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Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 7:26am On Oct 30, 2018
Most people belong to the school of thought that ladies are more desperate for marriage than men.....
So a man can feel comfortable living till late 30s as a bachelor ...
However marriage is needed more by the man but a man that doesn't enjoy the youthfulness with his wife then what's the story he wants to tell his children.....
Very large age gap between spouses makes a lady uncomfortable in the house.....she sees her husband like her elder brother ...first step in the break in communication.....
The highest amounts of cheating among spouses stems not from maturity or finances but lack of friendship between spouses.....
Lastly let's not be deceived ...its awesome to grow with your kids in a lovely setting rather than being the pta chairman of a primary school when u are supposed to be retired......



My piece though....critics allowed access.......good morning all

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nackzy: 7:30am On Oct 30, 2018
Op i completely disagree with you, Age of marriage means nothing, the most important thing is how successful will the marriage be
U can Marry at 25 n divorce at 28

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by yuncka: 7:32am On Oct 30, 2018
I think the main pressure comes when people dictate to others when to marry. Everybody's goals and aspirations cannot be the same.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 7:40am On Oct 30, 2018
yuncka:
I think the main pressure comes when people dictate to others when to marry. Everybody's goals and aspirations can be the same.
Oga most of us did not wish or decide to marry latter than 35,
Na lack of resources cause am

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 7:54am On Oct 30, 2018
No Ill feelings just that I feel that when you marry above 35 as a man u marry someone u can't really fall in love with because of the age difference .......u just endure the marriage because of children and tend to spend more time outside doing unnecessary things
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by yuncka: 7:58am On Oct 30, 2018
VeeVeeMyLuv:

Oga most of us did not wish or decide to marry latter than 35,
Na lack of resources cause am

I might be wrong, but I think Lack of resources will mainly affect people who want elaborate weddings.
Speaking from experiences within my circle of friends.

You can do a small wedding or just court registry, when things get better you can then do an elaborate anniversary.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by tayo60(f): 8:00am On Oct 30, 2018
Op, you are right. When there is too much gap between d ages of husband and wife, it creates a lot of misunderstanding between them. This is very common among the people from d south east, south south. What do you expect from a woman whose husband is twice her age? A man of 40+ marrying a girl of 20, how will they reason same way? I av seen a lot of married couples with this and its creating problems in their homes now.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by yuncka: 8:01am On Oct 30, 2018
excessmon:
No Ill feelings just that I feel that when you marry above 35 as a man u marry someone u can't really fall in love with because of the age difference .......u just endure the marriage because of children and tend to spend more time outside doing unnecessary things


Yes...you are correct in a way but I still maintain most people will rush into marriage because of societal pressure. That is even when you'll make more mistakes. Like someone pointed above you Mary at 25 divorce at 28.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by yuncka: 8:02am On Oct 30, 2018
tayo60:
Op, you are right. When there is too much gap between d ages of husband and wife, it creates a lot of misunderstanding between them. This is very common among the people from d south east, south south. What do you expect from a woman whose husband is twice her age? A man of 40+ marrying a girl of 20, how will they reason same way? I av seen a lot of married couples with this and its creating problems in their homes now.

Lol...
You didn't even mention North.
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Kirinwa: 9:29am On Oct 30, 2018
yuncka:


I might be wrong, but I think Lack of resources will mainly affect people who want elaborate weddings.
Speaking from experiences within my circle of friends.

You can do a small wedding or just court registry, when things get better you can then do an elaborate anniversary.

You made sense in your earlier post but may have missed the point here. The world is larger than you think, some people are earning just #10 000 in a month and that's by hustling cos of lack of jobs. Will you advice such an one to marry?

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by yuncka: 9:39am On Oct 30, 2018
Kirinwa:


You made sense in your earlier post but may have missed the point here. The world is larger than you think, some people are earning just #10 000 in a month and that's by hustling cos of lack of jobs. Will you advice such an one to marry?

You failed to see where I said "I might be wrong"

And if you read again slowly you will see that my tone is suggestive.
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by dederocs(m): 12:46pm On Oct 30, 2018
Village man...local thinking.
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 2:50pm On Oct 30, 2018
I believe hustle comes better when u are married...... Focused

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 3:05pm On Oct 30, 2018
tayo60:
Op, you are right. When there is too much gap between d ages of husband and wife, it creates a lot of misunderstanding between them. This is very common among the people from d south east, south south. What do you expect from a woman whose husband is twice her age? A man of 40+ marrying a girl of 20, how will they reason same way? I av seen a lot of married couples with this and its creating problems in their homes now.

Your observation is true and it is as well true that some ladies prefer men far older than themselves even twice their own age.

