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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 2:33pm On Mar 23, 2019
Ganjafama:
Shut your mouth you idiot! Proud and arrogant peeps like you don't deserve help. I can assure you that the help you are seeking from this platform, you won't get it. Learn to work on your attitude before asking for help.

you have been attacking me since yesterday but you aren't God ,

anyway, Thanks for the insult and may God open way for you in life.
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Ganjafama(m): 2:41pm On Mar 23, 2019
eventsmallchops:


you have been attacking me since yesterday but you aren't God ,

anyway, Thanks for the insult and may God open way for you in life.
Bros sorry for the insults. I wish you what I wish myself ( a better life). Continue with your hustle. Soon your breakthrough will come.
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 2:48pm On Mar 23, 2019
Ganjafama:
Bros sorry for the insults. I wish you what I wish myself ( a better life). Continue with your hustle. Soon your breakthrough will come.
its all good, God is in control , Thanks

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mancala: 3:53pm On Mar 23, 2019
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar!
OP, you really should calm down and be laser focused on the purpose of your thread. Why do you feel the need to get in a back and forth shouting match with every post you find irritating; in the full view of your potential employers? Do you not realize that this thread in itself is an "interview" and potential employers are watching and making decisions?
I am looking for a replacement driver for an elderly lady in Nigeria, and also a security gate man position may be available soon for same said lady. Although I am very sympathetic to your situation, in all honesty I do not think your temperament is suitable for working with a senior citizen.

If you find a post irritating, please ignore it and move on. Better to do no more harm to your quest. I wish you the best in your endeavours.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 5:20pm On Mar 23, 2019
Mancala:
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar!
OP, you really should calm down and be laser focused on the purpose of your thread. Why do you feel the need to get in a back and forth shouting match with every post you find irritating; in the full view of your potential employers? Do you not realize that this thread in itself is an "interview" and potential employers are watching and making decisions?
I am looking for a replacement driver for an elderly lady in Nigeria, and also a security gate man position may be available soon for same said lady. Although I am very sympathetic to your situation, in all honesty I do not think your temperament is suitable for working with a senior citizen.

If you find a post irritating, please ignore it and move on. Better to do no more harm to your quest. I wish you the best in your endeavours.

Exactly Sir, you perfectly understood my situation, I made a terrible mistake and I've learnt from it, I should have never responded to some comments, you wont believe sometimes in January a Lady gave me her number to contact her for possible partnership , she later told me these same people have been calling to warn her not to believe my story or do anything with me , quite shocking, so when I saw the same gang on the thread again, I was weak coupled with the fact that my wife was on the phone mounting pressure with my daughter crying at the background while I was been insulted by that girl, I'm sorry for allowing my emotion outride my senses I'm not really a quick tempered person, I will work on myself Sir, Thank You

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mancala: 6:34pm On Mar 23, 2019
eventsmallchops:


Exactly Sir, you perfectly understood my situation, I made a terrible mistake and I've learnt from it, I should have never responded to some comments, you wont believe sometimes in January a Lady gave me her number to contact her for possible partnership , she later told me these same people have been calling to warn her not to believe my story or do anything with me , quite shocking, so when I saw the same gang on the thread again, I was weak coupled with the fact that my wife was on the phone mounting pressure with my daughter crying at the background while I was been insulted by that girl, I'm sorry for allowing my emotion outride my senses I'm not really a quick tempered person, I will work on myself Sir, Thank You

I like this new "honey" approach so I will encourage you even further. If you had business seed money of say 50k naira, what would you do? How will you invest it?
On another note, being gracious is a virtue and attracts favor. Fatymore apologized to you a couple times. What say you sir?

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by iamphill: 8:26pm On Mar 23, 2019
I sympathize with your situation. Albeit you need to work on yourself your retorts are really discouraging a silent observer might insider helping you but looking at your responses it will take a miracle.

