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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 11:55am On Jun 14, 2019 |
dominique: You have scattered the table @dominique 7 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Xisnin(m): 12:00pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Buckubuck:In Nigeria, I am actually expected to be the king in the marriage, to be served as I like. I don't know the box you are scared of, can you explain? No, it doesn't and you don't know it. If I refuse to give police bribe at the checkpoint, they will see me as disrepectful but I know better. To some people, leaving them alone is respect while others expect you to acknowledge them. There is no role for wife/gf outside of what they are prepared to give. That is why marriage is voluntary. You can walk away and find a better slave anytime you want. Check back all my posts, you will see that I never mentioned chores which seems to trigger many people because I consider it a non-issue. My point is that nobody should be forced to do what they don't want. Washing and cooking is not slavery, being forced to do them is slavery. Oh, another one. You assumed I am a woman because I think this particular husband is wrong. FYI, there are men out there who don't need slaves as wives. If you find a woman who willingly do whatever you want, good for you and I have no problem with that. My issue is that you cannot force your will on a free person like you and then term call it disrespect when they refuse. I worked with an NGO involved with domestic affairs. The most common complaint from shocked husbands usually goes like this. "How can I ask my wife to do X and Y and she dares refuse, isn't it my right to tell her what to do" We try to tell them that such behavior is normal when dealing with a fully grown human, not a kid, not a slave. Some later understand some don't. 5 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Gandollaar(f): 12:03pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
nwanneni:You see now? You are worse than king Herod himself! My policy before marriage was, "hold your own make I hold my own". I thank God Almighty that I was already comfortable before getting married. I thank God say nor be man first buy car for me, rent house for me, and carry me go abroad! I made a silent resolution to be independent of any man's money right from school days. Having schooled in enugu where the streets were replete with undergraduate females thereby making Puccini the cheapest commodity in the market, the men had a field day playing with girls like ping-pong. I hurt so much when I saw how men ridiculed the women because of their long throat. Truth is any girl you met on the streets of enugu then was either hungry, owing school fees or having accommodation problem. Some even fakes it just to task the guys and consequently, the men had zero respect for women no matter what. I saw it all and decided to be self-reliant even while in school. I would buy beer and smoke with my Money for my guy-friends and even parted with small change to them when they come asking. In the end, it earned me respect and empowered me to do more to be successful in life. Today Bros, leave matter, my Oga dey give me my due respect even more than required all because I hold my side. 5 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by dominique(f): 12:10pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Lleigh: Lol, those guys can be very annoying jor, they deserve to be put in their place every once in a while. Nice seeing you in other section apart from lit section 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 12:10pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Xisnin: That last paragraph was an eye opener. 'How dare she refuse' yet we are in 2019. So this same man will tell his wife to steal and she must because he said so. And if she does not do certain things she is not respecting him. |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 12:12pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Gandollaar:my sister,money dey level by level. I hope say you know?ABI na you build the house for the Man? And where did you deduce from my write up that I would even think twice about a woman that don't make her own bread or would disrespect my woman I no just want say make you come dey want pilot my affairs for me and dey claim you are better.na there we go get issues. |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 12:26pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
dominique: Lol. You feminists prefer to look at things you can see with both eyes with only the left eye. If foreign men are making inventions, what stops you African women from doing likewise. Since you want to leave African men behind in their ego culture. Abi are you pushing responsibility for invention to men now? |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 1:10pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Xisnin: If you're a Nigerian, you should know what "appropriate behaviour" means in Nigerian setting. That's the box I'm talking about Giving or refusing to give a bribe is not respect. You don't give money to a bully trying to extort you out of respect. Respect is "due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others" If you decide to become a wife/gf, then by implication, you're prepared to take on some roles. Same as if you decide to take up a job. Fulfilling your role both cases should have nothing to do with mood. Of course. If you don't mind having a failed marriage which begs the question, why get married initially if you don't intend to stay in it? Does that not defeat the whole essence of marriage? Like I said it is responsibility not servitude. You should know the difference. If you're a man, you should interrogate why the man in the first place asked his wife to serve his visitor food. Where did he get the moral right to ask that? The answer is a pointer to if the man or woman is right in this case |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:26pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
So because the man doesn't like it, you have to CONCLUDE that calling a man by his name is wrong/disrespectful. That is absolute trash. You said tradition forbids it, is everyone from your tribe? Do we all share same traditions? I honestly do not believe you are an educated fellow. You need a lot of education and exposure. kevin25: 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 1:47pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:Feminist spoted by they word u shall no them |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Gandollaar(f): 1:58pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
nwanneni:Bros, will you be surprised if I built the house we live in? The truth is, it's un-natural for a man to depend on his woman. But where circumstances makes it inevitable, wisdom and understanding is key. The problem is that men are very insecure in such arrangements and would always do something stupid in a bid to assert needless authority. Men whose wives are gainfully employed are more respected by their husbands. 5 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 2:03pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Gandollaar: Very true, until the man turns around and tells the wife to leave the job and sit at home, also because he is feeling somehow about the progress the woman is making and wants to assert authority. Then the woman has to choose between marriage and job. So much going on in Africa, which is a real shame. 2 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Gandollaar:I will not be surprised but it will tell me something about the Man you married. I know I don't have insecurity issues.I have worked too hard to be going through that this early in life. Most of the women I've dated got their own money.bit you don't try and start making making me lick your ass because you make money too na.hope you understand? E no go work. |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by double0seven(m): 3:24pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
