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Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by linasparkle(f): 9:26am On Apr 06, 2019 |
NwaAmichi:Are you really nwaamichi? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Kingsean(m): 9:28am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Be careful cos the kind of boldness she is showing. It could mean maybe someone under ur roof had given her d audacity. Hope someone under ur roof didn't have an affair with her? these housemaids usually display dis kind of boldness when they have tasted d forbidden fruit |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by missyblissy: 9:31am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Topnotch1402: Whrn gbege go start her parents no go remember the heart to heart discussion they had o. Op many people don tell you, send her packing immediately!!!!! At this age, getting a bf, having sex is the in thing. All your advise go enter one ear come out for the other ear. I was her age once and in school i know one wey do aborttion 6times for a particular guy, at the 7 time, she die!!!! Many girls ruin their lives way before it started. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 9:34am On Apr 06, 2019 |
TheGiftedOne: Abi o |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by NwaAmichi: 9:37am On Apr 06, 2019 |
linasparkle:full blooded |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 9:40am On Apr 06, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Someone else's child living under your roof as a maid or on holiday should be flogged with cane appropriately or given some sort of punishment if deserving. Abuse should be avoided though. Let's not spoil Africa with some dumb western practices. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 9:51am On Apr 06, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:To send her back to her parents will be better if you ask me. The truth is this, there is high tendency of her getting pregnant since she is keeping a boyfriend at that tender​ age and out of fear of the threat she got from her employer, she might opt for an abortion which could cause her her life. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by LadySarah: 9:51am On Apr 06, 2019 |
paulibling: You are wise. No matter how Good You were to her,You will see the other side of the parents when You bbring someone preggy home for them. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by fineguy11(m): 9:52am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:Send her back to her parents. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by chuckjonesbaba(m): 9:52am On Apr 06, 2019 |
sisisioge: Take her back to her parents house and have a heart to heart talk with her and them. After that let her be. If she get belle na her own wahala. Also go and meet the boy's father and mother peacefully. Do not make a scene. Tell them that you think your ward and their child are sexually active. That you come to explain to him the results of unprotected sex and the repercussions. After that I believe you don do your part. I ask myself if it was my child what would I do? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 9:58am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Ezyp: And so? That doesn't mean it's wrong to have a boyfriend. Weren't you 18 once? That is perfectly normal |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Ezyp(m): 10:01am On Apr 06, 2019 |
1Sharon:Madam I never said there is anything wrong in having a boyfriend even at 16. But the maid is under an authority of a guardian who will do anything to avoid story that touch. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by athorello(m): 10:04am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Your maid like one of my sisters is just a bad pikin... They act like they're been controlled by a bad (evil) force (spirit). I don't have problem with stubborn children but evil controlled without conscience ones. They don't take advice, threats and examples of their bad examples. You'll just want to beat them to your full but that doesn't help too. My sister had come face to face with death yet hardly has she changed. At least her way of life is yet cost you or make you answer to questions you know nothing about. My advice: She doesn't deserve your help again unless you can genuinely love her like your own baby. She's also very ripe for plucking. So before she becomes a full blown liability, send her back to her people. Or you can decide to test run it for a while; send her home and cut her off meantime. If there's no noticeable change and remorse, make it permanent. Get another 11-13 year old that you can manage and shower with same love. Nevertheless, my advice is useless if you feel even with her misdemeanor, she's still very helpful and useful to you. To that end, carry her as your cross (like your own child). |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by IFEOLUWAKRIZ: 10:07am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Lols. Sha,don't beat her to avoid police issue. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by isan(m): 10:10am On Apr 06, 2019 |
well no one will notice a week pregnancy VeeVeeMyLuv: |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Omudia11: 10:29am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Yours is even good. My cousin has been a pain in the ass. Even brought a boy into our house and Bleep. lacapine: |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by tommy589(m): 10:37am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Eze2000: What you wrote is not correct.I believe you have never encountered girls like this that's why it's easy for you to generalise. As the man of the house I have never molested the one staying with us,someone I know questioned if I had slept with her before when my wife called last week to report her.By nature I don't inspire fear in anyone same with my wife too. Let me share two of many incidents that indicated she is probably beyond redemption;She was caught red-handed with a boy of 20 sometimes ago and denied the boy slept with her in the presence of police when we got to the police station.The recent one of two years ago was when One of the teachers of her former school saw her with another girl coming out of hotel and questioned their mission there,she said they visited her uncle lodging there that just came back from overseas. Girls that act this way are just naturally bad,it's not because they are undergoing an adolescent phase,they just want to be free without any adult supervision. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Wonderlabius: 10:38am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:similar to the one in my area.. precious from akwa ibom. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by mechanics(m): 10:42am On Apr 06, 2019 |