I sincerely do from the depths of my heart wish you well in all your endeavors. Stay positive something good is probably around the corner for you.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by 1Sharon(f): 8:29pm On Mar 23, 2019
eventsmallchops:



Imagine a comment like this? what is the relationship between my post and her comment? how old is she that she had the gut to call me YEYE OP, are we mate? saying I was only looking for money, who doesn't want money? is that not why I'm looking for a job? none of you condemn her desperate attempt to give the dog a bad name , I expect reasonable comments and not " YEYE OP", its not funny to me, I never mentioned money on this thread, I was initially looking for a business partner for my catering business before on here but dumped the idea after seeing high number of people begging for money in a very annoying manner on this forum and so decided to seek for assistance to search for a job like I stated in my post, I may have been angry because each time I create a post to seek attention of people in position to help, some kids staying in the hostel rush in and start insulting, create confusion on the thread which has being common occurrence on here, I should have just ignore her with believe that her opinion wont have any effect , but i saw this coming, there is no witch in any hidden place, B'cos this thing she just did now clearly gave her out as one , If I had taken my time to create a thread, why must she come in to post jargon when she knows the issue is beyond her?

anyway, I didn't post this for this reason. whatever problem I'm facing is my problem and all this attacks wont solve it! so I wont even read any negative comment henceforth, I apologize to every well meaning people for repelling her insults, I will no longer respond to any insult.


My friend you want free money that's what I meant. You want ppl to feel sorry for you and give you money that you haven't worked for

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 9:40pm On Mar 23, 2019
Mancala:


I like this new "honey" approach so I will encourage you even further. If you had business seed money of say 50k naira, what would you do? How will you invest it?
On another note, being gracious is a virtue and attracts favor. Fatymore apologized to you a couple times. What say you sir?


You catches more flies with honey than vinegar? I think..."No Sir, though ..that's the common assumption, normally' anyone will think flies would be more attracted to honey thinking they are most likely to behave like the bees around honey comb because they can be classified into the same group as fly insects that one could use to predict fly behavior around honey, huh..I know flies will actually come more for you when preserving food items in the kitchen with vinegar than when working with honey in the kitchen but I think I understood the proverb in this context sir.

how will I invest 50k seed money if I have it? I will buy more of the tools I need to start my business of course, buying them small small already and a job will facilitate that.

Fatymore? I will apologize to her .
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mancala: 12:32am On Mar 24, 2019
eventsmallchops:



You catches more flies with honey than vinegar? I think..."No Sir, though ..that's the common assumption, normally' anyone will think flies would be more attracted to honey thinking they are most likely to behave like the bees around honey comb because they can be classified into the same group as fly insects that one could use to predict fly behavior around honey, huh..I know flies will actually come more for you when preserving food items in the kitchen with vinegar than when working with honey in the kitchen but I think I understood the proverb in this context sir.

how will I invest 50k seed money if I have it? I will buy more of the tools I need to start my business of course, buying them small small already and a job will facilitate that.

Fatymore? I will apologize to her .

Good Sir, I am somewhat disappointed in your response, the plurality of which addresses an inconsequential proverb considering that you say you are about to give up on life and I am offering you a lifeline. I was expecting a much more detailed response from you on how you will invest in a business..... what business? Where? Who are your target customers? How much will it take to get it up and running, perhaps starting small then scaling up in size. Are you saying 50k is not enough for you to start something small? It apppears to me you have determined that a job is the only way out of your predicament. I'm sorry, but the only job I have will not work out for you. In case you did not understand, I was willing to provide you with seed money to get your business started. I have no idea why you did not seize upon that opportunity and roll with it.
As for Fatymore, action speaks louder than words. A simple acknowledgement or acceptance of the apologies would have sufficed.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by ImaIma1(f): 1:50am On Mar 24, 2019
fatymore:

you no fit carry me?


You sef like wahala
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Ishilove: 1:52am On Mar 24, 2019
Mancala:


Good Sir, I am somewhat disappointed in your response, the plurality of which addresses an inconsequential proverb considering that you say you are about to give up on life and I am offering you a lifeline. I was expecting a much more detailed response from you on how you will invest in a business..... what business? Where? Who are your target customers? How much will it take to get it up and running, perhaps starting small then scaling up in size. Are you saying 50k is not enough for you to start something small? It apppears to me you have determined that a job is the only way out of your predicament. I'm sorry, but the only job I have will not work out for you. In case you did not understand, I was willing to provide you with seed money to get your business started. I have no idea why you did not seize upon that opportunity and roll with it.
As for Fatymore, action speaks louder than words. A simple acknowledgement or acceptance of the apologies would have sufficed.

