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Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Vince77(m): 7:45am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44: Women who know they dont have enough money to take care of kids and pay bills are the ones who make such statements.. 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Nobody: 7:56am On Mar 16, 2018 |
zicoraads: Hahahahah |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by WhoBeThisMan: 8:00am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44:before you give marital advice like this, pls hear from both sides. Never conclude that all she said is all there is.... |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by utenwuson: 8:00am On Mar 16, 2018 |
UjuJoan2:madam chill...... u don't know how this university girls do stuff... provided u meet their little needs, they re all over u, so u ll not ask for sex from your own husband? even when u are hot? do it's a most a man initiate sex in your mindset? then God bless u with a man without ego cos me and my likes will prefer staying put than initiate sex all time.... 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Chuks9000: 8:00am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Niceguy123:It's either she focus on what she has (gift of children) or she leave the marriage to fulfil her sex drive. The easy way out (infidelity) might lead to unpleasant situations if you get what I mean. Nonsense? |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Nobody: 8:05am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Harddiskng: just imagine. They fail to understand that sometimes when a man sulks, all he's asking for is just some bit of love and appreciation from his woman. The heart of some women is hard as nails I tell you brah - in fact marrying a short/petite woman is not even an option for me - their hearts are at their backs, my own mother affirmed this. They will hurt you deeply but rather than apologize, they let the guilt eat at them inside hoping you make the first move. You are married to a man for fifteen years and father of your three sons yet you don't know what he likes or how to get to him. I bet you, if shoes were reversed, that man would be on his knees every night begging to have a piece of her. Some women are just so cold. It's little wonder he chose to take a second life. Better go polygamous than die before your time. 2 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Ximenes45(m): 8:07am On Mar 16, 2018 |
boss1310: Thumbs up at bolded! I've seen and heard of it a whole lot of times. 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by afroniger: 8:08am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44: You are wasting your time with that fellow you replied. He is obviously a catholic because they are the ones that view sex as a 'vice' or at best a 'necessary evil' that is only meant for procreation. They have a very warped and twisted (and also dangerous) notion concerning the place of sex in marriage. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by marvin906(m): 8:09am On Mar 16, 2018 |
utenwuson: i really don't know why Nigerian ladies believe a man must be the one to initiate sex is not a crime if the woman takes the bull by the horn lord knows it will get to a point i will just stop initiating it and be on my own |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by naijasucks: 8:10am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Some married women are the cause of there problem. Before marriage they will respect your husband to be as their lord, but once you marry them, those respect are gone. They will start forming boss in the house, some will no longer cook. Women always cry victim if the battle they began turns against them. They will never tell you the cause of the problem, I expected this woman to tell the world also what she did wrong that made her husband to abandon her. 4 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by martjay(m): 8:10am On Mar 16, 2018 |
There is nothing wrong in talking to your husband about how you have been treated. Having an affair outside your matrimonial home is not only morally wrong, but against the commandment of God. Read Exodus 20:14, Mark 10:12, 1Corinthians 7:4, as someone rightly said, talk to the people he respects or take him to court if he is adamant. And a divorce is not an option in this scenario since you are the first wife. May God save your marriage! |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Oludon20: 8:23am On Mar 16, 2018 |
She cannot ask the husband for sex but the man can ask abi? continue. We do not know the REAL root cause of this matter. I am married with 4 Kids and it is very funny that you ask your wife for sex and she go dey form whereas she no go ask. If you lock up you become a bad person who does not know that his wife has feelings. How we go satisfy women for this life? The lady better swallow her pride and like someone said reignite the fire if not na she go loose last last o 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:24am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Priscy01: Your situation may not be as serious as it seems if you're ready to calm down before taking any rash decision. Without communication, there's no life in any relationship. So you will need to swallow your pride and anger and be prepared to talk with maturity. You can't go badging on him and expect him to listen, he won't. First, leave the other woman out of this. Reflect on your attitude before abandoning you for the other woman, even if it is not the most romantic of relationships you had then, at least you were making love together, except he's not the father of the three boys. Call for his attention by saying you have one or two things to tell him, apologize if need be, even if you can't remember any wrong you have done, rub his ego by apologizing for no error you committed. Find out why such a lover like will abandon his wife, which is you. All of these you must do with a forgiving heart of yours. He might come up with the REASONS for his action. From your story, why will a man ask you if he can marry another wife? That says volume, it's either you're bluffing him on this same sex demand from him, and now that he has gone to pick another wife, you want the sex. Or, your appearance at home like most of you women do, shabby dressing without a concern for how he sees you. Whatever he says in responding to you, it is you by your behaviour that will determine whether that will take his baby after delivery of the 2nd woman and come back to the wife of his 1st love or keep ignoring you. I know it's difficult to share a spouse with another person, but if you don't bug him and even ask him to bring the woman home, and you relate with both of them well, without bitterness, you will still have your husband back. All,of these my advice is dependent on your ability to understand God and know how to pray for yourself mostly not to misbehave. God bless and help you. 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Shugavee(f): 8:27am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Priscy01:how i wish i could meet her personally I will tell her she should rather ask herself if it's wrong to be happy!!! Hv an affair!! Yes cheat n when ur caught? divorce!!! Run with ur kids!!! That's not marriage that's bondage!! Some men r just mad!! Why won't u satisfy ur wife 3 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Shugavee(f): 8:28am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Oludon20:lock up 4 2 years really? Smh 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by 1x2x3: 8:52am On Mar 16, 2018 |
