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Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by akosh005: 9:30am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:JAPA.... Decamping is allowed 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by OhiOfIhima: 9:30am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Your wife brother coming down to Abuja unannounced only to call u to pick him up from the pack.. Thunder fire that ur callous brother in-law. You shouldn't have switched off ur phone, I will tell him hoha to go n sleep anywhere he was initially plan to go because u can be coming to my place without informed me b4 u decide to leave Lagos. is not dat her sister is currently wit u. Your wife n her entire families are mad. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Maxvasia(m): 9:31am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask:My brother, i am reconsidering seriously. The things i see and here these days are scary. No single good news about this institution of marriage niw collapsing on all sides faster than they are contracted. I won't marry abeg. 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by thelegend1(m): 9:32am On Jul 25, 2018 |
gentlesmithugo: From personal experience, those sorts are insatiable no matter what you do! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Skmoda360(m): 9:32am On Jul 25, 2018 |
pawesome:He is pushing trash in front of LAWMA.. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by kushme: 9:34am On Jul 25, 2018 |
GANAYAD: Op, reason this comment carefully.. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by lastempero: 9:34am On Jul 25, 2018 |
My brother bravo for the treatment u meted on the careless boy that came to Abj without informing you, please try n extend such treatment to other members of the family and everybody will pack well for you and plz don't divorce ur wife if that is the only problem u are encountering in ur marriage. Ordinary gf boyfriend relationship na war these days. May the Lord continue to be ur strength. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Nobody: 9:34am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Marshalxv:Leave them na. What most of them don't understand is that issues like this makes a man to be psychologically unstable which may make him to do something bad. If he hits the woman out of frustration, they will shout against him, now he's planning to stay away for his peace they are still d ones saying no. If anything should happen to him, they will still insult him for not divorcing her ontime. SMH. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by horriyommy(m): 9:34am On Jul 25, 2018 |
From another angle, the script is well played and your wife is the script writer, thread softly please . All I see here is insecurity issues and extortion, your life may be at risk. Avoid them all for now, your wife and her family and think thoroughly about it before going for divorce. May God lead you through. AMEN 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Jabioro: 9:37am On Jul 25, 2018 |
OP,you are on long thing.,you have less business with your in law,your main concerned is how to pull,control,sink sanity and make your knows tomorrow is no longer far,both of need to take of it now otherwise you may be force to leave her behind..or how would you describe to when someone is helping her to spend her life with you... |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by ABAMOWA: 9:37am On Jul 25, 2018 |
apeleone: Bros, divorce will only compound the problem. Firstly, ensure your wife move with you to Abuja. Then, discuss with her. The distance will naturally push them away. And with your wife being educated by you, things will work out. And know that people have passed through worse situation and survived. Be a man, take it cool. Develop an antibody to their behavior. God be with you. And know that what ever becomes of any problem at the end is a result of how we handle it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Mavor: 9:37am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:Weak men come to social media and rant, instead of doing what needs to be done. Your wife and her family don see you finish. Ok, bye Felicia! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by ABAMOWA: 9:38am On Jul 25, 2018 |
[quote author=akosh005 post=69685659] JAPA.... Decamping is allowed[/quote Bros, divorce will only compound the problem. Firstly, ensure your wife move with you to Abuja. Then, discuss with her. The distance will naturally push them away. And with your wife being educated by you, things will work out. And know that people have passed through worse situation and survived. Be a man, take it cool. Develop an antibody to their behavior. God be with you. And know that what ever becomes of any problem at the end is a result of how we handle it. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Maxvasia(m): 9:38am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Eketem:I am surprised no one quoted this horrendous comment of urs. Presumption from the depths of LAWMA thrash! I had to go back to read the post cos wen I read ur comment, it made me wonder if i read it at all at first. Is there any part of the post that suggested he is spending money on other women? U just conveniently remixed the post to suit the modus operandi of ur saliva filled brain. Next time read well or if u cannot read at all, just keep it moving. I am sure u are a female cos no man would show so much abysmal imbecility/lunacy. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Skmoda360(m): 9:40am On Jul 25, 2018 |
