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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Banter1(m): 7:03am On May 16
Which kind yeye question be this? i go give my mama money and anybody i like, e no concern her. na my money afterall.
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by mr1759: 7:03am On May 16
MizMyColi:
Some of you here and your idiotic comments.

Not all women are mother in law haters.

If you are in a marriage where you do everything together....where you cooperate sincerely and share.
If you are in a marriage where you as both man and woman ACTUALLY care for the wellbeing of inlaws from both sides of the family. There won't be need for consultations.

Both of you will do your best to ensure your inlaws are happy.

Have you people not seen a marriage where it is the woman that advocates that more money be sent to her mother in law?

Have you people not seen a scenario where the wife's mother calls her daughter to request for one thousand naira (for instance) and because the husband is always carried along, the man says "no. one thousand is not enough, give her five thousand?"

You people just use your hands, mouths and minds to create problems for yourselves.

Most of you talking here are not married.

Instead of you to be praying, and speaking like someone who wants to be in a marriage where openness, sincerity and trust is the order of the day, you are here displaying and projecting your trust issues.

Well done.

am married my dear,
too much of everything is bad let your wife or husband know a little so it will not look like you've kept that part of your life away from them, some lazy , greedy and unreasonable partner find it disturbing that you send things to your family members back home

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by lilbest4(m): 7:04am On May 16
PETCOKE:
Who did your mother consult before deciding not to abort you, but went into a painful labor to birth you?


Who did she consult before giving you food to eat when hungry?

Who did she consult before depriving herself of beautiful clothes and jewelries to clothe you and pay your school fees?


Your mum deserves the best, do what you can to put a smile on her face everyday smiley
you are talking crap actually. Did he beg the mother to have sex which resulted to the pregnancy?
It's only a useless spineless wussy that will take permission from his wife before giving money to his family people but what you said was still rubbish

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Ultimatezlant: 7:07am On May 16
NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

When sending money to anybody yes but when sending money you know would be used by your parents no. Unless its money that is for major project.


Some wives would give you reasons not to
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by tfash96(m): 7:07am On May 16
Who does that? I'm a man we're always in charge

Mama that brought me to this world and gave me everything till this moment..she prefers herself to lack something to me lacking it.. I should now take permission from my wife to do something for her.. Am I mad?

Women of nowadays are crazy
Kos she's my wife. Does it mean I should hand over her my life remote control? Hell NO!!!!
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by na2016: 7:08am On May 16
NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please


It is not a bad idea but this normally comes with issues so never try that bro. Some of the problems are:
1)You will not be able to give your mom anything freely.
2)The day you try to increase the amount you give your mom even as inflation is increasing in the country, your wife will start quarrels.
3) You wife will start a comparison between her parents and your mom even when the situation may demand you give your mom more.
4) Your wife will definitely want to try so shits that you can't imagine. She will take you for granted.
5)Problems, problems and more problems.

So be bold and give your mom what you deem fit per time and NO SUCH CONSULTATION with your wife before making such gifts.

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by IamDavid(m): 7:08am On May 16
Zinny25:
Wait ooo I don't get this question... Do you mean just letting her know before you send the money and her opinion wouldn't count or she must approve of it first before you send

If your wife is the type that will change face and start calculating how much you have sent to her own mother, my bro send the money without her knowledge. But of she's an understanding wife, you may choose to tell her as her opinion about it wouldn't change your decision.

But I know of couple who send money to their mothers monthly, both of them agree on this. But if the man's mother is needing extra money, then he should send without informing the wife as this could cause trouble
You get brain
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Jabarzee(m): 7:09am On May 16
chiommy123:
Not bad na. Its partnership remember?

Very bad please
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Ayoagbajesamuel(m): 7:10am On May 16
It is possible, depending on the relationship between the wife and the mother in law and the husband. Some good wife will even give money 2 mother in law without the knowledge of her husband or add to what husband intended 2 give his mother. So, its vice versa
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Kobicove(m): 7:13am On May 16
Why should you consult your wife before giving money to your mother?

Except she was the one who made the money then it's none of her business undecided
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Emmanuel226(m): 7:13am On May 16
i dont think so but, it doesn't matter if he decides to consult hiswife before giving out money to his mom, but i don't think dat is necessary cause she is his mother and raised him up to who he is today smiley
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by deebrain(m): 7:14am On May 16
No. But settle your financial duties with your wife first
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by johnsundayjohn: 7:16am On May 16
Is not an insult oo but d fact is,its written dat man shall leave his parent to join his wife okk nd for dat reason ur wife will be ur forever leavin mother to care for u compare to ur real mother dat nurse u half way..........its not too bad if ur wife is aware bcus u will be doin it 50-50 by also givin her own mother too.tnkx
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Vhffhh777777: 7:20am On May 16
Prove below

Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by tohyorsih2(f): 7:20am On May 16
PETCOKE:
Who did your mother consult before deciding not to abort you, but went into a painful labor to birth you?


