nursennenny:

Nigerians are too modest for my likening.
If its the woman that cheated that guy won't give it a second thought before sending her packing .Aunty doesn't know if the girl is even faithful to ur cheat of a husband. See prayer and holy holy wife doesn't make u immune to HIV. I see couples with HIV in the hospital all the time and they all got it through their partner. Better clear ur eyes cos he will still cheat again .
Don't say no one told u

honestwife:
Hello house,
I have been been a nairalander for many years and i just need advice because am so devasted. I got married to my husband 7years ago with 3beautiful kids ,a girl and 2 boys

My husband is that perfect men any woman would ever prayer for.i have never suspected him for once not until last year september that i saw some frequent call from a particular no, i decided to take the no and store on my own phone,,i suspected he was cheating but i did nit have any evidence to prove it.



So last month,i activated an automatic call recording on his phone and here i am, all my doubt were confirmed, i decided not to ask him as i laid down my own plans too, i took his phone and scan his whatapp QR code and i deactivated the notification so he wont know. So with this, i was able to veiw all his chat directly from my phone through this chat i saw that the lady was around at his place yesterday morning and i travelled in the eveningbecause we dont live in the same state due to transfer

i took my children to my sisters place and i travelled, looo and behold this lady was wearing only paint and bra in my husbands room although i gave both of them good dirty slap of thier life, and i told her i have details of his guy and that i was going to call and let him know the kind of girl she is

so now to cut the long story short this lady has a fiance which is planning to wed her because i got to her instagram page and facebook page and i saw that she has a very good guy at her hand thus made me sad because i dont know why she would cheat with my husband even after having a good relationship,

my decision is that am planning to call this guy through facebook call and send him all the recording and whatappbchat between her fiance and my husband

i just want to know if am making the right decision

as for my husband , he will meet me at home

chronique:
Another round of bullshitt! The more I read up stories like these, the more I lose interest in marriage and women. Someone has a fiance and is still fuvking a married man;what the Bleep is wrong with these people? These days, I notice I'm getting less interested in asking women out and of course, it's issues like this..
No man or woman deserves to be treated this way after giving his/her all to make a relationship work. It's just 's cruel. Please expose that bitch to her fiance asap. As for your husband, do whatever pleases you.

supersystemsng:


You're not nice

nursennenny:
thanks

supersystemsng:


I'm not playing with you again. You used to sound sweet...I can see you've joined the club of the sisters...Anyway, women are mild, temperate, some call it soft, men are lions, hunters and have the instincts to " prey on " instinctively and inherently, staying committed to one partner, may God raise a generation of strong-willed men but ladies please take it easy on my guys abeg

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

solasoulmusic:


There is no club o ...I'm just team no high blood pressure over the choices you make on your destiny just speaking as a wife he has and I'm just saying you guys shouldn't hold on to ancient theories but focus on blessing your generation with faithfulness and loyalty

tolexy123:
i doubt if u'v ever been married cos with the way you think, am sorry for you. That aside, she can only talk it out with her husband and give him a warning of his life. Breaking apart at this stage of her life will only turn her world upside down and she might regret it cos there are not a lot of good people out there again. In this case, the husband will always be ready to turn a new leave.

Immatex:
If I should lend a voice.

Your husband living apart from you and your kids provided good grounds for infidelity.

Those moments he returns home from work with no one to talk to, no warmth, affection and properly no strength to do himself a nice meal.

Those times you had to care for your work and kids in your other residence, he would surf the net, think of the attractive soft spoken ladies all around then his defense gets weakened every passing day.

He begins to see nothing wrong in a having a friend less busy as his wife. He presumes a little hi won't hurt and so sow the seed he is now harvesting bringing devastation to his home.

But woman, you share in the blame even though innocent for now. You must accept to make more sacrifices before giving up on him. You must also forgive him if he shows true remorse and repentance.

I recommend you live at the same home as your husband- the kids will keep him busy and you will keep an eye on him.

This act of he's should not make you forget the past from the beginning. You have kids, so think of their stability before reaching a conclusion.

I will also advice you against becoming the judge on the ladies relationship. Just mind your family and drive her away from to where she came from.

Hope my advice would meet you well.

Mindfulness:
By the way, I would not inform her fiancé immediately. I would inform her that I have delicate material that I will use against her and tell her that I will leak it in due time so that she will torment herself. And then I would decide when and if I would leak it but I would take my time. Some enemies must die a slow death.

supersystemsng:



Argh, you've changed...Nairaland has changed you..

Lol @ faithfulness and loyalty...It's actually the work of women to nurture/shapen the soul of men, through childhood into adulthood..if men cheat, it's because women do a bad work at raising men of such standards...I.e if you trained your son like you would like your future son-in-paw to be, marriages will be less dramatic

kennygee:
Your husband is the problem. If you're able to deal with this mistress, there will be other mistresses and your husband will get smarter in hiding his infidelities from you.

