I can only figure one thing from ur story...half truth(she turn u down before) half lie(she can't b asking for nothing,u don bleep her)

If u r clean,u can down her demands with all bordness and even tell ur wife n pastor n close menbers[color=#000099][/color]

alimaa:
I rarely post on this forum but i think i can get a good advice here. There was this church sister i was admiring when i was still single around 2014 and i tried to woo her but the treatment she gave to me was terrible. She rejected all my advances until i was discouraged. It was just a few years after NYSC and i was just managing the little job i was engaged in and everything then was just not rosy at all.

After a while i approached another sister in my church and we got married within eight months but a few weeks to our traditional marriage i got a better job offer that was ten times better than what i was doing and since then God has been good to us.
After our wedding, the other church sister who turned down my advances came and joined the music team which i was a part of and since then she has been on my neck. She became friendly to me and she started calling me on phone to ask for recharge cards; from there she progressed to financial assistance and i have been complying. Initially I thought i was just being helpful but her requests keep coming and even when I am with my wife she keeps calling.

Something in me tells me that this is how extra-marital affair starts and i don't want to be involved in it. Not just that, the church i attend will quickly dish out punishment whenever they suspect someone of anything immorality and it will be very embarrassing. More so, if a woman can prove that you have been sending her money she has also proved that you are dating her and you cannot exonerate yourself from such allegation. Even when you try to exonerate yourself, people will ask you "then on what grounds have you been giving her money?" This is because people all over the world believe that money is given in exchange for something which could be anything.

Please what can i do to make this girl stay away from me in order not to break my home?

OP, are you trying to tell us you can't say no to financial demands from someone you're not obligated to?

Ur brain is willing to leave the girl
But ur d**k is weak. Stop listening to ur d**k

alimaa:
I rarely post on this forum but i think i can get a good advice here. There was this church sister i was admiring when i was still single around 2014 and i tried to woo her but the treatment she gave to me was terrible. She rejected all my advances until i was discouraged. It was just a few years after NYSC and i was just managing the little job i was engaged in and everything then was just not rosy at all.

After a while i approached another sister in my church and we got married within eight months but a few weeks to our traditional marriage i got a better job offer that was ten times better than what i was doing and since then God has been good to us.
After our wedding, the other church sister who turned down my advances came and joined the music team which i was a part of and since then she has been on my neck. She became friendly to me and she started calling me on phone to ask for recharge cards; from there she progressed to financial assistance and i have been complying. Initially I thought i was just being helpful but her requests keep coming and even when I am with my wife she keeps calling.

Something in me tells me that this is how extra-marital affair starts and i don't want to be involved in it. Not just that, the church i attend will quickly dish out punishment whenever they suspect someone of anything immorality and it will be very embarrassing. More so, if a woman can prove that you have been sending her money she has also proved that you are dating her and you cannot exonerate yourself from such allegation. Even when you try to exonerate yourself, people will ask you "then on what grounds have you been giving her money?" This is because people all over the world believe that money is given in exchange for something which could be anything.

Please what can i do to make this girl stay away from me in order not to break my home?

Man up.
Tell your wife everything.
She definitely knows what to do.

MistadeRegal:

Man up. Tell your wife everything. She definitely knows what to do.

Thanks, i have done that now

donstan18:
Young man, when next she asks for money, tell her that you'll have to discuss with your wife before sending the money to her....Trust me, she'll never ask for money again.....But, if she continues, then tell your wife... Na just 2 or 3 words your wife go drop for u, ur brain go reset well well




Believe me you, if you continue keeping this away from your wife, you will definitely sleep with that lady one day.

Abi o! He might also get his wife to start suspecting him of already sleeping with her.

cassyrooy:
Abi o! He might also get his wife to start suspecting him of already sleeping with her.

Being suspected is better than being caught.

