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Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by AloyEmeka5: 12:55am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI: I don't know how Yoruba men entered this story now. From all I know, only 2 of them have killed their spouses in the US against 5 igbo men but Yoruba women have killed both in Nigeria and abroad and remember you are reporting murders over the spate of 8 years but the case of Yoruba women was just in 10 months. Why don't you explain it. This issue is beyond Igbo men or even men in general, because from the report it seems that women kill more of their spouses than men do. The only woman reported to have used hot water to try murdering her husband was sometime last year in NY and she is a Yoruba woman. ohhheerr, there must be a trend here, prove me wrong. Lesson learned: It is easy to point fingers when the remaining 4 will be pointing at you. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Kobojunkie: 12:55am On Aug 19, 2010 |
EzeUche22: chiogo: @Ezeuche, this is likely an ibo trying to get your attention. Is he/she also mocking ibo men? If you answer yes, the it is probably the case that you are confirming the existence of a problem. The problem by the way does not exist only with families in America. . . right in Nigeria, the situation exists, only as most crimes do in Nigeria, they go unreported. EzeUche22: Stresses of what american life? What are you rambling about now? The main reason why migrant families find it hard to adjust is what, CULTURAL differences they are unable or unwilling to deal with. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by EzeUche22(m): 12:56am On Aug 19, 2010 |
paddy_lo, You are not lying. My father cannot wait to become emiritus. He already built his house in the village like all Igbo men do. But I think he is going to retire to Calabar where we have another home. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 12:56am On Aug 19, 2010 |
paddy_lo: True, most Nigerians go home to retire. My aunt is waiting for her youngest son to get to college and she's off. Woman don dey build houses scatter scatter all over naija just for her return But what if they have been in USA for more than half of their life? Then there is no excuse, such as cultural difference for this act. You know where to find me |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 12:57am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: Yawn, back to topic. You have seen a lot and may you continue to see many more. Now Aloy.Emeka, moving on |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by AloyEmeka5: 12:58am On Aug 19, 2010 |
chiogo: You've always have the thought process of an idi.ot . I just laid out that more Yoruba women have killed their spouses than Igbo men or any other men from Nigeria, so how do you explain that or is it good to discuss men related violence while we sit on the ones associated with women?. I see pure sexism here o. See as they keep ignoring it even though those cases happened one month apart . |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:00am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: You have proven nothing my dear If it happens in NIgeria, many cases of that from other region have prolly not been reported as HOMICIDE. Shebi Bribe dey? should I continue posting threads? As for abroad, many cases like this, supported that recent threads on NL, centered on one group of men. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Beaf: 1:02am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Every topic these days ends up as Yoruba vs Igbo. It is really sad. @topic That man is surely on his way to time in hell (whatever that entails), may the womans soul rest in peace and if there are any kids, may they be comforted. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:02am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: It will hurt when I get it. . . . but like I said, of recent news of spousal murdering abroad, who does it center upon? This is not a case of tribalism, but seeing what is before your focal points. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:04am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Beaf:Why should NL take away Aloy.Emeka's fave pastime? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by EzeUche22(m): 1:04am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Instead of focusing on the tribe, I have heard this problem ocurring with other immigrant families. Especially African families. From my discussions with my brothers, it seems like once they bring their wife from the village to America, these women go crazy. And they stress the men out. I remember my cousin had a heart attack at 35 years old because his wife kept on saying that she made more money than him as a nurse. Just emasculating the man in front of their children and family. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by chiogo(f): 1:05am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka:You're very mad! Of course if it's a factual issue then it's obviously a problem too, does not pertain to this very topic. Open a thread on Yoruba women killing their men and it'd be considered a problem too. Sheesh, buy a brain. Yea, from tribalism to sexism. You're a genius. . . not. I could easily have denied the glaring truth but I choose not to be a hypocrite(sue me!) |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:08am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: Now back to the topic, Funmi Obviously, you're trying to turn this into a Yoruba vs. Igbo thread for some purpose of yours. Like I said before. . . . spousal murdering centers is becoming a problem with nigerian men abroad and centers mostly on one group. Isnt there a "Which Tribe. . . ." question thread you want to go and create? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Kobojunkie: 1:08am On Aug 19, 2010 |