He is stuffy and insufferable, but please don't be so hasty to withdraw your assistance. Please, just use your church mind

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by ImaIma1(f): 1:57am On Mar 24, 2019
iamphill:
I sympathize with your situation. Albeit you need to work on yourself your retorts are really discouraging a silent observer might insider helping you but looking at your responses it will take a miracle.

I sincerely do from the depths of my heart wish you well in all your endeavors. Stay positive something good is probably around the corner for you.


Truly the op is wrong with the way he handled things but i have noticed that anytime a person opens a thread to solicit for help, people use it as a license to insult the OP.

The fact that someone asks for help doesn't mean he should not be treated with courtesy and respect. But people just tend to use the opportunity to speak out of turn.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Uglyaddy: 3:04am On Mar 24, 2019
Op,though you need to work on your temperament and be matured in your responses when been insulted.
I feel your pains.I know your situation is very frustrating.
I pray God send helper your way.
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mancala: 3:07am On Mar 24, 2019
Ishilove:

He is stuffy and insufferable, but please don't be so hasty to withdraw your assistance. Please, just use your church mind

Thanks much. I am not foreclosing on him yet, but I need to see him bring some enthusiasm for this business venture. I have some experience in the venture capital world and am used to seeing drive, enthusiasm, positivity and most importantly a vision from folks that have a business idea. They have dreamed it, imagined it and lived it in virtual reality. They usually have their "elevator speech" very well rehearsed and can make a pitch for their idea anytime, anywhere. It would be nice to see more details and some indication of commitment. Right now, I don't think the OP has even convinced himself that he can be successful with his business idea. OP, help me to help you.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Ishilove: 3:34am On Mar 24, 2019
Mancala:


Thanks much. I am not foreclosing on him yet, but I need to see him bring some enthusiasm for this business venture. I have some experience in the venture capital world and am used to seeing drive, enthusiasm, positivity and most importantly a vision from folks that have a business idea. They have dreamed it, imagined it and lived it in virtual reality. They usually have their "elevator speech" very well rehearsed and can make a pitch for their idea anytime, anywhere. It would be nice to see more details and some indication of commitment. Right now, I don't think the OP has even convinced himself that he can be successful with his business idea. OP, help me to help you.
I quite agree with you, good sir. The OP seems so stuck in the mire of self pity that he fails to recognise an opportunity for what it is.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 5:11am On Mar 24, 2019
Mancala:


Good Sir, I am somewhat disappointed in your response, the plurality of which addresses an inconsequential proverb considering that you say you are about to give up on life and I am offering you a lifeline. I was expecting a much more detailed response from you on how you will invest in a business..... what business? Where? Who are your target customers? How much will it take to get it up and running, perhaps starting small then scaling up in size. Are you saying 50k is not enough for you to start something small? It apppears to me you have determined that a job is the only way out of your predicament. I'm sorry, but the only job I have will not work out for you. In case you did not understand, I was willing to provide you with seed money to get your business started. I have no idea why you did not seize upon that opportunity and roll with it.
As for Fatymore, action speaks louder than words. A simple acknowledgement or acceptance of the apologies would have sufficed.



sorry about my blunder, your English is obviously better than mine for you to have seen that which is another learning point for me , Thank you Sir. I've also apologized to Fatymore in my previous reply to her which I edited after you advised me to do so. I didn't know you wanted to assist me, Thank you I really appreciate , its not like I'm not willing to start small, my wife has laid much emphasis on that, its difficult without accommodation b'cos I must leave my friend place where I'm presently staying as he has done introduction and now preparing for the proper wedding , a lot of circumstances surrounding my situation . that is why I have decided to find a job so I can be bailing myself out little by little.
this North eastern town is a town I wouldn't have come to in the first place, but I came because because my friend said he would try to fix me somewhere but it didn't work out due to so much politics in the organization, definitely the best thing for me is to leave the town to wherever I
can get a job, at least lets say I'm in Abuja now, I can walk into places and tell them how i can deliver, and it will even be easier to share space and start frying small chops by the road side in a safe environment where people can buy, though I contacted people in Abuja 2 months ago who told me about FCDA and Task Force but I will sure find a way around it but accommodation still remain a big problem , if I can get a security post to be sleeping in Abuja, I trust my self as long as I have bus fare, before I walk into 20 hotels to share my experience in catering, I will be offered a space and will improve on that.I appreciate your kind gesture Sir, but my reputation will be at stake if I put the cart before the horse, I will get in touch with you if I can a security post or any kind of accommodation where I can be sleeping at night for some times in Abuja , Lagos or Port Harcourt if this offer still remain open, I even open a thread on that last month looking for accommodation in Abuja https://www.nairaland.com/5041511/free-accomodation-abuja .
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 5:27am On Mar 24, 2019
my wife makes beautiful wigs, very unbelievable quality , neat and look foreign, she took one to GRA trying to send it to a lady in Abuja through one woman and the woman said,did you actually made this with your hands? this is beautiful your hands are blessed ..make one for me. she graduated with 2.2 but no job, applied for NPower , Immigration recruitment , none of us was taken as we have no connection , she started the braiding of wig using round food flask as dummy head working from home as a nursing mother, you can patronize her through me , a job for any of us will be fine if anyone can help, better still anything to engage me.

Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 5:40am On Mar 24, 2019
Mancala:


Thanks much. I am not foreclosing on him yet, but I need to see him bring some enthusiasm for this business venture. I have some experience in the venture capital world and am used to seeing drive, enthusiasm, positivity and most importantly a vision from folks that have a business idea. They have dreamed it, imagined it and lived it in virtual reality. They usually have their "elevator speech" very well rehearsed and can make a pitch for their idea anytime, anywhere. It would be nice to see more details and some indication of commitment. Right now, I don't think the OP has even convinced himself that he can be successful with his business idea. OP, help me to help you.

Thank you, I have sat down , analyzed the issue on ground, I think I shouldn't collect money when I'm not in stable condition to utilize it, I will not take the money until I solve this issues if only the offer will still be open.

1. accommodation issue/ not a bogus accommodation but a place to sleep at least, I'm also using this medium to beg people , anyone who can accommodate me in Abuja , I can sleep on the balcony , shower early in the morning and leave for my business, of course I will be able to pay you back in the nearest future.

I think that's my only problem,trust me I'm energetic and very resilience , I will break thru .

I would have just board a bus and face Abuja to confront anything that await me like I did when I went to Port Harcourt , but it was a near death experience as I was sleeping in post office premises at Trans Amadi , industrial layout .. when rain falls, mosquitoes will descend on me , at a time I was sleeping in parked buses against the owners wish because it was safer than sleeping outside, one day one of the taxi that came to park that I was sleeping inside left around 4AM to join the queue for turn at slaughter round about , I left with him because it was raining and dark, some drunk guys were coming from night club , missed the road because of the construction going on there and rammed into the queue of taxis , just behind the one I was inside, when I heard the brake screeching against the asphalt toward me I thought I was going to die, but God saved me, I came out after the crash pushing through the windscreen , ever since then, I said I rather not take such risk again , still had another near death experience of thugs attacking people sleeping in vehicle in Lagos, but I will save that for another time , another day I was not arrested along with nitel cable thieves because one of the thieves said " this one no dey" and the police see that my leg was clean and also confirmed I was sleeping in the bus, so if I can get a place to sleep, I can even construct a mini stand with umbrella that can accommodate my gas cylinder for frying, nobody is looking at me and I'm the only one that know my target.


Sir , I will take a chance if I can get a place to be sleeping at night.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by fatymore(f): 7:46am On Mar 24, 2019
ImaIma1:


You sef like wahala
lol... I was being humble before but as he was just going that way, I put street mind join am.
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by fatymore(f): 7:50am On Mar 24, 2019
ImaIma1:


Truly the op is wrong with the way he handled things but i have noticed that anytime a person opens a thread to solicit for help, people use it as a license to insult the OP.

The fact that someone asks for help doesn't mean he should not be treated with courtesy and respect. But people just tend to use the opportunity to speak out of turn.
but seriously I wasn't insulting him, the only mistake I made was adding last bleep to my post. I was offering him advice and even went ahead to extract some available vacancy I saw on SDK blog and he started accusing me wrongly.
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by truthsayer009(m): 8:21am On Mar 24, 2019
Ganjafama:
This is how people fail exams. The dude asked of your location and you are telling him "the north". Is " north" the name of a place?

Habba. Why are you like this? Didn't you watch Game of thrones?

When he says North. He means Westeros grin grin grin

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by truthsayer009(m): 8:37am On Mar 24, 2019
fatymore:

it is well... i dont want him to see me as an obstacle to his potential investor but believe me attitude is like a smoke.
good morning.

