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I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by norrisman: 1:17pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
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Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Carolece(f): 1:24pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
I couldnt even read pass the first line of the second paragraph. Statements like that just sickens me. If something is not working in a relationship/marriage, fix it or part. I am going to assume that you want to have sexual relationship with the other woman and stay with your wife, crap crap crap. Never mind me anyways, just ranting because I am fed up with men now based on the statement that sickens me. Carry on nonetheless. shakes head in disbelief and grief |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by afrobaby(f): 1:32pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
what really is ur question? |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Nobody: 1:56pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
@ poster please take ur writing to the news paper, we need no long journey essay here |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by queeneve: 2:12pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Uhmmmm poster, Imma be real with you and don't take this PERSONALLY, YOU A HO, SMH! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by SAGoddess: 2:20pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Well, Shade is not an invalid, she just has a condition that I am almost certain can be managed. You need to come clean with her about your marriage, she probably thinks she has found her Prince Charming so you need to let her know now so she can sort her emotions out, switching your phone off hoping she will vanish is not going to help either, you will hurt her instead of protecting her as you wish to do, be a man and come clean, what you two do after that is your business, but the truth needs to come out if you really care about her! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by PokerFace(f): 2:23pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Tell her YOU ARE MARRIED [/b]and iintend [b]TO REMAIN SO! But if i were you, i would end the relationship, before your wife finds out about it! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by AniLee(f): 2:25pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
word @ queeneve @ poster, its simple: grasp all, loose all. greed is at one point, man's downfall. you THOUGHT Shade was perfect only to find out what disturbs you so. I guess Life has a way of throwing evil back at ur face hey, heard of that saying the ashes of burning coal fly back into the face of him who throws them? Well, u didnt do ur wife and marriage fair and so, you cant expect to get what you want. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by 28Schweet(f): 2:27pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
. STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES, U don't want to hurt 'wonderful Shade' but you've no hesitation hurting your wife. SMH, no where do you mention that you've told her you be married, if you're going to cheat, cheat with an honest conscience o, |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by norrisman: 2:53pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Thanks SA Goddess for your constructive post. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Creamish(f): 3:25pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Im sure Shade knows u have genuine feelings for her. . . let her know u have no intention to marry her cos your married but u'l always be there for her as a friend. She will be devastated if u switch off your phone or pull any distance stunt & it'l b very immature. Shez a fragile person and i guess heart ache could trigger a crises. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by dbigrod(m): 3:50pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
[size=16pt] PokerFace: fine reply from a fine babe. @topic, guy,u shouldnt have thought of another woman aside your wife.yeah,u shouldnt have.u said dat the sex life in your marraige is non existent.why dont u sit down with your wife and iron out solution to dat.is it now a crime to remain faithful to your spouse.as par your relationship with the shade girl,i suggest u just be nice to her like a brother.i know most guys wont buy this cos they believe that nothing goes for nothing.i have a question for u--do u think it will be reasonable for us to tell u to be unfaithful to your wife?guy,use ur head.[/size] |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by norrisman: 4:11pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Thread closed. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by 28Schweet(f): 4:14pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
you're even more silly than i thought for thinking you only have to have s-e-x to be unfaithful |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by AniLee(f): 4:15pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
norrisman: yeah your story was a bit tangled but thanks for clarifying. Well, you may only but tell her the truth, and pray do hope she understands. She probably will, and if you really mean good for her, then your friendship needs not stop here. But just dont do it behind your wife's back cause even if she'll understand your stance, she may feel a little hurt that you didnt tell her (your wife i.e.). |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by MissyB1(m): 4:19pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
norrisman:Firstly, You cannot seek advice and at same time dictate to us how or on what area we should dish it out. You simply want to elude the criticism You deserve and want to be encouraged to continue with Shade . . . .but sorry, it's either You want to hear it all or nothing. norrisman:What's wrong with Your s[i]e[/i]x life that a good heart-heart talk with Your wife and help-seeking, from the right person [if necessary] can't solve? [Rhetorical Question]. Divorcing her on this grounds might not be a smart thing to do but it's even more foolish to bring a 3rd party, for the sole purpose of sex, into Your life. Man, You're married with a Kid. You just want to play around . . . . . Too bad!! norrisman:If Your right hand causes You to sin . . . .Cut it off!! As much as I think You and Shade feel something beautiful for each other, it would be best to let her know You're married and then let her outta Your life, now that You both haven't gone too far. Else, with time, Pity and emotions would make You more attached to her and reduce Your attention towards Your family. Am I wrong? norrisman:You caused this for Yourself and thanks to Your 'Friend' who assited You in getting into this mess. If You hadn't had the intention of having a Phuck-mate, You prolly wouldn't have met Shade and this whole wahala wouldn't be existent. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by iice(f): 4:21pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
