OpsMoniker:
I met a lady in her late twenties on Facebook around July 2015. We started chatting and calling until January 2016 when she agreed to pay me a visit because we reside in different states. Everything was moving smoothly until the thought of marriage started flooding her mind. I told her that I would have loved to marry her but I am not financially stable yet, she said no problem that she will manage with me. She persuaded me to meet with her parents which I did around February 2017. After the first meeting with the parents she started worrying me again that I should come for introduction and collection of marriage list. I told her I am not yet ready but she wouldn't let me rest, at last I agreed and fixed a date for the introduction. I bought all the drinks they requested and also paid for the list. By then she started visiting me, she will visit and never want to go back unless I ask her to go on the ground that we are not fully married. Around March 2017 she said she will like us to spend Easter holiday together so that I will use the opportunity to introduce her to my parents I said ok. We went and my people accepted her. Then we travelled back to our various base. Around June 2017 she started again, asking me to fix date for the wedding which I objected that I can't just fix date without adequate financial preparation. It's not as if she is going to support me financially, I am the one footing all the bill because she's not working. This is where the problem started, she gave me ultimatum to fix a date for wedding or she will park her things and start leaving with me prior to when I am ready to do the wedding. I refused outrightly that she must remain in his parents house. Without my notice she parked her things and came to my base, after spending like 1 month I asked her to go back to her base that we can't continue staying together when we're not fully married. She refused but later left with annoyance. When she left, different thoughts started flooding my mind. I never wanted to marry a full time house wife. I've jokingly told her to get a job but she refused with the excuse that she prefer business but there is no capital to establish any for her. I now told her instead of keeping her waiting that if sees someone else that is interested that she should go ahead but she said no. That she must wait for me even if it is in the next 5yrs that I must Marry her. She threatened over her dead body will she Marry another man. What do I do to get this lady off my neck.

dayo2me:
is she a wife material?

do you love her like she does?

don't make her commit suicide, she promised to wait even if it takes 5years.

such a lady is rare, if you let her go, yourself at one point will regret it. you may likely not going to see a lady of her type.

be wise in your decision, out of nothing you both can make a life.



although, she sounds desperate you can let her know what marriage entails, tell her we don't have to rush in so we won't rush out.

#justsaying

Nwodosis:
Bros, aside the fact that you are financially handicapped, you didn't tell us the real truth my guy, the truth is that YOU DON'T LOVE HER!
Any relationship that the woman is more in love hardly lead to marriage and that's why the babe is taking all these humiliations from you.The next thing, you will term her being desperate but you weren't more desperate in climbing her for pleasures?

yeyerolling:
Desperation for marriage nowadays ehn.

MissWrite:
People always say women are indecisive, but here you are. You've been stringing her along for all this time when it seems clear you were never really planning on marrying this girl. Marriage is a sensitive issue, especially where women are concerned (due to age and social pressure). You should have been clean and clear about your position instead of letting yourself be cajoled into buying drinks and collecting the list. By the way, who does that without first introducing the girl to his parents? I don't support marriage between two people when they aren't both in accord, so you'll have to find a way to disengage yourself some how; but, with your indecision, you've already bought yourself the matter of a woman scorned, so you might as well just tell her plainly that you are no longer interested.

OpsMoniker:
I met a lady in her late twenties on Facebook around July 2015. We started chatting and calling until January 2016 when she agreed to pay me a visit because we reside in different states. Everything was moving smoothly until the thought of marriage started flooding her mind. I told her that I would have loved to marry her but I am not financially stable yet, she said no problem that she will manage with me. She persuaded me to meet with her parents which I did around February 2017. After the first meeting with the parents she started worrying me again that I should come for introduction and collection of marriage list. I told her I am not yet ready but she wouldn't let me rest, at last I agreed and fixed a date for the introduction. I bought all the drinks they requested and also paid for the list. By then she started visiting me, she will visit and never want to go back unless I ask her to go on the ground that we are not fully married. Around March 2017 she said she will like us to spend Easter holiday together so that I will use the opportunity to introduce her to my parents I said ok. We went and my people accepted her. Then we travelled back to our various base. Around June 2017 she started again, asking me to fix date for the wedding which I objected that I can't just fix date without adequate financial preparation. It's not as if she is going to support me financially, I am the one footing all the bill because she's not working. This is where the problem started, she gave me ultimatum to fix a date for wedding or she will park her things and start leaving with me prior to when I am ready to do the wedding. I refused outrightly that she must remain in his parents house. Without my notice she parked her things and came to my base, after spending like 1 month I asked her to go back to her base that we can't continue staying together when we're not fully married. She refused but later left with annoyance. When she left, different thoughts started flooding my mind. I never wanted to marry a full time house wife. I've jokingly told her to get a job but she refused with the excuse that she prefer business but there is no capital to establish any for her. I now told her instead of keeping her waiting that if sees someone else that is interested that she should go ahead but she said no. That she must wait for me even if it is in the next 5yrs that I must Marry her. She threatened over her dead body will she Marry another man. What do I do to get this lady off my neck.

