Thank you  both for the replies and Sista you are absolutely right. I know better, but I did it out of the love of my heart.  No acct./bank info. was given to him. Sent 100 us dollar cash because he requested it that way.  Maybe I will just delete him and never answer his calls. Instead of plans to marry, I am sure he was planning to get more and then disappear and I would never hear from him again. So l am lucky it was a small price to pay for a big-ass wakeup call.  For all the women looking for love-please, please BE AWARE!

Huh i can imagine.Jst do away with him or better still ask him to try and send u some money too.Jst be careful oh

@9ja4eva


How are you doing sweetie?


@Kya

Maybe I will just delete him and never answer his calls.

Very good idea Kya. If you continue to talk to him, he will surely try and do his best to convince you that he is not trying to scam you and it is just the bad image of Nigeria that you are afraid of and how it's so unfair to him and so forth. If he does that, don't believe him. No good man would try to make a woman feel guilty because she wants to be careful about giving her money to someone she does not know, a good man would understand and a good man would not have asked you for money in the first place. What does he expect you to do? Invest your money into him and he will be the return on your investment? Meanwhile, what will he do to show you that he is willing to invest in you? Talk sweet to you and fill your imagination with thoughts of marriage? Please.

It should be going both ways, you should not have to do all the risk taking, a woman should not have to pay for a prospective husband.

Instead of plans to marry, I am sure he was planning to get more and then disappear and I would never hear from him again.

Yeah, and it is no telling how many other women he is doing this to. He has a web cam as you said so he must be a professional. He has money to pay for a web cam and a computer but he doesn't have money to take care of his self? l guess his computer and web cam is the investment he made towards the career he has in scamming women.

So l am lucky it was a small price to pay for a big-ass wakeup call. For all the women looking for love-please, please BE AWARE!

Sweet heart, you are right, you did pay a small price but you are smart, you know that in your heart you were not going to be so naive as to send even more money so be proud of yourself. I would advise you not to look for love on line, you nver know what you are getting into. If you want to meet some Good African men, I am sure there are some in your area especially Nigerian men, they are everywhere


Don't stop coming to Nairaland now that you got your advice, keep coming back okay?

kya, na so you bad wey you dey find man for internet? if you no bad, you for don meet man for ya life.

na your behaviour dey drive you about so

this show of shame has nothing to do with tribe or religion,it cuts across all tribes,HAUSA,IBO,YORUBA,TIV,IGALA,NUPE,KANURI,name it,even the so called oyinbos are involved?ask the greedy ones among dem.

@Sista

Am good and yu.Nice advice u giving Kya

thanks sista. a thoughtful piece of advice. ANY NAIJA MAN ASKING FOR MONEY FROM A WOMAN HE BARELY KNOWS HAS SOME POTENTIALS OF BEING A SCAM ARTIST.

Akpabuyo Village Fumes Over Election Materials In Shrine

http://www.independentngonline.com/?c=116&a=25322


Inhabitants of Akwa Obio Inwang village in Akpabuyo Local Government Area of Cross River State have alleged desecration of their shrine over a large quantity of election materials reportedly dumped there by an official of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC).

The chief priest said the community shrine had been desecrated and insisted that the INEC in the state should perform the necessary rituals before evacuating the materials.

He said the gods of the community were already annoyed and will start taking drastic actions against INEC staff any moment from now.

The materials were allegedly dumped at the Ekpe shrine during the governorship and House of Assembly elections held on April 14, 2007. They include INEC stamps, ink pad, voters register, bags, ballot boxes and papers meant for the elections.

We gathered that the presiding officer said he was going for the result sheets for the elections in the polling centres within the community and did not return until about 9p.m, about six hours after polling had ended. But at the polling centres, the voters and community youths were said to have insisted on him producing the result sheets before voting would commence.

We also learnt that when the presiding officer returned to the shrine to pick up the materials about 9pm, he was prevented from doing so by the youths, who have since been keeping vigil over the materials.

The chief priest of the shrine, who identified himself as Obong Ekpe, told journalists at the weekend that "this is the first time somebody can be bold enough to dump voting materials or anything foreign in our shrine without recourse to the terrible implications that can accompany such act."

Chief Ekeng Ewah Henshaw, who acted as interpreter to the chief priest, said the materials were dumped there by the presiding officer, who he said claimed they would be safe there until he returns with the result sheets for the elections.

When our correspondent contacted the INEC office in Calabar, no official agreed to officially comment on the issue. But a top personnel said they were not aware of any election materials dumped in any shrine anywhere in the state.