Potential investor on Nairaland ke? This is so funny.

You mean people would part ways with their hard earned money for someone online he doesn't know or can verify.

You pipu watch too many Bollywood movies Lmao

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by fatymore(f): 9:48am On Mar 24, 2019
truthsayer009:


Potential investor on Nairaland ke? This is so funny.

You mean people would part ways with their hard earned money for someone online he doesn't know or can verify.

You pipu watch too many Bollywood movies Lmao


Yes I love bollywood
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mizwisdom(f): 10:50am On Mar 24, 2019
OP seems to be up and down and all over the place cheesy, one can't place him as a balanced personality. Your friend promised to fix you up in the North East where there's on going war with Boko Haram and you packed your wife and kid to the strange place to squat with a friend? Where were you living before, why can't you return to the place where you have a base? someone asked you to defend N50K he wants to give and you said you will buy more equipment for a business that doesn't exist, in a place where you can't fry small chops in peace, at the same time you're still looking for work?


It seems you haven't decided on the path you want to take.

N50K can rent one room in that North East where you stay so you can move out of your friend's house and look for a job afterwards, with N50K you can hustle a bit to add more and move your family to Abuja outskirts, where you can rent room for N100k. Your plans are not clear, seems you allow things distract you easily


Focus on something bro
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 10:54am On Mar 24, 2019
truthsayer009:


Potential investor on Nairaland ke? This is so funny.

You mean people would part ways with their hard earned money for someone online he doesn't know or can verify.

You pipu watch too many Bollywood movies Lmao

she said she love Bollywood, please take her to romance section , kindly don't derail this thread, you may be saving a family by just adhering to the rules .Thanks
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 11:06am On Mar 24, 2019
Mizwisdom:
OP seems to be up and down and all over the place cheesy, one can't place him as a balanced personality. Your friend promised to fix you up in the North East where there's on going war with Boko Haram and you packed your wife and kid to the strange place to squat with a friend? Where were you living before, why can't you return to the place where you have a base? someone asked you to defend N50K he wants to give and you said you will buy more equipment for a business that doesn't exist, in a place where you can't fry small chops in peace, at the same time you're still looking for work?


It seems you haven't decided on the path you want to take.

N50K can rent one room in that North East where you stay so you can move out of your friend's house and look for a job afterwards, with N50K you can hustle a bit to add more and move your family to Abuja outskirts, where you can rent room for N100k. Your plans are not clear, seems you allow things distract you easily


Focus on something bro

relatively volatile area , exactly why I dont want to start here, my wife is not squatting with me here , I told her I was going to find a job and fix things for a better future, we always communicate and I always update her though she has tired , the 50k is a business capital to be and not for rent, if I can get a place to be sleeping, its no problem starting small, but no point collecting money before then . Thanks for your concern
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by truthsayer009(m): 11:09am On Mar 24, 2019
eventsmallchops:


she said she love Bollywood, please take her to romance section , kindly don't derail this thread, you may be saving a family by just adhering to the rules .Thanks

OK SIR cheesy

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by Mizwisdom(f): 11:13am On Mar 24, 2019
eventsmallchops:


exactly why I dont want to start here, my wife is not squatting with me here, I told her I was going to find a job and fix things for a better future, we always communicate and I always update her though she has tired , the 50k is a business capital to be and not for rent, if I can get a place to be sleeping, its no problem starting small, but no point collecting money before then . Thanks for your concern

But you made us to assume your wife was there with you sad
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by ifyalways(f): 11:14am On Mar 24, 2019
Where exactly is the Northeast? The town or city have no name undecided

Since its accomodation you want and there seem to be someone willing to give you 50K, i found this for you . I dont know the advertiser from anywhere, neither do i know the location nor have anything to do with the listing.

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Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by eventsmallchops: 11:16am On Mar 24, 2019
Mizwisdom:


But you made us to assume your wife was there with you sad

No, kindly check the thread again .
Re: Truly , I'm Giving Up On Life by ifyalways(f): 11:16am On Mar 24, 2019
Do you have the cooking utensils and means of making small chops now ? (Excluding capital for buying ingredients)

What are the contents of a regular pack of small chops you can make now and whats the selling price of a pack ?

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