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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by marvin906(m): 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Am still single |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DaddyMorenike: 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Ladies how much una dey buy pants? |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by wittyt98(m): 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by zicoraads: 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I would really love those who have experience with this to post, but as it is, I think most people would still come here and say they'll never do it. If I meet someone I really truly love and my parents are against it, I'm afraid I will go right ahead with it. When I see guys who have left the girl they were dating because of parental refusal to give consent, I often consider them to be weak. Or they never truly loved the lady in the first place. 64 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by odyx: 4:48pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Guy I hardly comment on NL but experience have often prove pre marital Parental view point about couples and in-laws wrong. My guy has exact experience but after the wife and his mother became best of friend even more than her own daughters. But still convince ur mom 53 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by NaijaRoyalty(m): 4:48pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
zicoraads: And if you later have problem that only them got solutions to, will you run back to them for help? |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by penocrat1(m): 4:49pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Xisnin: Child is an understatement. Your mind is your greatest weapon.use your mind to decide. Even the bible did not state that your parents must choose wife for you or decide your wife There work after you are grown up is to advice and bless.Molly wood and Zeeworld has spoiled our ability to stand and make manly decisions. 37 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Xisnin:Yeah, a child that love her parents. 6 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Blackdeewhy(m): 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
The thing called marriage nobody is sure of what comes next. So many ladies and guys parents, friends and all knew very well turned devil and vice versa. Go for it, if it pleases you. Probably the mind set of THEY DON'T WANT US TO BE TOGETHER will guide you in most ways. All the best! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Wiseandtrue(f): 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:What behavior does she have I mean your intended mother-in-law. Elaborate 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by emerged01(m): 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Bros,if you are going against your mum,be ready for a lifetime trouble. If it was your dad,with the support of your mum,you are free. 14 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by alfaman3: 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Parents are overated. 22 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by JayPeeOham: 4:51pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:ggg[color=#006600][/color] Holy spirit is the best teacher...and not experience because there are somethings you might experience and you don't come out to tell the story. just pray and ask for his (holy spirit) lead. 8 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by bonnyhope: 4:52pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
go and make peace with ur mum/dad |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Holuwathosyn(m): 4:52pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Parent are not always right when it comes to marriage decisions. If you feel good around your spouse and you are convinced she is the one you want. Try to pacify your parent and make them realize its your life and not theirs and moreover they have lived there own. There consent is not God's consent. 28 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by clemmonce(m): 4:52pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
alfaman3:you definitely have a bad upbringing... You should personalize it next time.... My parent are amazing I don't about you. 38 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Xisnin(m): 4:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
NaijaRoyalty:That never happens! Most marriages will encounter problems later. Even your parents had their own marital problems despite having their parents consent. 42 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by mastermaestro(m): 4:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
alfaman3: 50 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
selfwife:Pick up a book and learn 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by wonder233: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
No experience, everything is going smoothly. 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by alfaman3: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
clemmonce: Mine were stupid. 5 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by penocrat1(m): 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
After God, next is your parents![/quote] Lie.After God is your unique self.your parents should influence your life not decide your life. Nigeria and lack if independent thought.if your parents are not brainwashing you,mumu politicians are,or our outdated schools are . 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by dokyOloye: 4:55pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Valerie47:Lemme give you a little advice,cos its obvious you aren't of age yet. Parental consent though not the ultimate,is important,and is a tricky stuff. U know among these elders,there's this saying that what an elder sees sitting down,d child can't see from the top of a tree. U know why Igbo marriages fail d least?Cos it's a union b/w 2 families. Nowadays, d economy and social media put a lot of unions thru stress. And that is when the parents/families come in. Cos after you do introduction,search(only Igbo ppl will understand),bride price paying,traditional wedding,church/formal wedding, both families are already one. So,when a stressor comes ,if the man/woman complains to his/her ppl,they ppl will tell him/her"go back to your husband/wife,we know him/her,something must've made him/her misbehave or we will call him/her and caution him/her". Now,imagine where you didn't have family consent? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by bluefilm: 4:55pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I cannot even try it in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by loffyloffy: 4:55pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
It is not ideal, but it sometimes happens I am lucky in that my parents agreed with my wedding arrangement..but the truth of the matter is, if they had refused , I would still have gone ahead and married my wife, as long as she is still willing to marry me..Parents will be sorted out later. When you meet a woman that you genuinely love and she loves you back the same., parents cannot be a barrier. 39 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by crownprince7(m): 4:56pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:well in reaction to this,my xperience is this,my dad is late n my mum was initially against my marriage due to pressure frm my siblings who were against it,but eventually gave me a greenlite.d best of wat i wld advise is God's position on d union?Have u prayed and seeked His council on it?wat if ur parents r against ur union based on selfish interest?d bottom line is God's directive and every oda tin wld fall in line. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by dlox147(m): 4:56pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde: There's a 70% chance your wife will take her Mom's character. If her Mom's bad is something you are willing to and can TOLERATE, talk to your parents and maybe go ahead. NOTE! Do not make the mistake of letting her know your Mom objected in anyway 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Daeylar(f): 4:56pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Following. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ImperialYoruba: 4:57pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde: OP Olumyde, You must be a Nigerian living abroad. You guys try to mirror the bullshyte you see in those countries to the cultural setting here in Nigeria. Dont turn our society into same bullshyte you live under over where you are. Who do you know in Nigeria to go marry without blessing from their families? Denial of consent is denial of blessing. There are certain rites to be performed before couple marry, they are necessary and important. You get those rites only after consent is given. Crap! 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by toluleke(m): 4:58pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Well, it is a 50/50 chance why if anything happens. Now to the topic. Why not try and settle all issues before marriage cos it will add alot of pressure on you. Your mom wouldn't want to come visiting your wife see her as a bad person and all sort, call your mom talk to her your mother in-law let your wife talk to her. Yoruba will say You can marry a bad wife but a bad In-law is dangerous. Make sure both you and your wife have someone who can call u to order |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by jtjohn(m): 4:58pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: wow! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Truckpusher(m): 4:59pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:One reason why your parents are still trying to dictate to you is because you’ve not proven to them that you can protect yourself. 23 Likes 1 Share |
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