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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by KomonSense: 9:04am On Jun 14
Xisnin:


Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.

So women are liking you post and replies and you think you're making a point abi...?? I pity you


Women think they run the world especially now feminism sh*t is rampant thanks to a wasted Sperm like Chimamanda Adichie

If you show a woman any slightest of weakness , your story will future on instablog naija..

Be wise and I'm not saying you should maltreat any woman ooo but don't give a chance
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 9:21am On Jun 14
Lleigh:
I just want to understand why she can't call her husband by name. This is a genuine question
Are u married? Wat did u call ur husband? Let say his name is peter den u call him peter right even infront of his frds? Not inside huz u and him alone ? Even at dat? And u have kids? Who wil learn from u nd start calling dia father by his name cos u dos dat.. Why wil a woman cal her husband by his name even when the man is not happy about? it and has warn her? D man in question has never called the wife by her name is dis not lack of respect let call a spade a spade..
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by gragragra(m): 9:41am On Jun 14
African man lol...

Calling him by his name is not disrespectful depending on their level of friendship or intimacy.

Two, everyone gets tired at some point when you're putting effort to helping someone and it seems they're unmotivated or unchanging, it's draining and frustrating.

Three, again if they were intimate I don't see what's really wrong with helping yourself fix a plate, like na you dey hungry oh not the woman, so if she traveled for a month you'll wait for her to come before you dish your meal? Her tone may have been wrong maybe , but it's not as baaad as deemed.

I'm my relationships I do most of the cooking because I'm a better cook or I love cooking. My gf is a foreign trained medical doctor I'm an IT and business development consultant. I mostly work from home, I make sure food is ready before she comes home, I bought the house we live in, she drives the only car I have.

We have our names saved as our names, we call each other sweet names but also call each other by our real names. She cooks when she's free or feels to, we have a cleaner that cleans the house twice weekly and the compound.

When I'm hungry I go and fix my plate, if she feels we eat together.

African men just want unnecessary oppression, domination and control. He should be happy he has a woman that's making effort to improve his broke timid ass.

Tueh
kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Xisnin(m): 9:42am On Jun 14
KomonSense:


So women are liking you post and replies and you think you're making a point abi...?? I pity you


Women think they run the world especially now feminism sh*t is rampant thanks to a wasted Sperm like Chimamanda Adichie

If you show a woman any slightest of weakness , your story will future on instablog naija..

Be wise and I'm not saying you should maltreat any woman ooo but don't give a chance
Who cares about likes?

When you search Google, what type of men complains?
It is your type who wants slaves as wives and when she aims for freedom, they
either resort to violence, start attacking women on the net or cry out that their
wife lacks respect.

I have never seen an enlightened man complain about their wives.

I already provided a solution for your type.

Go to the village and buy an illiterate girl for marriage, she will obey all your orders.

But if you refused, you are the one who will come here to cry.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by UjuJoan2: 9:53am On Jun 14
kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

I agree that a man should not marry up . . . women can marry up, but not men.

How will a woman respect a man who doesn't show intelligence and direction, and expect him to lead the family; when he has not finished leading himself into riches.

Water seeks it's own level.

Even if a woman will marry a man who is not as wealthy as she is at that point, she should show prospects of being better in the future.

As for your friend, he is a big mumu. So he want to order a woman around like a slave when he could not even make it in life without her? Give honor to whom honor is due. If she didn't marry him he would have still been struggling and feeding from hand to mouth. He should worship her all the days of his life, and never ever take the things she did for him for granted!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 10:00am On Jun 14
Lleigh:
I just want to understand why she can't call her husband by name. This is a genuine question
In Yoruba culture, you can't even call ur husband's siblings by name. You have to add a prefix. So calling your husband by name among yorubas is a no no. Though I guess the whole thing is wearing off steadily sha.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 10:03am On Jun 14
kevin25:
Are u married? Wat did u call ur husband? Let say his name is peter den u call him peter right even infront of his frds? Not inside huz u and him alone ? Even at dat? And u have kids? Who wil learn from u nd start calling dia father by his name cos u dos dat.. Why wil a woman cal her husband by his name even when the man is not happy about? it and has warn her? D man in question has never called the wife by her name is dis not lack of respect let call a spade a spade..

My husband's name will be the same he was born with. So what are women meant to call their husband's? Children know to call their parents mama, papa. I just don't understand why you can't call the man who sleeps with you his name?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 10:05am On Jun 14
Buckubuck:

In Yoruba culture, you can't even call ur husband's siblings by name. You have to add a prefix. So calling your husband by name among yorubas is a no no. Though I guess the whole thing is wearing off steadily sha.

