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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by generationz(f): 8:52pm On Dec 28, 2018 |
VeeVeeMyLuv: happy new year in advance dear 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 4:53pm On Dec 29, 2018 |
generationz:thank you Wish you the same |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by dj5naira(m): 10:18am On Dec 31, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl: UyaiIncomparabl(f)? |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 2:06pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
dj5naira: ?? |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by LordKO(m): 12:24pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 1:07pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You need someone u can pour ur heart out to. Someone who wouldn't judge u by ur past, someone u can relate ur deepest darkest secrets without fear.. You shouldn't be afraid to let someone see the real u underneath all that skin , break down those defences & let ur guard down & be bold enough to live free. You are normal but ur in a really bad head space right now. You gotta be passionate about at least one thing.. Life is too hard & short to live it through all that strife. We all going to die one day why make life harder than it already is. I wish i could really help u see the picture i am trying to paint here. I know u hv been thru a lot but just try to slow down & appreciate the little things u always take for granted because in the end they are what truly counts. Passion is the fire that lights our way... Always remember that Happy New year UyaiIncomparabl 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by LordKO(m): 1:29pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Themellowone: Happy New Year |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 1:33pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by SkinnyNigga: 12:39pm On Jan 02, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:did someone break your heart? are you single? do you have a boyfriend? does he treat you well? 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 4:50pm On Jan 02, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You can start by replying the Yuletide messages. Spread the happiness and see it grow on you too. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by nedubest(m): 4:07am On Jan 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: I'm a graphics designer and web designer |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by TheWalkingMind: 9:18am On Jan 20, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:You are not alone. Welcome to the family. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:11am On Jan 20, 2019 |
TheWalkingMind: Hmmmmm. How've you been? |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by TheWalkingMind: 10:24am On Jan 20, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Have been good. Hope life and business is moving smooth over there? |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by goldenboyofpsy(m): 8:29pm On Jan 20, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:If you truly need help, don't close your heart to help and assistance offered by friends. professional help is what you need. Even if its hereditary, it can be worked on if you are willing to overcome it. But as a trained psychologist, its not normal or healthy. Admit you can overcome it. Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Jan 23, 2019 |
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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:50am On Jan 24, 2019 |
stableprice: You're not serious. |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by ibkonekt(m): 6:39am On Jan 25, 2019 |
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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Branter: 7:49pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:44am On Jan 28, 2019 |
Branter: I'll pass a great deal. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 8:43pm On Feb 09, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:May be true though,but a bad review. Damaging. |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by essenceplus: 11:41am On Mar 29, 2019 |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 10:22pm On Mar 29, 2019 |
Just like me, what's the point of celebrating Christmas some think it's a party when y'all should go to church if you wish me merry Christmas I say the person you should be wishing Merry Christmas is Jesus for what he had done for us but about the going out part I go out a lot and I myself am a loner and want to be left alone but if I was to show my characters I won't have friends so I slightly bury it giving me a weird behaviour but now it's coming back and it had really messed me up 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Konquest: 11:07pm On Mar 29, 2019 |
