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Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by wristbangle: 5:39pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
It is an undeniable truth that women have faced countless brutal forms of marital and institutionalised discrimination since time immemorial and in all sorts of cultural settings such as inability to vote, deprivation from access to education, employment, pursuing of career, etc. Feminism has been singularly responsible for redressing these deep sexist social injustice. All these are good moves right? Yes I think. Cc: Lalasticlala 8 Likes 7 Shares
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Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by tosyne2much(m): 5:40pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by JamesReacher(m): 5:44pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Ok Ok Ok. Where the educated ones get it all wrong is trying to bring feminism in the home. This is a recipe for disaster because feminism only sweets the mouth in the outside world, conventions, corporate field, Girl power gathering, a theme in a novel, movies etc. The moment any educated lady bring the idiosyncrasy inside the home, she's a lost cause. You know why? Because love is not meant to be analysed and dissected like a business contract, technically its a contract in terms of your certificate but when it comes to responsibilities pls don't say 50 50, don't start drawing up legal ideas, 'I alone paid the children's school fees this term'. So what? If there's love and it's sufficient all these won't matter. A mother can work like a slave for the house, she can act like an housemaid sef she carries out her responsibility out of pure love, don't u guys remember when your mum acted like a fool sometimes for the family during turbulent times? Look at the reward now, I know it could be detrimental but that's not how every family stories eventually moulded up to be . A feminist might have problem with this because of false ego of self, social status, calm down my dear. The moment those responsibilities are dissected, there's a problem. I have problems with the mentality of most Nigerian girls I won't lie because in all honesty, the ones who want marriages are the ones who want it more even than the male counterpart, they dream of an elaborate white wedding and a big shiny rock on their hands but won't withstand the turbulences of marriage. How farrrr na But Men, we sef no dey try at times oo, we dey Bleep up scatter!! you guys should be a better lover, respect your wife, love her right and be a good husband. We are here for each other. If you know you are prone to anger easily, domestic violence, cheating etc. See a therapist now o. Don't destroy your marriage with that and start opening thread ' a nairalander needs advice...' I won't be online to answer u lol 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by henrylowe(m): 5:45pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Who wan even carry feminist put for house? My mama no display feminism with my papa so why I go open my eyes marry one nonsense ladies with over bloated ego 5 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by shaybebaby(f): 5:46pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Yawn!! What a load of waffle. 2 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by concupiscent: 5:48pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
"nature placed man at a position of authority, with it comes great challenges,therein comes the woman to help and counsel him. Submission is not slavery or a burden you just have to know your place, carry and perfect your obligations with love. Men you have to see women as the treasure they truly are, respect love and protect her. Always seek her opinions and thank her for them even when you don't support. Do these and the society would be a better place for all" -concupiscent 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by madridguy(m): 5:50pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by henrylowe(m): 5:50pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
This is one of the best article I have read this week. I just hope Lalasticlala will push this to the front page. That was how I meet a lady I was actually considering to date until she started telling me I can't do this for a guy, I can't do that. Always wanting to give me orders. I just had to back out to save myself from unnecessary drama 5 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Blackhawk01: 5:50pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Not again! Yadayadayada... 9 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by xendra: 6:02pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
more men should be taught how to lead right and you'll soon find that most women have no problem submitting. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:02pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by tosyne2much(m): 6:04pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
KreativGenius:[i] What's your opinion on the subject matter I |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by xendra: 6:04pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
concupiscent:gbam!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:04pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
wristbangle: This cracked me up oP. You no well The most surprising thing is that when you ask them what feminism truly stands for, they will begin to tell you about how they want to assume a position which they are not even qualified for; how they want to get admission into Unilag or OAU with just 65 in JAMB |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:04pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
tosyne2much: My opinio. I'll check in 45minutes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by pocohantas(f): 6:04pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Although the husband is head of the home, but he is not superior to his wife. The wife submits to his final word but that doesn't mean she is not inferior to her husband. They are equal. . Paradox!!! Why would you marry a full grown human, with a functional brain and expect her to always submit to your final words? I agree to a man being the head of the home, but dominating is too strong a word. I'm all for mutual respect Everybody should marry his or her kinda partner, life would be easier. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by wristbangle: 6:07pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
