wristbangle:

Long time madam

Yeah....... what up with you?

spyg1:
Take my words serious! I was once in your shoes, girls used to beg me for sex but I used to form. because of one reason or the other I started engaging myself in this your act, at a point I ask about 20 girls out they all turned me down, at times we will start perfectly and they will loose interest along the line, i stayed a year and half without sex, I used to think I have chronic mouth odour or something, until one day my formal neighbor (local girl) who used to give me green light came, after begging for hours she finally allowed me, after that day's sex, come see the number of girls that do enter my apartment these days. once you succeed in having sex with one lady, the rejection from ladies will just vanish.

So this is science or what?

buhariski:
I'm a ....

I'll tell you something that sounds like a cliché: You Need Jesus.
I know—all dis holier-than-thou church boiz don come again.... You've never been more wrong!
Having been in something very similar to your situation before, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: 'You Can Not Stop This On Your Own.'
I tried to..., and failed repeatedly, and each time I went back, it got worse. As if the 'spirit' behind the sh*t was punishing me for daring to stop. Until I found 'the way'. I got fully connected to Jesus and filled myself with the Holy Spirit. Naaaw I've said bye-bye to gbati-gbati forever.

I know some people will tell you it's a normal sumtin!... LIES FROM THE PIT OF HELL.

I'm not here to preach to you, you can get that at your church. I'm just touched because you are currently going through something I struggled with, and have finally TRIUMPHED.

Feel free to contact me if you want to talk bro-to-bro, no bullsh*ts.

annford:
You need to always engage your mind. Think positive thoughts and carry out positive activities. Disadvantages of self-service are just too many. Some of them include but not limited to; Terrible weight loss, insufficient sleep, restlessness of the mind, constant headaches, disfiguring of the male organ, possibility of becoming infertile, mood swings, sexual aggression, looking older than one's age, premature ejaculation for a man or even unnecessary delayed ejaculation, constant need to ejaculate, anger issues and so much more. Masturbation isn't a thing anyone ( male or female) should engage in. Sex is a feeling'. feelings come and they go. you need to stop it now so you don't find yourself running to Doctors or Fertility Clinics when you're married cos that thing has rendered a lot of men incapable of fathering children.

This guy up here said it all,Stop watching porn get your mind and your time engaged with other things.Avoid staying and sleeping alone. I was once a victim,the damage is more than the enjoyment may God delivers you in Jesus mighty name.

Bro I experience same things but try to avoid be alone and be fasting or u marry if u can't get a wife mama will help u

Jagaban880:
baba go and marry....if u no fit toast womam go village yr mama go epp u find wife

There's really nothing wrong in asking his mama to help him find wives. Even foreign based Nigerians do it all the time.

Masturbation is everything bad please run from it. It will change u as a person entirely. Just look at your life now and how it was before and thats enough reason that should make you run from it. If you're a strong person masturbation will make u weak, if u are smart it will make u dull infact u will lose ur memory to a greater extent.

In my own case I use to be a very good looking guy but then I'm not into going after girls even though they are coming but I always keep a straight face and dont want distraction. I surfed internet alot one way or d other I bumped into porn sites and started watching and unconsciously begin to masturbate. Before I realized what's happening it's already taking effect on me. Someone that's good looking before a girl will now be saying guy why u come dey ugly like this? It affected a bit of my look and when I realized guy nobody beg me to stop oooo. For long now I have stopped it and recover my look back and girls now say again guy u looking good.

Sharing this piece for you to do away with it bro. No benefits to masturbation whatsoever. It's dangerous and it will also affect ur relationship with God. Keep off masturbation!

Your case is something else and could lead paedophilia or rape if not controlled at this stage. The best way to deal with this is to marry. Surely the temptations and urges will continue to come and you can't suppress or resist it for long.

buhariski:
thank u bro I appreciate your kind gesture.