Who did she consult before giving you food to eat when hungry?

Who did she consult before depriving herself of beautiful clothes and jewelries to clothe you and pay your school fees?


Your mum deserves the best, do what you can to put a smile on her face everyday smiley


Too much sense cool
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Kheemjoel(m): 7:23am On May 16
Dis question is stupid actually. undecided...y i go ask wen na my own money??.. No 1 can replace a mother o
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Solexgzy(m): 7:23am On May 16
NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please
not in all cases
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Snow02: 7:23am On May 16
CreepyBlackpool:
Yes!

A man must consult his wife before giving money to his mother!angry

In fact he must always screenshot his salary alert and send to his wife immediately he gets it!

He must ask for his wife's permission for any and every monetary transaction he wants to do, even if its to buy clothes or drinks for himself.


Onye iberibesad


you must be a weak, feeble minded, spineless, lily-livered pussy worshipper to ask such a question!

you disgust me!lipsrsealed
lmao
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Mynd44: 7:26am On May 16
Redhot111:


Where lies the difference? The sharing formula you spelt out is wat I put in percentage. So both instances are the same
I was not saying the husband and wife are one couple.

Husband from one marriage

Wife from another narriage

Both with different formulas

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Reference(m): 7:36am On May 16
Yes. The left hand cannot do what the right hand is not aware of. Your wife is you if truly two has become one. What you have is hers and what she has is yours. As a matter of fact every man should strive to get his wife as close to his mother (parents and vise-versa) as possible. The caring, emotional side of women is best suited to care for parents especially when they begin to age and certain needs are better handled on a woman to woman basis. So not only should she know, it is better she handles those needs on your behalf. These produce some of the best family relationships I have seen.

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by amp01(m): 7:36am On May 16
CreepyBlackpool:
Yes!

A man must consult his wife before giving money to his mother!angry

In fact he must always screenshot his salary alert and send to his wife immediately he gets it!

He must ask for his wife's permission for any and every monetary transaction he wants to do, even if its to buy clothes or drinks for himself.


Onye iberibesad


you must be a weak, feeble minded, spineless, lily-livered pussy worshipper to ask such a question!

you disgust me!lipsrsealed

Mother is supremely.
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Ndipe(m): 7:37am On May 16
You dont necessarily have to consult her, but I think it is respectful to tell your wife you gave your mother money and no good wife will oppose it.
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by MizMyColi(f): 7:42am On May 16
mr1759:


am married my dear,
too much of everything is bad let your wife or husband know a little so it will not look like you've kept that part of your life away from them, some lazy , greedy and unreasonable partner find it disturbing that you send things to your family members back home

I am not married to that kind of partner.

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by gazza07(m): 7:42am On May 16
Not wrong. But very wrong over here, women over are more particular about their own immediate family.

Give ur mum like say 100k and tell ur wife, tomorrow u are giving her mum as well. She won't mind making up a story as long as her mum hot hers.

Real men do that here
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by LordIsaac(m): 7:45am On May 16
If marriage is what they say it is, that the two have become 1, then, my answer is yes.

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Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Kokoebapluse(m): 7:45am On May 16
angry For what nah? Where is my wife when my mother will not eat just for me to eat did my wife know about that?



Only fool will always use his mother joke in front of his wife. After Allah the creator of all. I see my mother as my god on Earth I can't worship her but I value than the word.



If any wife do anyhow I will send her out of my house, if my mother offend me where will I sent her to and who can replace my mother? No body.


So fool will take his mother value as joke, so his wife will decide whether to send money or not.


Nigba timioyawere.
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by tunary(m): 7:48am On May 16
So the person asking this question wish to seek the opinion of his wife first before giving his own mother money eh. this is what I cal first class MUGU


NONSENSE
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by Frey5(m): 7:51am On May 16
No !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by efikoefiko(m): 7:54am On May 16
Hell no! I won't consult my wife before I give to my siblings and friend as long the money is mind. My opinion
Re: Should A Man Consult His Wife Before Giving Money To His Own Mother? by awetaiye2015: 7:54am On May 16
udemzyudex:
Never I repeat never.

Even my mum told me that it is not always right to consult your wife in every plan you have with your own family.

Like helping your mum,sis, brother or any other family members.
There are some decisions you have to make without consulting your wife.

Mommy's boy spotted.

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