The issue is, there are more books and talks and advice and seminars preparing women to be the ideal wives and less materials or even almost non existent ones to teach men how to be good husbands.

It takes two to make a marriage work.

kennygee:
Your husband is the problem. If you're able to deal with this mistress, there will be other mistresses and your husband will get smarter in hiding his infidelities from you.

The issue is, there are more books and talks and advice and seminars preparing women to be the ideal wives and less materials or even almost non existent ones to teach men how to be good husbands.

It takes two to make a marriage work.

solasoulmusic:


Lol how? It helps to read different stories and adjust ones Life based on other experiences that's how we really adjust well in life. Yes home training is essential hence my advice to the poster was to focus on the kids and the legacy of Love they both have and not the intruders

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

nkwuocha1:




I must first commend you for the slaps.Its very deserving.
Madam,you need to carry out your threat. Your husband is definitely not the only man she is cheating with. There are people that need to be taught hard lesson so they can learn.please let her fiance know,so she can change her philandering decision for good.

AmoryBlacq:
life!


please report the Lady to her man, no one deserves a cheating partner!

some men are so careless, how dare you bring your mistress to your home!

Single! should I ever get engaged and decide to cheat on my partner it's going to be in a far away place, I mean if she's in Nigeria at the time I will cheat on her in Macedonia, eliminating the possibility of her ever finding out! No one deserves that pain and anguish they feel when they discover their partner is cheating!

Op I sympathize with you!

supersystemsng:


You've changed trust me...Hope you know i've been following you since June...all these barrage of negativities affect/tilt our "life-lens", anyways, i don't see anything worth taking serious on the forum..I thought you was married with kids?

DWJOBScom:
This is sad and disappointing of most men

The kids are still young(they will survive it's only requires more work from both parties as teachers and parents) and your marriage is young too for you to live apart!

Don't give the devil a chance my people as everyone has a breaking point.

As for me wherever am going my wife comes with me and the children too!

*i still understand there are difficult situations but ................flee every appearance of evil

solasoulmusic:


Don't know if it's positive or not but thanks anyway nope not even married but I'm wise

It's a forum sometimes your attacked for
Expressing yourself but it doesn't mean you don't do it anyway

Evaberry:
Send those stuffs to her fiance so that the young man can avoid making the biggest mistake of his life.

but as for your husband meeting you at home, My dear please leave that marriage it's not safe.

your husband can even resort to physical abuse because of anger.

Cheaters should not be given second chances.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

but op sha you are a correct hacker o, see the way you monitored the man just so you can catch him, lol.

This is why women should always be independent in marriage, so that when your husband screws up, you can leave without thinking of how to take care of yourself and kids.

Let's be honest if it was the husband who caught his wife cheating would you advise the husband to stay with her, why the hypocrisy and double standard? some1 above even advise the op to give the cheating dimwit a good treat. is it when your husband starts giving you numerous std Or impregnates another woman is that when you will leave?

supersystemsng:


Am not married yet, looking forward to it, for now i maintain this standard when that day comes...

As for me wherever am going my wife comes with me and the children too!

The madam also handles my phone( except for biz line). I believe if there's no space for filt, then dirts won't be collected...

If people take insurance against heartbreaks, we shouldn't trust ourselves to become so infallable that we don't protect our homes..

supersystemsng:


It is well...

What's with #PainlessJourney The Album ?

Acidosis:
Please do not threaten the lady with the claims that you have her dirty conversations, etc. That lady can go to any length just to save her marriage and cover her deepest secrets. Don't make yourself a victim.

Since it's easier for women to deal with cheating partners better than men, I would advise that you give your husband a second chance. Remember you already mentioned that you guys do not live in the same state. Rather than cursing, separating etc., you guys should find a way to come together and make your marriage work. You are already separated physically from your husband by virtue of your jobs, further emotional separation will turn out badly.

Besides, its 3 kids already, you and I know you won't leave your marriage, no woman will, it doesn't matter what they say online.

Lastly, who are you to call a man you barely know "a very good guy"? This is how many women run into the arms and bed of strange men thinking others are better than their husbands. Frankly, that girl's fiance might be worse! Do not be deceived, the same way you felt your husband was the best thing after slice bread only to find him cheating is the same way the other will turn out.

If you must take revenge on that lady, do so because you want to relieve yourself of the pains. Doing so because you feel "the very good guy" deserves a better woman is terrible... There's no such thing as "a very good guy", especially on Facebook.


Your husband is "a very good guy" too...



..on Facebook

DWJOBScom:


correct!

cummando:
And you are asking advice from a forum where 99% of them are retards and bigots?




Good luck