But imagine you call each other name all the time courting, then marry and what? Uncle Peter?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 10:14am On Jun 14
Xisnin:


Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.
From your post, you think single people have no business being friends with married people. You need to realise that the married ones have the responsibility to be positive models to the single ones. If the wife is rejecting her husband's request based on mood, what makes her behaviour different from that of a gf?
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 10:18am On Jun 14
Lleigh:


But imagine you call each other name all the time courting, then marry and what? Uncle Peter?
Lol. They have names like baale, oko, olowoori. Modern wives call their husbands by nicknames or add daddy to the kid's name when calling him. However, the whole thing is wearing off. Culture is subject to change without notice

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:26am On Jun 14
Lleigh:


My husband's name will be the same he was born with. So what are women meant to call their husband's? Children know to call their parents mama, papa. I just don't understand why you can't call the man who sleeps with you his name?
I have been to a family where the wife calls her husband honey behold all her children calls dia dad honey even up til now imgain if the wife is calling d man solomon then the children wil join and start calling d man solomon even infront of visitors? My dear stop defending dis my fiancee as it stands now calls me daddy and it didnt start today...
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 10:31am On Jun 14
gragragra:
African man lol...

Calling him by his name is not disrespectful depending on their level of friendship or intimacy.

Two, everyone gets tired at some point when you're putting effort to helping someone and it seems they're unmotivated or unchanging, it's draining and frustrating.

Three, again if they were intimate I don't see what's really wrong with helping yourself fix a plate, like na you dey hungry oh not the woman, so if she traveled for a month you'll wait for her to come before you dish your meal? Her tone may have been wrong maybe , but it's not as baaad as deemed.

I'm my relationships I do most of the cooking because I'm a better cook or I love cooking. My gf is a foreign trained medical doctor I'm an IT and business development consultant. I mostly work from home, I make sure food is ready before she comes home, I bought the house we live in, she drives the only car I have.

We have our names saved as our names, we call each other sweet names but also call each other by our real names. She cooks when she's free or feels to, we have a cleaner that cleans the house twice weekly and the compound.

When I'm hungry I go and fix my plate, if she feels we eat together.

African men just want unnecessary oppression, domination and control. He should be happy he has a woman that's making effort to improve his broke timid ass.

Tueh
You work from home
Do most of the cooking
Hardly go out
Bros, you're a domestic husband
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Xisnin(m): 10:46am On Jun 14
Buckubuck:

From your post, you think single people have no business being friends with married people. You need to realise that the married ones have the responsibility to be positive models to the single ones. If the wife is rejecting her husband's request based on mood, what makes her behaviour different from that of a gf?
From the bold, it is obvious you are nor married.
Everybody, married or single rejects their partners request based on mood.
Perhaps, you have convinced yourself that wives are to obey your commands but
reality is different.
Even rich men with many wives will tell you the same thing that married life is not black and wife.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by KomonSense: 10:50am On Jun 14
Xisnin:

Who cares about likes?

When you search Google, what type of men complains?
It is your type who wants slaves as wives and when she aims for freedom, they
either resort to violence, start attacking women on the net or cry out that their
wife lacks respect.

I have never seen an enlightened man complain about their wives.

I already provided a solution for your type.

Go to the village and buy an illiterate girl for marriage, she will obey all your orders.

But if you refused, you are the one who will come here to cry.

All this teenagers on Nairaland sef!! From this your response I should have known.. Real men are out there making money and impacting on the society and you're here defending emotionally perplexed women..

Boy!!!! you're just a weak toddler who's afraid and intimidated by women. Or maybe you're still living in the shadows of ur mama who's still breastfeeding you..

Better learn and grow up


You know nothing about womenfolks
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 10:51am On Jun 14
kevin25:
I have been to a family where the wife calls her husband honey behold all her children calls dia dad honey even up til now imgain if the wife is calling d man solomon then the children wil join and start calling d man solomon even infront of visitors? My dear stop defending dis my fiancee as it stands now calls me daddy and it didnt start today...

Daddy?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Lleigh(f): 10:52am On Jun 14
Buckubuck:

Lol. They have names like baale, oko, olowoori. Modern wives call their husbands by nicknames or add daddy to the kid's name when calling him. However, the whole thing is wearing off. Culture is subject to change without notice
.