fastseo:Sure. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by mechanics(m): 10:43am On Apr 06, 2019 |
dingbang:hmmmm. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 10:52am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Angel246: 18 is a tender age?? What were you doing at 18? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by OlowuJohn: 10:56am On Apr 06, 2019 |
[quote author=ireneidiva post=77275772] Stop flogging someone's child. If you can no longer handle her, send her back to her parents. Beating her is just wicked. Injure her and it becomes a police case.[People like you are responsible for the decay of our society, in our time of growing up, neighbors flog us when we do something that is wrong and our parents respect our neighbors view, but in this era of skushi and tramadol they think like western societies, while they decay every minute.] |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 11:06am On Apr 06, 2019 |
adanny01: Yh whatever bro I just hate situations where kids aren't living with their parents, girl or BOY. The fact that she had no female to confide in when she started her 1st period is already a shame and tells me the type of energy in that household. If she had someone to talk to, she should have been provided with proper sanitary products and not using cloth So called guardians. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Vivuch: 11:06am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:please I will advise you to take her back to her parents, before those boys impregnates her, and you know what that means, her family will drag you out in the public. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by linasparkle(f): 11:08am On Apr 06, 2019 |
NwaAmichi:wow! Same here |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by cinderellashoes(f): 11:17am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Don't just give her sex education only, take her to a doctor and put her on pills. Also, teach her about condom, because HIV is real. Recently, I came across a 16 yr old with HIV. But if she fails to listen to you still, the best option is to invite her parents over and talk to her or return her. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by chloride6: 11:46am On Apr 06, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Will you shut up? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by NwaAmichi: 11:52am On Apr 06, 2019 |
linasparkle:are you serious? Check your mail |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Jackossky(m): 12:06pm On Apr 06, 2019 |
Girls of nowadays. I for one can't place when they get their temerity from. Op, it's not just your maid but most girls out there, I don't know if they are dumb, they believe guys,hol line and sinker. The worst are those that love boys on their own accord. I'm saying this from what I've observed from someone close to me, like a girl asking a guy what he wants with her with the chat implying she is waiting for the guy to tell her he loves her. When a girl of 18/19 gets pregnant, having finished secondary school, will you allow her to abort the pregnancy or give birth? What you can do to the girl is continue advising her even though it seems the advise is not working, if possible, give her a close-monitor marking, where you know when she is to ovulate/menstruation and all that. Tell her the negativities in having boyfriends, boys are liars. At that age, we just want a braggiy right, a feeling of how we get to smash a fine girl, tension is all high and we can say anything just to ..... Tell her that is what boys are, they are just trying to use her and would brag about it among themselves when they are having fun together. Tell her she is too young for it, she will get to a stage where you she will be handed the free rein and so she should be wise about it. Show her cases of girls around you that got pregnant at a young age, does she live the life they are living? Show her the world in a nutshell, be mindful of the kind of clothes she wear, peruse her phone if need be, and in the end, let her know you have an authority above her. Beat her less, pray for her like a Christian or Muslim, whenever you are around, make sure she is with you. Take her out when you attend weddings, let her see the world through your eyes, censor her sight, when she see the good things like grand weddings, she will wish to have one, when she see guys owning empires, she will start developing a high taste and you won't see her with those useless men but women of virtue but the downside is she will slay. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by adanny01(m): 12:09pm On Apr 06, 2019 |
1Sharon: You really have negative energy. Like she didn't tell anyone that she was fucking a boy next house she didnt tell that she was bleeding. Why do you find fault or criticize my family when you have no idea who we are? 2 Likes |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Mylovelife: 12:21pm On Apr 06, 2019 |
TheGiftedOne: Baddest comment I raise hand for you 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by haryurmide(m): 12:35pm On Apr 06, 2019 |
[quote author=lacapine post=77288373]. Even my biological child, I flog. She doesn't see herself as an outsider and we have such a good relationship. Carry her parents along cos she might end up being impregnated and go to the extent of terminating it due to the condition you already spelt out. I am sure you know what that means? And if such gets to the public who are not aware of her moves, they may say you made her do abortion because your husband is responsible. Don't allow the situation get out of hand before you take action oo. You can be supporting her even when she is not under your roof. |
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