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strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn. My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home. Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming. My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.
My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible. We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge. She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect. She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her. Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

It seems this is very common with women.
I had a class mate, dad was doing fine and all didn't really fall, then the wife got a job opportunity outside, took the job and children outside... You know the rest.

My advice
- Don't ask her for money for any reason, if you must, let it be your last resort.
- If you have enough to contribute to your childrens growth, maybe school fees, try as much as possible to do it. Even if your wife can afford it in her sleep, but you would stay hungry to do it, just go ahead. ENSURE THAT YOU PLAY AN ACTIVE PART IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF YOUR CHILDREN.
- Next thing, she might start meeting men outside. Don't kill yourself over this, because if I were you, I would be living like we are roommates, I won't divorce her, but I would just stop caring about her.
- Although, this might be harsh, just know it is my personal opinion. "I would stop eating her food".
- I would relinquish control totally to her, let her take her decisions, and let me take mine. However, you must know when to stand your ground, especially when it concerns the children.
- Concerning her family, unless you are a week man (not meant as an insult), but no one can come from his family to control mine, no matter how broke I am, I don't care about the problem it would cause, I can be very stubborn.
- Continue hustling, even if it means going away for some time. Hustle as if you were not married.
- Never you care about what she does with her money, it is her's. She might decide to build a house for her father, while you all stay in a rented appointment, ignore her, it is her money.
- Finally, enjoy your life, if you worry too much, you can come down with a serious generic disease, say stroke, heart conditions or B.P. this would compound your situations, because most of those diseases are managed not cured.

Always show a happy face, especially to your children, even to her, be happy, this will even make her happy. Yes her happiness still has a role to play with your peace of mind. Don't wear a grumpy face around your home.

referandum:
SEND TEN ARMOURS OVER.

Roger that sir

Nicklaus619:
This is alpha. 1. If bobrisky is advancing with tonto dike then we need to switch to operation Churchill, this is fight to finish, no retreat no surrender! I repeat no retreat no surrender over now.

Command, this is Bravo 5 reporting, Tonto is not on site, seems she is coordinating the whole attack.

Should we go ahead with operation Churchill?
over

Perfectdanny:
i promised to return all my team back the way we came. Everyone deploy masks over!

Already the on suits sir.

Perfectdanny:
Resupply on its way. Hold ya positions by the way whats ya location over!

Our base was compromised, but we are camping at Allen avenue.

We await the ammunition. Over

4ckz:
Code red! Code red!!

Bobrisky deploying biological weapons, I repeat shim is deploying biological weapons, be careful out there. Over

The tyrant have deployed biological weapons.
Put on hazmat suits

Code red! Code red!!

Bobrisky deploying biological weapons, I repeat shim is deploying biological weapons, be careful out there. Over

Perfectdanny:
proceed with care over. We have bobrisky sympathazirs here on nairaland. Approch with extreme caution. They may not be civies over!

Rodger that sir.
Did you say bobrisky sympathizers?

Sir we don't have enough ammo to deal with the tyrant bobrisky.
Our ammo has been deplited.

Awaiting further orders. Over and out.

Okoroawusa:
A minute silence for a FALLEN hero or did he survive the HEAVY artillery?

I need a situation report . Over

Command this is Bravo 5 with situation report. We survived the the attack over...

Command serious situation on hand, enemy spotted attacking unarmed civilians, we await further instructions, I repeat we await further instructions. Over

Nneziwili:
Airstrike inbound....E.T.A 5minutes

copy that control.

englishmart:
bravo 5, that fire will consume you, retreat now, I repeat, retreat. Over and out

Bravo 3, we can't retreat. Way back have been compromised.

You have satellite, pls confirm the west way. It seems not heavily guarded. Over

englishmart:
Bravo 5, can you hear me? I've been hit.

Bravo 3, this is Bravo 5.

We are under HEAVY fire. I repeat, under HEAVY fire.
Over.

Is Pogba fit enough to start?

sharone21:
You are looking at her from the perspective of a typical African man...na her type white men dey like or African men that reason like whites....that is her natural built not that she is dieting.

Forget white man, black man talk. She looks sick, very sick.

Would you even like to look like that yourself?