@UyaiIncomparabl How has your day been? I read the first 2 pages of this thread topic for the first time last week and you painted a very vivid picture in my mind's eye... and it's one of the TWO major reasons why I followed you on NL. So I gradually typed my reply entirely off hand on my mobile device. I have a bit of jet lag right now... after a long international flight, and I haven't been so active on NL within the week, so let me post this right away. Well your post was on December 25, 2018, but I can still write a few laser-targeted words. I've read many books on human psychology, and attended certified courses and seminars on emotional intelligence. My mother was a senior medical practitioner, and I have had the opportunity to read a lot of thick medical books... So, I've got some brilliant medical and non-medical ideas as to what may have happened to you... so lets dive right in! First off, I must commend you for opening this very profound thread to share your feelings. This is one of the best threads I have ever read since I started using NL in 2005. A lot of men for instance don't like to talk about their feelings because they think they will be looked down upon as being less of a man. So, you as a young woman are NOT mentally deranged or a sadist and I will NOT say you are bipolar, but do also see a psychiatrist or psycho-analyst in your city of residence who can FURTHER evaluate you... and catch any other thing that may be FLYING below the radar! I am sure you know that a psychiatric hospital doesn't mean you are mad or mentally deranged. Psycho-analysts work in psychiatric facilities too. #1. RAGING HORMONES: From reading your post... you may have had raging HORMONAL issues, or you probably were subconsciously worried about unmet expectations in the year... when things are not PANNING OUT in the exact way want it. However we look at it, female hormones such as estrogen and progesterone secretions, can clash together during your monthly menstrual and ovulation cycles, and they are directly linked to the Central Nervous System. Pre-Menstrual Syndrome or PMS occurences are one of the TOP 5 reasons that are responsible for marital divorces worldwide. This is based on credible medical research! Women having PMS especially from the ages of 20 to 50 can display all kinds of emotions from crying without cause, anger, anxiety, irritability, depression, fatigue, self-isolation, and a whole lot of negative emotions which are not there fault! A lot of men do not know this fact... and so they lash out at their female spouses and the women then also overreact with more disrespect... and then BOOM DIVORCE sets in. A second variant or type of this situation is the Post-Partum depression which occurs in pregnant women even before giving birth. It is very insidious and fully manifests when a woman delivers her babies and due to hormonal imbalances, she is not able to cope with the pressures of being a new mother or second time mother. Women have been known to harm their babies in the process. So, having a family member to help out with the care of the baby might help to relieve the mother till she is able to overcome the raging hormonal issues. #2. STRESS: Stress is a major trigger of the kind of REACTION you posted about. I have found out that technology and ICT tools can cause distractions and we are put under stress to respond to emails, return SMS messages, phone calls, chat on FB, post on Twitter, log on to Instagram and get put under SOCIAL PRESSURES to keep up with the Joneses, watch YouTube channels we have subcribed to, and more! Better to turn these devices off and take some rest, because stress that comes from using ICT devices breeds anger and anxiety if used too much. And that brings us to the issue of Time Management in the next key point below. #3. STRONG TIP: TIME MANAGEMENT Let me share with YOU one of the TIME MANAGEMENT strategies I've used for years to achieve more everyday. "Do something POSITIVE everyday. " The MORE POSITIVE things you do daily, the more your self-esteem GROWS. The LESS POSITIVE things you do daily, the more your self-esteem DROPS. Focus on the Top 20% of the most important things in your daily to-do-list... and DELEGATE the remaining 80% of your daily to-do-list. You can achieve MORE POSITIVE things by using the Pareto Principle which states that 20% of the things you do will give you 80% of your RESULTS. This Pareto Principle works in all spheres of human endeavor. From academics, to investments, the 80/20 Principle or Pareto Principle truly works! There is a popular book on the 80/20 Principle by Robert Koch in my personal library collections, so you can get to buy one from a book store at an airport, hotels, and malls in your area of residence, which I assume is Lagos. #4. USE ESSENTIAL OILS OR PATCHOULI: Lavender, lemon oils or any other essential oil fragrance you like for AROMATHERAPY body massages. I use this too...and it works fine. Fragrances have ways of soothing or calming the nerves by working on the neuro-transmitters in the brain. This helps to destress anyone. Get this from a health store or a mall near you. Perhaps you could do price comparison shopping online and get these things cheaper by using some of the good NL shippers. SUMMARY: Read up more on these 4 key points at your leisure. You are not mentally deranged, but you show a great deal of self-awareness in your post by speaking out... and I like that in a woman. Your writing is neat, and you seem to be a very smart young woman too. I hope this helps! Cheers! P.S. #Great thread! 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 6:53pm On Mar 31, 2019 |
ignant:Very apt. Used to have this problem too. Learnt to start building emotion. It's an ongoing process but so far there is progress. This is defender mechanism to ward off pain and disappointment. There is nothing wrong with you. 1 Like |
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