milemimi93:


I never said u are a playboy. I was just wondering why you'd create a new moniker just to post your problem and seek for advice like is there anyone here paying ya bills or what?

No hard feelings bruv

Cooldude180:

She never showed me those signs until now. There are few things that I can take from other people and this isn't one of them..

delugajackson:
You are obsessed with that lady my friend, and emotional obsession is the worst form of slavery. The moment you started apologizing for her wrong doings was the moment she lost respect for you.

If she can't get off her high horse and take responsibility for her actions, then I'm afraid the journey you're embarking on will not only be a terrible one, but a miserable one as well. This is just a tip of the iceberg, marriage might be worse, and you will still create another monicker to whine about your egoistic wife.

Stop begging her, stop apologizing for some bullshít, stop acting like a whimp. Man up and grow some fúcking balls. Women love possessive men with that "I don't give a fúck attitude" and sometimes a bad áss behaviour. Be a man and show her who's boss! If she fails to succumb, then you have every right to kick her áss out the window.

lilmax:
its not odd for a man to apologize, its just stupid for a man to apologize for what he didn't do

you have given her the ego, so deal with it

Angy55:


It's a red flag that she's tired of you. She's trying to put up attitude, so that when you get tired and break up, she would see an excuse to say 'you broke up'. and start shedding crocodile tears.

The decision now is yours to take.

BecaciaBarbie:
Hummmmm.....from experience, I'd love to hear her own side of the story. But if you truly she is egoistic, something I dislike so much....mehn....i can't encourage you to go on with any marital plans and yes it sucks so much, when you have to apologize every time for her own wrongs even...she is slowly making you weak! I used to have a boyfriend with same character when i was a teenager, life was miserable with him yet I didnt want to let go, but when I finally did....it felt like I just got out of a bondage.
I won't advise you break up with her, but I'd advise you withdraw yourself emotionally.

Newbielearner:
You have been all over her. I can perceive you have been telling hher she's one special angel.
Your world has been full of imaginative thoughts. You can even see her carrying your kids.

She already knows all this. Then her real character can unveil. You should be grateful this happened.
You just have to leave her for a while (no attention ). She wouldn't bulge at first. Later, she would start displaying an humble character towards you. It's their dragonian principle. Because you love her, you would forget all her wrongs, and ignore the warning signals.
In marriage, you have to love your wife. Thus, you would inevitably experience worse than this after marriage. Your type is one of those men who after marriage lost their creativity because the tamer is at home. You would enjoy it when Lagosians traffic delays you from getting home early from work. You'd better heed this warning signs and pick race.
However, you cannot ascertain if my advice is right, until you marry her, and your kids start telling you that they would report you to mummy

Cooldude180:

It seems so.. I pray may she not fall into wrong hands cos I so much love her with passion. It's possible that I wud hate her too with a burning passion if she refuses to see her wrongs and make amends..

Angy55:


I feel your pain bro. Just try and relax, cool off a bit. Look for something to distract yourself. Don't communicate her for like a week and see her reactions.

Cooldude180:

Okay.. Good approach

Angy55:


All the best. Do have a pleasant night.

dingbang:
Dude, just have it at the back of your mind you aren't marrying that girl... Simple.. Play along... If she offers you sex, you bang.. But let it be known to you that the Rship ain't heading to the altar because she is not the kind of woman you imagine to spend the days of your life with.

Cooldude180:
I created this moniker merely to hide my identity as I am one of the active members on this Forum.Moreover, the lady in question is also on this forum although she is just a passive member.
I met her during my service year in the southwest and caught feelings even on the first day. We got talking and a relationship started after some weeks. I really love her even more than before and I still have this feeling that she would definitely come to her senses although a part of me is telling me that she is not willing to make amends.
I have been able to empower her although much proceeds are not coming forth for now as we are collectively building a strong customer base for her business and with God on our side we would definitely get there soon. Besides she is a beneficiary of one of the federal government of Nigeria employment schemes for youths in the country. She never wanted to get herself involved in the scheme fearing that she would not make the final list but I encouraged her and took it upon myself to make it work out for her. I have shown her love and care in my own way and I'm even willing to do more for her because I want to see her Happy.
However, the bone of contentment is that she is too egoistic and rarely does she see her wrongs nor feel its cool to apologize. I have sat her down several times and tried to talk senses into her head and even had her close friend talk to her about it but all to no avail. Most times, she wouldn't talk to me for two days until I apologize for what she did. Even at that, it would take her like a day to accept my apologies. I know that most of you would say it's odd for a man to apologise for what he is not quilty of.
I got the shock of my life when she asked me if I can remember her asking me to apologize to her. This was after she did something nasty.
This is the same lady I hope to perform her marital rite soon. I'm somewhat in my late twenties. I really love children and I hope to start a family in my young days so that they can grow with me. I think my love for kids is out of this world but she is likely gonna make me change my mind about that.
I wanna quit and go search for love elsewhere but I feel she deserves another chance.. Actually I'm lost and can't figure out why she is acting up.
What do I do? Has anyone here ever been in this shoe before and how did they deal with it?
Is there any hope that she would change?
Lalasticlala has this ever happened to you?