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thanks sista. a thoughtful piece of advice. ANY NAIJA MAN ASKING FOR MONEY FROM A WOMAN HE BARELY KNOWS HAS SOME POTENTIALS OF BEING A SCAM ARTIST.

Exactly.How come most people dnt see d handwriting on the wall?

So what are these articles from PM News & co. designed to achieve?? Chrisokw/Docokwy etc. seems to be a specialist in posting articles that denigrate every other ethnic group, except his own. Xtycod delights in doing the same thing. For every article posted in this thread, with a slant that casts aspersions on another ethnic group, there are more that can be called up, which would also put your own ethnic group in a bad light.

Its' sad really.  People hardly ever learn.

Tornadoz:

@ThiefOfHearts
I was saying those accusing the Ibos of giving Nigeria a bad name should know its not only the Ibos.
You're such an arrogant cow its unbelievable.

Na wetin? Name calling doesn't add value to the points being made. All this 'Yoruba' did that and 'Igbo' did this, isn't going to get us very far. How I wish people would sit down, think deeply & give logical solutions to the issue at hand.

With the exception of very few folks in the house who see crime as a vice that cuts across all cultures, most of the other posters have left the issue at hand and are just slinging mud at everyone else. Na real wa!

*yawns* laudate, you dey pay that slowpoke any mind? why?

The same slowpoke was going on about how we shouldnt be fingerpointing each other and stuff about unity yada yada and in the SAME SENTENCE did the same stupid thing the OP of the thread did. Apparently my pointing out his idiocy and hypocrisy annoyed him. Wish I gave a shit. Really.

Now he's going on "oh I just wanted to show that not only Igbos partake in it blah blah", how the hell does that correlate with his first statement. oponu oshi. Btw it's kind of embarrassing when people can't even spell the name of their tribe correctly.

When you hear these people on TV talk about fraudsters, have you ever heard "blah blah tribe of people commited blah blah offence", last I checked when they mentioned that medicaid fraud in Texas, they said NIGERIANS, not certain tribe of Nigerians. So all of you whining and making up crap about other people. No one cares. All they care and consider is the fact that it's Nigerians that are doing these things.

Ke ma to ara yin je ni sho. eyin ole buruku. 

Not to be changing the subject but[b] Thief[/b], from reading what you just posted, some of the grammatical mistakes you got on me about are now present in your above post.

ThiefOfHearts:

*yawns* laudate, you dey pay that slowpoke any mind? why?

The same slowpoke was going on about how we shouldnt be fingerpointing each other and stuff about unity yada yada and in the SAME SENTENCE did the same stupid thing the OP of the thread did. Apparently my pointing out his idiocy and hypocrisy annoyed him. Wish I gave a shit. Really.

Now he's going on "oh I just wanted to show that not only Igbos partake in it blah blah", how the hell does that correlate with his first statement. oponu oshi. Btw it's kind of embarrassing when people can't even spell the name of their tribe correctly.

When you here these people on TV talk about fraudsters, have you ever heard "blah blah tribe of people commited blah blah offence", last I checked when they mentioned that medicaid fraud in Texas, they said NIGERIANS, not certain tribe of Nigerians. So all of you whining and making up crap about other people. No one cares. All they care and consider is the fact that it's Nigerians that are doing these things.

Ke ma to ara yin je ni sho. eyin ole buruku.  

hmm
some image we potraying here on NL for onlookers to see, when you can not make another see eye to eye with you on an issue, do it the Nigerian way, throw insults and hurle abuse at one another. again your point is lost in the midst of the aggression

@ topic
We can all go a long way in changing the views of outsiders about our country, i personally don't think what is portrayed is wholely accurate many times, and i am one for '' lets not mind what is expected, lets do what is good , for us , our way'' . Lets do away with accepting all things corrupt, many atimes we settle for less from our leaders to our very homes, when something is bad lets be gracious enough to accept it is and CHANGE IT!. NIGERIA IS ONE COUNTRY OF MANY PEOPLE, YORUBA, IGBO, HAUSA, EDO(ME ), ETC  nobody rejects his or her own arm or leg, lets just cut all this ethnic rubbish plsssssssssssssssssssssssssss for the sake of our generation and the next, jor, biko, la`or, abeg una. FIGHTING AMOUNG YOURSELFS IS SO CHILDISH AND KINDA RUNNING STALE NOW

ThiefOfHearts:

When you here these people on TV talk about fraudsters, have you ever heard "blah blah tribe of people commited blah blah offence", last I checked when they mentioned that medicaid fraud in Texas, they said NIGERIANS, not certain tribe of Nigerians. So all of you whining and making up crap about other people. No one cares. All they care and consider is the fact that it's Nigerians that are doing these things.