28Schweet: I laughed after the first few lines. @OP, Sorry but you are deluding yourself. . . 'i'm a considerate guy and try my best not to hurt anyone' looooooooooooool. We should all be that considerate . As you make your bed, so shall you lay on it. Someone will get hurt. . .Shade, your wife or yourself. Inevitable. . .best resign yourself to it and just do it - tell her (Shade) the truth. Your wife own na another case. Procrastination will on make it a bigger issue. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by delagasky(m): 4:47pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
hey mr poster, so ur plan was to chop the chic and clean mouth without letting her know ur married? if u had come clean from the onset tht u were married, this issue would not have arisen, at least its not a crime to poke SS |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by 190: 6:21pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
I kant even read nothing cos of kaita!! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Rocktation(f): 6:30pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
Just open your mouth and let out the hurtful truth man. How else would you tell it? Introduce your wife to her or what? It's crazy that you're just realizing that she needed to hear something. How very typical of your cheating and lying species. Anyways, just do the right thing for now and try not to get charmed too easily by smiley and cute story-telling females in the future. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by ayanfemy(f): 11:08pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
go and read all about being an SS tell Sade that you are married systematically introduce her to your wife & make her a family friend! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
*passing by* |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by puskin: 11:45pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
odiaero: . . . . keep on passing |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by lallafati(f): 11:58pm On Jun 17, 2010 |
another one, *rolling my eyes* |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by james1(m): 1:14am On Jun 18, 2010 |
Now look here mr norris,you have no right,I reiterate no right to bring your wahala,yes your personal trouble wey you fo lef fo your mind till you die from am here and dare say no one should go there. You have the nerve to describe a woman that is not your wife,but your F-mate as wonderful.from what came from your mind,you are hopelessly in love with her,were you chaste before you met your wife?You did not do testing,you did not practise?you like yourself,don't want speedy disaster to befall you?TAKE TO HEART the following: teach your wife how to do,tell her how you need to be served and find out how to serve her too;don't be one of those men who play novice in bed with their wives(tormenting them in the process) at home and d**k totting cowboys outside exhausting all the styles and inventing some to please other women.as for shade being your family friend;most women don't respect the women in the house any more(once they have felt the very essence that is suppose to be her exclusive preserve) so don't let her come near your house.let her know you are married and that you love your wife dearly.settle her.with a princely sum if you can afford it,now walk away from her with an iron clad resolve never to call her ever again.so that you may live. 1 Like |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Rocktation(f): 1:21am On Jun 18, 2010 |
Ah James, you de vex oo. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by james1(m): 1:32am On Jun 18, 2010 |
@poster 190. This kaita guy really is the new face of disaster'o. Am now kaitaclismic and kaitaphobic.the very fear of kaitasm is now the beging of soccer wisdom! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by topup: 2:00am On Jun 18, 2010 |
The funny thing is that you're looking for a reason to tell Shade, tell her you're married. THAT IS a very valid reason not to pursue something with another woman, did you overlook this obvious reason because you no longer regard your marriage as a commitment?? Anyways, I am sorry if I am judging you, I try not to. Honestly, tell Shade you see her like a sister, and make her understand that you began to warm up to her but that is it. She MUST understand, if she can understand that she is seriously ill, then hopefully she is mature enough to understand that a male friend doesn't have to pursue anything with you if he doesn't want to. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by tpiah: 3:36am On Jun 18, 2010 |
My friend introduced me to Shade (not real name of course) and basically told me to hit that yorubas say goat wey dey befriend dog will always eat excreta. should your wife tell you the same story with her as the main actor in a love affair with "shola" (na only shade you see?), you'll start crying foul like a mad person. na today? May God have mercy on your soul!!! na curse i type before- just decided to change it to prayer because you are foolish and know not what you do! |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by Sweetdoct247(m): 5:18am On Jun 18, 2010 |
The fact remains that your intentions when you Shade were not noble you just needed someone with which you could ease off your sexual tension, now she suddenly has a personality that makes you not want hurt her. (Men ). Well it's simple there are no 2 ways to it you have to come out clean to her. She probably is already thinking she's found her man and you've got to clear the air about that. Tell her you are married and you wouldn't want to be more than a friend simple. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by tpiah: 5:42am On Jun 18, 2010 |
hmm, i just went through the op's posts. what a circus!! you're married, you claim you stare at poorn every day [you get job?], you patronize hookers regularly, etc etc. and now you're playing the part of the innocent adulterer. nollywood here you go. |
Re: I Dont Want To Hurt This Wonderful Lady by norrisman: 9:28am On Jun 18, 2010 |
Thread closed. |
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