Thank you, it's an eye opener
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:55am On Jun 14
Lleigh:

Daddy?
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 10:57am On Jun 14
Xisnin:

From the bold, it is obvious you are nor married.
Everybody, married or single rejects their partners request based on mood.
Perhaps, you have convinced yourself that wives are to obey your commands but
reality is different.
Even rich men with many wives will tell you the same thing that married life is not black and wife.
I'm not married. That's not a problem. Or is it?
I've been to many marriages and the advice usually given to couple is to treat each other with respect and do ur duties to the spouse regardless of how you're feeling. Nobody gives a relationship that kind of advice. So there's expected to be a difference between marriage and relationship.
You don't know me so you don't know my mindset. Don't put me in a box.
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 10:58am On Jun 14
Lleigh:


Daddy?
yes daddy? she do call any sweet names but has never mention my name nd me to i dnt call her by her name i do call her baby or my queen or my princess so dnt be suprise
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Safitu(f): 10:59am On Jun 14
This is why I always tell women to stop staying weekends and countless of days in their boyfriends house, because unconsciously they’ll start expecting you to do things like this. Respect yourself, go to visit your boyfriend for a few hours during daylight hours and go back to your house. This one wants to turn common gf into housemaid and that’s because his gf never respected herself. When you carry yourself in a certain way, you will see how certain niggaz will act towards you.
ibekwe97:
Through thought my brother, it just happened to recently.The girl I dated for years, no respect, she can't wash my cloth, she can't sweep my house. The worst part of it is that she always do what she likes. Thank we are no longer together. We guys should be careful seriously

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by KomonSense: 11:05am On Jun 14
Lleigh:


But imagine you call each other name all the time courting, then marry and what? Uncle Peter?



See the reason why the western world have destroyed our culture... When you guys were dating don't you call each other pet names?

In our African culture we have romantic names we call our husbands like okoomi in Yoruba, obim in igbo etc..

Jeeeez must you call a man by his name

Everything about Western culture have negatively affected us in Africa... Men live longer in the olden days even marrying many wives.

Now these days women claim equality with men all in the name of stupid love and feminism

So many divorced and unhappy marriages full of deceit , hypocrisy and pretence ..

We all need to grow up
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Xisnin(m): 11:08am On Jun 14
Buckubuck:

I'm not married. That's not a problem. Or is it?
I've been to many marriages and the advice usually given to couple is to treat each other with respect and do ur duties to the spouse regardless of how you're feeling. Nobody gives a relationship that kind of advice. So there's expected to be a difference between marriage and relationship.
You don't know me so you don't know my mindset. Don't put me in a box.

Not being married is not a problem but expecting marriage to be like
a military parade is.

Those advisers are destroying marriages by setting wrong expectations.
Even machines cannot be expected to always deliver, yet some people want a wife that delivers 100% every time
or hell breaks loose.

Have you considered that respect means different things to different people?
Well, many assume it isn't to their own peril.

I expect more wailing stories from married men who will be shocked that they married a human after all who can
neither give perfection or remain the same forever.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by KomonSense: 11:10am On Jun 14
kevin25:
I have been to a family where the wife calls her husband honey behold all her children calls dia dad honey even up til now imgain if the wife is calling d man solomon then the children wil join and start calling d man solomon even infront of visitors? My dear stop defending dis my fiancee as it stands now calls me daddy and it didnt start today...


Kevin my guy... Kudos to you... You get strength to dey teach all these children wey full Nairaland ooo..

Some of them know the truth and are pretending so that you keep teaching them...

If they want to learn they should pay and consult on MC (marriage course) 101
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by KomonSense: 11:16am On Jun 14
UjuJoan2:


I agree that a man should not marry up . . . women can marry up, but not men.

How will a woman respect a man who doesn't show intelligence and direction, and expect him to lead the family; when he has not finished leading himself into riches.

Water seeks it's own level.

Even if a woman will marry a man who is not as wealthy as she is at that point, she should show prospects of being better in the future.

As for your friend, he is a big mumu. So he want to order a woman around like a slave when he could not even make it in life without her? Give honor to whom honor is due. If she didn't marry him he would have still been struggling and feeding from hand to mouth. He should worship her all the days of his life, and never ever take the things she did for him for granted!

Your point is dead on arrival


So you knew he was not intelligent and lacks direction and you stupidly went ahead and married him out of what Pity?? Desperation to escape spinsterhood ??

Children!! Children children!!

I'm tired of teaching
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:16am On Jun 14
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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 11:21am On Jun 14
KomonSense:



Kevin my guy... Kudos to you... You get strength to dey teach all these children wey full Nairaland ooo..

Some of them know the truth and are pretending so that you keep teaching them...

if they want to learn they should pay and consult on MC (marriage course) 101
Hahahahaha dnt mind them truth my financee treat me like king wash my cloth, cooks and serve me even wen i try to do her work she said daddy no! Dis is my work and it didnt start today even wen we started as just frds, she told me dat she do wash her dads cloth dat mine is notn...she has been doing dat from day one my dear i pursue all d feminist girl in my life and concentrate on her in no distant time we wil get married..
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by gragragra(m): 11:29am On Jun 14
Domestic husband that has 3 staff on his payroll? Owns his own registered company, owns a 2 bedroom bungalow, a car and reaches out to the needy regularly?

