hello everyone please i have got a problem that is seriously bothering me i have a boyfriend who i have been dating for over a year now.we met each other at the school library. but the thing is that we have been dating for over a year now and i have not met any of his family members. when he was doing his convocation only his brother was able to come and that was how i met his brother.but other than that i noticed that when he is on the phone with his sisters he rarely makes mention of me.
my brother is supposed to travel to Nigeria this weekend and he called his sister to tell her that he was sending stuff for them then she asked he how he was going to send the things and he said that his friend one guy like that will help him i got very angry and asked him why he should refer to my brother as one guy like that. is he ashamed of me or is he too young to have a girlfriend (he is thirty) he started apologising to me that he is sorry that he did not mean it that way. besides that we had a fight recently because a guy added me on face book and sent me a message that said " hey, nice look on Friday, " i refused to call him because he was making a mountain out a mole hill we later settled after much begging on his part and then yesterday he told me that he got a call from his aunt in Nigeria telling him that she has found a girl for him and his aunt was singing praises of the girl. please brothers and sisters advice me what do you think.

he's just not that into you

Sweetheart he was only using you to pass time, move on

ice blue please tell me is there anything i can do about this other than this problem he is very caring if there is anything bothering me he makes it his business and tries to help me find a solution. and if there is anything he wants to do he calls me to seek my advice so thats what is making me confused.

but bournvita we are still dating and i love him so much i just can't imagine that he is using me

I can think of only one thing off the top. He's really not committed to you or the relationship
so he doesn't think it necessary to introduce you to family. Like the two ladies above me said, he's
not that into U, he was just passing time. MOVE ON BABE.

Sweetheart it's a different thing if you lot have only dated for a few months, listen,you are still dating does not mean he is into you, why hasnt he mentioned your name to his family members? why did he deny your brother, he is not yet a man honey, he has someone he's going to marry at the end of the day, he knows who he is going to marry already, he helps you solve probs and stuff is no guarantee, men will even go as far as introducing their lovers to family members but deep inside they know they aint gonna marry them

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ok lets see. . . . . .

iceblue:

he's just not that into you

this is some funny shit!!!
the guy told u his aunt has a girl for him back home, why are u here crying?? dump his arse and move onto someone that is serious!

gosh

darababy:

ice blue please tell me is there anything i can do about this other than this problem he is very caring if there is anything bothering me he makes it his business and tries to help me find a solution. and if there is anything he wants to do he calls me to seek my advice so thats what is making me confused.

anybody can do this for a friend sweetie, and you can get that from a good female friend too. best to get him out of your system now. don't set yourself up for heartbreak. ask yourself critically; what do i love about him? what does he do for me that no one else can? how does he fit into my idea of the right man for me? trust me, u don't want to end up with someone who doesn't appreciate/need you. let it (and him) go.

Dump the guy and move on. . . the party is over

i sent him a mail that i there was something bothering me and that pls he should holla when he gets the message. any way he just called and i told him that what he told me was bothering me, his aunt calling and telling him of a girl and he said that if he had an alterior motive he would not have told me and that do i think that his sisters don't know that he has a Girlfriend

Are women this naive? his sisters know , alright, why havent you spoken to them?not even for one day, during their convo why is it that they dont ask of you? right in your presence he called your brother a friend whilst talking to HIS SISTER and not  "my lover's  brother" i just pray you open your eyes before its too late.

eeya, ur really hung up on this guy

i feel for u

just tell him the fact that he neva introduced you is bugging you

then again men are complex creatures he can tell u all the lies under the sun for the thot ur leaving him

like the poster above said

think down deep- is he really what you want?

bournvita:

Are women this naive? his sisters know , alright, why havent you spoken to them?not even for one day, during their convo why is it that they dont ask of you? right in your presence he called your brother a friend whilst talking to HIS SISTER and not  "my lover's  brother" i just pray you open your eyes before its too late.

you have to feel for the girl he sounds young

the dude sounds typical tryna make up all the excuses under the sun

awwww! men!

He is not just into you, he is just using you.

Please leave him now before it gets too late.

men sha!

ayettymama:

you have to feel for the girl he sounds young

the dude sounds typical tryna make up all the excuses under the sun

awwww! men!

I just want her to think smart, i know shes inlove but i think its with the wrong person, if his sisters know, why didnt he tell them "dara's brother is coming down to naija, and i will give him some things to give to you all" why use words like "one friend like that" , some men r wicked, they will never let go until the dying /last/eleventh hour

mukina2:

He is not just into you, he is just using you.

Please leave him now before it gets too late.

men sha!

Mukina i opened up a thread for you ,chekc the nairaland section

My dear please this is not a good situation for you. One year and refers to your relatives as "one person like that'? Well that shows how he feels about you.

u guys are soo right!

@poster *hug* u have to leave his ass!

She's got a sweet heart and i seriously and honestly feel for her

Life is a stage, you've gotten to this stage, now move on to another stage, you've got to out run/outsmart your present stage

We all make mistakes in life, but show me a person that has never made a mistake in life and i will tell you that,that person will never rise if he/she falls.

You've made a mistake, learn from it

Aww, poor you, here i am getting worried about the over-familiarity of my girl to my siblings, you are here complaining of the opposite.

Awww it sucks when you are in love with someone that does not see you the same way you see them. I am sorry that he JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, I know you already heard that, but chile you need to pack your shirt and toothbrush NOW!

My fiance introduced me to his family after about three months of us courting. All of his family members including extended family members happy that we are getting married. It good when both side families support you and your fiance getting married. It important that he introduce you to his family after having serious thoughts about you. If he doesn't it an indication that he does not see you in that light. Sorry Chile!

There are more fishes in the pond waiting to bite! (pushes Chipmonkey toward you)

queeneve:

There are more fishes in the pond waiting to bite! (pushes Chipmonkey toward you)

what? oh eww! lol!!

OP: no one can force you to do anything. seems you desperately want to hold on to this guy. you'll soon open a sob thread 'i Was In Love With Him and He Left Me to Marry Someone His Aunt Picked', despite having seen all the signs. Na siddon look i dey at this point. Good luck to you!

Upon examination of chipmunkey's profile, i take that back. He's actually a cutie (what little bit i can see) . all that's left is to figure out if he's got the character to match. my investigation no reach that side. no time

U saw his foto u didn't check his posts!

^^^ i quite agree. one has to wonder y queeneve recommended him to the poor girl

God i hate that "he just not into you" phrase



Cool profile pic iceblue do you read the manga?

yeah. love em!

It's so sad, but the truth is, this guy has no intention of taking your relationship past the casual stage. A year is a pretty long time not to be introduced to any of your boyfriend's family.

I introduced my wife to my family within weeks of us dating, she had both my sister's numbers, as well as my brother's, and of course, they had hers.

iceblue:

^^^ i quite agree. one has to wonder y queeneve recommended him to the poor girl

queeneve is eeeeeevil

@poster,Wake up!its real.on ur mark girl,he dsn't lv u enough 2 tk it 2 d nxt level.

eyah Dara, It seems like you really love this guy. When he said that rubbish, you should have asked your brother to return his stuff to him. That was totally disrespectful to you. He obviously has someone else at home, and has told you about the person to your face. Although he uses the aunty story to make it more presentable. Soon he will come up with the story that his family members are forcing him to marry her, and he has to obey them. Just start removing yourself small small. Stop picking his calls and even remove him from facebook sef. Also stop seeing him so much. Before you know it, he is slowly getting off your mind, and he will definitely come to beg but please do not take him back. To him, you are just someone to warm his bed before his real sweetie is able to come around.