Ke ma to ara yin je ni sho. eyin ole buruku.  

Yeah. They sure don't care where you come from ''in'' Nigeria. Y'all are thesame. Igbo, Kanuri, Efik, Egun and all the likes.

I like how sisimose felt the need to bitch about my posts like she ALWAYS does yet didnt say a word to Tornazdo and what he said about me. Anyone that isnt trying to be a mere hypocrite like yourself would be able to tell that I'm merely responding to the dude.
Didnt you say you were going to avoid my posts from now on? How about you do the noble thing and keep your damn promises. This is the second time you've made such a promise and failed to stand by it. A man is nothing if he cant keep his word, you know. Btw your post here has absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand.

anyway, Congrats on whatever it is you found, Sista. By all means have a drink on me.

darling i never made any promise to you, only person i make promises to is my husband, we are not romantically linked are we? . I will not ignore any post on NL, it is public forum i will respond when i like , i was hoping to make you see the error in your way. The thing is i see no need in insults, no need, many ppl manage to butt heads on NL without insults, many ! Being a public forum i find it annoying to give a post my attention only to see cursing and fighting, and i am not alone in that thought.

how come you never told me to ignore you yesterday when i agreed with one of your posts? whenever you make a great contribution to any post without the agression and bile i happily engage, even when i know you hate my guts, i dont dislike you at all. i think you are smart and need to use ur smarts more effectively. You can ignore me if you wish , just afford all other ppl the curtesy of enjoying Nl without the fighting.

Keep the peace

the people saying the igbo's are the ones giving the nation a bad name as a country where fraud thrives should go to benin which is the den of internet scam,i am sure  they will change their notion of who the main fraudsters in nigeria are.

How about you stop giving these posts "your attention", then? Apparently Toronadz's post didnt catch your "attention", I wonder why.

In the thread with choogtin, you said that you would ignore my posts because apparently all i do is bait people now you are saying something else. Lucky for you the thread was deleted else i would have quoted you.

Seriously, stop bothering me before I report you for going off topic.

Thanks.

docokwy
i think that your culled article  would have recieved better attention from political nairalanders. Why dont post it on political section?

lol ahhh! lovely as expected

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mekadon:

the people saying the igbo's are the ones giving the nation a bad name as a country where fraud thrives should go to benin which is the den of internet scam,i am sure  they will change their notion of who the main fraudsters in nigeria are.

Hi,
please refer to this post here

ono:

Yeah. They sure don't care where you come from ''in'' Nigeria. Y'all are thesame. Igbo, Kanuri, Efik, Egun and all the likes.

read it?  *smiles * good

now lets just say as a Benin woman i agree with what you say , would this have any bearing on how we are viewed? because like that quote says nobody has the time to dissect out numerous cultures and ethnic grouping to see who is the ''bad egg''
so stop the finger pointing , this is a collective problem , just like you can not reject your own arm or leg, lets work as a body, please my brother

docokwy:
Akpabuyo Village Fumes Over Election Materials In Shrine

http://www.independentngonline.com/?c=116&a=25322


Inhabitants of Akwa Obio Inwang village in Akpabuyo Local Government Area of Cross River State have alleged desecration of their shrine over a large quantity of election materials reportedly dumped there by an official of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC).

The chief priest said the community shrine had been desecrated and insisted that the INEC in the state should perform the necessary rituals before evacuating the materials.

He said the gods of the community were already annoyed and will start taking drastic actions against INEC staff any moment from now.

The materials were allegedly dumped at the Ekpe shrine during the governorship and House of Assembly elections held on April 14, 2007. They include INEC stamps, ink pad, voters register, bags, ballot boxes and papers meant for the elections.

We gathered that the presiding officer said he was going for the result sheets for the elections in the polling centres within the community and did not return until about 9p.m, about six hours after polling had ended. But at the polling centres, the voters and community youths were said to have insisted on him producing the result sheets before voting would commence.

We also learnt that when the presiding officer returned to the shrine to pick up the materials about 9pm, he was prevented from doing so by the youths, who have since been keeping vigil over the materials.

