Hahaha the guy get long nose �

mrpoul:

I have,
for some weeks now

but today that I just cook and was hoping the food will take me up to 2 days he just come around

I dont know how to tell you to tell him, maybe you should describe him or a little more details in your relationships.

Are you scared to tell him? Did he belong to some crazy gang, can he beat you up, or is he generally a guy you'd rather prefer having on your side, then you don't have many choice....


But if he's just a normal guy, and exploiting you is his only contribution to the party then there are ways you could go about it...

When he comes around even if you have cooked, just stand up or whatever, put on your cloths TELL him you are going to the restaurant....NOTE I said "TELL HIM YOU ARE GOING and not LET'S GO TO THE RESTAURANT...

maybe he obliged and you guys are going all good, maybe he cracking the usual jokes or giving you the same ol' bullshit talk, kindly let him know you've only got #200, not to embarrass him but it's better to clarify issues before you guys order "Turkey nla and you only paying for yourself...

You- ehen Musa shay you hold change sha, na like 150 dey ma hand ooo,

Musa- uhn, erm yeah, yeah yeah I get change, yes I still get small change for hand, erm ehen blah blah blah...

You've just broken the ice be that, act all usual usual, do this anytime he shows up..

Another way is to try as much as possible never to be alone with him in your room(I'm guessing you a student)... Anytimes he comes around, make sure that time you are willing to spend outside, stay as long as possible... (if you are together in your room, don't know how to tell him to come outside, just bring out your chair, and use the opportunity to show him something on your phone.. "Musa show, con see somethimg


Also another way is to task him before he task you... When you task him, ehen Musa you got like 200 h there, even if you've just cooked, he won't have, even if he did, just explain you wanna call your mum blah blah blah, always cook up some borinv shiiii.t...


Those are subtle options for the weak minded, its pretty obvious you can't tell him to his face....

ojun50:
Since u can't open yr mouth to say no food continue feeding him till you have the courage

Well said

mrpoul:

I have,
for some weeks now

but today that I just cook and was hoping the food will take me up to 2 days he just come around

The guy sabi waka... He came at the right time

OKOATA:
This guy make me remember AY, you no go see AY when you de cook but once you won serve like this AY go show. He will not even wait for you to call him to join, he will just wash his hand and start to de chop my eba and okro soup. I began to wonder maybe he has a guardian angel who informs him..

Simple

call him early in the morning on the phone, and ask him to.lend you 10k that it's for an emergency, trust me he will say he doesn't have , then immediately ask him how much he has if 10k is too much , he will repeat again he doesn't have now say guy please this is life and death can I at least get 5k, don't wait for him to answer tell him you need it in two days time , he will say he isn't promising but let him see what he can do.

He will start avoiding you

It always amazes me how people are scared of telling people what they like or don't like in their own home that they have to create a thread about it.

extremelygolden:



My brother, this is a school setting and believe me some students no dey send. No shame, no conscience. It's left for the Op to be wise and ignore the parasitic guy.

Exactly, we all av/had at least one friend lik dat in sch.

Even during my service yr, i remember one bae dey like dat. Na Op go just develop dat courage tell him NO, na to open eye.

Jokes apart, I understand him n feel for him, esp now dat tins ar v.expensive.

Cook something nice, make sure say de aroma come out wella. Better soup or rice wey him go like, den add dat medicine wey dey purge join. Make e chop and shit, I ashwa you e wee nor come back again. But incase e sti come back repeat de process until e stop. E suppose get sense, no kill am sha

mrpoul:
There is this guy I once went for him to tutor my in one particular course, in that process I discovered that he has not eaten, so I gave him some money to buy food, another day he came to my house complaining he was hungry, I gave him my food to eat. There was one weekend, he told me that he did not have money and he was expecting money the next week, throughout that weekend he ate in my side promising that when his parent sent money, he will repay but when the money came he use to buy watch and some other irrelevant things. He didn't repay which affected me badly because of the money my struggling parent use to sent to me which is always small #10000 every three weeks. Ever since then anytime he sees me in school and when he comes to my house he will ask if I have cook? which I don't know how to tell him no.

