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Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by NoToPile: 2:19am On Aug 25, 2017 |
[quote author=alezzy13 post=59797981] In most communities, if they can prove that the wife is to blame then they can make a strong case for her to be ostracized or even punished while they claim all the property. It becomes worse if the man happens to be most well-to-do amuote] Not most communities please, you can say in some specific parts of Nigeria , where I come from widows and their children are hardly harrased and besides the cultures where this is prevalent they really don't need to have any proof against the wife, its like men don't dont die natural deaths anymore the wives must have killed them. Even if it was the mans family member that killed him, they will still say its the wife. I don't even understand how some cultures give so much power to evil uncles All these gra gra is for the father's properties. 2 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by ice4u999(m): 2:23am On Aug 25, 2017 |
IFEANNYI: Sorry for your loss but I have some questions o. From the way you write I can tell that you are an adult. How can your father's relatives come to your house to move your father when he got adult children and a wife at home? Except you guys are still very young. if you guys are still very young and your dad have properties his family know of. Guy you better get a lawyer fast o |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Nobody: 3:40am On Aug 25, 2017 |
IFEANNYI:The fear of relatives is the beginning of wisdom. Keep them at a safe distance. 4 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by spiralwedge(m): 5:52am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Chidonc: I agree, but not in this case. When you are dealing with deadly family members over properties, my brother, it's better to flee or deal from distance. I know so many examples to conclude so. My advice is that every man (as emphasised by you) should hustle well and build his own house. Never go to live in your father's house with your wife and kids, if you have envious and fetish family. Not worth it. The property will remain, the person may be killed or turned mad. So what's the point? 2 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by bayulll011(m): 6:35am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Zizicardo: for me your dad did not do the needful, no time to lay blame,he should av done check and balances to put his family first in case of unforseen that's when planning come. u wanna live long,stay away from them,Mark faces and always remember but u can forgive but don't forget. do ur thing focus on Ur life and 've successful. 3 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by michaelwilli(m): 6:42am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Get all ur dads documents to somewhere safe immediately. Don't think twice about it 4 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by itsene: 8:26am On Aug 25, 2017 |
If you're the eldest son , you run the show. Except you depend on others for financial support. However your uncles also have a say and may need some accommodation. |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Zizicardo(f): 8:43am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Yea, you right. He didn't do d needful coz he was d youngest of them, so nobody suspected anything. Thanks for your advice, I'm already miles away from them. I canor coman go and kill myself away. And I have my mom to cater for. Thanks bayulll011: 1 Like |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by bayulll011(m): 9:09am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Zizicardo: u are welcome. please help ur mum also. stay with her and always assures her things will be fine. if she wanna re marry,help her to make the best choice. ciao. 3 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Akious2k2(m): 9:41am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Zizicardo:I'm just curious 2 know what the emboldened is... Is it 4 sex or what? It's just an innocent question |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Akious2k2(m): 10:00am On Aug 25, 2017 |
oladele00: This looks like a good way 2 solving d problem 2 Likes |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by mecussey(m): 10:01am On Aug 25, 2017 |
IFEANNYI: still wondering how relations have say in a family so strong that it will bother somebody like me. 1 Like |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Sarang(f): 10:40am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Things like this happen everyday.. They will start dragging properties soon. Let me not even talk, I have seen it and heard it. And I have learnt that Family is not all about blood. Just stay safe. 1 Like |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by TerrorSquad147: 11:44am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Alariwo2:and you know this because your dad is an igbo man or what? |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by ofemigeorge(m): 12:39pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
supersystemsng:Then if you want to go home/ village how do you do it. Cause you met them there |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Nobody: 12:41pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
ofemigeorge: That's it, i don't go....Everyone knows i took my father's spirit and like wahala..they've tried all what nots...i won't go into details..infact none of my cousins have seen me for over 17years or know how i look... Its a war they can't fight...you need strength and power to fight those kind of people |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by ofemigeorge(m): 12:58pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
supersystemsng:OK op wat abt your wife wen she ask ur root or your kids who want to go home, will you also prevent hem from going.....for how long will you hid. |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Nobody: 1:27pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
ofemigeorge: You don't understand.I can't reveal the entire strategy in public... But until herod died, Jesus remained in captivity. Family's over-rated. How many will buy you panadol when you have headache? They are simply people many people seeks elf approval from and nothing more 1 Like |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by chigoizie7(m): 1:29pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
IFEANNYI: Sorry for your loss. Which part of Anambra please? |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by 400billionman: 3:22pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Maternity is the commonest hospital in villages.. Take heart.. |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by armyofone(m): 4:15pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
Op, The most important thing is taking your mom and siblings out of that environment and don't wait till tomorrow. If you really must join in the burial, make sure you and your family have your own security or you can send them money for the burial from where you are based. |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by Johnny19: 11:07pm On Aug 25, 2017 |
suwalee: That ain't my Monika swthrt |
Re: Losing My Dad & Dealing With Lazy Relatives: My Experience by addictiv(m): 1:53pm On Aug 26, 2017 |
Every family needs a doctor/nurse, a lawyer and someone in the armed forces. It's very important to have at least 2 persons from these professions in ur immediate family to avoid issues like this. They won't even dare talk crap if one of u was a soldier. |
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