OP you simply can't take care of the kids if you want to move I guess that's why you are staying not about the children thing........ I mean if the man was dead poor and you have to funds would you stay because if the children? The answer is no. Women should learn to work hard and make some money else stupid men will capitalize on that. In my honest opinion get a divorce or get yourself a fuucck mate but be ready for its consequences. If I leave my future wife intentionally untouched for 2 years and she cheats then I'm at fault. 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Oludon20: 8:53am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Shugavee:Yes especially if she is not improving.Even me sef I hv locked up and seriously thinking of getting another woman,from the look of things it seems maddam no fit carry the load alone so she needs helper. I hv advised her severally on what needs to be done with no improvement. But why are ladies so stubborn and unbelievable? 2 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by ednut1(m): 9:04am On Mar 16, 2018 |
princeadams11:at the end of the day ur happiness should not be traded for anything. So that woman should endure emotional torment till she dies what a silly life to live. The kids already know wasup in such scenerios. 4 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by megama: 9:08am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Follow your mind such an issue doesn't need advice.dont take anybody advice madam.because no one will be there to see the end with you. 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by AllsufficientGod: 9:29am On Mar 16, 2018 |
jerflakes: So the man that went ahead to take a second wife doesn't know the meaning of - for better or worse. People can never be truthful. 4 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by zicoraads: 9:35am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44:Cc: AntiBrutus. Poco! Come here. I have found the ONE for you Imagine the power Our very own Nairaland power couple |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by zicoraads: 9:39am On Mar 16, 2018 |
AntiBrutus:That 'I like sex a lot' part sounded exactly how I sounded yesterday A lot of guys like sex aii. It's just what it is |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by emekalanka(m): 9:41am On Mar 16, 2018 |
change ur ways probably to the former. |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by princeadams11: 9:42am On Mar 16, 2018 |
ednut1:I admire her courage for staying 2 years I such condition, she did great. Nobody is in support of injustice. However, in my opinion, divorce is not the answer. Since she can endure for 2 years, I think they can resolve their difference and forgive themselves. We should take examples from our parents, I am sure a lot of our parents pass through worse cases and are happy today. Marriage institution is totally different from boyfriend and girlfriend thing. No home or marriage is perfect, people pass through hard times. We must learn to solve our problems ourselves. The lady has done well and has tried, but divorce is not the answer. May God help us all and solve our life challenges. |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Ekugbeh(m): 9:42am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44:u right in a sense tho, buh u r sayin this cos u vn't been a victim of seperated parents, dats the worst thing i wuldn't pray any kid shuld experience. It's so devastating especially wen with ur dad and ur re so young. It's selfish of anyone to put their feelins first before the kids. For the kids sake jus mak it wrk. Atleast u ve come this far, while turn ur sacrifices, dedication, commitment, resources n time a waste. C'mon there 's always a light at very end of tunnel, while throw in the towel wen others re seein worst or ve seen worst than u. One thing i do believe is ''There's always way''. |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by AllsufficientGod: 9:44am On Mar 16, 2018 |
baddosky1: You still call that marriage abi. When the man now has a second wife and doesn't give a damn about her. I blame the fact that she doesn't have money of her own cos obvious. I don't support having an affair but she needs to divorce him and marry another if possible. Because that man already has defiled his marriage to her 4 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Mynd44: 9:51am On Mar 16, 2018 |
princeadams11:Baba, lets be honest, what most of "our" parents endured are not marriage. They are emotional, pshycological and physical torture with marriage as an excuse. No human should be comforted with such things like "if our parents could have endured it" when will the cycle be broken? Marriage should be enjoyed and not endured 4 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by stephmiracle: 10:01am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Chuks9000: Was that not the same vow the man took but went ahead to marry and impregnate another woman. If what is good for the goose is also good for the gosling, then no one should blame her if she decides to have sex with another man but if I were to be her, I would have walked a long time ago with my kids. They can locate their father when they grow 3 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by princeadams11: 10:01am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44:Let's be objective young lady. I guess you are still single. Wakeup from that dream and don't think you can enjoy marriage through out marital life. Marriage is not like your present status (boyfriend and girlfriend thing). Lack of patience and tolence is what kills our youth. You want to get rich quick, you want a perfect marriage, you want this and that. Better change your orientation and think straight before it's too late 4 u. |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by Mynd44: 10:03am On Mar 16, 2018 |
princeadams11:I am a guy. A man marries a new wife, constantly cheats on her and has ignored her for 2 years and you are preaching patience. Will you preach the same to a woman? 6 Likes |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by stephmiracle: 10:04am On Mar 16, 2018 |
jerflakes: Oga na lie. I have an in-law who is also a Catholic that got recently divorced from his wife because he found out she was a lesbian 1 Like |
Re: "No Sex With My Husband For Almost 2years, Can I Have An Affair?" - Lady by princeadams11: 10:14am On Mar 16, 2018 |
Mynd44:I will preach same 2 anybody that comes my way. I am not in support of what the man did, in fact I know the man, I will treat his fuckup. In same vane, I am not in support of divorce. Divorce should be the last thing when other means have failed. She asked, for advice. People should try and give positive advice like meeting with both family members etc. When all these measure years no result. Then they can think of divorce instead of divorce been the first step. It's well bro |
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