Rule 1:Never stay at home after cooking

Rule 2:Buy small cooler

Rule 3:learn to frown your face when cooking, neighbors go dey fear you when you are cooking

Rule 4:Never you speak good English with him,it makes you look like bom boy in front of him.Speak pigin with some thug slang, it makes you look like a street wise in front of him

Rule 5:learn to say "NO" and stand by it


In conclusion
Oga buy small cooler,whenever you are through with cooking, put the food inside the small cooler,take it to bet9ja shop and eat it there.It works


No dey do like Oteme boy

U must be a Jambite just entering a skool i guess

tell him how you feel. I understand how you feel. You're anxious of how things would turn out but trust me it wouldn't be as bad as you think it would be. tell him how you feel n after that you'll realize it wasn't that bad. This is ur life op, learn to say no to things you don't like, don't care about what the person is going to say and try not to let people take advantage of you.

sherylbakky:
Exactly, we all av/had at least one friend lik dat in sch.

Even during my service yr, i remember one bae dey like dat. Na Op go just develop dat courage tell him NO, na to open eye.

Jokes apart, I understand him n feel for him, esp now dat tins ar v.expensive.

Exactly! He can't be feeding on the Op while he uses his own upkeep money for frivolities.

Our dear Op, please develop a thick skin and bone that guy abeg.

mrpoul:
I have try this, the guy is just too insensitive

U study at akungba right?

Guy if I slap you ehnnnn...

mrpoul:

I have,
for some weeks now

but today that I just cook and was hoping the food will take me up to 2 days he just come around

oga cook your food. When he comes around, just tell him you have budgeted the food to last you for some days and as such you can't give it out. Stop pleasing others and displeasing yourself.

Eh yaa..OP I was like u but now I have repented. Me weh be 'after God Na food' kind of person. Don't get me wrong, if I have enough I will give u, but if I'm trying to manage the little I have n I notice u are not d reciprocating type, then chee aka woro m (get ready for me)

mrpoul:

I have try this, the guy is just too insensitive

if he insists on coming then i suggest u always lock up urself inside anytime u about to prepare ur meal. Let am knock for ur door..e go knock tire. I had a nieighbour like dat wen i was in school. He would spend all the allowance his dad gave to him for d semester buying fancy clothes for himself and spending d remainder on his numerious girlfriends. Wen i sabi d guy scope on his leaching method na so i frustrate am by always locking my door anytime he came to knock and after i eat to my satisfaction and i open d door im go come dey talk say he was knocking and i no answer and i go talk say i no hear. After some time he got d message and left me alone .u try dis strategy on him.

ebujany:
lol, keep feeding him while he uses his own money to buy watch.

Most guys do this in school ,they love to look good at the detriment of their stomach ...they move from one female student to another .

Nawa oh....

Nairaland ooo,.. lol!

ojun50:
Since u can't open yr mouth to say no food continue feeding him till you have the courage

simple as ABC

Serve him with empty plate the next time he comes.

You are a selfish and a greedy fellow

Open up to him and tell him

mrpoul:
There is this guy I once went for him to tutor me in one particular course, in that process I discovered that he has not eaten, so I gave him some money to buy food, another day he came to my house complaining he was hungry, I gave him my food to eat.

There was one weekend, he told me that he did not have money and he was expecting money the next week, throughout that weekend he ate in my side promising that when his parent sent money, he will repay but when the money came he used it to buy watch and some other irrelevant things. He didn't repay which affected me badly because of the money my struggling parent use to sent to me which is always small #10000 every three weeks.

Ever since then anytime he sees me in school and when he comes to my house he will ask if I have cook? Which I don't know how to tell him no.

fi isebe ja ounje fun , he won't come again. elebi ni. put lots of salt in his food one day, he will stop coming

mrpoul:
There is this guy I once went for him to tutor me in one particular course, in that process I discovered that he has not eaten, so I gave him some money to buy food, another day he came to my house complaining he was hungry, I gave him my food to eat.

There was one weekend, he told me that he did not have money and he was expecting money the next week, throughout that weekend he ate in my side promising that when his parent sent money, he will repay but when the money came he used it to buy watch and some other irrelevant things. He didn't repay which affected me badly because of the money my struggling parent use to sent to me which is always small #10000 every three weeks.

Ever since then anytime he sees me in school and when he comes to my house he will ask if I have cook? Which I don't know how to tell him no.

Then stop complaining boi