chisco82:

Is your comment I rush here to read only for you to
drop this.

OneSentence:

so mentioning me means she's doing what you said? there is no other reason why she could have mentioned me abi?

Actually when she wrote the word 'onesentence' I didn't even know it's a monika she mentioned.

The way people jump into conclusions about things baffles me.

U don't even know why I quoted her and made that statement but here u are sayin tins I cant comprehend.

The person I quoted understood what I meant and here u are talkin sometin else.

Do I even know u exist? That I will tell someone to mention u? Did she tell u I told her to mention u?

lefulefu:
ohh ok u worrying about how deltans handle d custody of a child and bride price wen partners seperate. Was thinking u worrying about were to bury ur wife in d future cos dat sounds kinda creepy. U did not specify d niger delta tribe. Is it ijaw,itsekiri or uhrobos u more concerned abt? Cc divay22 come an help a brother.

You die because it's your time to die and not because your wife cheated.

The only true story my mum told me is " if a man and a woman are traditionally married and suddenly things stop working well for the man or the man's health is threatened, the woman is not expected to leave him. She must stay with him hence her children will suffer for it..but about dieing, I have not seen or heard.

And for a case of divorce. dowry would be returned to the man's family ..Kids are to choose either the mum or dad to live with.

Divay22:

You die because it's your time to die and not because your wife cheated.

The only true story my mum told me is " if a man and a woman are traditionally married and suddenly things stop working well for the man or the man's health is threatened, the woman is not expected to leave him. She must stay with him hence her children will suffer for it..but about dieing, I have not seen or heard.

And for a case of divorce. dowry would be returned to the man's family ..Kids are to choose either the mum or dad to live with.

thanks very much. This is what i wantd to know.
In myown case, the kid(s) would b too young to choose.
Any remedy?

sacx:


Oh yeah? The notion that a cheating spouse would bring bad luck to an innocent partner is a product of superstitions held by traditionalists. If you are not one, you can rid yourself of that mentality.

That no superstition.those drink they pour on d ground during the traditional marriage,u think say na play

GreatResearcher:
Actually when she wrote the word 'onesentence' I didn't even know it's a monika she mentioned.

The way people jump into conclusions about things baffles me.

U don't even know why I quoted her and made that statement but here u are sayin tins I cant comprehend.

The person I quoted understood what I meant and here u are talkin sometin else.

Do I even know u exist? That I will tell someone to mention u? Did she tell u I told her to mention u?

Nairalanders and jumping into conclusions

GreatResearcher:
thanks very much. This is what i wantd to know.
In myown case, the kid(s) would b too young to choose.
Any remedy?

That's were your agreement with her before the marriage comes in.
But kid is very young (still breastfeeding) then the mum. but you'll have access to your child anytime and day, until the child is old enough to choose or the mother would want to move on then you can have him/her.

Divay22:

You die because it's your time to die and not because your wife cheated.

The only true story my mum told me is " if a man and a woman are traditionally married and suddenly things stop working well for the man or the man's health is threatened, the woman is not expected to leave him. She must stay with him hence her children will suffer for it..but about dieing, I have not seen or heard.

And for a case of divorce. dowry would be returned to the man's family ..Kids are to choose either the mum or dad to live with.

op hope u have heard

Tejis56:

That no superstition.those drink they pour on d ground during the traditional marriage,u think say na play

Ground where?

reservd:

Meaning dt belief doesn't wrk anymore? Though I no believe d tin sef

Lol.. cant say for now, but I have heard so many stories of how the spirit of the land messed up cheating women in the past, thou I haven't experienced it, but as a traditional man, I so much believe in it.

If you are an Urhobo man, it's better you warn your woman about this, to avoid stories that "touch".

Ishilove:

Nairalanders and jumping into conclusions

I am tellin u. There was sometin I said on my former thread to that girl with the monika Biglittlelois. Becus of dat she said she wont comment on my threads again. I saw her on this thread so I told her not to allow what people say or do governs her decision in life.

And a onesentence guy came in to talk what I can't comprehend.

He didn't even care to know what happened and if my statement to the girl has anytin to do with him.

Honestly I didnt know onesentence is a monika.

Divay22:

That's were your agreement with her before the marriage comes in.
But kid is very young (still breastfeeding) then the mum. but you'll have access to your child anytime and day, until the child is old enough to choose or the mother would want to move on then you can have him/her.