You think productivity is by being sitting in traffic, jumping around town, wearing suit? I live in Ikorodu, I can conduct 80% of my business over the phone and email if there's need to meet in person I come to the office or ask a staff to attend.

Open your mind, don't be naive.

Buckubuck:

You work from home
Do most of the cooking
Hardly go out
Bros, you're a domestic husband

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 11:32am On Jun 14
Xisnin:


Not being married is not a problem but expecting marriage to be like
a military parade is.

Those advisers are destroying marriages by setting wrong expectations.
Even machines cannot be expected to always deliver, yet some people want a wife that delivers 100% every time
or hell breaks loose.

Have you considered that respect means different things to different people?
Well, many assume it isn't to their own peril.

I expect more wailing stories from married men who will be shocked that they married a human after all who can
neither give perfection or remain the same forever.
I suspect you're remotely overwhelmed by what you perceive as men's expectation from marriage. I'm sure you're single and you're afraid of the prospect of being put in a box of appropriate behaviour when married.

Respect has only one meaning. Outside it we have pride, arrogance, vanity, ego, laissez faire etc

The subject of this discourse to my thinking is dat of a wife assuming the role of a gf. A woman is presumed to be the owner of the house and is expected to be a good host to her husband's guests even if she does not like them. It's ethical behaviour not necessarily servitude. She can clear up any issues she has with them when she's alone with her husband. The moment a wife refuses to be a good host even to the guest's face, she's opening up her marriage for ridicule.

As for sharing house chores, there's nothing wrong with that inherently since women are also expected to contribute financially nowadays. But I've been reading a lot of my husband does the cooking and the washing in this thread esp from sassysure and you seem to think having defined role is servitude.

Most of you have a problem if you're asked to submit to your husband but have no issues with being overburdened by your boss at work, forgetting he is actually someone else's husband as well. In normal relationship respect is earned not given, in marriage I suspect respect should be given. It behoves on the receiver not to fritter it away.
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by UjuJoan2: 11:34am On Jun 14
KomonSense:


Your point is dead on arrival


So you knew he was not intelligent and lacks direction and you stupidly went ahead and married him out of what Pity?? Desperation to escape spinsterhood ??

Children!! Children children!!

I'm tired of teaching


Who is the person complaining now? The man or the woman?

The woman is living her life and enjoying the benefits of her economic independence.

The man on the other hand is filled with resentment because he is not getting the reverence he craves for as a man.

But he married someone better than him, when he could have married someone lower who would worship the ground he works on. Now that the woman married him even though she is richer, why won't he worship her? Why does he expect to still be treated like a king when she is the 'king' of the home?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Buckubuck(m): 11:46am On Jun 14
gragragra:
Domestic husband that has 3 staff on his payroll? Owns his own registered company, owns a 2 bedroom bungalow, a car and reaches out to the needy regularly?

You think productivity is by being sitting in traffic, jumping around town, wearing suit? I live in Ikorodu, I can conduct 80% of my business over the phone and email if there's need to meet in person I come to the office or ask a staff to attend.

Open your mind, don't be naive.


Sounds really good. Keep it up

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by dominique(f): 11:52am On Jun 14
kevin25:
Are u married? Wat did u call ur husband? Let say his name is peter den u call him peter right even infront of his frds? Not inside huz u and him alone ? Even at dat? And u have kids? Who wil learn from u nd start calling dia father by his name cos u dos dat.. Why wil a woman cal her husband by his name even when the man is not happy about? it and has warn her? D man in question has never called the wife by her name is dis not lack of respect let call a spade a spade..

It is only an extremely petty, small minded, low self-esteemed man that will have issues with being called by his name. It's no big deal especially if the couple were friends before marriage. You African men have nothing going on upstairs except how to dominate a woman and how she should massage your silly egos. Your foreign counterparts are busy making ground-breaking inventions and research, you're busy looking for who to serve you food and call you sir. Don't you people irritate yourselves sometimes?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Gandollaar(f): 11:52am On Jun 14
Iwanttoto1:


See this mumu. Ya boy boy husband fit buy yasht? I get yasht wey I dey use furck silly gerls likes u. If ya husband fit buy yasht, den I witdruw my commentasion. But if na only canoue he fits buy, den me and una no fits deys d same levul. Makes u comes lekki, makes I use money drives u come out from ya boy boy husband hause. Yeye dey smells
Lol

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