I don't know why many people are telling you to use a problem to clear a problem. Who does that? I can relate to your problem and I can tell you that you are in bondage. I'm not here to scare you brother. Until I gave my life to Jesus I couldn't free myself from this bondage. Jesus Christ can help you brother. Instead of listening to those telling you to go and have sex to stop your problem. Let say the masturbation stops that way and you now get addicted to having sex. Then you will start searching for remedy to that one.
Just like I said, I'm not here to scare you I just feel concern about your problem bro

coolk:



I'll tell you something that sounds like a cliché: You Need Jesus.
I know—all dis holier-than-thou church boiz don come again.... You've never been more wrong!
Having been in something very similar to your situation before, I can tell you this with absolute certainty: 'You Can Not Stop This On Your Own.'
I tried to..., and failed repeatedly, and each time I went back, it got worse. As if the 'spirit' behind the sh*t was punishing me for daring to stop. Until I found 'the way'. I got fully connected to Jesus and filled myself with the Holy Spirit. Naaaw I've said bye-bye to gbati-gbati forever.

I know some people will tell you it's a normal sumtin!... LIES FROM THE PIT OF HELL.

I'm not here to preach to you, you can get that at your church. I'm just touched because you are currently going through something I struggled with, and have finally TRIUMPHED.

Feel free to contact me if you want to talk bro-to-bro, no bullsh*ts.

Jesus helped me too bro

rxgodwin:
Really touchy.
It all starts from your mind. Learn to distract urself from sex from ur mind.
Secondly, find something else and channel ur energy to it.
Godspeed

only Jesus Christ can save.,.... its not done intentionalwhich means is uncontrollable..

ayz12:
Masturbation is everything bad please run from it. It will change u as a person entirely. Just look at your life now and how it was before and thats enough reason that should make you run from it. If you're a strong person masturbation will make u weak, if u are smart it will make u dull infact u will lose ur memory to a greater extent.

In my own case I use to be a very good looking guy but then I'm not into going after girls even though they are coming but I always keep a straight face and dont want distraction. I surfed internet alot one way or d other I bumped into porn sites and started watching and unconsciously begin to masturbate. Before I realized what's happening it's already taking effect on me. Someone that's good looking before a girl will now be saying guy why u come dey ugly like this? It affected a bit of my look and when I realized guy nobody beg me to stop oooo. For long now I have stopped it and recover my look back and girls now say again guy u looking good.

Sharing this piece for you to do away with it bro. No benefits to masturbation whatsoever. It's dangerous and it will also affect ur relationship with God. Keep off masturbation!

indeed bro....dat sh**t gives u 100% negative effect both spiritually and physically...
I was once a victim too.

buhariski:
I'm a chronic masturbator I don't know how i get myself into dis shit. This year has been a worst year in my life and I can't control d way I mastubate. I don't know if it is due to depression and loneliness.

This year I made a promise not to visit the brothel though I have kept to the promise. My problem now I have done everything possible to make sure I stop masturbation but I can't just stop it. The highest I can go is a week then return to normal.

It's affecting me especially in my work place. cos during the working days the time I will get to rest I will used it to browse the net (night browsing you understand) using it watch porn movies online without getting a sleep and a enough wanking. This has made me less productive in my work. I wil look so weak and tired and I will b having some dizziness at worked. My co workers have took note of it and my boss too. Though he has not really take action or give me quarries maybe be cos I'm d hard working type and I expect that soonest.

The bigger problem now my dick is always embarrassing me publicly I can't just control it. any time I 'm with the opposite sex I always having a strong Boner. There is a day i was at home washing my clothes I was all alone in the compound cos everyone left for their various places, suddenly a small girl walked into the compound she should be 14 to 15 years old but she has a very matured physique. She was selling pap (akamu). She walked to me asking of someone living in the compound and as I was answering and I was not having any bad thought in my head oo but found out my dick got erected when I was talking to her. I didn't know oo cos I put on a lit boxer I saw her looking below, for my mind why dis girl dey look ground and I just checked myself I found out my penis was fully erect. Mehn I couldn't stand the shame and embarrassment I gave to myself that day.

