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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by idoncare440(f): 1:59pm On Sep 25, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
Get a side chick.
Life too short for this kyn stress...
'cause you can be rest assured that she is getting her needs met elsewhere.
It's either that or she was an undercover_lesbian who married you just to save face.
And I don't think any of those options are desirable.
It seems every other aspect of your marriage is working well, so why try to ruin it?
Get a side bish with or without her permission. Wife satisfies your emotional needs, the hoe meets your sexual needs.. It's not adultery, it's called compartmentalization and delegation of duties.
correct guy....mr op this is d best option. dem booku for outside n they re ready to satisfy ur sexual needs as long as u have money to spend. but just remember to always use condom! thank me later

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by ivolt: 1:59pm On Sep 25, 2017
The first step to take is to discuss the issue with your wife and come up with solutions
together.
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Antoeni(m): 2:00pm On Sep 25, 2017
Make use of option B,i expect u to have a back up plan
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by elbaraj001(m): 2:01pm On Sep 25, 2017
[quote author=IamLEGEND1 post=60795037] [i] [b]Get a side chick.
Life too short for this kyn stress...
'cause you can be rest assured that she is getting her needs met elsewhere.
It's either that or she was an undercover_lesbian who married you just to save face.
And I don't think any of those options are desirable.
It seems every other aspect of your marriage is working well, so why try to ruin it?
Get a side bish with or without her permission. Wife satisfies your emotional needs, the hoe meets your sexual needs.. It's not adultery, it's called compartmentalization and delegation of duties.
Hahahahahahahahahhahaha......that's funny but certainly a little sense is in it...
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by lapariah: 2:01pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not. Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!

we are in the same shoe my brother, if u investigate, you will find out that she was circumcised (FGM), this should stop in our society as this is always the result. It as lead to broken marriages and all that. At this point you need to carry your cross, do what seems right to you.

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by FILEBE(m): 2:01pm On Sep 25, 2017
Evaberry:
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senseless. I am sure u are a guy pretending to be a girl.
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by iammolise(m): 2:04pm On Sep 25, 2017
[quote author=Adaumunocha post=60795365]A drop of Spanish fly perhaps? Just to experiment, let's see d outcome.
Don't mind d dude that mentioned side chic o, he's a sworn bachelor.[/quote

cheesy sworn bachelor
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by glossy6(f): 2:05pm On Sep 25, 2017
Evaberry:
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https://www.bellybelly.com.au/men/why-doesnt-she-want-to-have-sex-with-me-after-the-baby/


https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/sexless-marriage/


http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/the-baby-came-but-the-sex-went-many-marriages-fail-in-the-18-months-after-childbirth-often-because-1531894.html

Op read the above articles, you need to try to understand why the sudden change in her mood, it could be from depression or mood swings. your best bet is to communicate and try to see how things can change. don't blame her it might not be her fault

Oh! You ddidn't take paraga today!

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Olabestonic001(m): 2:05pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:


Well...she used to tell me before marriage how sweet I was on bed likewise all my ex, I love pre-intimacy which she enjoyed also, I got even two invites from my ex's after my wedding but I turned them down cos I know its implication. Please as a woman ...what can I do again. Read books on this, "What a woman want in a man" and even joined many online forums

I can confirm to you that sex before marriage is having its toll on her; she's having a sense of déjà vu. You need to walk into her psychology and ensure you guys repent of your sins of sex outside marriage. She's been weighed down heavily by that.
After repentance, probe into her psychology, uninstall her present 'OS' and install your own customized one into her.
NEVER try the porn lane, it will damage your marriage. Rather try prayers and cares. I can vouch for you that sound christian couples have better sex that all the theory up there; cause I am one.

