Hey guys, I have a problem and it's been bothering me for some time now.

I find it hard to cry or feel sad when something bad happens. I feel bad when terrible things happen but I don't feel sad. A cousin I was close to died and my whole family was in tears but I felt nothing, I was shocked by his death but I wasn't sad.

Same thing happened when my aunt and a very friendly church member died, I felt bad for them and their families but I didn't feel sad and I didn't shed a single tear. I'm also fond of pushing people away, I don't like having friends. I ignore messages and calls from people who aren't part of my immediate family. I'm beginning to think that I'm a sociopath, please what do you guys think?

No insults please, just helpful suggestions.

you're a beautiful sociopath

but seriously, you're like any normal being. most don't cry because life has pushed them too far. you feel bad, yeah but not to a point it leads to depression.

A very beautiful sociopath indeed!!

On a serious note, you should be concerned about depression setting in...

What you have to do talk about the bad things with people and appreciate the fact that they are really bad stuffs and try to be open to friendships and relationships at least to the point of your tolerance and comfort.

A sociopath wouldn't be worried by this, he/she would just be curious and mildly intrigued. The fact that you seem worried that you might have a problem diminishes the possibility of you being a sociopath. Except of course if this whole "I am worried that I might be a sociopath" thing is just an act.

Not having friends and preferring to spend time alone doesn't actually make one a sociopath, it's just a characteristic of introversion, and there can be sociopaths who are introverted as well as extroverted. The difference however between a sociopath who is introverted and an ordinary introvert, is that a sociopath can alter his personality to one of a typical extrovert just to present a persona that helps him or her to achieve a goal. So an introverted sociopath who hates keeping friends can easily pretend to be outgoing, friendly or charismatic when meeting someone or people he aims to manipulate, use or gain something from, and he can keep the act for as long as he needs to, but when he has gotten what he wants, he immediately reverts to his default personality.

Being indifferent when people close to you die is a marker of a lack of empathy which is a primary trait of sociopathy, but although a lack of empathy is a defining trait of sociopathy, it's not restricted to sociopaths. People who are autistic also have a hard time expressing emotions in these kind of situations due to an extreme lack of understanding social cues and responding appropriately to them.

To be honest, I really don't think you are a sociopath. If you are one, then you are an extremely unintelligent one and you won't be able to function or thrive in today's society. No sociopath would ask this kind of question with an online profile that has her picture, the link to her blog which also has her name on it, and the name of her university. The power and effectiveness of a sociopath rests in the fact that they are able to navigate the world by presenting themselves as what they are not and this power is lost when people know what they are. No sociopath wants anyone to know that they are sociopaths.

The best part is that you have actually been able to figure something is amiss. With that said, your behaviour could indeed be sociopathic but that would be hasty and conclusive.

You might be suffering from a rare medical condition called Familial Dysautonomia (FD), or Riley-Day Syndrome which would prevent the necessary reflex to form tears, which results in crying without tears. FD is very rare and it would be too hasty to also conclude that you are suffering from it.

That you didn't cry over the loss of loved ones could also be as a result of shock. Your body might have been sent it quite fast that you could not let out tears.

Another could be an autoimmune disease called Sjögren's syndrome which affects glands that produce moisture in the body such as tear ducts.

For the other behaviours you mention, they point towards sociopathy but then again, it's just an assumption at the moment.

I would suggest you see a Psychologist. Stay safe.

gsainttrinity:
A very beautiful sociopath indeed!!

On a serious note, you should be concerned about depression setting in...

What you have to do talk about the bad things with people and appreciate the fact that they are really bad stuffs and try to be open to friendships and relationships at least to the point of your tolerance and comfort.

Complementing the physical attributes of someone who might be a sociopath in hopes of getting on her good side isn't a smart thing to do. If you are looking for a girl to befriend, date, have sex with or marry, it's safer if you consider someone normal. It's for your own good.

Sanchez01:
The best part is that you have actually been able to figure something is amiss. With that said, your behaviour could indeed be sociopathic but that would be hasty and conclusive.

You might be suffering from a rare medical condition called Familial Dysautonomia (FD), or Riley-Day Syndrome which would prevent the necessary reflex to form tears, which results in crying without tears. FD is very rare and it would be too hasty to also conclude that you are suffering from it.

That you didn't cry over the loss of loved ones could also be as a result of shock. Your body might have been sent it quite fast that you could not let out tears.

Another could be an autoimmune disease called Sjögren's syndrome which affects glands that produce moisture in the body such as tear ducts.

For the other behaviours you mention, they point towards sociopathy but then again, it's just an assumption at the moment.

I would suggest you see a Psychologist. Stay safe.

You just quickly googled this right? Don't lie. I'm not stupid.

TeekayCarter:
you're a beautiful sociopath

but seriously, you're like any normal being. most don't cry because life has pushed them too far. you feel bad, yeah but not to a point it leads to depression.

gsainttrinity:
A very beautiful sociopath indeed!!

On a serious note, you should be concerned about depression setting in...

What you have to do talk about the bad things with people and appreciate the fact that they are really bad stuffs and try to be open to friendships and relationships at least to the point of your tolerance and comfort.