Yesterday something similar happened but wit my neighbour daughter DAT she is in SS1. I was in kitchen cooking oo so she came in to fetch WATER, as she bowed down to get the water her bra got exposed I saw her breast cos she got big breast I couldn't resist myself, I had a strong boner again but this time she didn't notice anything but I had rushed to my room to cool down myself while my food is on fire burning. I just weak and getting a girlfriend has been very difficult for me. The rejections I have had from girls would make someone to commit suicide.

Marriage is the safest solution.

This sort of problem is caused by loneliness and sedentary lifestyle . Once you step up into active life, responsibilities and challenges of life will overshadow those uncontrollable sexual fantasy. Also there is tendency that level of your sexual hormone which frequently message the brain will drop through the following recommendations ; Concentrate on your daily job or studies, engage in positive things on the computer, engage in activites such as exercise, avoid or limit alcohol intake, and engage in a decent relationship not for sexual reasons but those that promotes brighter future with opposite sex. Good Luck !

Or better still...."go get married".

I made this post in 2017. https://www.nairaland.com/3726307/started-masturbating-4-after-seeing/4#55336157.

I have gone thru this thread and I am quite surprised at the responses, especially
the almost hysterical condemnation of the pastor and the boy.
FACT. I started masturbating b4 primary school at age 5.
FACT. I know I was influenced mostly by tv.
FACT. Had my first sex b4 7yrs with 2 twin sisters my age
who lured me to have sex with them.
As I grew older I felt masturbation was not right but could nt stop it.
I read books, used my will, made resolutions but got no where.
BtW 2000 - 2002 no started looking
for forums and discussions where i could get help. Funny enough the responses
was that there was nothing wrong with masturbating.
But i own my body and i new it was affecting me physically and mentally.
It was a siege physically, mentally and spiritually.

In 2011 i went for sunday service at the same church i had been attending
And wen the altar call was made i responded and gave my life to Christ Jesus.
And i did not pray Lord save me from masturbation during the altar call.
I completely forgot about it, then about a mnth later it occurred to me
i am no longer masturbating!!. i was afraid initially because i said ive made resolutions in the
past and failed. but this time i made no resolution about it.
FACT. 1st day to 1 week, 1 week to 1 month, one month to 1 yr, nd 1 yr to 8yrs nd counting....
The most amazing thing is i dont feel the slightest urge to indulge in it
again.
RECAP. Severally wen i was on my sickbed with no strength i still find my self masturbating then.


Pls nairalanders not everything is a lie.
Follow the link and do further research.
As for me I alone new the bondage i was in And I cant just stop thanking Jesus Christ whose blood set me free!!!.

There is power in the simplicity of the Gospel of Christ. Say the prayer of salvation through Faith. And see God takeover.
Don't stress yourself trying to stay away from ponography and other triggers, just replace those with other activities.
Make the bible your friend and see the scriptures purify you.
There are so many motivational and inspirational videos online Take advantage of the tons of positive materials online.
Jesus did it for me He will do it for you.

https://www.babycenter.com/400_is-it-normal-for-a-3-1-2-year-old-to-masturbate-should-i-tal_1010297_679.bc
http://www.stopitnow.org/advice-column-entry/is-my-3-year-olds-sexual-behavior-normal

kingemzy5:
Go and work in porn industry it will stop

lmao

tayooluwole:


You are giving solution that is practically impossible, how can you tell a full grown man, well educated and with inclinations to get up to date information to throw away his smart phone and shun internet...Alaye bring fort another solution...

Oga, I didn't tell him to do that. Even I can't do that. Read up properly between the lines before countering any info.

Besides, when there was no smartphone and little internet access 'full grown educated men with inclination for up to date information' did not die off from ignorance or lack of information.

Kfed4ril:



Can you help me with the site?

Muslim - Singlemuslim.

Christian - Christian_singles.

You can follow them on instagram n DM them.

chenzen:
sell ur android phone and buy Nokia torch. u ll be fine
continue using the torchlight phone until u marry.

as funny as this sounds it's actually good advice.

