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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LadySarah: Chai, this your story is too sad o.... |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by etas1001(m): 9:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Thank you all for your Contributions. this was eye opening. Not married yet but in A few years I will be... |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Mizwisdom(f): 9:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI: It's a mental thing because you've been programmed to accept weakness that's why you need sons to protect you lol I hope you don't get dissapointed when your daughter in law doesn't allow you share, just pray your future husband lives long enough to protect you because he's truly yours. I really want to know what your child will protect you from? sounds interesting to me 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by virtex18: 9:55pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Parent cannot always be right... Who you love is what matters, cuz it's not your parents that'll live with the person, it's you... I love parents that respect their children's decisions, that's some respect they got... So if parents disagree for some irrelevant reason, and because they did you let go of that person, then there wasn't love after all. 4 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Mizwisdom(f): 10:04pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
sassysure: That girl is quite weird. She even says she hopes her sons will protect her and wishes to spend as much time as possible in their house. Instead of focusing on her husband who will be old too, she wants to leave him to cling to her kids, even if one losses a spouse can't someone marry again instead of marrying your child? there's nothing we won't read on Nairaland 6 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ugosample(m): 10:06pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen:wow very interesting Just be good for and to your own family that's what matters now 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Efewestern: 10:07pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
hammerFC: lol.. but the case you just highlighted is quite different from what the OP asked, it's obvious the said lady is a tribalist. God knows I will marry any body I want to marry, who doesn't like it should go and hug transformer. Thou I'm already hooked with someone, I made it clear to everyone that I won't take rubbish from any member of my family, believe me, they all adjusted. If I'm wrong let me face the consequences. e no pass so. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ivolt: 10:14pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Willie2015:People without both parents or those who got consent have experienced worse. It is wrong to link bad luck to rebellious behavior. 4 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by TEYA: 10:15pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
clemmonce:Wow! I never knew that is possible. Someone told me a baby's genotype can't be know until after delivery. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ugosample(m): 10:21pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
SenorFax: this depends A lot of parents in NIGERIA give FLIMSY REASONS as to why their kid should not marry someone else. If there are genuine concerns that the parents have discovered and they lay it on the table, the kid is more inclined to listen But if it's based on flimsy stuff like "this tribe is this" Or something else Then the child better use his brain gettin a good partner is very hard losing such partner due to flimsy reasons will be very very bad. in summary, use your discretion |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by nnaemekanwachuk(m): 10:21pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1:dope |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ImaIma1(f): 10:26pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
sassysure: Wow! It is good to hear someone say what I always say. Children should not feel they are indebted to their parents for bringing them up. Who else should have done it? The child didn't beg to be born. In fact the parents most likely prayed for a child. Many mums keep blackmailing their kids with "I carried you for 9months" as if other mum's that give their children freedom carried theirs for 2 weeks. I consider men that cannot stand up to their mums to be weak. 6 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Amhappy(f): 10:40pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
There's always two sides to marriage without parental consent. Main issue is what is/are the reasons given by the parents? Are they valid? Does the person you intend to marry worth it? In Igboland marriage is a union of two families. From husband and wife to family meeting,to kindred meeting to village meeting to town meeting so you can't be alone. I have stories of both good and bad. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Jac007(m): 10:43pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Same here, here mum is saying no because of my church, so I have given her space, if she is truly mine, she would be mine no matter what. [/quote] You did the right thing my brother. Mine got married last month, I wish her joy and happiness. I too love the girl |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 10:54pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Ugosample:Omo, my wife tell me one story about one babe wey future mother in law no allow rest o. Na so so trouble: "u wld never marry my son" matters. Las las, then kuku separate. The mama go bring one geh wey she like. Guess Wetin happen? Na that girl wey the mama like naim kill the mama. The geh come tire for the way the mama dey so so dey com the house. The geh com quarrel with the mama, push her fall. Omo na so mama take off o! Marriage end o. In fact Wetin me be dey plan before ehn. If dem no accept my babe, after I don try to convince dem, I go separate, com marry geh wey I know she bad die. Na that geh go show dem shegey wela. Me I go suffer but I sabi bear rubbish o just to make my point. But las las I still married the chick of me dreamz and I no send their wahala. I dey flex my marriage dey go and my wife funny pass warri geh. 5 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 10:57pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1: 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 10:59pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Amhappy:And u no wan talk the stories ba? U con com here dey read oda ppl own abi? 1 Like
