nkwuocha:



You're the one with a very shallow mindset.This is not the kind of problem that is expected of people planning to get married.It's so unfortunate you don't understand the way the world of humans is.Your argument makes no sense,as first this is a business deal that's not tied to emotions. That part where she asked for interest says it all.Any woman I'm planning that asks me to pay interest on a loan is trying to tell me the simple but bitter truth, she doesn't mix business with pleasure. But then,according to her post,he initiated the business idea to be like a partnership. What I don't understand is why he is running away from his business partner?Who happens to be the financier?So because say him talk say him go marry her be say she go carry her money dash am?Kilode?I told three ladies I will marry them,but I'm presently married to just one.

The test thing came up as a result of his inability to pick her calls.Why are you blaming the lady,damn it!Its her money,she worked hard for it.It was a fucking loan!its strictly business! Why all these built up emotions?

supersystemsnig:


Yes, but should that be how a human being should behave? If the lady thinks and imagine the worst, should anyone blame her?

sisisioge:
Funny responses here and there

OP, creditors have a rule book, you know.
1. Never lend money you can not afford to call a bad debt.

2. Never lend money to those you are scre.wing unless you are prepared for the highly probably bad debt.

3. Never lend money to families and close friends with expectation of having a regular creditor-debtor relationship.

4. Never enter into business transactions with loved ones without some formalities thrown in.

Actually, I have always held these rules to heart and never really gotten hurt. An ex is owing me 400k, another ex is owing me over 70k, I've got friends owing small small monies written off. Yet, I'm one heck of a broke a.zs. If you can't afford to let it go, don't even give it out!

As per the guy, since the money is so dear to you now, I suggest you try to see him one on one and ask for the money. Don't even think of any rekindled romance cos he's apparently lost confidence in you too. I can only imagine how much you have bugged his life with the "give me my money" mantra. It is well.

Maduawuchukwu:


Ya know, there is a very high chance there is a very high chance that the guy has not broken even and the babe has been pestering him for the cash so he tried to reduce communication because of the stress. He should have communicated better but for someone to assume that her Fiance has who I s well of has duped her of and destroyed their relationship because of 500k shows a distrustful mind. For somebody you want want to trust for the rest of your life I think that her actions are poor. I might be wrong though.

tosyne2much:
No one should blame her tho


All I know is that men have ego and their ego will not allow most men do such a thing unlike ladies

elantraceey:



why not?


But hope you ain't going to ask me for 500k too o ?

You just registered today, did you do so because of this thread?

PatriotTemidayo:
My dear, if I understand you well, you gave him money few weeks ago.
The question I will ask you is, if he needs to solve the problem with a million naira, and you promised him such amount but ended up giving him 500K[i][/i], have you found out if the half-help was enough to take him out of the problems? And i don't want you to be too money conscious, the truth is, you need to assess his present production status and if he's back to his feet.

elantraceey:



It's takes a level of trust to be planning introduction in the first place , that's in two months miss, I won't even think of getting engaged to someone that haven't earned my trust.


Well that's why I said I might be wrong .

Totalman1:
I feel very strongly say d OP Na Igbo lady. That is because Igbo women are more focused on material things than in d relationship itself (personal experience).
Methinks that d guy must bequite PISSED as ur emphasis seemsto be on d loaned moneyy than on him getting. "out of d. woods" financially.
2ndly, 'help' that does not d NEED is no help.

whitetiger511:


it is NOT speculation and no I'm not making sh!t up, real life experiences of people close to me. most of them over 30 and desperate for marriage, once they hear I'll marry you like this-they stop thinking right. once money changes hands; brother starts to misbehave.

I hope op comes back with the concluding story. It's one of two things- the relationship continues with marriage in view while op is being milked, or uncle doesn't answer at all.

supersystemsnig:


Yes, but should that be how a human being should behave? If the lady thinks and imagine the worst, should anyone blame her?

WORLDPEACE:


What you said is exactly what I'm thinking. Small thing don scatter relationship. She go need to continue her search for husband, I guess.

whitetiger511:


it is NOT speculation and no I'm not making sh!t up, real life experiences of people close to me. most of them over 30 and desperate for marriage, once they hear I'll marry you like this-they stop thinking right. once money changes hands; brother starts to misbehave.

I hope op comes back with the concluding story. It's one of two things- the relationship continues with marriage in view while op is being milked, or uncle doesn't answer at all.

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Ginaz:
But the guy didn't try on his part too, for those of you criticizing her but giving lame excuses for the guy are not being fair.

You have the guts to borrow money, not the guts to explain your position? How will she be able to trust him? At least you read where she said she hasn't taken a dime from her man, it shows she is responsible and not the materialistic person who only cares about money.

She worked hard for the money, helped him with it. But look what he did. Not picking her calls and not even feeling bothered to cool her temper. His show of gratitude would have gone a long way.

Let's try to show gratitude abeg, whether man or woman. We should show we appreciate.

Girl run for your life, that man doesn't deserve you. You have a giving heart and it's not bad to help your man when he is in need. His actions doesn't speak of someone worth trusting at all.

Find a way to talk to him to ascertain the reasons for his uncalled actions , if it proved abortive, count the money as a offering to him and move on with your life.

Blackhawk01:


You're wrong. Goodnight

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
.
After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

Blackhawk01:


He fvcked up big time. Op must get her money back oooo.

I don't, I totally disagree. Only an idiot, self - centered person is capable of doing such. I just need you to let me know what's going on and we're cool.

supersystemsnig:


Such can be avoided nae, e easy, don't ask for loan from your wife-to-be....

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.
Haha....Omo Nairaland sweet ooo, see bombardmentation

Maduawuchukwu:


If I can get resort from my wife-to-be then why am I marrying her? For problem?

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

YelloweWest:

I'm telling u! Hungry bastards!

They have no shame. No sense of pride as young men. Back in the day it was every man's goal to be successful.
But know we have young men just looking for every possible means to milk a hard working girl dry.

Just imagine the comments. The op gave her bf 500k with the promise that he will payback.
Since then he stopped taking her calls and is acting up. Isn't it obvious that the guy is a scam?