Wazlax:
A sociopath wouldn't be worried by this, he/she would just be curious and mildly intrigued. The fact that you seem worried that you might have a problem diminishes the possibility of you being a sociopath. Except of course if this whole "I am worried that I might be a sociopath" thing is just an act.

Not having friends and preferring to spend time alone doesn't actually make one a sociopath, it's just a characteristic of introversion, and there can be sociopaths who are introverted as well as extroverted. The difference however between a sociopath who is introverted and an ordinary introvert, is that a sociopath can alter his personality to one of a typical extrovert just to present a persona that helps him or her to achieve a goal. So an introverted sociopath who hates keeping friends can easily pretend to be outgoing, friendly or charismatic when meeting someone or people he aims to manipulate, use or gain something from, and he can keep the act for as long as he needs to, but when he has gotten what he wants, he immediately reverts to his default personality.

Not crying when people close to you die is a marker of a lack of empathy which is a primary trait of sociopathy, but although a lack of empathy is a defining trait of sociopathy, it's not restricted to sociopaths. People who are autistic also have a hard time expressing emotions in these kind of situations due to an extreme lack of understanding social cues and responding appropriately to them.

To be honest, I really don't think you are a sociopath. If you are one, then you are an extremely unintelligent one and you won't be able to function or thrive in today's society. No sociopath would ask this kind of question with an online profile that has her picture, the link to her blog which also has her name on it, and the name of her university. The power and effectiveness of a sociopath rests in the fact that they are able to navigate the world by presenting themselves as what they are not and this power is lost when people know what they are. No sociopath wants anyone to know that they are sociopaths.

TeekayCarter:
you're a beautiful sociopath

but seriously, you're like any normal being. most don't cry because life has pushed them too far. you feel bad, yeah but not to a point it leads to depression.

Sanchez01:
The best part is that you have actually been able to figure something is amiss. With that said, your behaviour could indeed be sociopathic but that would be hasty and conclusive.

You might be suffering from a rare medical condition called Familial Dysautonomia (FD), or Riley-Day Syndrome which would prevent the necessary reflex to form tears, which results in crying without tears. FD is very rare and it would be too hasty to also conclude that you are suffering from it.

That you didn't cry over the loss of loved ones could also be as a result of shock. Your body might have been sent it quite fast that you could not let out tears.

Another could be an autoimmune disease called Sjögren's syndrome which affects glands that produce moisture in the body such as tear ducts.

For the other behaviours you mention, they point towards sociopathy but then again, it's just an assumption at the moment.

I would suggest you see a Psychologist. Stay safe.

TeekayCarter:
you're a beautiful sociopath

but seriously, you're like any normal being. most don't cry because life has pushed them too far. you feel bad, yeah but not to a point it leads to depression.

Thanks, I found your comments quite helpful.

Hw much r u gonna pay me to think for you?

Wazlax:


Complementing the physical attributes of someone who might be a sociopath in hopes of getting on her good side isn't a smart thing to do. If you are looking for a girl to befriend, date, have sex with or marry, it's safer if you consider someone normal. It's for your own good.

No, no.. I was not complementing her to get her attention. She is truly beautiful. And I have have a girlfriend whom I love and is also as beautiful.

I believe she is normal anyway.. At least she has not given any cause for alarm that might scare me or anyone.

Personally, I have a little trait of dulled empathy too and it nothing serious.

Mhizgracie01:
Thanks, I found your comments quite helpful.

I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

Wazlax:


I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

Are you a sociopath?

You sound questionable.

gsainttrinity:


No, no.. I was not complementing her to get her attention. She is truly beautiful. And I have have a girlfriend whom I love and is also as beautiful.

I believe she is normal anyway.. At least she has not given any cause for alarm that might scare me or anyone.

Personally, I have a little trait of dulled empathy too and it nothing serious.

Dulled empathy. Hmm. How does a case of dulled empathy differ from the lack of empathy that's commonly associated with sociopathy?

Wazlax:


I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

she's not a sociopath, she's just looking for a cool name to tag her twisted feelings.

gsainttrinity:


Are you a sociopath?

You sound questionable.

Psychopath is my preferred terminology. Although both terms are used interchangeably these days.

Wazlax:


I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

I actually found your comment more helpful than the others and I would have quoted all of you separately but I was feeling quite lazy, don't be offended.

Mhizgracie01:
I actually found your comment more helpful than the others and I would have quoted all of you separately but I was feeling quite lazy, don't be offended.

I'm not offended.

Wazlax:
A sociopath wouldn't be worried by this, he/she would just be curious and mildly intrigued. The fact that you seem worried that you might have a problem diminishes the possibility of you being a sociopath. Except of course if this whole "I am worried that I might be a sociopath" thing is just an act.