You feed the virus and intend destroying it? How is that even possible. You might still be enjoying it, since the flesh desires it but brother forget the fake life that the whites are deceiving many to believing and that the internet has caused many to hold on to. Forget the manner the modern world tries to make us feel the spiritual is non existent and start believing the devil is real and always at work looking for who to trap.
I will give you three steps to the solution of the problem;
1. Stop watching pornography
2. When the desires for sex (which of cause is a normal feeling in humans) coming replace it with something else eg listening to a Godly message, meditating on the word of God, etc
3. Pray, Pray, Pray seeking for God mercy and grace with a sincere desire to change.

with love

buhariski:
I'm a chronic masturbator I don't know how i get myself into dis shit. This year has been a worst year in my life and I can't control d way I mastubate. I don't know if it is due to depression and loneliness.

This year I made a promise not to visit the brothel though I have kept to the promise. My problem now I have done everything possible to make sure I stop masturbation but I can't just stop it. The highest I can go is a week then return to normal.

It's affecting me especially in my work place. cos during the working days the time I will get to rest I will used it to browse the net (night browsing you understand) using it watch porn movies online without getting a sleep and a enough wanking. This has made me less productive in my work. I wil look so weak and tired and I will b having some dizziness at worked. My co workers have took note of it and my boss too. Though he has not really take action or give me quarries maybe be cos I'm d hard working type and I expect that soonest.

The bigger problem now my dick is always embarrassing me publicly I can't just control it. any time I 'm with the opposite sex I always having a strong Boner. There is a day i was at home washing my clothes I was all alone in the compound cos everyone left for their various places, suddenly a small girl walked into the compound she should be 14 to 15 years old but she has a very matured physique. She was selling pap (akamu). She walked to me asking of someone living in the compound and as I was answering and I was not having any bad thought in my head oo but found out my dick got erected when I was talking to her. I didn't know oo cos I put on a lit boxer I saw her looking below, for my mind why dis girl dey look ground and I just checked myself I found out my penis was fully erect. Mehn I couldn't stand the shame and embarrassment I gave to myself that day.

Yesterday something similar happened but wit my neighbour daughter DAT she is in SS1. I was in kitchen cooking oo so she came in to fetch WATER, as she bowed down to get the water her bra got exposed I saw her breast cos she got big breast I couldn't resist myself, I had a strong boner again but this time she didn't notice anything but I had rushed to my room to cool down myself while my food is on fire burning. I just weak and getting a girlfriend has been very difficult for me. The rejections I have had from girls would make someone to commit suicide.

4 things
1. Stop watching porn even if it means staying away from the net
2. If possible stop watching movies for a while, till u regain self control.
3. Get and read inspirational books on the mind
I recommend Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer.
4. Study the Bible daily and Pray.

Soon you will celebrate your victory.

buhariski:
bro I've checked myself very well and I used to ask myself some question like why am I getting rejections and what is it I,'m nt doing right. though I have some flaws I can lie u. I no b ugly guy oo even when I was still in my state then I've had many advances from d girls. some girls confessed they're tripin and some fall in loved with me. that year for school during one of the semester exam a girl once kissed and romance me in the presence of over 400 students and a lecturer. she did it on the platform when all eyes was on us dat day I was not conversant with the girl. I only knew her to be a course mate. A friend to my guy girlfriend kiss and romance me in presence of my girlfriend ask her why she was acting DAT way ,she said she can't resist my look .I had to make her apologize to my girlfriend dat day. today is not another story . na me come d hussle for woman I don't know if was because I change environment could it tribal differences, language barrier and some other factor I can't understand.

read red pill books

You be Delta State guy, my brother we no dey carry last. Oyo state that have cheap ladies full every where looking for a good guy that has job to mingle with. Those ladies are not after your money but Food. Search for responsible lady over there. You can even go to UI on Sunday to go and catch fun. You will see good looking babes full like sardines everywhere even your tribal are there. Your problems is not maybe, you are too religious, unsociable and too much of ego from to communicate with ladies.
Where do you stay in IB, Ibadan na full of enjoyment. Is it Agodi, Molete, Okeibadan, gbotija. Where are you from in Delta state sef. You be Delta Igbo or Isoko right

The best thing you should do is to go and marry.You should also abstain from watching porn,because most people who masturbate watch porn.