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by goingape1: 2:07pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not. Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!
rape her angry

and tell her you will be getting a side chick and watch how she open her leg like the gate of Jerusalem
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by FILEBE(m): 2:07pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:


You are getting me now, though she's not working but she never lack anything, I credit her account each month with a reasonable amount, even playing recharge cards game with her on WhatsApp, like removing a number and ask her funny question... Just to make things romantic. I guess this is a weapon of devil. I won't commit adulatory


pls, Adultery is not the answer. May i ask how active she was before the kids and some time after the kids? If she was never like this before then something must be wrong somewhere maybe with her body system. You might involve the use of natural medicines or some certain herbal stuffs. I believe natural stuffs have little or no adverse effects if taken right.
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 2:08pm On Sep 25, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
Get a side chick.
Life too short for this kyn stress...
'cause you can be rest assured that she is getting her needs met elsewhere.
It's either that or she was an undercover_lesbian who married you just to save face.
And I don't think any of those options are desirable.
It seems every other aspect of your marriage is working well, so why try to ruin it?
Get a side bish with or without her permission. Wife satisfies your emotional needs, the hoe meets your sexual needs.. It's not adultery, it's called compartmentalization and delegation of duties.

Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by asawanathegreat(m): 2:08pm On Sep 25, 2017
If she hate sex how did u get ur kids with her? Be careful don't ruin ur marriage keep talking to her, she will supply ur demand.
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Maxvasia(m): 2:09pm On Sep 25, 2017
TINALETC3:
Some women dnt naturally like sex, she may b in dat crew. Bt al hope is nt lost, u no Wat she likes na, go extra mile to spoil her wt tins she likes, offer 2 gv her a bath sometimes, during d bath caress her body until u get her down even in d bath. Always go extra mile 2 get her in d mood.
Are u a comedian?
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by FILEBE(m): 2:10pm On Sep 25, 2017
alphaconde:
theres always a bad side of every good thing, deal with urs, my own wife bleeps alot but very lazy upstairs, i am dealing with it

what does that mean?

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by bettyLad(f): 2:11pm On Sep 25, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
Get a side chick.
Life too short for this kyn stress...
'cause you can be rest assured that she is getting her needs met elsewhere.
It's either that or she was an undercover_lesbian who married you just to save face.
And I don't think any of those options are desirable.
It seems every other aspect of your marriage is working well, so why try to ruin it?
Get a side bish with or without her permission. Wife satisfies your emotional needs, the hoe meets your sexual needs.. It's not adultery, it's called compartmentalization and delegation of duties.
Lord have mercy , u just want to ruin this man's home ..at poster pls don't listen to this advice, you ll just ruin your home and spoil things with your hands with the so many karashikas out there ,, most women experience low libido when they start bearing kids and sometimes the fault could b from you , if u can't satisfy her well why bother having sex so that could b a turn off from.her part ..sometimes stress of taking care of the kids and other things can take away the mood from her ..what if she's afraid of getting pregnant ..I stay away from.sex during my ovulation period and when oga complains the next thing u hear is that I'm denying him sex when I know he doesn't like condom and can't do withdrawal .

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by optimus09: 2:11pm On Sep 25, 2017
I just dey laff like hyena inside bus,abeg dont kill me with laff grin grin grin grin.spiritual trick?just be patient i know say e no easy,but u need to know the root cause.if she was raped when young too.[1quote author=victovrry post=60797086]

She hate me watching porn, I have took her to our church pastor and I know how much she respect him, she promised to change but my sister na still same thing. Thinking if this is a spiritual trick to make me commit adultery[/quote]

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Antecote(f): 2:12pm On Sep 25, 2017
Eaberry:
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https://www.bellybelly.com.au/men/why-doesnt-she-want-to-have-sex-with-me-after-the-baby/


https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/sexless-marriage/


http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/the-baby-came-but-the-sex-went-many-marriages-fail-in-the-18-months-after-childbirth-often-because-1531894.html

Op read the above articles, you need to try to understand why the sudden change in her mood, it could be from depression or mood swings. your best bet is to communicate and try to see how things can change. don't blame her it might not be her fault

Lalasticlala, mynd44, evaberry posted a good comment and articles which can help this man and other men like him, and it was hidden, why was it hidden pls? Pls unhide it. A lot of men are going through this just because they don't open threads that doesn't mean it doesn't happen to them and this poster actually helped and gave the best advice. It's very unfair that her comment were hidden.


Op this is the best advice, follow it. My sister was like this, after giving birth she hated sex so much and didn't know why, turns out it was because she was scared of getting pregnant as the labour pains were much for her and she got a lot of tears during labor so she was traumatised and hated the idea of anything sex. It took time and therapy but she was able to get over it.