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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Amhappy(f): 11:09pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: One of my mates lost her husband last Dec. She has only one boy. She wept for long hours. Do you know that the son walk up to her and ask that she stop crying that as daddy is gone he's now her husband. He police her around to make sure she doesn't weep again. Son is about 9 or 10. I Remember when an aunt wanted to remarry after husband disappeared for years. My cousin bro who was barely 7 then will cry and cry begging his mummy not to remarry that he's now her husband. He will do anything to make mum happy. House work,sing and dance for mum,help in the shop etc. And laslas aunt no remarry. So these things happens. Mostly to people who are widowed early. The problem is the mother not knowing when to detach and allow son route his life. 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Daeylar(f): 11:15pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI: What kind of incest and codependency levels is this? 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by bedspread: 11:29pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Ishilove: I will say I was quite Privileged to Hear GOD.. It happened very early in the morning on dt day.. ( let's say btw 5am and 6am) I heard a Clear , Bold and audible voice .. YOU ARE GOING TO SOOOOOOO... It was sooo clear.... At that time I was prepping to Go some where totally different.... That voice made me cancel all other plans, cos I knew deep in my heart that if I didn't obey the voice I would crash.... Few months after Connection was made just as I was directed... It took about 2-3 and Half years before finally coming to Pass .. the evil guy devil tried to scuttle GOD'S plans... Many many discouragement sand all that Finally, What GOD said came to Pass Exactly as it was said.. 2017 Marriage was done ... Everything was pure Miracle.. purely the Hand of GOD.. My Admonishment to those seeking is that GOD ALMIGHTY gives spouses. I am a Living Example.. First u have to Come to HIM with an open not with a choice.. I remember telling GOD , if I don't hear HIM clearly in Marriage, I would never marry.. The Truth is that I have Enjoyed Greatly the Benefits of being directed by GOD in my Home.. It's very possible.. You Trust GOD for it Don't give him a plan B.. Even if your Missing Rib is in Kazathan, GOD will bring u guys together... 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Mizwisdom(f): 12:00am On Jan 13, 2019 |
Amhappy: OK a 10 year old will comfort a crying mother most times. Note I didn't say boy or girl because any child will be moved to compassion towards a loving mother, even kids less than that. When my neighbor was sick her 5 year old daughter lost appetite cause of concern for the mother. You clearly have some stereotypes which is fine but not necessarily true. A selfish child will ask the mother not to remarry because he wants to be the only child and have her to himself, no adult should allow a 7 year old control him or her. One day that child will marry and leave you lonely, no spouse wants a mil with no life of her own. I don't know why someone should allow a child dictate how she lives her life, it's better to have your own companion than to be disturbing your kids because you're lonely. 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ishilove: 12:01am On Jan 13, 2019 |
bedspread:The bolded ministered directly to my soul. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is so educative and inspiring. God bless you. 4 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Mizwisdom(f): 12:02am On Jan 13, 2019 |
Daeylar: . I just don't understand, I will like to hear from her, it sounds a lot like incest to me |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Reeses: 12:21am On Jan 13, 2019 |
Mine was worst I beg and beg,got my friends begging most of my familes begged as well for them to allow me to get married to my wife but it was just a waste of time . Long story short i got married without my parents blessings and will do it again and again...you can't cage your children just because you gave birth to them..And guess what was the real issues pretty lame guys, because my wife is from Abia and we are from Anambra and also she is Anglican and we are Catholic that's it . 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by sben2308(m): 12:44am On Jan 13, 2019 |
olumyde: A lot our parent see that we don't even smells and for her to say such believe me hold it dear I beg u |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Reeses: 12:50am On Jan 13, 2019 |
DavidEsq:Bro my suitation was really bad and I was embrassed with the turn out but I bullshit everbody and got married to my wife and every day has been a huge blessing..so far I have learned a lot from her. 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by agylistic77: 12:51am On Jan 13, 2019 |
Most of this marriage disapproval comes from the Man family.. Their reasons are not most time genuine.they are just self center, the sisters are the one's that normally poison their parent not to accept the intended wife because of jealousy... My advice. Marry the person you know that can love,cherish, and can tolerate you because no human is perfect.. 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Reeses: 12:59am On Jan 13, 2019 |
SenorFax:Bullshit, so as an Adult I have no right to make decisions and stand fully firm with that? This is why Nigeria is all messed up the youths can't not think straight without involving there parents..That's why most Nigeria Adults are still living in with their parents because they are afriad to go out there and be a man that you were meant to be. 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:05am On Jan 13, 2019 |
pyrex23: Wife, not children. After children comes parents. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ugosample(m): 1:15am On Jan 13, 2019 |
franchasng: if there is a cogent reason, you consider it If the reason is flimsy, you discard it that's the rule of thumb Two of my seniors (relatives( regret the wives they married everyday but guess what? Those wives were foisted on them by their parents scratch that Those wives were foisted on them by their MOTHER. Now look at the result there is no hard and fast rule in this thing 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ugosample(m): 1:18am On Jan 13, 2019 |
LadySarah: that's a burden a lot of Igbo families carry I'm from one; so I know |
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