Contract ends on the child's second birthday.. Thanks a million

lefulefu:
op hope u have heard

u are d man.. Thanks a trillion

Being a Deltan, I have to point out that the issues you raised are not invalid, however, I cannot actually say you are entirely correct.
Firstly, Delta as a state is a multi-cultural entity. Having said that, I can authoritively tell you that the point you made concerning a wife being buried in her own father's compound is absolutely correct as it is being practiced by my very own people...now the catch is, even within my ethnic nationality in Delta State (Delta Ibos), it is still not practiced everywhere.
Now, on the other issue of a cheating wife, I don't have an absolute knowledge. However, I dated a few Isoko and Urhobo girls during my undergraduate days in my state university, and yeah, this exact issue of the havoc a cheating wife brings to her husband came up. I THINK they said it's true though with some little variations as to what might really happen to the husband if certain things (even their description of the things varied) are not done.

My own is how will a woman's sin has effect on her husband. Death for that matter.

Who ever believes this must be a brother to bubu.

They're not loyal... Will fall for anyone with enough cash to press their button... They'll cheat on you and deny it till they die... From personal experience... Even wives are not excluded

GreatResearcher:
I am tellin u. There was sometin I said on my former thread to that girl with the monika Biglittlelois. Becus of dat she said she wont comment on my threads again. I saw her on this thread so I told her not to allow what people say or do governs her decision in life.

And a onesentence guy came in to talk what I can't comprehend.

He didn't even care to know what happened and if my statement to the girl has anytin to do with him.

Honestly I didnt know onesentence is a monika.

Welcome to Nairaland

BlackAfrican:
They're not loyal... Will fall for anyone with enough cash to press their button... They'll cheat on you and deny it till they die... From personal experience... Even wives are not excluded

Buhariski was right.

GreatResearcher:

I will be gettin married to an Urhobo girl in few months time. I made enquires about Delta and their marriage traditions. I was told those two things I posted earlier.
Am not interested in No1 bcus d marriage is not forever. We will seperate few years after wedding. What am concerned abt is that No2 and if there's any other thing one should we weary of..

Yes, if she takes in before you marry her proper and God forbids that she dies during or after delivery, you will be made to marry her corpse as you would have done when she was alive. Afterwards, you will be locked up in a room with the corpse "for the honeymoon".

And not only will your business suffer a setback if she cheats, you will die if you eat any food prepared by her and it might also affect the children too, unless she confesses.

Every tribe and community have their culture, you know.

I wish you happy married life in advance.

OneSentence:

so mentioning me means she's doing what you said? there is no other reason why she could have mentioned me abi?

yes she mentioned you because you are her boyfriend and urhobo by tribe. Call me monitoring spirit,i don't care.

Tejis56:

That no superstition.those drink they pour on d ground during the traditional marriage,u think say na play

To their so called ancestors, right? To him who holds a thing to be valid, to him it is valid.

peepydelano:
yes she mentioned you because you are her boyfriend and urhobo by tribe. Call me monitoring spirit,i don't care.

LMAO, monitoring spirit, if you quote me, means you care

GreatResearcher:
I am tellin u. There was sometin I said on my former thread to that girl with the monika Biglittlelois. Becus of dat she said she wont comment on my threads again. I saw her on this thread so I told her not to allow what people say or do governs her decision in life.

And a onesentence guy came in to talk what I can't comprehend.

He didn't even care to know what happened and if my statement to the girl has anytin to do with him.

Honestly I didnt know onesentence is a monika.

This shouldn't be an issue, he said all that cos of the mention nothing more,you should have let it slide and move on, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

Biglittlelois:



This shouldn't be an issue, you should have let it slide and move on, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

Sometimes u have to explain urslef.. How u dey?

GreatResearcher:
Sometimes u have to explain urslef.. How u dey?

I'm good.

Biglittlelois:



LMAO, monitoring spirit, if you quote me, means you care

did I lie?just don't deny it.

mrblessed:
I cannot speak with certainity regarding this issue since I am not from Urhobo ethnic group. However, a post I saw on this platform, made in 2013, says an adulturous wife can bring fatal consequences to/upon the children and the husband, if she conceals her evil deeds.

Still, you need to do thorough investigation to be sure of what you are getting into. Cheers!

You are correct

peepydelano:
did I lie?just don't deny it.

Lol and If I deny it what will happen

GreatResearcher:
Actually when she wrote the word 'onesentence' I didn't even know it's a monika she mentioned.

The way people jump into conclusions about things baffles me.

U don't even know why I quoted her and made that statement but here u are sayin tins I cant comprehend.

The person I quoted understood what I meant and here u are talkin sometin else.

Do I even know u exist? That I will tell someone to mention u? Did she tell u I told her to mention u?

ok. case closed...I get your explanation.

peepydelano:
yes she mentioned you because you are her boyfriend and urhobo by tribe. Call me monitoring spirit,i don't care.

nice moniker...

Nixiepie:
I'm from delta state isoko to be precise, this tradition is only applicable to people who are Of the same ethnic group, and yes is very potent from where I come frm

See my fellow isoko madam o

Ishilove:
Nairalanders and jumping into conclusions

you know this