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Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by horlahmeey(m): 12:06pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Hold your ground and remember not to displease ursef while pleasing others. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by peacengine(m): 12:15pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
VULCAN: Oga that statement carries a lot of weight. Let's say his wife mentions such a thing, will he take it lightly? If my wife should say she has no business pleasing my family then I will understand that she doesn't love me enough and it will bring problem in our marriage. If the guy doesn't go out of his way for his own family, the woman will be very stupid to demand it of him, it's because he does it for his own family that is why she makes the demand bro. If we learn to go into marriage with the opinion that our in-laws have become our family too, it will solve many problems. If my wife doesn't accept and treat my mother like hers, there will be problem, the same thing if I don't accept and treat her family as mine, she will also create her own problem too. This is what the brother is facing today. Maybe his family turn up unannounced and he picks them up so his wife might wanna test him with hers too. Marriage no easy bro |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Snow87(m): 12:15pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
donstan18:End of discussion sir. Didn't you read where he stated that his wife join in sending the abusive text message? Divorce is the key, go on Mr op I dey ur back like hunchback. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by crafteck(m): 12:16pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
apeleone: Death should be next line of action abi.. Person wey run go abuja never try the things u listed she? |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by TDonald: 12:19pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Ikpongiton: Weyrey,Do i look like a woman 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Snow87(m): 12:20pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
I advise any man intending to settle down to go and read this book " The manipulated man". After reading u can decide on what to do next. op pls be the man u are, set boundaries and take ur stance. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Pentools(m): 12:21pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
e7ejinima: Bro, you took the word right off my mouth, jahbless for that... If the OP wife is Igbo then I can confidently say the she is from Imo state....if she's Yoruba then she must be from Osun or Ondo state. For the issue at hand, bro run for your life, divorce may not be the best but when the situation turns life threatening is of best u bail out, cus such family can kill you or even harm ur well being, but God forbid that, all to have there way. Na person wey Dey alive Dey enjoy peace ooo! So if u deem divorce best for your peace n life then go for it, inlaws can be deadly especially those that always feel entitled. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Justhere: 12:23pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
sexy74:you are right, the word never is wrongly used there. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Gokoyer0(m): 12:23pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
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Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by MorningStar233: 12:26pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask: Well as your name implies, u r equal to the task. .. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by mablie(m): 12:28pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
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Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Themandator: 12:33pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Never harsh to her . It is just that She is too soft and prone to their manipulations. She is the type that wants to solve everybody's problem. I love her and I have never laid hands on her but when it comes to her family, I got to be firm..they made her lie to me once all because she wants to help them This guy should go to a park ad call that his inlaw to take a Uber or a chartered cab to meet there. Hollla at him there at the park, finish him there in public and put him in a bus back to where ever he came from. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by sirr(m): 12:34pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask:I tell u bro... its scary 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by simplesearch: 12:35pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Be plain about your intentions as to how you want your home to be govern, make it known to your wife, leave divorce out of this your in-laws not your wife are the root cause of the problem here, you are the head of your home, sit your wife down talk sense into her head, ask her how best she think you can settle her people permanently that will stop them from prying into you family matters. It is obvious you are a lone ranger who cherishes his privacy so much. Tell this to your wife in a very frank but sincere manner that won't make her think you hate her people as we attached too much sentiment to ordinary things in this part of the world/. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by toprealman: 12:36pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:If your wife is sending abusive messages, there is surely more to this. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by M3A16(m): 12:36pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Hmmm! I need to admit that you have really tried coping with the excess of your woman's family but filing a divorce case is not the next step. You have firstly taken a very bold and courageous step by trying to cut their wings down and put them where they deserve to be in your positioning arrangement as they themselves have instructed you to by their uncare and callous attitude, call your wife for a severe warning and present to among the choices she has got to pick from and how your plan for future is dependant of her decision. I want you to know that women are tender in nature and kind, help her get out of this miserable situation that if she really wants after you might have exhausted all possible means.. I pity bros. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by 9tailskid: 12:36pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask: Equal2DeTask: Equal2DeTask: Bros, i tire oh. Been asking the same question 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by obainojazz(m): 12:39pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013:How come you didn't notice all these things initially |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by GistFullGround: 12:43pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013: Most women always want their husbands to cater for their family while abandoning his. My guy, you have overstayed in the marriage. There is a demon working in your wife's family and it's either they are delivered, or you leave By the way, if their stress kills you, they will not die for you. That her father sent you abusive text messages is irresponsible on his part If I were you, I will send a text t him also This is why I love Americans, you cannot come to visit uninvited PERIOD 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Unclesamo(m): 12:47pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Maxvasia: Read his other Nairaland posts 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Amberon11: 12:49pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
