Slowvenom:


Are you ok?

Melodyz:
It's a very long story but let me cut it short

Back in my secondary days my sister got married to a man from Imo state, within two years they gave birth to two beautiful daughters (twins), few months after giving birth the husband was diagnosed with eye cancer, which after much treatment he passed away.

The families of the man refused my sister of everything, they went as far as telling her to go away with the kids, that they are evil, that they want nothing to do with her and the children. So she came back home, my parents tried everything possible to resolve the issue but to no avail, so we accepted the kids as ours, they even started bearing our last name.

Few years later a man asked for my sister's hand in marriage, like two to three years into the marriage she gave birth to a boy and a girl, by then I was already schooling in UNN and I normally don't travel back home constantly. She calls at times to ask how I was doing and sometimes complains of how her husband doesn't bring money for anything in the house, that she is the one that pays for everything concerning the kids schooling, that she can count the number of times her husband brings money for paying of rent and for feeding.

She reported him to his people but nothing was done, after much complaining she said she's not interested in the marriage anymore, some of our family members advise her not to leave the marriage that is not right via her being married before, but she refused, that she can't be the man in the house by taking care of everything that they (the husband and her) should be doing together. So she went ahead to rent her own apartment and brought along her the two kids, few months after moving out her husband was evicted for failing to pay his rent.

I graduated this year and decided to go visit her and from there find something doing before I leave for service, on my reaching there I asked her what is happening via her marriage, she told me that since she moved here her husband has never for once asked of the kids, even to send money for their upkeep he has not done it, so out of anger he sent his son to him as he is the eldest, to take care of him.

Since I got to her house there is this guy that visits her and calls her constantly, she even visits him almost if not every night.

I want to talk to her about it, so everyone in the house please what can I do? Should I stay mute or not? If not, what should I tell her?

TreasuredLeidy:
What has she done to make the man a better husband? If she cnt do anything to make her marriage work, then She should divorce properly if she doesn't want to b tagged a B*tch.. What insolence
@op, talk sense into her head, i cnt believe a graduate is asking this question.

Melodyz:



Do you feel that Is the appropriate thing to do?

nrexzy:

I thought d marriage vow is for better for worst...

sKy007:
The man could not even pay his rent which means that he is seriously financially handicap, therefore for the wife to leave him at such instances shows that she is not understanding

Benita27:
What was the so called husband expecting when he failed to be responsible to his wife and kids?. As far as I'm concerned, they stopped being married long ago, perhaps you think she's still married 'cause they've not divorced legally. That being said, if you're concerned about her life I'm sure she'll ask you to mind your business 'cause she's an adult.

TreasuredLeidy:
What has she done to make the man a better husband? If she cnt do anything to make her marriage work, then She should divorce properly if she doesn't want to b tagged a B*tch.. What insolence
@op, talk sense into her head, i cnt believe a graduate is asking this question.

Amberon11:
So doesn't the African culture say that men should be the breadwinners? Or are you a hypocrite?

victorazyvictor:


Well I don't know your background o or how u were brought up, but for me I think the woman has no love.

Nobody is perfect and woman primary objective in marriage is supporter "helper" moral, spiritual, financial or whatever. has she found out the man's problem? only what she is after is to sleep around. every woman is not a wife material. ashawo will always be ashawo.

I use myself as an example, my woman is indeed my super woman. when I had nothing she kept encouraging me to move on no mater and today I can't make decisions without consulting her, buying her a private jet won't even be enough to compare the height of encouragement she gave me when I was nothing.

Amberon11:
Its obvious you were raised by a lipstick wearing goat.

keepingmum:
But shes already separated from the man....shes shouldering the responsibilities of x2 men by herself and you are still criticising her.
Did she spend the brideprice or waa it not ur folks the money was paid to?
Your family should gather the brideprice and refund it to the man if you are that bothered.
[/b]Instead of you gossiping about your sister on the net you people should be querying why a full grown man cannot look after himself and one child[b]. Hes not even responsible for his daughter yet you want your sister ro return to him.
By law, they are separated and whatever shes doing isnt cheating....the irresponsible man has money for cigs and drinks but not for books for his only son!!
And there are male species on this thread supporting that behaviour?
If you must seak to ur sis then address that irresponsibility first as thats the cause of the symptoms your sister is displaying today.....otherwise mind your business....

sholajigga:


I guess it has changed ooo. It’s now for better or I run away.

Benita27:
What was the so called husband expecting when he failed to be responsible to his wife and kids?. As far as I'm concerned, they stopped being married long ago, perhaps you think she's still married 'cause they've not divorced legally. That being said, if you're concerned about her life I'm sure she'll ask you to mind your business 'cause she's an adult.

okerekeikpo:
I'm not saying ur sister is an olosho o but she should try n change

victorazyvictor:


Well I don't know your background o or how u were brought up, but for me I think the woman has no love.

Nobody is perfect and woman primary objective in marriage is supporter "helper" moral, spiritual, financial or whatever. has she found out the man's problem? only what she is after is to sleep around. every woman is not a wife material. ashawo will always be ashawo.

I use myself as an example, my woman is indeed my super woman. when I had nothing she kept encouraging me to move on no mater and today I can't make decisions without consulting her, buying her a private jet won't even be enough to compare the height of encouragement she gave me when I was nothing.

nrexzy:

I thought d marriage vow is for better for worst...

sKy007:
The man could not even pay his rent which means that he is seriously financially handicap, therefore for the wife to leave him at such instances shows that she is not understanding

snowblaq:


Yes it is for better or worse... But a stupid man cannot purposely use that to hold you to ransome.... If the man refuses to change... Then separation is adviced.... Maybe that would clear his head enough to have a rethink....

TreasuredLeidy:
What has she done to make the man a better husband? If she cnt do anything to make her marriage work, then She should divorce properly if she doesn't want to b tagged a B*tch.. What insolence
@op, talk sense into her head, i cnt believe a graduate is asking this question.

Ojemedad:


So a graduate should be Mr. know it all?

your brain self!

elfeezy:

Come what has graduate got to do with this? does been a graduate a guaranty to solving any problem??mtchww
simple advise will do jare

Benita27:
What was the so called husband expecting when he failed to be responsible to his wife and kids?. As far as I'm concerned, they stopped being married long ago, perhaps you think she's still married 'cause they've not divorced legally. That being said, if you're concerned about her life I'm sure she'll ask you to mind your business 'cause she's an adult.

Amberon11:
You seem to be dyslexic. What part of the article suggests that the woman disregards the well being of her children? Na wa for your train of thought.

TreasuredLeidy:

A lady asking this question, so if u were d one, u don't knw what to do or u will also run away like d woman?. OK o

pweetiedee:


You for just advise.

You didn't have to type this.

People learn every day. I asked u a simple question.

Greenbullet:
Nobody should insult the woman, it is not easy to take care of a child talk less of 4 , why are men this useless, you can't even pay house rent but you can drink crates of beer , all dis small boys on this thread go dey curse the woman , when una still dey collect allowance.