tries such trash with me , lay your hands on my wife..?? For what na.. Hian! ..Bcuz I will send such individual to God for Judgment with immediate effect.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by DrayZee: 8:53pm On Aug 24, 2017
bigtt76:
Make it even more difficult for her by calling her and tell her to forgive you and your wife if any of you had wronged her in any way. Say no more than that. By so doing you've nailed her literally.

If you don't do this, she will continue to harbor ill feelings towards you. But if you apologize, she will be humbled for life and will end up returning your stuff.. All the best.




Omron
This is the advice you should follow.
Once you do this, try to see if you can retrieve your documents and pictures.
Once you succeed in that... RUN....RUN AND NEVER TURN BACK FOR ANY DAMN REASON.
AVOID THAT SISTER...AVOID HER, TILL THE END OF TIME.
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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by sharpwriter(m): 8:59pm On Aug 24, 2017
supersystemsng:


Stop giving evil counsels...It's not an easy thing to arrest your blood..abeg proffer something wiser abeg
My dear it is not evil counsel....after she has refused to be a gentle woman, na harshness remain. Even the scripture says there is time for everything, a time to love and a time to hate; and also a person's enemy are of his own household. The arrest is not forever. You live with diplomacy in an extended family, and even in a nuclear family, you dont pokenose into what is nt yur business let alone beating up wife, tearing her clothes alongside her baby's and also siezing certificates, and she is still too proud to apologize? She is an evil person that needs iron hand. If na abroad, you think police wont pick her up for battering?
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by DipoDee: 8:59pm On Aug 24, 2017
@Omron if you still live with your mother after all the humiliation, then you should go beg your sister.

You are the man but she got the balls.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by AkangbeGold: 9:00pm On Aug 24, 2017
omron:
Good morning everyone

Remember I posted on this platform about my Elder sister who came to visit our mum where I was staying In the family house with my wife and my child.

It was a day I shall never forget in my life
whenever I remember that day I have a terrible feeling and it affected me so much

To those that don't know about the story


https://www.nairaland.com/3778429/how-blood-sister-treated-wife
That is the link

She beat my wife Blood was coming out of her nose she broke our private room that was padlocked gained entrance into the room and tore all my wife clothes and baby clothes in the wardrobe and also carried my wife certificates and up till now denying she never carries it



We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother


To cut the long story short three month is gone and she still denied she didn't carry my wife certificates and my life photo album.

My eldest sister has called me again after visiting the pastor a prophet told her that she should call me and apologize for what he did if she really wants to move forward in her life but she refuse saying my number is switched off I know it's a lie she wanted me to call her first.... Tho she has realized the wrong she did the last time I saw her was on my mum Birthday Thanksgiving in the church she feel sober and could not even look me in the eye..... She believes so much in seniority and because she doesn't want to be the one to call first but i learnt that she always talk to my elder sister that she is remorseful for all thathappened but don'tknowhow to put it to me

Now the question is should I call her?
Tho I don't wish to becos I have vowed never to do that until she releases my property and also apologize tonn me but someone told me am the Aburo (junior) that I should call her first

That if I call her she might release the property She made away with
pls is this advisable I need a strong advice
though despite how she maltreated my wife ,my wife has called her and apologize despite that she did not release her certificates and our wedding photo album and other things..... Pls am confused advice me


Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by femijck(m): 9:00pm On Aug 24, 2017
I've decided and promised God that this year I will always mind my own business, but I think I need to give a f***" about your post.

Family is all that matters.....but not necessarily all the family members... your sister don't deserve to be called a sister. she dealth with u that way SIMPLY because of your financial status take it bro..But God will change your story before December.

Bringing your poor baby into it and even stealing valuable things from your room means she never wish u well...what was her motive for stealing credentials If u need to ask yourself.

I know two wrongs don't make a right...but not in this case....report her to any trust worthy force as I can't trust Naija police about cases like this and if possible get a human right lawyer....which state are u if I can help with this.

But if u need to go by d way of the saints, text her boldly and ask her when u can come for the photos and credentials.but pls don't call that evil woman... I'm still wondering what your line would be when u call.

This is why I sometimes have mixed feelings when I see some people walking naked on the street....it's usually because of people like this.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by oshorstan(m): 9:00pm On Aug 24, 2017
omron:
Good morning everyone

Remember I posted on this platform about my Elder sister who came to visit our mum where I was staying In the family house with my wife and my child.

It was a day I shall never forget in my life
whenever I remember that day I have a terrible feeling and it affected me so much

To those that don't know about the story


https://www.nairaland.com/3778429/how-blood-sister-treated-wife
That is the link

She beat my wife Blood was coming out of her nose she broke our private room that was padlocked gained entrance into the room and tore all my wife clothes and baby clothes in the wardrobe and also carried my wife certificates and up till now denying she never carries it



We were 4 members in the family I am the last born she was the second born and my sister was the eldest with one of my junior brother


To cut the long story short three month is gone and she still denied she didn't carry my wife certificates and my life photo album.

