lefulefu:
are u sure six months to a year will be enough to know a guy? What of if he has a wife with children hidden somewhere how will u know under that six months and a year? Some ppl can hide their deepest secret quite well and it takes time for it to be uncovered.

lefulefu:
are u sure six months to a year will be enough to know a guy? What of if he has a wife with children hidden somewhere how will u know under that six months and a year? Some ppl can hide their deepest secret quite well and it takes time for it to be uncovered.

alexialin:
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Lefulefu to the bolded it doesn't take time o, that's if luck is on the lady's side.

A married man lied to me saying he's single and wanted to marry me, in fact it was my former pastor younger brother who match maked us, but Lo and behold on the 3rd week of courtship , One fateful evening a number called. Guess who was the caller? His wife!

She called my name and said please Do u know Ken? The robust looking man?
I replied yes I do and what about him?

She replied am Mr Ken's wife, I know u are Alexy and I always eavesdrop hearing my husband talk to u about marriage and all. He even said he works in the bank as manager, it's a huge lie o. He's not a banker and he has two children and a wife. Am his legal wife. Please don't take him serious. He's deceiving u. Then she cut the call.

I was as shocked as fucvk!

Then I started to laugh and I shook my head and I said men! they will never change. And this guy am talking about is 38years o
Claiming born again.
Anyways story cut short, I had to break off everything. After revealing to him his wife called me and that's her number!
Lol

Men!

lefulefu:
blood of zachariah!. U were lucky ooo! What of had it been when u had married him already that's when u knew he has another wife wat would u have done? This is why its important to take a little time to know the person u gettin married to. I no fit just see one babe wey i never meet b4 on January and by June i go dey arrange marriage plans with her.that's too risky abeg.wat of if she first get husband b4 wey i no know and wey she run from. Or she get a child or three children from a previous relationship wey she go hide.no be gbese i wan enter? I go come dey my own den one angry jealous ex carry cutlass come my area dey warn me make i leave im babe alone.abeg i must know the type of person i am about spending the rest of my life with .

lefulefu:
blood of zachariah!. U were lucky ooo! What of had it been when u had married him already that's when u knew he had another wife wat would u have done? This is why its important to take a little time to know the person u gettin married to. I no fit just see one babe wey i never meet b4 on January and by June i go dey arrange marriage plans with her.that's too risky abeg.wat of if she first get husband b4 wey i no know and wey she run from. Or she get a child or three children from a previous relationship wey she go hide.no be gbese i wan enter? I go come dey my own den one angry jealous ex carry cutlass come my area dey warn me make i leave im babe alone.abeg i must know the type of person i am about spending the rest of my life with .

alexialin:









Am very lucky.
Honestly God dey save me.

And I believed his lies cos I felt he was coming from a reliable source. So when the wife told me on phone that evening and I called him back to tell him his wife called. He was then screaming it's a lie o, that I should send him the number, I sent him the number, he said that's one of his bank customers number and the woman is obssessed about him and why are women wicked like this
That she wants him but he always dodge her and all because he didn't want to offend her. I then said ok, am coming to your bank tomorrow, he said ehmm

He's travelling on official. Assignment to Abuja first flight tmrw morning and when he's back he will let me know. I said OK. He came back from his so called travel. I then said ok yur back, am coming on a Thursday, the next week. He said he's about to go on leave the next day and he has completed his assignment for the bank and the leave will take 21days. After 21 days I can come and he will gladly show me round. I just laughed and I said well Mr lie lie, don't ever in your life call me again, Orelse I will disgrace u. Then I cut the call.

That incident made me cut off from the pastor and his brother. Cause when I reported him, they said they never knew he's married. I said its OK, it's enough and am done with all these lies and Deceits. Am highly disappointed in your brother especially. And I hate deceits. That's how I cut off from the church.

But for me, I can court for a year then marry. Within that one year, have done my findings on the guy and I will be sure if we are compatible or not.

I can't date for many years Biko.

lefulefu:
lol the guy no even sabi lie.anyway i sure the pastor was lying and he knew the guy had a wife.could he bribed the pastor with something to shut his mouth.don't believe many of these men that claim to be pastors.a number of dem na religious scams dem dey do.i am not saying ppl should date for donkey years.at least a little time to know who u want to marry...though there are some couples who start off as just friends and along the line they might fall for each other and get married.those sort of ones dem don know themselves in and out that no yawa go enter if dem get married.

MhizzAJ:
That is why I like sensible men...It's only sensible men that reason this way

Men are totally different from boys...If you say that to a boy consider the relationship Shaky because he will think the lady is a desperado

As for me i can't date more than 2 years max

alexialin:
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I felt the pastor knew.

Yea, it's always good to Marry ones friend. Or even start a relationship as friends before taking it lovers level, then marriage if the feelings is mutual.

You are right on that.

lexy2014:
are u sure about that?so what about d guy whose story we are all congregating to discuss

ladyF:




I'm free this Saturday.

agarawu23:
I am not free

ChiefPiiko:
Evaberry when are we getting married??

purples25:


Abegi, because he decided to calm down for her ? You really think that one question led him to marry her ? You'll be surprised how unemotional and coldly calculating , logical beings they are.

Guy don calculate and decide, based on him being ready. Notice what I dropped here, ' he was ready for it' , and simply she happened to fit his current desires, lucky for her.


If not. She could ask angels to whisper the question for her. Her garri will soak there.

enemyofprogress:
stop lying you're older than 23, the last time I checked it was 33

winnar:
Hey dear, sup? How is your weekend going?

Just saying Hi to my Apostle.

lefulefu:
this is why i always get amused when some guys say they won't talk to a woman until when they start making their millions.for we guys if na the time when we don make am we begin to dey look for a female ..omo to get a life partner dat time go hard. I do believe even when we haven't reached our peak in life in the success table we can still mingle with the opposite sex.that believe that u shouldn't talk to d opposite sex until u become rich is wrong. Lol some guys don't even have female friends.the only females they interact with are ashawos in brothels.such men maybe wen their mama don complain for dem to marry its either dem enter street dey look for wife or their pastor arrange woman wey he see for vision as their wife.how such a woman wan love u. Even if a man has no female friend to hook on to then its advisable the guy moves with the lady for some time and study her.is she lazy? Is she a chronic flirt? Does she have a motherly nature? Does her goals agree with mine? These are things he should know b4 marriage and six months is too short to know all these.Alexialin do u know there are some ladies who just want to get married not cos dem love the man but dem just wan bear that Mrs to be under the cloak of respectability.such women as soon as dem marry the man they will continue to dey flirt around and hoe around just as they were doin during their sisterhood. If a man see such a girl with such ideology and rush into marriage with her dat na big gbese.

lexy2014:
u said "he decided to calm down for her"...doesn't that contradict ur position that men can't b pleased? u say that one question didn't make him decide 2 marry her, what other questions did?

MhizzAJ:
That is why I like sensible men...It's only sensible men that reason this way

Men are totally different from boys...If you say that to a boy consider the relationship Shaky because he will think the lady is a desperado

As for me i can't date more than 2 years max

omooba969:


Where u com carry ya load go... BabbanBura's yard?

Diva like you fa....some have eyes but cannot see.