Not having friends and preferring to spend time alone doesn't actually make one a sociopath, it's just a characteristic of introversion, and there can be sociopaths who are introverted as well as extroverted. The difference however between a sociopath who is introverted and an ordinary introvert, is that a sociopath can alter his personality to one of a typical extrovert just to present a persona that helps him or her to achieve a goal. So an introverted sociopath who hates keeping friends can easily pretend to be outgoing, friendly or charismatic when meeting someone or people he aims to manipulate, use or gain something from, and he can keep the act for as long as he needs to, but when he has gotten what he wants, he immediately reverts to his default personality.

Not crying when people close to you die is a marker of a lack of empathy which is a primary trait of sociopathy, but although a lack of empathy is a defining trait of sociopathy, it's not restricted to sociopaths. People who are autistic also have a hard time expressing emotions in these kind of situations due to an extreme lack of understanding social cues and responding appropriately to them.

To be honest, I really don't think you are a sociopath. If you are one, then you are an extremely unintelligent one and you won't be able to function or thrive in today's society. No sociopath would ask this kind of question with an online profile that has her picture, the link to her blog which also has her name on it, and the name of her university. The power and effectiveness of a sociopath rests in the fact that they are able to navigate the world by presenting themselves as what they are not and this power is lost when people know what they are. No sociopath wants anyone to know that they are sociopaths.

You are right.

That's the traits of a typical sociopath .

Wazlax:


I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

I smell pride.

TeekayCarter:


I smell pride.

Smell whatever you like.

Mhizgracie01:
I actually found your comment more helpful than the others and I would have quoted all of you separately but I was feeling quite lazy, don't be offended.

oh Really Well, I hope this helped you reach an enlightened level as the supposed helper.

Sanchez01:
The best part is that you have actually been able to figure something is amiss. With that said, your behaviour could indeed be sociopathic but that would be hasty and conclusive.

You might be suffering from a rare medical condition called Familial Dysautonomia (FD), or Riley-Day Syndrome which would prevent the necessary reflex to form tears, which results in crying without tears. FD is very rare and it would be too hasty to also conclude that you are suffering from it.

That you didn't cry over the loss of loved ones could also be as a result of shock. Your body might have been sent it quite fast that you could not let out tears.

Another could be an autoimmune disease called Sjögren's syndrome which affects glands that produce moisture in the body such as tear ducts.

For the other behaviours you mention, they point towards sociopathy but then again, it's just an assumption at the moment.

I would suggest you see a Psychologist.

Hian, so na only one person get all these

its good that you're aware of ur attitude, its a good start .

ur attitude towards people might be perceived as pride ,it may actually be pride which you have to work on .try to see people as equal and don't feel too big to do anything.

you can start by being more open to people around you ,try to make new friends and free you from yourself.

As for not being emotional or empathic, you can start by investing your emotions in something or someone and see how far it goes . Also read books ,especially tragic ones or any other type that will make you want to connect.

My fear is that when someone like you loves ,it goes beyond extreme.

Marshalxv:
its good that you're aware of ur attitude, its a good start .

ur attitude towards people might be perceived as pride ,it may actually be pride which you have to work on .try to see people as equal and don't feel too big to do anything.

you can start by being more open to people around you ,try to make new friends and free you from yourself.

As for not being emotional or empathic, you can start by investing your emotions in something or someone and see how far it goes . Also read books ,especially tragic ones or any other type that will make you want to connect.

My fear is that when someone like you loves ,it goes beyond extreme.

Thank you very much,i like your suggestions. I'll do my best to work on my attitude.

You just need to get laid. You'll be alright.

Mhizgracie01:
Thank you very much,i like your suggestions. I'll do my best to work on my attitude.

Before you take his advice, let's clarify on a few things, so you don't waste your time doing stuff that won't work. Besides a lack of empathy, which other trait do you exhibit that suggests sociopathy?

Wazlax:


Before you take his advice, let's clarify on a few things, so you don't waste your time doing stuff that won't work. Besides a lack of empathy, which other trait do you exhibit that suggests sociopathy?

I like keeping to myself but maybe that's just introversion like someone mentioned earlier. I have like three good friends tho, I met all of them in secondary school.

Ishilove:

Hian, so na only one person get all these

Not necessarily.

Just listing some possible wrongs, beyond sociopathy.

How have you been, Sweetness?

You've been super rare

Wait till someone breaks your heart, see if you won't cry.

Mhizgracie01:
I like keeping to myself but maybe that's just introversion like someone mentioned earlier. I have like three good friends tho, I met all of them in secondary school.

How do you feel when you deliberately harm someone? How often do you lie? Do you feel guilt when you lie? Are you manipulative? Do you feel love towards people?

Chybeibe:
Wait till someone breaks your heart, see if you won't cry.

Wazlax:


How do you feel when you deliberately harm someone? How often do you lie? Do you feel guilt when you lie? Are you manipulative? Do you feel love towards people?

I don't deliberately harm people and I only lie when I know that saying the truth might get me into trouble. I feel love for people but I don't help strangers unless they ask for my help, when I see someone in need of help, I feel the urge to help them but because I have problems approaching/relating with people, I just wait for them to ask me instead of offering to help. I don't think I'm manipulative although people usually find it hard to say no to me because of my face. I'm good in most areas, I'm just not good at relating with people/making friends, and I'm not emotional.