It is now obvious that Nigerian men are some of the most useless on the planet. You who have been gallivanting around town fvcking married women, taking them to guest houses and meeting many women on Facebook and giving them money are now planning on divorcing your wife over a trivial issue. You people can't take half of what you give to your wives. Mumu. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Boss13: 12:51pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE: The wife may not learn quickly due to bad advice and support from her family. It may take a long while and by then the damage has been done. OP needs to take his wife and himself for professional counseling not pastor please. So that the counselor can discuss thoroughly the demerits of having and allowing external forces into your home. Also, people should carry out due diligence before you tie the knot. Marriage is not just love. Infact it is 97% financial stability. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Maxvasia(m): 12:52pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Unclesamo:ok |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by ImaIma1(f): 12:52pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Themandator: Oh i see. She needs to toughen up. I don't like family interference of any sort neither does my husband. Besides i am even the last child. So we are on the same page. I think the OP allowed everything and is now complaining. |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by baldman: 12:53pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
I had to sign in because of this comment, particularly as I noticed you said you are new in marriage. I hope you can just read what I have to say. Your In-Laws should not be referred to in this manner. If this is who you really are, your wife, I am afraid, is married to the wrong man, she just does not know it yet. I refer to one of your 'manly' comments: 'If tomorrow you decided to change I won't hesitate to give you a divorce' really? '...my responsibility is to you and my kids alone' are you for real?. The truth is you may have come from a 'liberal' family ( which seems more like a family where your parents raised all of you to be independent and not feel the need to either give back to your parents or provide help when any member is in need) this may not be the case with your wife. Your wife may come from a more normal family where they do not live on allowances from their children but appreciate the occasional help and interventions. But you have made it clear to your wife that you will never be a part of such. Well, you will get as much love from your wife as you are willing to give.... you are not giving much when you are quick to threaten divorce and tell her those who brought her up to become the girl that you married will never matter in the scheme of things in your welfare provisions. I am glad you plan to take care of your kids. I pray you have a daughter as well, can you imagine your future Son-In-Law maintaining this stance. You do not even have your Father-In-Law's number and you are proud to say that ? Besides, can I safely assume that you have only ever given him 5k because that is what is within your financial capacity or is that still a way of being an Alpha Male? You also said "You should be happy I am marrying your daughter Naa and taking bills off ur neck.." really Bro? You really should be shaking the hands of your Son-In-Law when he comes to marry your daughter and take bills of your neck. Oga, what goes around comes around. Your marriage is very young and you are coming in with the wrong mentality. You cannot show love to a woman while hating her family, she will not be fooled and you will not have her complete loyalty. Take charge of your home and take leadership with respect to all relationships, including your relationship with your In-Laws, agree with your wife on what should be done given the resources available and show care in other areas that may not require footing bills. Encourage your wife to work and earn a living ( if she does not have one) so that she can also be a good place to help out without losing sight of who comes first, your family first. If you keep threatening divorce, becareful as she will over time prepare for it, and when you have done your worse, it will surprise you how well she will move on.... you will see divorce and fear.. its never easy on anyone. happney65: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Ovilalastica5(f): 12:53pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask:
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Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by Emioga: 1:01pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
O boy na hypocrites full this thread o.To say na woman come here dey talk all this one na you all would have bashed her saying your mum is your world or your family has been their before your wife.smh.well poster no advice from me o cos I'm in the same situation and my husband they stand with his family also even beats and insults me for them.OYO 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by baldman: 1:01pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Great 'advice', what if she did not see the abandonment in that light and she decides to move on making good use of the certificate that the man sponsored her to obtain? I hope you have a perfect woman that has no family arranged for the poster to marry. How can abandonment make people fall in love or reinforce love? Please make separation your very last option, the rate at which women are moving on when a man decides to move out these days will surprise you. Do not leave your marriage if you do not intend to leave for good. You will not find her where you left and if you do, you will not be meeting the woman you left, she will either be broken or hardened. hope4nigeria: |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by verygudbadguy(m): 1:05pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Rushmore:Really! Where r u from? Your comment is the best I have seen here from a female in recent time. Good sense of judgement you gat. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by pawesome(m): 1:05pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
GrammarCheck:how? And we keep on wondering why young men keep dying early than the old ones.... That is one of the reasons.... You seem not to know what a peaceful marriage dose to life |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by PierreAbutu(m): 1:06pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Equal2DeTask:With bullshits like dis, I dey reason BABYMAMA my brother |
Re: My Wife And Her Family Are Driving Me crazy by fattyG: 1:11pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
joa2013: @ d poster, 1. Divorce should be your last option 2 Invite ur wife to fct, discuss the issue n call her to order so as to build ur family 3. Dont entertain/welcome an unannounced visitor/guest from both sides. 4. The financial assistance ur parent/brother in laws get from you should reduce. 5. Detach urself from dem gradually; if uve bin calling dem 5times a week, pls reduce it to 2TIMES 6. For her brothers, put dem where they belong. They cant be a pest/liability in ur life |
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