wristbangle:This is exactly thought.... |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Jaydear: 9:40am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Some people can be funny sha… So some people can actually be blaming the guy for relocating to Abuja, why? He is the one wearing the shoe and he alone knows where it pinches him. Please allow him. "Discuss with your wife", is it when the guy Dies Is not better he is alive first before discussing with whoever, which is what he has done. Or you all asking why he is running prefer he dies and makes headline before hailing him for taking a good decision. My brother man, KUDOS to you for relocating, for he who runs from a fight lives to fight another day. Again, you get time for your leeches and leechard inlaws, that's why they are policing and taking advantage of you. TELL THEM TO LIVE YOUR LIFE AND FAMILY FOR GOOD OR GO TO HELL. You married their daughter and not the family. You can only choose to help, whomever, whenever and not vice versa. If your wife do not want to play along with you on this, Ma Guy issue her the RED CARD, Simple!!! If you continue entertaining their bullshit, bro THEY WILL KILL YOU and take over your savings or resources before burying you. STAND FIRM!! Don't be scared. Every Blessing!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Born2Breed(f): 9:41am On Jul 25, 2018 |
If there one thing I dislike most in men is weakness. It's turns me off like � poop. You are a weak man and until you change your thinking you will be trampled upon every now and then. As for the idiot that called you a cab man, don't switch off your phone but tell him to send you his account details,so he can take the next available bus back to Lagos. Reply your wife that whoever visits without an invitation will receive a worst treatment. Concentrate on working your wife's transfer,and once it's concluded sit her down and reads your riot act to her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Brugo(m): 9:44am On Jul 25, 2018 |
donstan18: You actually believe he has not discussed this with his wife? A man relocated because of interference and you think he hasn’t discussed the issue with his wife? What are you smoking? 14 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Sanchase: 9:45am On Jul 25, 2018 |
The issue lies within your Inlaws and not your wife, she will support her family no matter what, there is no perfect woman out there and seeking a divorce may not be the solution to your problem, the next woman you will pick will still have a family that may do the same as the current. It is best you speak to your wife privately and place the cards on the table for her, explain to her you will seek for a divorce if she is not willing to keep her family influence out of your business. The huge mistake was not knowing the influence her family has before you even married her, you could take the divorce risk but seek ambitious and career women in your next bid as you can plan better with them and they command more respect in their family. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by kenlinzo(m): 9:45am On Jul 25, 2018 |
I wouldn't advice u go for a divorce. Sit ur wife down and still talk things over with her. From ur story, your wife loves and cares for ur progress but the pressure from her family she cannot handle. This is the time she needs you most, let her understand that her family is bent to tear her marriage apart. let her know that marriage is between u and her and every third party (the persons involved not withstanding) is an intruder. I HAVE SEEN A MAN THAT SWITCHED HIS PHONE OFF LIKE YOU DID AND HIS WIFE'S PHONE OFF AND REFUSED TO GIVE HIS FATHER AND BROTHERS IN-LAW HIS ADDRESS (REASON: he told his wife that whenever her father,mother,sisters or brothers are coming to their house, he has to be informed and given one or two weeks notice so he can prepare and budget for their coming). AND THAT DAY, THEY ONLY CALLED HIM WHEN THEY HAVE ENTERED TOWN SO HE HAD TO OFF HIS AND WIFE'S PHONES AND THE WIFE DID NOT EVEN DISOBEY HER HUSBAND BECAUSE SHE KNOWS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT. Marriage is between husband and wife and not husband,wife and family members. Anything outside the two of u has to be discussed and decided by both of u. Not u (wife) and ur father,mother,sisters or brothers, same applies to the man (husband) also. don't divorce her....tell her ur reasons while u wouldn't welcome any further embarrassment from her family and stick by it. But if she chooses to go with her family, let it come from her and not u. Thanks. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by mavinc4u(f): 9:45am On Jul 25, 2018 |
When you should have told the guy you went out of Abuja for a meeting. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Coldfeets: 9:46am On Jul 25, 2018 |