OpsMoniker:
I met a lady in her late twenties on Facebook around July 2015. We started chatting and calling until January 2016 when she agreed to pay me a visit because we reside in different states. Everything was moving smoothly until the thought of marriage started flooding her mind. I told her that I would have loved to marry her but I am not financially stable yet, she said no problem that she will manage with me. She persuaded me to meet with her parents which I did around February 2017. After the first meeting with the parents she started worrying me again that I should come for introduction and collection of marriage list. I told her I am not yet ready but she wouldn't let me rest, at last I agreed and fixed a date for the introduction. I bought all the drinks they requested and also paid for the list. By then she started visiting me, she will visit and never want to go back unless I ask her to go on the ground that we are not fully married. Around March 2017 she said she will like us to spend Easter holiday together so that I will use the opportunity to introduce her to my parents I said ok. We went and my people accepted her. Then we travelled back to our various base. Around June 2017 she started again, asking me to fix date for the wedding which I objected that I can't just fix date without adequate financial preparation. It's not as if she is going to support me financially, I am the one footing all the bill because she's not working. This is where the problem started, she gave me ultimatum to fix a date for wedding or she will park her things and start leaving with me prior to when I am ready to do the wedding. I refused outrightly that she must remain in his parents house. Without my notice she parked her things and came to my base, after spending like 1 month I asked her to go back to her base that we can't continue staying together when we're not fully married. She refused but later left with annoyance. When she left, different thoughts started flooding my mind. I never wanted to marry a full time house wife. I've jokingly told her to get a job but she refused with the excuse that she prefer business but there is no capital to establish any for her. I now told her instead of keeping her waiting that if sees someone else that is interested that she should go ahead but she said no. That she must wait for me even if it is in the next 5yrs that I must Marry her. She threatened over her dead body will she Marry another man. What do I do to get this lady off my neck.

OpsMoniker:
I met a lady in her late twenties on Facebook around July 2015. We started chatting and calling until January 2016 when she agreed to pay me a visit because we reside in different states. Everything was moving smoothly until the thought of marriage started flooding her mind. I told her that I would have loved to marry her but I am not financially stable yet, she said no problem that she will manage with me. She persuaded me to meet with her parents which I did around February 2017. After the first meeting with the parents she started worrying me again that I should come for introduction and collection of marriage list. I told her I am not yet ready but she wouldn't let me rest, at last I agreed and fixed a date for the introduction. I bought all the drinks they requested and also paid for the list. By then she started visiting me, she will visit and never want to go back unless I ask her to go on the ground that we are not fully married. Around March 2017 she said she will like us to spend Easter holiday together so that I will use the opportunity to introduce her to my parents I said ok. We went and my people accepted her. Then we travelled back to our various base. Around June 2017 she started again, asking me to fix date for the wedding which I objected that I can't just fix date without adequate financial preparation. It's not as if she is going to support me financially, I am the one footing all the bill because she's not working. This is where the problem started, she gave me ultimatum to fix a date for wedding or she will park her things and start leaving with me prior to when I am ready to do the wedding. I refused outrightly that she must remain in his parents house. Without my notice she parked her things and came to my base, after spending like 1 month I asked her to go back to her base that we can't continue staying together when we're not fully married. She refused but later left with annoyance. When she left, different thoughts started flooding my mind. I never wanted to marry a full time house wife. I've jokingly told her to get a job but she refused with the excuse that she prefer business but there is no capital to establish any for her. I now told her instead of keeping her waiting that if sees someone else that is interested that she should go ahead but she said no. That she must wait for me even if it is in the next 5yrs that I must Marry her. She threatened over her dead body will she Marry another man. What do I do to get this lady off my neck.