My eldest sister has called me again after visiting the pastor a prophet told her that she should call me and apologize for what he did if she really wants to move forward in her life but she refuse saying my number is switched off I know it's a lie she wanted me to call her first.... Tho she has realized the wrong she did the last time I saw her was on my mum Birthday Thanksgiving in the church she feel sober and could not even look me in the eye..... She believes so much in seniority and because she doesn't want to be the one to call first but i learnt that she always talk to my elder sister that she is remorseful for all thathappened but don'tknowhow to put it to me

Now the question is should I call her?
Tho I don't wish to becos I have vowed never to do that until she releases my property and also apologize tonn me but someone told me am the Aburo (junior) that I should call her first

That if I call her she might release the property She made away with
pls is this advisable I need a strong advice
though despite how she maltreated my wife ,my wife has called her and apologize despite that she did not release her certificates and our wedding photo album and other things..... Pls am confused advice me



Arrest her with police for stealing and beating up your wife
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by AkangbeGold: 9:02pm On Aug 24, 2017
Let me quickly come in as a Muslim. Islam taught us no matter what our elder one do to us, we shouldn't dare to raise our voice on them. They remain our elders, and immediately our parents are no more, they becomes our father and mother. To the issue you just raised, I will implore you to call her and beg her. Though you may think you are right, yes but try as much as possible to beg her and plead to her to returns all your belongings she took during the quarrel time. As a Muslim, we are taught to make peace with our family, neighbour, and our community people. We shouldn't wait for the person that offend us to beg us, we should try as much as possible beg them before another sun rise. After everything, try to look into what brought out the issue and do the needful. though many will call You names for begging her, my brother pls don't look that way, all what should strive for is unity and peace among ur family and nation u belongs to. May Allah be with you.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Nobody: 9:02pm On Aug 24, 2017
sharpwriter:

My dear it is not evil counsel....after she has refused to be a gentle woman, na harshness remain. Even the scripture says there is time for everything, a time to love and a time to hate; and also a person's enemy are of his own household. The arrest is not forever. You live with diplomacy in an extended family, and even in a nuclear family, you dont pokenose into what is nt yur business let alone beating up wife, tearing her clothes alongside her baby's and also siezing certificates, and she is still too proud to apologize? She is an evil person that needs iron hand. If na abroad, you think police wont pick her up for battering?

You don't arrest your blood.... Can one help God to fight a war...? Lol...i'm a family head...it's best he avoids her...she's in turmoil with him silent..trust me..him taking action is naive and childish
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by NSK4U(m): 9:03pm On Aug 24, 2017
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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by tosyne2much(m): 9:06pm On Aug 24, 2017
May God never let us carry devilish women as wives. And na one man still carry her put for house ooo? SMH

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by tunary(m): 9:08pm On Aug 24, 2017
apply violent action. hot punch she must comply
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by sharpwriter(m): 9:12pm On Aug 24, 2017
supersystemsng:


You don't arrest your blood.... Can one help God to fight a war...? Lol...i'm a family head...it's best he avoids her...she's in turmoil with him silent..trust me..him taking action is naive and childish
Why cant you leave your own gangster neighbours war to God wey yu dey sleep with axe and the rest grin grin . A weakling is a weakling just as this man. O' yes , i can arrest my blood if such is unreasonable and dangerous to my living. Read again, there is time for everything. If you cant defend yur wife, you are a weakling, and yu dont have the knowledge of God because you have become one with such wife according to God's standard. How can one beat yur wife till blood comes out of her nose and yu say keep quiet. Let's even forget the beating. What is she doing with another person's certificate? That is wht she must be arrested for.
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by BiggyBamBam: 9:13pm On Aug 24, 2017
Your wife is the MOST IMPORTANT being you MUST have in your life.
You MUST protect her at all cost...
If you CANNOT protect her, then DIVORCE her and let GOD will surely punish you for being a Sisi to your family.
I HATE guys who cannot stand their ground when dealing with their family members when it comes to their wife's relationship with them.

Guys expect their wives to be respectful to their family, but these stupid family members show disdain towards the wives.
This sisi of a man now come online and wanting stranger, who were not there when he and his wife were dating, got married to now advice him.

A boundary has to be set, "You cannot disrespect my wife no matter what.."

Involve the Police to retrieve your wife's property, move out of the God damn house and bid your family members GOODBYE for life.

By the way, how will your cursed sister feel if her husband's family members beat her up? Maybe she doesn't even have a husband.

THIS IS WAR, your sister is a WITCH!

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Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Halo22: 9:16pm On Aug 24, 2017
This one is strong ooooo.....But seriously, if any of my siblings makes mistake and fights my wife without my consent......let me not write much. As for the question you asked, be a man even though you have to be careful cos it is family that is involved here. Threaten her to the point of doing something about the cert since nobody accepts to be with it, if she has it, she must certainly be afraid and return it. Secondly, after this encounter, dont allow any of your siblings to live with you abd your wife. It brings about quarrel. Am talking from experience
Re: I Need A Strong Advice Concerning My Sister Who Maltreated My Wife by Nobody: 9:19pm On Aug 24, 2017
My dear be a man and stop belittling yourself b4 ur wife. Pls go and get ur wife's certificate b4 it turns to anoda thing
Seniority my ass, my elder sister tries such shit and she'll end up in a police cell or intensive care unit
Na she give me money to pay bride price, or she follow me toast my wife, she go tell me
....this is y many wives look down on their (puppet) husbands.........smh angry

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