EzeUche22: I have heard similar stories but care to describe what you mean when you say "these women go crazy" EzeUche22: Are wives no longer allowed to stress their husbands out? Last time I checked, humans beings tend to do that to each other from time to time. EzeUche22: Emasculating the man . . . hhmmm . . . meaning the man somehow had some elevated status that the woman took an axe to, right? So what happened to human beings being equal? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Beaf: 1:11am On Aug 19, 2010 |
EzeUche22: Simple solution. Don't go bring somebody from the village, there are enough good Nigerian men and women abroad; people who have lived there long enough to know how the system works and what the boundaries are. To my mind, those who go looking for village men or women to fly into marriage in a strange land are people who aren't confident in their abiliies with the opposite sex. They would have run into trouble anyway; it all goes back to the Nigerian self esteem issues I pointed out earlier. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by EzeUche22(m): 1:14am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Kobojunkie: They go crazy. Bring a Nigerian woman to America and she starts acting like an akata woman. Igbo women are the worse. They start stressing us Igbo men like no other. Do not make an Igbo woman get more money than you. She will not let you get a good night sleep! Wives can stress their husbands, but in moderation! Igbo women are known to go to the extreme. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:18am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Aloy+Emeka: Very fine. . . . go ahead If it cures your wound |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by paddylo1(m): 1:18am On Aug 19, 2010 |
paddy_lo, Yes oh. . .thats the best. . .Our spirit is back home. . the land is always calling us. . u cant really have peace of mind until u go back. . esp the older ones calabar is a cool town. . . You know where to find me ha ha. . . |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by AloyEmeka5: 1:18am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI: And more : https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-443725.0.html In short go to the crime tread and count how many murders related to Yorubas before you come back to make your claim. He who lives in a glass house should not throw stones and this warning is also extended to igbos. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Kobojunkie: 1:19am On Aug 19, 2010 |
EzeUche22: Wait a minute . . . . pull the brakes . . . do you see what I see in your post there? I mean clearly you seem to have hit the nail on the head with the problem there but you still missed it . . lol Why can't these women choose to express themselves even as akatas do? Because they are ibos or are not meant to do that? Human beings stress each other . . bosses stress their employees and vice versa . . why are these wives somehow not allowed to stress their husbands even as humans do? We tend to make up rules for others to conform to and forget that is a form of control in itself. Why try to control the way the other acts or lives? EzeUche22:Why in moderation? Do all human beings only stress in moderation? Do all husbands stress in moderation? Why then do you expect all wives to act according to this rule you set for them, as if they are not humans to stress the way they want? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:20am On Aug 19, 2010 |
paddy_lo: But you, you're too young, to be retiring back to Naija. Holla when you come back. . . . Miami is there for us to enjoy Are you saying there is peace of mind in Nigeria? There is security? Trust? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by chiogo(f): 1:22am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Beaf:Exactly! It's ironic how they claim westernized women are bla bla and bla yet they still end up butchering the ones from the village. Sad bunch. Aloy+Emeka:Great! Now run along. Going to live with a savage animal who'll eventually butcher you is marriage? I laugh in Swahili, don't worry about me though - worry about your self-esteem issues. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:24am On Aug 19, 2010 |
