Purplediamond:

@190 u dont hav to insult anybody.
@OP please settle down now wit someone else who's reasonable. Dis guy will only waste your time.

Why!
Tell me why!!

First he's a damn cultist
No school certificate (BSC)
He is broke,  depends on dad and mom and friends for money
He is putting all his future on going to america (To push drugs obviously)
He is 27yrs (By the time im 27yrs i should be an MD for a bank)--^Amen
He is an slowpoke (slow in learning)


What more do u want from these guy that he hasnt got,
maybe only skills in bed (thats what she gains from him)

I suggest that this lady KICK his sorry azz into the atlantic ocean,
or i would help her to,

I hate when guyz Esp 9ja guyz dont have plans for themselves (No future ambition NFA)

loving01:

the truth is I have broken up with him about thrice, but i felt so guilty when he begged for me to take him back. I have been searching for schools for him, in U.S, so that he can travel with a student visa,(since its the dream of a life time for him), [size=13pt]and when he took the SAT exams, he failed woefully[/size], so I had to start searching for a school in other european countries with less strict requirements.

Its not easy leaving him, as I love him dearly, and just want the best for him. I know its reasonable to leave him, but its not easy for me. I have never cheated on him, even when I have every opportunity to.

please do you guys see a way out of this dilemma, (i have tried to leave him, but i feel its not fair on my part, because I think this is the time he needs me the most. At least I have managed to change one or 2 negative aspects about him)

Give yourself 15 knocks on your head

After that one go and drink cold water

Then come back here and talk to me!!

I dey Vex, !!

loving01:

okay, truth is he is not that great when it comes to intimacy, so that is not the reason I am with him. Its just that I love him and overlook that aspect. (mind you, i repeat that I have never cheated on him)

please do you guys see a way out of this dilemma, (i have tried to leave him, but i feel its not fair on my part, because I think this is the time he needs me the most. At least I have managed to change one or 2 negative aspects about him)

Now im calm!
Listen you mentioned you have changed 2 negative aspects about him
Now clap for yourself,

Have you noticed that you are 25yrs (Age aint on your side no more)
That guy probably has like another 10yrs to settle down (get married) I hope you can wait for him

I wont be surprised if he smokes weed in addition to all what you have mentioned about him
He is not serious NOT In this LIFE nor the NEXT nor the NEXT,
Please make yourself understand that you are suffering with him (if not now who knows in the future)

A 27yrs old man,
Please you dont have to suffer the IGNORANCE of others Just because they are STOOPID and Disgusting, (sorry for my words)
But if all what you have said are true then you dont have a single BRIGHT future with him, (Im sure)

Please help me to pass a message to him
That he should tutor the younger ones in the school he failed from how to be good in cultism

Im done here

loving01:

@ 190, its easy for you to yell leave him, leave him, because you are not in my shoes.

I have done that several times. I have talked with him so many times and adviced him, (and he was eager to do like i said), but at the end of the day, we always go back to square one.

loving01:

@ 190, thanks for your advice, he has begged me to wait for him, and has promised to make it all well.
Well, I am not Jesus Christ, and when i said back to square one, i mean back to his same non-chalant state of waiting around for things to come to him.

Thanks everyone

@ fier arm, i will get in touch with you.

mobinga, its easy for you to say so.

loving01:

they say love is blind.

I just always hope there was something more I could do for him. He is willing to learn (as he knows he doesnt know it all) infact, when we first met, he told me soooo many lies, but the truth is I never believed a single one, and I made him know I detest lies (i understood he lied so as to prop himself up, considering the fact that he knew I was not some cheap girl, and he needed me to accept him)

I forgave him, and told him I accepted him the way he was, and today, he thinks twice before trying to lie to me (at least that alone shows he is open minded when it comes to learning)

I just believe in my love for him, and I feel he just needs someone to guide him right. I feel at this point, it is not fair to just leave him., (even if i wanted, its not easy to do so)

You haven't answered my question

Are u Jesus christ of Nazareth,

So he doesn't lie to you no more thats one of the things you changed about him (Nice)

Tell me how does that put food on your table for your future kids (if ever you get married to him)

My dear, PLEASE im begging You PLEASE,

Girls like you are rear (a rear Ruby)

He knows this and thats why he aint letting go,

if you were a proper 9JA girl (the type we know)

They would have left his SORRY NO GOOD PIECE OF AZZ (6days after they noticed The fool has no life)

Go out there and look for a responsible well mannered man (like myself 190)

And settle down, You are 25yrs remember (except your parents hasn't started knocking on your door for marriage)

And yes lemme chip sometin in,

I can bet you $1000 that if your No good sorry piss of a Boyfriend (pardon me for my choice of words)

Leaves this country, (even @ cotonu border) he would send you a text message that he's done with your sorry azz

so let him keep waiting to go to america,he thinks america is created for destitutes like himself, A real NFA

clearly you need

loving01:

190, your comments are harsh in a funny way,
He is not that kind of person that would just leave like that.

@ Thonia slim,yes, he is ready to get back to school now, which is why I am looking for a school for him in europe, and he is determined to struggle while schooling too. He has assured me that he will do all it takes to be up and doing.

IT IS GOOD TO BE GOOD, BUT IT IS VERY BAD TO BE TOO GOOD!

STOP BEING TOO GOOD !!!

davidylan:

lol even 190 does make sense once in a blue moon. If the dude leaves for the US, he will never marry the OP. I can bet 99% he will marry american to get his papers and that will the end of it.

bxcode:

190, why your blood dey hot like this?
@poster, since he aint adding no value to your life from what u said, i suggest you leave him and move on. THIS IS WHAT I CALL A PARASITIC RELATIONSHIP!

ds700:

Nobody can help you except you.

Because you are under the influence of his love lust

You don't want to loose him yet you seeking for a visa for his leave travelling.

If you finally leave him pls don't rush into another relationship as you may be subjecting that person to a risk (remember he was once a cultist)

If you leave him he will either turn to be a serious person (for he will realize how pathetic it is be unserious in life) OR he will become 10x worst that he used to be before you met him (as all hopes will be lost)

Once he crosses boundary forget him. (except you deliberately want to settle him that way then quietly hook to another here - ie playing save.)

People like him even when you make them an ambassador of their country in a foreign land will definitely not achieve anything meaningful.

IT IS GOOD TO BE GOOD, BUT IT IS VERY BAD TO BE TOO GOOD!

STOP BEING TOO GOOD