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What if I called you an evil man?

How do you live with yourself after getting intimate with someones fiancee?

What if someone did it to your's, or worse still, your wife?

I don't know how people are attracted to this kind of look. More so give the award of miss World to her.

She looks so repulsive to me.

Shout out to all the women that look like women. You guys should really be the ones celebrated, not these bags of bones.

This has nothing to do with spirit.

Some ladies are just no go area character wise, but have banging bodies.

I know one lady like that, my neighbor, a leader in her church, but when ever there is a trouble she must be in the center of it. We despise her a lot.
But she is hot though, if she lose guard, I go hit that cuchie and run for my dear life.

GeneralShepherd:
What is so bad in treating your partner as a complimentary equal? I don't understand. Will it kill you to help out at home?

I won't date a feminist but neither will I treat my partner like a subordinate. She is my wife

You misunderstand me quite a lot. Marriage is not meant to be a partnership were one takes half of all responsiblities and rewards. It is an avenue where one compliments the others weaknesses.

As men we have been biologically made to take harder physical and energy demanding chores like providing for and protecting your family. However most of us lack in the area of organization and care giving. We might care alot, but we do not show it, as much as the female does.

The women who have the strength of having more emotions, home management and raring of the children (as can be seen even in animals) should take up those roles which are naturally more suited to her.

In this sense, it becomes equity, because equality demands that if I should cook 50% of the time, you should take care of the other 50%.

You get me now?

I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A WIFE SLAVE, RATHER I AM LOOKING FOR A WOMAN THAT UNDERSTANDS SHE IS A WOMAN AND SHOULD BE TREATED AS A WOMAN, AND THAT I AM A MAN AND BE TREATED AS SUCH.

Believe it or not, the whole concept of the modern day feminism is hinged on women (who know that they are biologicaly women) and want to become men socially.

I would neither date nor marry a feminist, and let's be practical, if we leave social media most men won't. Also most ladies aren't feminists off social media.

The idea of the whole feminists is based on power tussle, always looking for a way to favor their gender.

Call me old school, but I want a submissive partner, not one to struggle power with.

To the ones saying yes, it's your choice sha, but una eye go clear one day when your wife will stop cooking or taking care of the children and say that if she must do it, then you must do it as well.
What am I saying sef?
Anyone preparing to marry a feminist should prepare to do share all the chores equally, and you can only take 50% of decisions. Since your wife is only biological different from you, but you guys are socially equal.

Modified:
Just to clarify people who misunderstand me

Marriage is not meant to be a partnership were one takes half of all responsiblities and rewards. It is an avenue where one compliments the others weaknesses.



As men we have been biologically made to take harder physical and energy demanding chores like providing for and protecting your family. However most of us lack in the area of organization and care giving. We might care alot, but we do not show it, as much as the female does.



The women who have the strength of having more emotions, home management and raring of the children (as can be seen even in animals) should take up those roles which are naturally more suited to her.



In this sense, it becomes equity, because equality demands that if I should cook 50% of the time, you should take care of the other 50%.



You get me now?



I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A WIFE SLAVE, RATHER I AM LOOKING FOR A WOMAN THAT UNDERSTANDS SHE IS A WOMAN AND SHOULD BE TREATED AS A WOMAN, AND THAT I AM A MAN AND BE TREATED AS SUCH.



Believe it or not, the whole concept of the modern day feminism is hinged on women (who know that they are biologicaly women) and want to become men socially.

tinubulagos952:
Are you sure of what you type or you re deceiving me.

I am very sure

If you are ready to obey rules for the rest of your life, and also ensure that your wife obeys the same rules then go ahead.

There have been and are still families with a HIV positive spouse and while the other spouse and the children are all negative.

However she must have to stick to her medications, medical appointments, tests, because she should have it in mind that she is no longer looking after only her health, but that of yours as well.

At the end follow your heart.

I would marry a HIV positive woman if I think she is the one for me.

UnbiasTruth:
I am sorry this is rather too long but please I need to pour out my mind because I need your mature advice. I have been going through a lot of trauma since my husband stopped working and it is really getting to me because my blood pressure is high.