THESE SET OF PECULIAR YOUNG LADIES, DO SAY THAT THEIR REASON IS BECAUSE, THEY YOUNG MEN OF THEIR OWN AGE MATES OR MEN WHO THEY ARE VERY CLOSE TO IN AGE HAVE CHOSEN TO LIVE A LIFE OF IMMATURITY AND IRRESPONSIBILITY. THEY PREFER A FATHER FIGURE VERY MUCH OLDER, WHO IS VERY RESPONSIBLE AND WILL TAKE VERY GOOD CARE OF THEM NOT JUST AS A WIFE BUT LIKE A DAUGHTER, A PET TO BE PAMPERED AND ADORED.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by samsam2019: 4:09pm On Oct 30, 2018
Marriage is headache




Iv been married and I know what I'm saying




It also slows your progress down if you're into certain type of jobs

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 5:37pm On Oct 30, 2018
What's the most ideal age difference for marriage please....cos all opinions look towards maturity in age before marriage.....
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by michaelandre(m): 5:49pm On Oct 30, 2018
op is a woman

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 5:55pm On Oct 30, 2018
excessmon:
Most people belong to the school of thought that ladies are more desperate for marriage than men.....
So a man can feel comfortable living till late 30s as a bachelor ...
However marriage is needed more by the man but a man that doesn't enjoy the youthfulness with his wife then what's the story he wants to tell his children.....
Very large age gap between spouses makes a lady uncomfortable in the house.....she sees her husband like her elder brother ...first step in the break in communication.....
The highest amounts of cheating among spouses stems not from maturity or finances but lack of friendship between spouses.....
Lastly let's not be deceived ...its awesome to grow with your kids in a lovely setting rather than being the pta chairman of a primary school when u are supposed to be retired......



My piece though....critics allowed access.......good morning all
35 and above is ripe for the picking
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 5:57pm On Oct 30, 2018
WORDWORLD:


Your observation is true and it is as well true that some ladies prefer men far older than themselves even twice their own age.

THESE SET OF PECULIAR YOUNG LADIES, DO SAY THAT THEIR REASON IS BECAUSE, THEY YOUNG MEN OF THEIR OWN AGE MATES OR MEN WHO THEY ARE VERY CLOSE TO IN AGE HAVE CHOOSEN TO LIVE A LIFE OF IMMATURITY AND IRRESPONSIBILITY. THEY PREFER A FATHER FIGURE, WHO IS VERY RESPONSIBLE AND WILL TAKE VERY GOOD CARE OF THEM NOT JUST AS A WIFE BUT LIKE A DAUGHTER, A PET TO BE PAMPERED AND ADORED.

preach it, i like them older, like vintage wine

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 7:11pm On Oct 30, 2018
Domestic violence thrives more in places where the man sees himself as the elder brother or uncle of the wife....whenever she does something there's always a reason for wanting to punish her without looking back or feeling remorse about it......


My piece though......

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 7:40pm On Oct 30, 2018
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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 7:44pm On Oct 30, 2018
funmisticqueen:
preach it, i like them older, like vintage wine
wink

Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 7:56pm On Oct 30, 2018
tayo60:
Op, you are right. When there is too much gap between d ages of husband and wife, it creates a lot of misunderstanding between them. This is very common among the people from d south east, south south. What do you expect from a woman whose husband is twice her age? A man of 40+ marrying a girl of 20, how will they reason same way? I av seen a lot of married couples with this and its creating problems in their homes now.
a man of 40+ marrying a girl of just 20 is a sugar daddy to the girl nau.and such girls with such older husbands cheat on them with their younger boyfriends.na mostly arrangee marriage such dey be.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by Nobody: 7:59pm On Oct 30, 2018
excessmon:
Domestic violence thrives more in places where the man sees himself as the elder brother or uncle of the wife....whenever she does something there's always a reason for wanting to punish her without looking back or feeling remorse about it......


My piece though......
but i have seen 22yr old guys who violently beat up their 21 or 22 yr old girlfriends

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by CaptainMitch: 8:24pm On Oct 30, 2018
Some of you Afonjas are very dull and you always want to have an opinion on everything. Get your fact right before potraying your lack of education and enlightenment.

tayo60:
Op, you are right. When there is too much gap between d ages of husband and wife, it creates a lot of misunderstanding between them. This is very common among the people from d south east, south south. What do you expect from a woman whose husband is twice her age? A man of 40+ marrying a girl of 20, how will they reason same way? I av seen a lot of married couples with this and its creating problems in their homes now.

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by naijacentric(m): 8:32pm On Oct 30, 2018
excessmon:
No Ill feelings just that I feel that when you marry above 35 as a man u marry someone u can't really fall in love with because of the age difference .......u just endure the marriage because of children and tend to spend more time outside doing unnecessary things
must one marry younger ladies i guess we need to change our mentality in naija i even discovered younger ladies are even more trouble sef

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Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by excessmon(m): 8:41pm On Oct 30, 2018
I feel that if men marry early and start having children early enough there will be a boost in life expectancy rate for men and they will live longer cos they hustle early in life and have time to rest in future.....




My opinion though
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by naijacentric(m): 9:39pm On Oct 30, 2018
excessmon:
Domestic violence thrives more in places where the man sees himself as the elder brother or uncle of the wife....whenever she does something there's always a reason for wanting to punish her without looking back or feeling remorse about it......


My piece though......
God bless u dis is wat i tell many guys u wont want to take nonsense from dem bcus of the age gap but guys dey find control n fresh blood
Re: Any Man That Marries Above 35years Old Marries In Frustration....and Desperation by naijacentric(m): 9:42pm On Oct 30, 2018
lefulefu:

but i have seen 22yr old guys who violently beat up their 21 or 22 yr old girlfriends
dey are rare

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