The chief priest of the shrine, who identified himself as Obong Ekpe, told journalists at the weekend that "this is the first time somebody can be bold enough to dump voting materials or anything foreign in our shrine without recourse to the terrible implications that can accompany such act."

Chief Ekeng Ewah Henshaw, who acted as interpreter to the chief priest, said the materials were dumped there by the presiding officer, who he said claimed they would be safe there until he returns with the result sheets for the elections.

When our correspondent contacted the INEC office in Calabar, no official agreed to officially comment on the issue. But a top personnel said they were not aware of any election materials dumped in any shrine anywhere in the state.

And the point is________ Just what exactly??   How does this post relate to what Oprah said about Nigerians on her show? I weak o! Maybe we should pull up an article about all the other shrines in your own neck of the woods, and place it side-by-side with this one you have posted up here, so that everyone can spot the difference.

Why people cannot make rational, logical, illuminating, civilised contributions to a topic, without digressing or descending into the mud to pull out utter gibberish, still beats me.  Anyway, those who said 'common sense ain't common', were right!

lol off topic is the order of the day, i have said it this place needs serious moderating

Oprah does what she does well, and she reports it as it is. So stop the ethnic war and lets try to do something about it. AH!

laudate

oxytcod and docwytx are known for these kinda tactics. It's all they ever do really. Never have anything of substance to add. They just go around making everything and anything tribal. It's quite pathetic really.

Firstly, the ethnic thing is a natural in any case, believe me if it was a yoruba man that was named it would have been yoruba people that would heve been credited with all the compliments the ibo are recieving on this thread. To state it clearly, for me if the nigerian federation should split to yoruba, ibo and hausa, that would not be the end instead we would look for other dividing factors like ibadan- ondo- ekiti and the like. The fact that nigerians are fraudsters is ina way true because for as many as grew up here, we think of corruption as a way of life and this is not because we are hausa or yoruba or ibo, it's because we are nigerian. How many of us if we get stopped for some legitimate traffic offence would rather follow due process? instead we think why dont we just pay the police man and go our way. If you can follow due process then you can speak but until then let us not claim to be holy yoruba or hausa of efik or anyhting else. The slander on nigerians is universal to an outsider. they wont ask if you are ibo after being nigerian, or so i think.

coolblue:

Firstly, the ethnic thing is a natural in any case, believe me if it was a yoruba man that was named it would have been yoruba people that would heve been credited with all the compliments the ibo are recieving on this thread. To state it clearly, for me if the nigerian federation should split to yoruba, ibo and hausa, that would not be the end instead we would look for other dividing factors like ibadan- ondo- ekiti and the like. The fact that nigerians are fraudsters is ina way true because for as many as grew up here, we think of corruption as a way of life and this is not because we are hausa or yoruba or ibo, it's because we are nigerian. How many of us if we get stopped for some legitimate traffic offence would rather follow due process? instead we think why don't we just pay the police man and go our way. If you can follow due process then you can speak but until then let us not claim to be holy yoruba or hausa of efik or anyhting else. The slander on nigerians is universal to an outsider. they wont ask if you are ibo after being nigerian, or so i think.

Ha its a lie!!! ask Germans they know the tribe that has the greatest number of fraudsters in Nigeria

to quote awoof
"Ha its a lie!!! ask Germans they know the tribe that has the greatest number of fraudsters in Nigeria"
well that we have an idea of the largest number of fraudsters in any tribe is not a reason to be happy. fix the nigerial polity one person at a time starting from me. then we can say anything.

I Say To Hell With Oprah.

Tell Her To Go Get Her Self A Husband. Maybe That Would Occupy Her Mind And Shed Learn to Mind Her Own Business.

Nigeria Is A Great Nation. The Filth That Goes On In The Minds Of Most Americans Is Worse Than The Filth We See On The Streets Of Graet Nijja.

Nigeria Is Our Own. To Hell With Detractors.!

Husband or not, She can buy you.

awoof:

Ha its a lie!!! ask Germans they know the tribe that has the greatest number of fraudsters in Nigeria

And the answer is obvious: Y O R U B A

I like how dockowy thinks everyone who isn't Igbo on this board is Yoruba.

I have said my piece about this topic earlier in the thread so I won't repeat myself.
But I would like to ask ,I know that prejudice against other people usually has a historical perspective apart from the insecurity and lack of self esteem that propagates it( eg racism)
Does anybody know the historical background of the animosity between Igbos and Yorubas.
Please this is a serious request seeing that the thread has drifted from the topic to a tribal war

We are now helping to furter damage the image of our beloved country on the net