I love my husband and despite what is happening now, I still love him. I just need advice on how to manage the situation right now.

My husband is a hard-working, loving, caring and gentle man; he showed me true love from the first day I met him. He was very dedicated to his job and he received commendations from his boss and colleagues at work but something just happened that led to his resignation.

A kind of conspiracy against him. He was advised by one of his superiors at work to resign. Now it’s been more than a year that he is out of job. All attempts to get him back into the labour force had been futile because he keeps saying he does not want to settle for less.

He was earning six figure salary while at his former place of work and he has a side business which he still manages till now but the profit is close to nothing and it is not even constant.

Now, the issue I have with him is that my husband gets angry at almost everything. He nags and drinks (not with friends because he is an introvert) excessively, so he is always at home. He keeps on complaining about our house helps even when I investigate and realize that most of his complaints are flimsy. We have changed house helps in this year up to 4 times.

So, in August this year, I decided not to get any maid again since we could not find one whose domestic care service would satisfy my husband.

Mind you, I have been the one practically footing the bill after two months that my husband lost his job because we made a huge investment in acquiring some property shortly before he lost his job. So, I pay house rent, school fees, feed the whole family (we have 3 lovely children) from my salary.

My nature of work rarely gives me time so I can’t afford to take care of the children and do much of the house chores. I explained to my husband to assist since he is always at home but he keeps saying if he had not lost his job, I wouldn’t have asked him to do basic house chores.

I know he was raised with silver spoon so he rarely knows how to do most domestic work. I had been the one doing this before we started having house helps and my job at office got more engaging.

My pastor recently advised that I should consider getting a professional cleaner who will only do some routine cleaning and leave immediately because my husband may not be comfortable with a stranger in the house.

Two days ago, I came across a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5426688/what-cost-getting-regular-home here on Nairaland while searching for a good cleaning service here in Lagos and I decided to pay for the service of a male cleaner.

After discussing with my husband, he shunned the idea and still insists I do it myself. So, he asked me to demand a refund. I need someone to help me do some basic cleaning at home since I can afford to pay for the service, but my husband does not want to accept any stranger in our home.

I have asked my pastor and my mother-in-law to talk to him also but he is still keeping deaf hear.

Is there anyone with a better suggestion before I get fed up?

I had to quote you because I want you to see this comment. I have somehow been through what you are going through, though not as a wife, but as a child of the family.

My dad was really doing well in his business, and he was footing the whole bill of the family comfortably. During this period, my mum was working as well but no body really cared about her money. My family is quite like yours, 3 children plus parents, though without a maid.

Just when our firstborn was about to enter into the University, my Dad's business took a down fall and it was so bad, because it didn't fall gradually, it just collapsed without prior hint.

Just like your husband, my Dad couldn't handle it, he was always at home, making everyones life miserable. Though he never drank, at least openly, and when ever he did, he tried his best to hide it from my mum (she hates alcohol a lot). However it was really annoying having him around, and I knew how many times I had to come back late from school because I didn't want to face him.

Anyway, what I want to tell you is that with time things got better. He didn't actually find his way to his previous financial state, infact up until recently, he has been jumping from one failed business to another.

Nevertheless, things got better at home. It took a while, but after about 2 yrs or so, he had to deal with the reality that the financial strength of the family was no longer with him, and he found a way to cope with this.

Thank God now, he has something more tangible doing. Though he makes way less than my mum, but he is now able to pay more bills of the family (like say 2/3rds) while my mum (who earns more) carries less.


So the problem, as with your husband is THE MALE EGO, no man wants to be fed in his own house.

If this is true


1 million naira is way too small. She should have been told to pay higher considering the man she defamed. He can afford 1m in his sleep.

What is onuachu doing there?

MadKing:
And I thought I was the only one
Same here bro
Very useless bank
Can't even reach them via any of their online customer care medium..

Since Friday, all the transfers that have been made into my fidelity bank account has been pending
I'm closing the account once this issue has been rectified

Because of the issue, a very vital customer to my business had to perform business elsewhere today. I nearly cried, bcoz this is a customer no one would like to lose.

I might just do like you and close my account as well.