My dear, think back, before the masturbation, you must had sex with a lady that has such spirit in their generation.... There's a spirit that exchange during sex outside marriage.

anytime the huge come, smoke weed, 2 rap,
add combine as step down, your thinking will av a difference dimensions, you will not ever remember you thought of masturbation.

NOt being holier than thou bro but I feel you need help

First thing first is your realization of the fact that you are an addict already and often breaking an addiction requires another addiction, you might want to figure out what you would enjoy more than the sex sensation and strain yourself to give that more time, let it compete against your urge and you intentionally give it more edge to win.

2. Trick your mind
There are healthy games you can trick your mind into playing and one strong one is that you picture how ugly you normally look after your thing and see how many girls would reject you afterwards, so trick your mind into thinking that excess sex and masturbation will make you uglier, leaner, more useless and gets you old faster, so get in front of a mirror, admire yourself and see how good you look each without having to masturbate and how good you will look if you would not for a good period of time. Your mind will be used to this and you will find out that each time you think about your thing what pops in your mind is the end result so little by little you will drive yourself to a zero level of your ridicule.

3. Grow beard or muscles
If you have little or no beards already and this is not the case in your entire family, this might be the case behind it cos each time you release you lose protein which is necessary for good hair and nail growth. So take your time to stay off masturbation in a quest to grow (more) beards which is a means to achieving good confidence by achieving a better you first, in a skydive you are breaking from your addiction.

4. Listen to good music and messages from someone you admire (Put it in constant repeat)

5. Do away, from any stimulant that reminds you of some attention to your daily duty. stupid to say but if a cream, an oil jar, a soap bar or anything reminds you of it diligently do away from these especially when you are alone.

6. Spend less time in solitude or idle.
Get busy amidst others, locate the people you feel the best with and whiles away your day with you when you are less busy in some addictive and immersive activities like gaming, movies etc and spend more time with them. Idleness is a great killer and solitude is a greater manipulator.

7. WYSIWYG
What you see is what you get so so you might want to work on what you see in the quest to becoming a better man.

8. Get you a girl you admire the most
Set yourself on a mission to getting you just one good girl, one you would like to be with the most. If she's some real value she will likely take you a good time so while you on getting her for yourself and keeping up something real with her, her thoughts alone could help you rid yourself of getting dirty if she's not dirty herself tho.

9. IF you don't have a God yet accept Jesus into your life as your personal Lord and Saviour, this is the best remedy bro. I'm not a SU I'm probably the guy passing by you with some designer shades, Zanotti footwear and some dope ass haircut but I have the J-ingredient bro and nothing gives me a better feeling.

What a docile and complacent idea that you can't break the habit! I live a few blocks away from a brothel yet I don't do shit
It's the mind that is faulty bro, not the entire you.

If all these wouldn't work for you OG you should know what to do before that your stick turns you into an invaluable log or gets you behind bars for some sort of sexual harassment

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BTW I'm at work and really busy but I think I should do this

Chop knuckle.

PotatoSalad:

Clean as a whistle

Lifeless:


he doesn't need Jesus boy, he needs a close female friend or GF.

RELIGIOUS BIGOT!

Really worriesome and quite unfortunate. That's because these folks post with 100% disregard for the belief of other forum members. Very insensitive lots.
Needless to mention that I am a member of other forum like Reddit and hardly ever will anyone hint at or suffocate others with their belief, rather they are sharing relevant experiences and helping members find solutions to their problems.

lathrowinger:
Bros, that something do happens to many. I pray God should intervain

Amen.

you genuinely need God in your life