A guy once told me of how he met a lady in a grocery store and got attracted to her on the spot (it was like love at first sight). They went on several dates together and later entered into a relationship, two weeks after their initial meeting.

He said the relationship continued for about two years without any issues, but things quickly changed the moment he lost his job. He suddenly discovered that the sweet and caring lady he once knew was no longer showing him love and affection like she used to.

She started avoiding his calls and would rarely visit him and even when he was able to see her, she would come up with several excuses so as to avoid talking to him. Things continued like that for about three weeks until it reached a point that he could no longer continue with the relationship. And though he really loved and cherished this lady, he had to end the relationship with her. But to his greatest surprise, she was more than willing to part ways with him.

According to him, he was shocked because this lady had showed him great love and affection while the going was good and he had even imagined her to be his true love. She always respected him and would consult him before making any decision and it was because of all these attributes she had demonstrated that made him believe that she truly loved him. He was even planning on marrying her if not for the fact that he lost his job.

It was later that he found out from some of her friends that the lady never truly loved him and that she was with him because he was well to do. They even told him of how she would insult him behind his back of how foolish he was and how easy it was to deceive him. This was the point that he realized that this particular lady, whom he thought was the love of his life was only pretending to be reciprocating his love and affection all through the time they were together.

After reading this man’s story, you can now see that the problem that started in the beginning is now affecting a lot of people in this present time. Most ladies now see relationships as a means of extorting money from men or as a means of securing their own future. But before we go any further let’s consider this second story:

Victoria was a young lady who had always believed in the concept of true love. She believed that everyone had a soul mate and that each person was destined to meet their true love at one point or another and because of this believe, she looked forward to meeting her own true love.

While on campus during her second year in college, she met a young man named Williams in the school’s cafeteria. She took to Williams because of his calm nature and also because of how he portrayed some of the characteristics and attributes that were similar to hers. They got talking and in the course of their conversation, she realized that she really connected with Williams a lot and as so, began to entertain the thought that she might have found her soul mate. They later exchanged numbers and kept in touch for some weeks up to the point that Victoria concluded that she was in love Williams. So, you can imagine her excitement when Williams professed his undying love for her after about a month of knowing each other. To her, it was the perfect match.

He told her of how he fell for her from the very first day they met and how his love for her has grown ever since, and of course, she believed every single words. But after being in a relationship with Williams for three weeks, she began to notice that he no longer called her like he used to, they would go for days without seeing or speaking to each other and his excuse was that he was always busy with lectures.

But things took a turn for the worst when she started hearing rumors of how Williams was seeing other ladies and it was at this point that she started getting really confused. How can the love of her life, who has declared that his heart only beats for her be seeing other ladies? Anyway, she decided to confront him about it, but to her greatest shock, she caught Williams and another lady on the bed in his apartment. With tears in her eyes, she asked him why he had decided to hurt her the way he did, and his reply was that the relationship wasn’t working out for him anymore and that it would be better if they both went their separate ways. She was heartbroken.

Victoria later realized that Williams never truly loved her. He had only pretended to be reciprocating her love in order to sleep with her and when he had achieved his objective, he saw no reason to continue with the relationship anymore. So as you can see, just like Williams, lots of men out there are also now using love as a tool of manipulation in order to achieve their own selfish desires. Now, let's also consider this next story:

Michael sighted Kate in a shopping mall and noticed that Kate was well endowed with a lot of physical attributes and without wasting any time, he engaged her in a conversation. They later agreed to go on a date together, a decision which pleased Michael a lot because to him, he had caught a new fish. But unknown to him that while he was scheming on how to deceive Kate, she also was planning on how to milk him of his money because to her, she too had caught a new fish.

After going on two dates, Michael then felt that it was time for him to profess his love for Kate, but she then made it clear to him that in order for her to believe that he truly loved her, he had to get her a car. But unknown to Kate that the car in which Michel had used in taking her out on their dates was actually his friend’s car which he had borrowed in order to deceive her. Anyway, to cut the long story short, they both later discovered that they had been trying to play on each other’s intelligence right from the very first day they met. Michael never got to use and dump Kate like he intended, and Kate on their other hand, never really got to milk Michael of his money.

This is the situation we find ourselves in today, lots of individuals are using relationships as an avenue to satisfy their own greed and selfishness. But in the beginning, it wasn’t so.