I blame you for letting it get to that stage where they think they own you. Luckily, you can still redeem yourself. Just man up and tell them to do their worst. Be firm in your resolutions as from henceforth. If they eventually see that they can't break you; they might back down or worse still, they might call for divorce so you should also start preparing for that situation too. I don't really know how divorce thing works in Nigeria with regards to how much a man is going to lose for calling for a divorce but I hope it is not as terrible as what is obtainable in America. Good luck. Now to you all guys out there, listen up. Don't ever let a woman control you in any way!!! Learn to be firm whenever you are dealing with women... most especially when you are in a relationship. And it is good if you start doing this at the onset. That way, the girl can either fall in line or fall out in time!!! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by feminineA: 9:48am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:You really don't need the transfer. Be firm!!! let your yes be yes and No be no. Immediately they see your stand and they sense a no going back, nobody will inform them before they look elsewhere. you allowed it from the beginning but its time to stand your ground. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by ImaIma1(f): 9:49am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Op you obviously started what you cannot finish. You were probably always showering them with gifts, meeting their needs and not creating boundaries. And your wife has given them the impression that she is their saviour with you as their provider. Cut off all assistance, make yourself scarce, avoid phone calls, don't respond to text messages. They will get the message. And if they confront you in person, be quiet or very miserly with words but what you will do should be in your mind. Tell your wife that it is better she goes to live with her family since she has chosen to allow them interfere and refused to leave them and build her own family. Tell her that henceforth, any assistance for her family should come from her salary. And do not bend. I repeat...do not bend. They are acting like you are responsible for them and that has to stop. You have the greater work to do... putting your foot down. You need to be firm and learn how to use this word "NO" 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Radiant1020(f): 9:49am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask: I don't think so |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by HisSexcellency(m): 9:49am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013: One advice that works every time, Make yourself unavailable to anyone, no calls, no messages, no visitation. When they call, tell them you're kinda busy they should call back then cut the call. If they call again, repeat same excuse. Never stay more than 5 secs on the phone. Do this for a whole month or two and then see the wonderful results that follow 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Nobody: 9:49am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:Guy you need to divorce your marriage and renew with good agree ment between you And your wife they are using you like a fool..you better wise up and run for your life |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Pcstradamus(m): 9:50am On Jul 25, 2018 |
I feel your pain brother. from all indication, i can see your the hope of your wife's family. An adage says 'whatever you cant finish, don't even start'. Your the man and you should be firm with your decision and not switching your phone off. The best you would have done was to receive him that night and ask him to leave the next day that is if he has nothing serious to do in Abuja. Below is my advice for you; 1.Whoever wants to pay you a visit must give you at least a week notice. Including your own siblings and parents 2.If your buoyant enough, see how you can set up something for your wife's siblings or if your connected, you can help them get a job. 3. Don't stay away from your wife and children. Let me join you in Abuja. Find time to have a deep conversation with your wife and pour out your grievance. Talk it over na over with her. 4. Talk to your Father in heaven about it and let him help you manage the situation. 5. Divorce is never an option. Am sure you saw all the signs before you married her but you felt you were in love and ready to face whatever comes out of it. If you need one to counsel you, i can recommend someone. clarencedey@yahoomail.com joa2013: |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Coldfeets: 9:51am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Born2Breed: Correct! |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by nenergy(m): 9:51am On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013: A wise man once said; "Better to have good in-laws than a good wife'. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by happney65: 9:51am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Am newly married and my wife cannot tell me nonsense..She just can't. .I still wonder where Nigerian Ladies get this attitude of getting married and expecting the Husband to pull you out of poverty. .urself and your family..As in are you people stupid or something? I told my wife my responsibility is to you and my Kids alone..If tomorrow you decided to change i won't hesitate to give you a divorce..I don't care and I don't give a damm..Nobody fit kill me.. Luckily for her you are married into a liberal family where my family won't disturb you so why should urs disturb me?Why? The OP is a mumu and has been taking responsibility for the lady and her family even before they got married..Am sure of that..I see no reason why that should be.. My Father in law Sef I don't have his number..The highest number I gave him till date is 5000naira.. You should be happy I am marrying your daughter Naa and taking bills off ur neck..Some wives will even do it to the extent whereby you won't give ur family anything again just cos you are married to them.. I wonder where you people see these girls.I just wonder where 4 Likes |
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