YOU ARE VERY RIGHT. ALSO, YOUR WIFE OR PASTOR SHOULD KNOW ABOUT IT INCASE OF ANY LIKELY PRANKS SHE MIGHT WANT TO PLAY.

donstan18:
Young man, when next she asks for money, tell her that you'll have to discuss with your wife before sending the money to her....Trust me, she'll never ask for money again.....But, if she continues, then tell your wife... Na just 2 or 3 words your wife go drop for u, ur brain go reset well well




Believe me you, if you continue keeping this away from your wife, you will definitely sleep with that lady one day.

donstan18:


Being suspected is better than being caught.

Yes, little difference though.

You know both can steer his marriage to an eventual divorce should this unsanctionable financial relationship continues.

And the op should concentrate all his efforts to better his family fortune, rainy days are almost inevitable in Nigeria given our kinda leaders

Tell your wife....she sure know what to do I such case

This one tire me. Abeg turn her to SM sex machine. Nothing goes for nothing

cassyrooy:
Yes, little difference though.

You know both can steer his marriage to an eventual divorce should this unsanctionable financial relationship continues.

And the op should concentrate all his efforts to better his family fortune, rainy days are almost inevitable in Nigeria given our kinda leaders

Much difference brO

How do you mean "BOTH" can steer his marriage, which "Both" brO, I didn't understand well.

tsadoemmanuel:
YOU ARE VERY RIGHT. ALSO, YOUR WIFE OR PASTOR SHOULD KNOW ABOUT IT INCASE OF ANY LIKELY PRANKS SHE MIGHT WANT TO PLAY.

You may not need pastors in this, it's a marital affair.

I think pastors should be indulged in when an issue is out of hand, not this kind.

Concerning the prank or denial, an evidence of her asking for money will do.

donstan18:


Much difference brO

How do you mean "BOTH" can steer his marriage, which "Both" brO, I didn't understand well.

His wife suspicion of him having extramarital affairs, it breaches trust and confidence.

And being caught, I think no need explaining the end.

cassyrooy:
His wife suspicion of him having extramarital affairs, it breaches trust and confidence.

And being caught, I think no need explaining the end.

Ok, I now get.

But why should a woman suspect a husband that had to open up to her to tell what he's been going through from another lady.

Is that wise?

donstan18:


Ok, I now get.

But why should a woman suspect a husband that had to open up to her to tell what he's been going through from another lady.

Is that wise?

You never can tell but, let's presume she's understanding and can help him manage this situation.

cassyrooy:
You never can tell but, let's presume she's understanding and can help him manage this situation.

We should be discussing about the intelligent and understanding ladies, not the unwise

donstan18:


We should be discussing about the intelligent and understanding ladies, not the unwise

Hahaha! All in all. Mr OP is capable of keeping that insatiable and evil girl away from his home and family.

Do enjoy the rest of your day, Sir! BTW! Happy new month.

This is not rocket science...

When next she calls to ask for money, courteously tell her that she has to talk to your wife about it because as it stands, your wife is the one managing your finances.

case closed!

cassyrooy:
Hahaha! All in all. Mr OP is capable of keeping that insatiable and evil girl away from his home and family.

Do enjoy the rest of your day, Sir! BTW! Happy new month.

Wish you the best brO!

simplex2:
This is not rocket science...

When next she calls to ask for money, courteously tell her that she has to talk to your wife about it because as it stands, your wife is the one managing your finances.

case closed!

Thanks, this is what i will do henceforth.

Maybe I'm wrong my gee ...but psychologically it's your ego at fault here . I've been in your shoes before . This lady rejected your advances and now that you have arrived you want to show that there is money .

Truth be told stop being stupid just as I was stupid . Spend your money on people who are actually there for you ...not all these people who don't send you when things are going bad .

Sometimes we men we dey Bleep up . Y'all will leave your wives and be giving money to these girls who will take off the day you can no longer meet their needs .

Man take care of your mom , your sister and your wife .All the women don't send you really they don't .

If you give her chance, she will gladly sleep with you knowing fully well you are married.


Church girls, fear them.