Areaboyfriend:


Bro I have been there. And I know how this feels. You are really into her and trying to hard to make your relationship with her workout, while she's of the carefree attitude.
See it is either she doesn't genuinely love you and making good use of the situation ( to her gains) or she's seeing someone else and wants to frustrate you out of her life. These days, people hardly say "break up", they act it!
The earlier you get this into your head the better. You are trying so hard because she's doesn't want to stay with you bro. Okay ask yourself.
What has she done for you?
What efforts is she putting in the relationship?
I bet if things go wrong today, she would gladly move on and you would be Stucked still in the begging syndrome.
You deserve better my man. Read the signs and use your head on time.

ultimate77:
Sometime ago in February, I created a thread as this, major advice I received was "let her go and start a new life" I knew that was what I wanted. But still holding to the egoistic, non respectful, unrepentant, unapologetic and blanked brain girl... I loved her without boundaries... Same thing OP mentioned here are her qualities.

Gave all. In my power.. Well, that is by the way now, though I cried my eyes out but walking away was the best option. I even had to observe marriages from elderly people. Coupls married for sometime now so I can treat her well. But this girl will never even bother learning anything new even after knowing i want to house her.. Gosh!!! So annoying...

Well, I moved and today, though I'm still searching for a fair skinned respectful Yoruba or delta or even kaduna lady to marry, I'm happy that girl is out ofy life.. I can't even stop thanking God. I would have had HBP.

Bro... I swear, you just have to move on, take that bold step, I know it's never easy.. Mine was 3years, your race is just 2. Just try, ATTITUDE IS DIFFICULT TO CHANGE ESP. WHEN THE POSSESOR IS NOT INTERESTED IN KNOWING IF THEY ARE POSSESING IT.

just move on. Bone the girl. You will be strong eventually just like I am right now. Cheers man.

chloride6:


I'm coming to 35 marina to arrest you.

chloride6:


I'm coming to 35 marina to arrest you.

Cooldude180:

Interesting.. Thanks bro..

2buffagain:
Bitch-made men everywhere...

Cooldude180:

I know that the grass isnt always greener on the other side but it's becoming obvious that she is not really into me the way I am into her.
I had passed tru alot in life and I worked so hard to get here. Atleast I deserve a good woman

Cooldude180:
I created this moniker merely to hide my identity as I am one of the active members on this Forum.Moreover, the lady in question is also on this forum although she is just a passive member.
I met her during my service year in the southwest and caught feelings even on the first day. We got talking and a relationship started after some weeks. I really love her even more than before and I still have this feeling that she would definitely come to her senses although a part of me is telling me that she is not willing to make amends.
I have been able to empower her although much proceeds are not coming forth for now as we are collectively building a strong customer base for her business and with God on our side we would definitely get there soon. Besides she is a beneficiary of one of the federal government of Nigeria employment schemes for youths in the country. She never wanted to get herself involved in the scheme fearing that she would not make the final list but I encouraged her and took it upon myself to make it work out for her. I have shown her love and care in my own way and I'm even willing to do more for her because I want to see her Happy.
However, the bone of contentment is that she is too egoistic and rarely does she see her wrongs nor feel its cool to apologize. I have sat her down several times and tried to talk senses into her head and even had her close friend talk to her about it but all to no avail. Most times, she wouldn't talk to me for two days until I apologize for what she did. Even at that, it would take her like a day to accept my apologies. I know that most of you would say it's odd for a man to apologise for what he is not quilty of.
I got the shock of my life when she asked me if I can remember her asking me to apologize to her. This was after she did something nasty.
This is the same lady I hope to perform her marital rite soon. I'm somewhat in my late twenties. I really love children and I hope to start a family in my young days so that they can grow with me. I think my love for kids is out of this world but she is likely gonna make me change my mind about that.
I wanna quit and go search for love elsewhere but I feel she deserves another chance.. Actually I'm lost and can't figure out why she is acting up.
What do I do? Has anyone here ever been in this shoe before and how did they deal with it?
Is there any hope that she would change?
Lalasticlala has this ever happened to you?

MorningStar233:
Oh God, wahala everywhere..... My bf does not apologize cha cha, he lied to me that he's single when he was asking me out only for me to find out he is in a relationship that his family members are even aware of, I've been shattered for days now and he is not even remorseful at all, I just keep loving the wrong people...I will hold mind and stay on my own, I will not die

Cooldude180:

That puts us in the same shoe.
Sorry for that.I hope you are okay now.
I have already taken my decision as there is no possibility of change..