They go crazy. Bring a Nigerian woman to America and she starts acting like an akata woman. Igbo women are the worse. They start stressing us Igbo men like no other. Do not make an Igbo woman get more money than you. She will not let you get a good night sleep! You're so sexist it's not funny. How are you sure that women are the ones causing the problem? True, if women make more money than the man, it becomes a problem. But men have it harder adjusting to a new enviroment, esp the huge difference in culture. Like OnlyTruth said before. . . . Nigerian men in Nigerian, marry NIgerian women in Nigeria. Nigeria men abroad, marry a Nigerian women abroad. Dont bring any man or woman here to marry, esp if you have self-control and betrayal issue. Wives can stress their husbands, but in moderation! Igbo women are known to go to the extreme.And men cant stress their wife. "My wife must be on my table when I get back from work" "My food must be on my table when I wake up" "Drop the kids at work" "The baby is all your work" "Take the baby to the doctor" etc. . . . NIgerian men believe that their only job is to pay the bills and bring money to the table. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Kobojunkie: 1:26am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI: WHAT? @Onlytruth said what? Check your records ooo . . . ROFLMAO!!! |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:29am On Aug 19, 2010 |
@chiogo Leave Emeka. . . . chick loffs tribal comparisons. Kobojunkie:Oh was that you? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by paddylo1(m): 1:32am On Aug 19, 2010 |
But you, you're too young, to be retiring back to Naija. hon. . .the kind of fun i'll show u in naija. . u cant catch it in Miami or any American city. . . Yea am not really retiring just going back to build a dynasty. . .in business and maybe politics. . . All the friends i went to college with in Abuja,are beginning to rise up in Nigerias power circles Their dads are now ministers and so on. . . one of thems dad is in Jonathans inner circle(dont wanna say the name on here) Bottom line its time to go contribute in building my country. . In 30yrs i'll be. . fulfilled and watching what i helped build. . .with satisfaction No where is safe. . .ppl get popped on the daily here in America there might be nuclear terrorism. . .in the next 10yrs. . . plus i got acres of land in Anambra,Lagos and Abuja. . . |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by dayokanu(m): 1:33am On Aug 19, 2010 |
etc. . . . NIgerian men believe that their only job is to pay the bills and bring money to the table. Isnt that enough work already? |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by chiogo(f): 1:34am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI:I heard the fool is not even Igbo. Wonder why he or she(hermaphrodite or whatever the funk it is) likes taking tylenol for other people's headache. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Kobojunkie: 1:35am On Aug 19, 2010 |
dayokanu: See wetin this one dey talk . . . do you know how many woman are breadwinners in today's world? Yes, even in Nigeria, women are needing to take on a lot of the bill paying/feeding, and some still handling raising and taking care of the kids as well. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Beaf: 1:36am On Aug 19, 2010 |
Ileke-IdI: There is nothing wrong with the super bolded one o! I prefer my woman on the table to food anyday! Un huh! |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by becomrich3: 1:38am On Aug 19, 2010 |
what you see in igbo men killing thier wife, is the after effect of a civil war. they even pass it on to thier next generation. It make them abit heartless and hard. igbo men tend not to be emotional, this is one thing i notice about igbo men. There was no flushing done after the civil war. Their mind were train to kill. But was not brought back to human. the way the brain works is hard for some of you to understand. there was no detoxification after the nigeria civil war. In the , mind of many igbo, there is still a civil war. It also account for IBB and Buhari and Gasau joining the presidential races. They were part of the civil war. The moment they saw the satellite pictures. The civil war kick in. Ibb and others never went through detoxification after the civil war. And non detoxification account for the many military coup after the civil war. They already kill, human had no value to them. It becomes like any object. Debt also abroad can also be linked to its. inability of some nigerian to be honest with thier family in nigeria. It create stress, which activate the killer in them. There is still a civil war in the mind of many nigerian and in the way they act. |
Re: Professor Dubem Okafor Kills Wife,self In U.s by Nobody: 1:38am On Aug 19, 2010 |
chiogo:She's Yoruba. Feels that making Igbo vs Yoruba conversations and supporting one side is going to get her included. dayokanu: Women do the same. . . . so point is? Bringing in money is useless when you cant attend to the other care of your family. paddy_lo: Offtopic: hmm, really. Personally, I wouldnt want to join the "powerful" inner circles. Too much snakes and vipers in it lol sha be careful. You're just 2_ , acres of land in A, L, A. . . . ? |
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