concupiscent: You nailed it well bro. I totally agree with your comment. Permit me to digress a little bit, the mentioned words "protect & respect" in your comment has been miscalculated by some ladies who perceive guys with such traits as a weakling. 2 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:11pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Here's your reply : I could have preferred if the write up was broken down so it would make it more readable. So many ideas were not conveyed explicitly, but we need to appreciate deal breakers, whether in business or relationships. By this i mean factors that would impede success in these alliances. If some of these factors are imbibed in the belief systems of our practices, then we need to do careful evaluation and make necessary corrections. This means some of the systems we imbibe and want to use in the running of our lives may not be without flaws, they need to be carefully examined and flaws have to be identified, if more damage is done by a belief system than good, then it's a faulty logic. I'll stop here ! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by makydebbie(f): 6:12pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Blackhawk01:Chai this my sister is now a feminist. 1 Like |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Blackhawk01: 6:14pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
concupiscent: Your Mama born you... 1 Like |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:14pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Hahaha. Ayam not understanding. Jenifer Lopez "AIN'T YOUR MAMA" I ain't gon' be cooking all day, I ain't your mama I ain't gon' do your laundry, I ain't your mama I ain't your mama, boy, I ain't your mama When you're gon' get your act together? I ain't your mama No ooooh, I ain't your mama No ooooh, I ain't your mama, no .................................... You see, the thing is, there are men who believe it is their wife's duty and role, BY VIRTUE OF HER GENDER, to tidy the house, wash their clothes, and cook delicious delicacies for them. And there are women who agree with this. They're many. Both men and women in this category believe that it is what the women MUST do! There are others, male and female, who believe that it's a matter of CHOICE and what the couples agree upon, and all preconceptions about fixed and traditional gender roles should be consigned into the dustbin. Anyone can tidy the house, any one can wash, any one can cook---it depends on who is free, and who has the strength, or who wants to, at that time, or whatever. Can you wash your wife's clothes, tidy the house, and cook? Do you consider these your DUTIES as much as hers? If not, you belong to category one. Look for a lady who is your kind of person, and marry her. Simple. If you believe that no one should be solely responsible for these chores, that it's your COLLECTIVE duty, that belonging to a particular gender doesn't automatically make them someone's MANDATORY responsibilities, then you belong to category two. Look for your kind of person, and marry her. You won't have problems. Then realize that the men who belong to the first category have no right to call the ladies in category 2 witches, arrogant whöres, clowns, or any other rubbish. And the men in category 2 have no right to call the ladies in the other category fools, idiots, or imbèciles. I think this should solve it. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by concupiscent: 6:16pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
wristbangle: "Tough, so he can step in a ring and fight like Anthony Joshua? any woman who thinks like that has got some growing up to do. Matured ladies will always be eternally grateful for a man who seeks her opinions and ideas on issues, it makes them feel important and relevant" -concupiscent 3 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:16pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Blackhawk01: 6:16pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
makydebbie: Ehn! You and who? You don't want me to open pre-wedding pinshure thread nii? 1 Like |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by concupiscent: 6:20pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Blackhawk01: "Thank you. wish I could grab those kisses you're throwing in reality though" - concupiscent |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by wristbangle: 6:21pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
KreativGenius: To be honest bro just do a review on some feminists here, you will be shocked about their level of intelligence which is almost non existing. |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:21pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
An average western lady is independent- she can claim to be a feminist. An average African lady is dependent on some man- it baffles me how you will want to claim equal right with someone you depend on for almost everything. I call many African "feminist" wannabees confused. Self discovery is the best discover of man kind. Know yourself and the environment you have found yourself, it will help you in fulfilling life! 7 Likes |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by tosyne2much(m): 6:24pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
majekdom2:May God bless you for this comment. The who idea of feminism in this part of the world is bullcrap It's beginning to become more of nuisance |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by pocohantas(f): 6:25pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
majekdom2: So, once a man is dependent on his wife for almost everything. She automatically has more right? Nobody will come to shout how women abuse power? We're learning o... |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Blackhawk01: 6:29pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
concupiscent: Hahahaha Real men deserve such and more. It's amusing when people that aren't done fixing themselves want to start fixing others. Nairaland ehn, chaiiii! About getting dem kisses in reality? Get your arse to the beach party. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by makydebbie(f): 6:29pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Blackhawk01:Pls guys she's not a feminist, she's a wife material. |
Re: Awkward Ideology Of Nigerian Ladies Towards Feminism That Ruins Relationship by Nobody: 6:29pm On Nov 15, 2017 |
Does this shït ever end?? First it was virginity then broke guys and now this... 1 Like |
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