larryking540: You mind her The point is this:is a we're not saying a man cannot dish out for himself. Only a foolish man will say its a taboo for him to serve himself. But this lady has made it a point of duty that the man must always dish his own food himself. Then, that is so wrong, and a man that goes along with that is stupid Even in UK and US, in most homes, the woman serves her husband food. So why must make it a habit that you cannot dish ur husbands food, that he must do it himself |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by djon78(m): 3:36pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
It works for some while it doesn't work for others. There are well to do women who still respect and submit to there husbands. Shockingly its even the really affluent women that submit more. Example I ve been in a forum where Folrunso Alakija was saying that she submits to her husband, cooks for him, does pedicure and many other. That her wealth doesn't get to her head. I ve also heard Ibukun Awosika one on one of how she plays her wifely and womanly role at home. Ngozi Okonjo Iweala with all her global connections still plays her role to her husband well. Most times it is women that just barely escaped poverty will be running there mouth. The problem with most men is that they don't scrutinize well before marrying a woman. Family background matters a lot. Young women raised by good mothers always make good wife. They play there role well even with a shining career. Check the background of most of these ones making mouth and you will see they were not raised by good mothers. Good Mothers have a way of driving it into there daughters nature to be a good wife to there husbands and children. I have a cousin doing very well, married to a wonderful well behaved wife. This is a mother of 4 running her home efficiently. We were discussing one day and she said her mother trained all her and her sisters of the role of a woman in a home. A lot have gone wrong in our society today. Families are falling apart. So look well before you leap. Use your head. Don't say I am in love, and overlook signs and warnings. Do your background check very well. Don't expose yourself and children to danger. 5 Likes |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 3:54pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
@Djon u deserve hot chicken pepper soup with cold life for what u have just said now... When a woman talks silly or act silly to d husband check her family very well her mother must be doing so to dia father |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by djon78(m): 6:05pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
kevin25: You just summarized my whole post. Whatever you are doing with a woman, do due diligence, check her background/upbringing. Who raised her up? Many men have been burnt because they never did such. There are still many wonderful, lovely, good women out there. Don't let these ones deceive you. Women that are still loyal to there men. Not these toxic ones. Be careful, be warned. |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 7:37pm On Jun 14, 2019 |
Jmk9292: Oil dey ur head 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by larryking540: 12:05am On Jun 15, 2019 |
[quote author=double0seven post=79327815] You mind her The point is this:is a we're not saying a man cannot dish out for himself. Only a foolish man will say its a taboo for him to serve himself. But this lady has made it a point of duty that the man must always dish his own food himself. Then, that is so wrong, and a man that goes along with that is stupid Even in UK and US, in most homes, the woman serves her husband food. So why must make it a habit that you cannot dish ur husbands food, that he must do it himself [/ 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by larryking540: 12:09am On Jun 15, 2019 |
double0seven:Leve them make chimamanda Ngozi adechie day feed their head with wrong idea of womanhood, ,,i would have been happy if she added she also wash the husband car, while d husband is washing d dishes, ,,children getting married to innocent gullible church brother's 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by phenylalanine(m): 7:31am On Jun 15, 2019 |
kevin25:Sorry if i sound rude, but don't u think the woman felt u are the one giving her husband bad advice and don't want to see u in the house, normally some women will pretend until the visit leaves b4 showing their character again. 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nobody: 9:37am On Jun 15, 2019 |
I typically go for people in whose company your just comfortable. There’s nothing wrong in a woman achieving more than you her parents inspired her to. A lot of people unfortunately surround themselves with the worst examples of what a good man should be it’s about adding value and if you can’t add your decreasing in some way. Deep down some people are kind but years of abuse won’t let them ever admit they learnt the hard way or they learnt the wrong way. Love is not about position and titles in life is how deep is your soul ? |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Theyoungmatron: 9:39am On Jun 15, 2019 |
phenylalanine:On point sir. Next time, na hot water the woman go pour for him body. Yeye gossiper and hopeless home-breaker. 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:08am On Jun 15, 2019 |
phenylalanine:The woman respects me and never had any problem with me point of correction, dats is how she normally treat her husband my visit didnt change anytn and perhapes they are my good neigbor get dat dnt rush into conclusion yet i dnt advice anybody d man only complain to me which i have also seen with my eyes... And i cant help it dan to tel d man to pray to God coz i dnt want to get problem wit them make i dey manage d respect d woman dey give me. |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:12am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron:every body cant be like you lunatic |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Theyoungmatron: 10:24am On Jun 15, 2019 |
kevin25:Unrepentant home-wrecker and rumormonger. Your type will find it difficult to marry because you are an irredeemable and documented pauper, who is patiently and jealously waiting for crumbs from the tables of their friends rich wives. Jealousy kill you dia, ingrate animal sired by extinct orangutan species. 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:32am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Theyoungmatron:Lunatic continue ranting no go take ur drugs slowpoke |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Theyoungmatron: 12:10pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
kevin25:HOMEWRECKER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sodiamond: 3:06pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
sassysure:Don't mind the retard. Mumu gateman. I keep hearing respect, even someone with coconut brain needs respect. How many of us will they(men) divorce? They are only good at calling names. My elder brother cooks for the wife and kids and they are happy. 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sodiamond: 3:13pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Xisnin:The only reasonable man on Nairaland!!! 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sodiamond: 3:16pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Xisnin:One in a million G!! 1 Like |
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Phut(f): 7:17pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Bossjakande: God forbid bad thing! My guy, go sidon! 3 Likes |
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