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by emmyw(m): 2:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:


She's not the type , i have never seen her in such act, she loves me but na this sex of a thing besides I'm a security expert and tracking someone's is very easy for me

Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Maxvasia(m): 2:14pm On Sep 25, 2017
Too many clowns on this thread. Am out
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by okito: 2:15pm On Sep 25, 2017
A number of factors.

Are you meeting her financial needs? if your wife knows you are rich and as such will get overtures from ladies outside, she will be do all she can to keep you to herself only.

Do you satisfy her sexually?If you do, she will be looking forward to the next one. Try to be adventurous too...sex in bathroom, kitchen etc.

Then, you also have to be tactical about it, nice pre sex activities like massage to get her in the mood. Also ensure good hygiene, shower every evening, brush your mouth, you could try body spray too...make yourself attractive.

However, you cant overrule the fact that some women just dont like sex. She may have had a bad experience before or something. Find out and try to offer support. Also women generally have a lower libido than men.

I hate to say this but it is also possible she is attracted to someone else hence doesnt love you anymore. I pray this is not the case.

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by lexy2014: 2:16pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not. Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!
is it that she doesn't like sex or she doesn't like sex with u?
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by shallysgirl: 2:17pm On Sep 25, 2017
Talk to her. Communication remains the best in resolving marital problems.
Probably she is afraid of something, maybe unwanted pregnancy, use of contraceptive, etc.
victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not. Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Pusyiter(m): 2:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
TINALETC3:
Some women dnt naturally like sex, she may b in dat crew. Bt al hope is nt lost, u no Wat she likes na, go extra mile to spoil her wt tins she likes, offer 2 gv her a bath sometimes, during d bath caress her body until u get her down even in d bath. Always go extra mile 2 get her in d mood.

you sound so romantic. I hope na so you be for real life o
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Rukkydelta(f): 2:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
Antecote:



Op this is the best advice, follow it. My sister was like this, after giving birth she hated sex so much and didn't know why, turns out it was because she was scared of getting pregnant as the labour pains were much for her and she got a lot of tears during labor so she was traumatised and hated the idea of anything sex. It took time and therapy but she was able to get over it.

Divay22 and rukkydelta why are you guys harrasing the poor girl for the advice she gave.

Cc: victovrry
Lol
She have modified her comment
Look at what she said before

Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by oluwaahmed: 2:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
Get a side chick.
Life too short for this kyn stress...
'cause you can be rest assured that she is getting her needs met elsewhere.
It's either that or she was an undercover_lesbian who married you just to save face.
And I don't think any of those options are desirable.
It seems every other aspect of your marriage is working well, so why try to ruin it?
Get a side bish with or without her permission. Wife satisfies your emotional needs, the hoe meets your sexual needs.. It's not adultery, it's called compartmentalization and delegation of duties.

U took d words right outa my mouth bruh
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by hokafor(m): 2:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
Some that fell victims to whores in the name of marriage are biting their fingers and counting their loses. U are lucky to get a decent wife. Just get a side chick , but always wear condom. side chicks are desperate to become baby mamas.
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Burgerlomo: 2:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
Get a side chics and ruin your peaceful home, my advice to you is to join the vaseline crew after all U don get pikin so hurry up the membership is still open and to join is free grin

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Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 2:20pm On Sep 25, 2017
victovrry:
My wife is a good and I can call her a virtuous woman but she won't give me sex when needed, though we have male and female kids ...please what can I do again? Tried all I have read online and even attends seminals together just to make her change but she did not. Please I'm not saying this to paint her black but that is only one aspect I wish she could change.

Advise please !!!

I feel for you. Some women become this way especially after child bearing. So sorry, i don't know what it feels like to be in your shoes...

May God help you
Re: My Wife Is A Good Woman But Hates Sex After Marriage by megastu(m): 2:21pm On Sep 25, 2017
Dont vouch.

You go shock when it hits you like a Log.

However, take advice granted.I think her desires for you have diminished so bad that you really need to work on your self. Also she might want some kinky, rough sex while you are there thinking that as a "virtous" woman, you need to be very gentle with her.

Try spanish fly as suggested.

Good luck.
victovrry:


She's not the type , i have never seen her in such act, she loves me but na this sex of a thing besides I'm a security expert and tracking someone's is very easy for me

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